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I fear i might be gay
I'm 17/m
at the beginning of this semester we got this new guy in our class. he calls himself and emo and wears skinny jeans and even eyeliner. he doesnt have many friends. I started talking to him and hes actually really nice and i think i'm starting to get feelings for him?! i think about him all the time when im not with him and when i am i sometimes just feel like kissing him and taking him into my arms. i just dont know how to handle this. I'm pretty much the only person he talks to but i dont think he's gay coz he always checks out girls. ive never had feelings for a guy before so im not used to this. ive never had a real girlfriend and never had deep feelings for anyone except for him? hes not really manly and seems like he often needs protection. hes also pretty like a girl. so do i feel attracted to him because of that? i think im falling in love here.
im really scared to tell him how i feel coz it might ruin our friendship. im his only friend and hes always happy to see me i mean he never smiles except for when hes talking to me. does that means something?
i dont even CARE about what others might think. hes just more important
i need advice FAST
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Actually, I think you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to determine whether you are gay or not, as time may have already told you.
I think it is really endearing to see how sensitive and protective you are with him. It sounds as if you enjoy being around him, so just be. Your relationship will evolve to what it is meant to be, whether close friendship, just acquaintances, or a much more intimate relationship.
I believe people are put in our lives for a reason, and it sounds like this relationship is something that you both can learn from. Keep on being his friend, he will help you with your boundaries, be patient, keep on not caring what others think (I am sure he thinks this is your best quality), and you will learn a great deal about yourself.
And please don't fear being gay, fear not being you.
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This is not something a person from online after reading this could say yes or no too.
You need to realize that you are still very young and your body is full of emotions and hormones and most everyone has same sex attractions in middle or high school.
It really sounds like you just have true best friend and everyone loves their bestfriend. I myself feel like that half the time with my best friend and I know I'm not gay.
But like I said I can't tell you yes or no and you can always go talk to a counsellor to help you figure things out.
You can even read stuff online even take little quizes that will give you a better understanding on what you are really feeling.
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I think you are gay. My best friend realized he was gay a few years ago. At first he said he never really liked too many girls, then one day he too met a guy and completely fell in love with him. Being gay is something that is obviously not easy to tell someone, especially if you're afraid it might ruin your friendship. I think if I were you, I'd try to be certain whether or not he is gay. Maybe you could mention something with regards to being gay in general. Like how he feels about it and whether he knows anyone who is, ect. Maybe in one of your conversations with him you will discover something you didn't know about him. Or you might just confirm that he is strait. If he is strait, then take it from me, it's much better to try to move on. I was nearly in love with my best friend (who's gay) so obviously he never liked me back and it really hurt me. That is a situation that you don't want to be in. As for being gay, I really hope that there is someone close to you that you can confide in. Maybe you could tell this friend that you are gay, without telling him that you like him. I'm certain that if he really is your friend he will support you. And one day you'll be able to tell everyone. I hope I helped you and if you need anything I'm always happy to help. :)
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