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Hey y'all. I have been threw alot in the past sixteen years. From Family issues to Friends to Boyfriends. I can help on pretty much anything you need help with so ask me anything. If you dont want to post it on here you can always im me or email me. Or if you want to just chat, or ask more things related to what you have asked before.
Love always Jami//xoOx

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Sorry about the lenth. Anyways, my boyfriend and me started having sex last Augest. (i'm 17/f) and my mom found out a couple of monthes after, and she found out we weren't using condoms and such ... anyways, ever since she keeps blackmailing me. If I don't do this for her or kiss her ass for the rest of my life she'll tell his parents everything ... and he'll get sent away. We love each other to death, but if we were seperated I don't know what I would do. This blackmail stuff is really getting to me ... i get all stressed out by it and depressed. Really depressed. Please help, i rate high

hun i dont really know what to tell you but you have to tell your boyfriend that your mom is doing this too you... you too have to think of a way to fix it all.. sorry i didnt help that much

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Something is wrong with me.. something always has been.. i`m thirteen and i have it fixed in my head that life planly sucks when i know and everyone else is telling me my life is good. i can`t stand whining and so i`m going to say i`m not. i always thought of myself as a sort of depressionist but i don`t need help. i don`t cry EVER.. but i want too. any advice.. please? xxOo

hey hun thats how i was for a while... do you know anything that could be bothering you? it could be the littlest thing you wouldnt really think it would be... im me on xiloveyoux35 and i will try n help more...

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My crush was asking me why he doesn't get any hugs! i said i didn't know and then put on a sad face! so i said u wanna hug and he was like sure! so i gave him a hug! was he just flirtig or was it nothing just a hug?!

i cant really help you all that much... but it is flirting but just because you flirt dont mean you really like the person.. iono tho... he might like you...

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my best friend new i liked this kid and she still went with him and i told her i still like him nd she like rubes it in my face so i told him... and now she i smad and thinks im stealing him.. wut should i do?

well hun i dont think you too should fight over a guy.. trust me its not worth it... just tell your friend that your sorry but you liked him and you were mad there she still went with him... you dont want to fight over a guy... guys are always gonna be gone and then back but best friends only come every now and then... hope i helped...

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I overheard one of my friends telling a boy how I had criend over what she oviously thought was nothing and laughing over it. Sometimes she runs away from some of her other friends (who are also my friends) and me with her bitchy friend, then pretends it was nothing and that Im over reacting. Then she is really friendly again.She has done this so many times now I secretly don't like her at all. However, she is really popular and I think if I stopped being her friend all my friends would still be with her as she has this way of making people side with her. I don't know what to do about it..(Sorry about the length).
Zoinatrobe.

Hey hun wow this is how one of my friends were... all i can tell you is to get rid of her... so what if shes popular or whatever.. if the other ppl are you true friends they wont take her side... hope i helped

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I really like this guy.. but when my friend asked him if he would ever ask me out.. he said no. He is a shy guy.. so maybe if i ask him out.. he might say yes.. the only t w i s t is..I am tooo scared to ask him.. so how do you ask out a guy? and i think that he doesnt like me.. so what should i do?

well dont worry bout asking him out just yet... get to know him better so he knows you better.. so that way your not taking the chance of him not liking you... so just get to know him more... then take it from there...
hope i helped

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Dear advice giver people,
I have this friend who has just gotten out of a relationship like 4 or 5 months ago. She broke up with the guy so that's all good. Ok, so then I liked this dude Billy right? Ok, well she decides that he's a sweetheart & goes for him. Well, that doesnt bother me because I have a boyfriend & I stopped liking Billy like forever ago. Me & Billy are still like close friends though & he was telling me how he was going to ask Jessica out & all. So being the girlfriend I am, I told Jess EVERYTHING he said. Now she will NOT stop talking about him. I'm serious. We could be watching TV & she's like, I miss Billy. Ok, well, then I mention my boyfriend like maybe 3 times that whole day. Ok, then she was talking to one of my other friends and she like, "She talks about *Joe WAY too much." Ok, Im sittin there like WHAT THE HELL you kno. So I dont know WHAT to do.
Sorry it's forever long!!

