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SHOULD I?
let me start off by saying I am a 20 year old female virgin. I been wanting to have sex for a long time but I just never found the right guy or the right time to have sex but I KNOW I AM READY.
I met this guy about a yr and a half ago. and I told him that I didnt want to have sex with him anytime soon. He undetstood that, so we just did foreplay. I know it was a bit stupid becasuse when you do foreplay, other things come over you. It was all good at first but then he started asking me if he could have sex with me and i told him no, but like most guys, he kept asking me over and over. I havent did anything else with him since Oct 2007. Now that im back n school this semester, he wants to start up again even though i told him that I DO have a boyfriend. I told him no again, but now he is claiming that he wants to continue to talk to me.
This august, I met a man that I am currently dating. I have been going with this guy for about 2 and half months. he is not a virgin, obviously because he is 25. I think im starting to fall in love with him. I never told him because I dont know how he would respond. He is starting to ask me over and over if I want to have sex too. But even though I am ready, I just refuse to go through with it and I dont know why.
my questions are...
Should I continue talking to the first guy (not sexually), just keep in contact with him?
Should I start having sex with the second guy just because I am finally ready to lose my V(virgin)-card and because I think I might be in love with him.
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Maybe you're holding back even though you're ready because while you think you're falling in love with this man, you're not sure if he loves you back. If this is the case, then I would wait until you know he loves you before you sleep with him.
And I don't think this other friend of yours is really much of a friend at all. I'd stop talking to him.
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Unless you think you've got a great friendship with guy one (and from your question I don't think you do) then no.
There is no reason to continue to hang out with someone who pesters you for sex like he did and then wanted to continue to hook-up despite the fact you are in a relationship... It doesn't make him seem like the kind of person who will be able to have a plutonic friendship with you. That makes him seem like a dog and a drama-lover. You're better off without his friendship.
You can have sex with your boyfriend whenever you choose, but something that will certainly help you feel more comfortable when that time comes is being honest with him. No wonder you are holding back: You haven't been honest with him. That makes the normal nervousness about having sex a thousand times more intense. Tell him you are virgin. Get it over with. THEN figure out when you are ready and how you would like to proceed TOGEATHER, openly and honestly.
Sex is never a one person decision, virgin or otherwise. Both people need to know the score or it just doesn't quite work.
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