Just tell your friend that you get the fact that she likes him but you dont need to hear about him 24/7...

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well theres this guy and me were not going out, but we always talk and we always make plans to do stuff and go places and he always talks to me and even flirts alot and he does alot of thing he does with me that he doesnt do with other people so i know he likes me and he knows i like him but today i found out that he has a girlfriend and im just really crushed like just miserable cause i liek this guy alot hes like greatest guy ive met, but what should i do, just stay strong or spill out my feelings to him? any suggestions? ill rate high
and sorry so long!

Just tell him that you like him... if he has a girlfriend but is still always flirting with you i dont think he really likes her so maybe he doesnt know you realy like him that much.
hope i helped
Jaymi*Lynne

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i am moving all the way across the counrty....and i dont know how i should tell my best friend! :'( plez help me

hey hun... you have to make sure your the one to tell her and not sumone else.. its never easy to tell some one you are moving.. my best friend moved last year and it wasnt easy at all.. you just have to have her come over and just tell her... you guys can make your plans to call each other and everything... and it will be easier then to try to tell her in a nicer way... its gonna hurt her either way.. hope i helped
much love
Jaymi*lynne

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ok im a 13/f and i have 2 bffs...one is a 14/f and one is a 13/m. We r all really good friends but lately it seems like they r doin lots of stuff w/ out me and keepin secrets from me. But yet my b-day is in feb. so is there a chance they r doin sum kind of plannin for my birthday or they r jus leavin me out??? plz answer honestly...ill rate good!

Hey hun... thats how i use to be... its never really good to have like 3 ppl in a group some one is always gonna get left out... just tell them that you feel kinda left out.. i'm sure its nothing and they will fix it... and if it is about your birthday they will try harder to not let you know they are planing sumthing.
Hope i helped.
much love
Jaymi*Lynne

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Hey! ok there is this boy that i really really like. his name is Tom. we have chorus together. Half my friends tell me he likes me and then other people say he doesn't. I saw him and my friend Mike walking outside in our courtyard going to their next class. Which was Chorus for Tom. Then i came out and Mike was like go out with her Tom just go up to her and ask her out its not that hard and Tom started to blush and was laughing and smiling. Then in chorus all my friends needed help on this worksheet. I helped my friend Nick, then my friend Emliy and then i was helping my friend Julia and i was looking at her paper and i looked up out of the corner of my eye and i saw him staring at me. i have caught him staring at me several times. We always look at each other and when the other one looks we turn away. Then about 2 or 3 people say he doesn't like me. Then sometimes i also get the feeling he doesn't like me. I dont know what to think. What should i do?

hey hun well this has happend to me before... all you have to do is just talk to him more.. make more of an effort to hang out with him... have a big group of your friends all go to the movies or sumthing and ask him if he wants to go with you guys... then just talk to him... soon enough he will ask you.. i think he is just to shy to ask you now... hope i helped
Jaymi lynne

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Ok, so this chick is talking to me.. and we have been talking for a while and I told her that I loved her, so yeah, every thing was cool then she started giving off signs that she feels the same way, we start talking about Sex, and family and stuff like that, then when I finally decide we are really close, I tell her how i really feel, she said its sweet but shes just not ready for a relationship.. then yeah, shes been telling me I'm a great guy and I'm sweet and stuff, but should she really be doing this kind of stuff.. or is she just being a tease.. playing with my emotions?

BTW I'm 17 and have never had someone tell me they Love me :( and she knows this...

what should I do about this.. I really need help! :(

Hey i dont know if she is really playing with your emotions or what. but dont get to where she is all your life is. because then its just gonna hurt more if you find out if she really is playing with your emotions. What did she say when you told her that you loved her? i mean i no she didnt say she loved you to but how did she act? Just keep talking to her and you never know it could be that shes afraid to have a relationship because she might be afraid to get hurt.
Hope i helped... if you need more help or just wanna talk bout it all im me at xojaymilynnexo

Much love hope i helped
Jaymi Lynne

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ok theres this one kid i have known for about 3 months and i think he is really cool and i have liked him for awhile... well my best friend has only known him for a month and went out with him... and like i really liked him the whole time but wanted her happy but she broke up with him bc she didnt like him all that much and now me n him want to get together but iono what she will say... should i talk to her bout it or just tell her i like him n i am prolly gonna hook up with him? some one plz help me
Thanks so much Love alwayz
Lost and Confused

Hey just talk to your friend about it.. i am sure if she really dont like him anymore she will tell you too go for it...

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okay to get straight to it i have a dad who has gotten our family to sit together and tell us that he wants to leave our family. He is always fighting with my mom and tell her what to do he bosses her around and she does what ever he says.. and he has just walked out on us before for no reason but then calls us and tell us he is coming home and even tho he tries to be nice sometimes and i dont no how to for give him for doing this to our family... PLEASE HELP ME

hey hun well all i can really tell you is to just do the best you can to make your family happy. Like after your dad leaves spend more time with the rest of your family... i dont no what its like to really have people walk out of my life like that but my mom kinda did that.. altho i still hate her to this day.. but yeah... You cant let your mom just let your dad back in so easily... or he is just gonna keep doing the same thing...

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i was at my friends birthday party and she liked this guy and so i kind of forced him in the direction of asking her out. And i am not really sure that he wanted to. But then i have been talking to him online and a couple times on the phone and i have started to like him.I have hung out with him a couple times. Then the most recent one is when me, my friend and him just went to her room and watched a movie. I wasn't really watching the movie all that much because i was drawing but my friend said that he wasnt really watching the movie either cuz he was watching me.
Then later on in the movie he moved really close and started drawing with me and i dont know why but when he touched me it made my heart beat faster. But right after the movie was over he had to go because he was going somewhere with his girlfriend and some friends. Since then everytime i am online he isnt on and everytime i have an away message up he gets on and leaves me messages like hey or why are you always gone or come back.i don't know if he likes his girlfriend but i am too afraid to ask him. what should i do? i want to tell him that i like him but i am not sure if i should, what do you think? help me please.

o0ok...hun everytime ive seen that happen the girl that hook the couple up always seems to like the guy. you just didnt relize it at the time cuz uyou wanted your friend to be happy. thats a bummer for you now tho cuz you really cant get wit him.

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There's alot of things my boyfriend doesn't know about me, like I have a Psychiatrist and I was abused and stuff. I keep it close between me and my friends because I know I can trust them. I very much trust my boyfriend, but I don't just want to tell him straight up like when we're hanging out or something. I think it's only right if he asks me personal questions and then me respond. Does that seem right? Or should I tell him straight up?

hun you should tell him..keeping things from that doesnt make a realtionship any stronger. he needs to kno.

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I love having sleep overs they are so much fun but sometimes I wish that I could have them where i live and not feel nervous becuase i live in an apartment. No one has ever said anything bad about living in an apartment but where i live thei rare very few and everyone i know lives in a house well most people do. I get embarresed when people come over becuase i kno they think that im poor and everything and they dont expect it becuase i always buy expensive and really nice stuff pluss clothes because my mom has more money to give me than when we used to live in a house . Should i be ashamed of this?

if you like the way your living your not dirrty or trashy then dont be ashamed of where you live it doesnt matter your living where you can afford it n thats all that matters.

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My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long)

Hun i am soo sorry about your mom... but dont blame your self for this at all... I dont no what it is like to have my mother die (thank god) but you couldnt help it. Your mother had some problems and she was taking the anti-depressants but hun you couldnt stop this. If you did stay downstairs yes maybe she wouldnt have died that day but i'm sure she would have just od some other time... dont blame you self for it at all. Its ok to miss her. and i kno you do i would too. but i am sure she wouldnt want you to blame your self for this.
I hope everything gets better for you.
If you ever need to talk to anyone you can im me at xojaymilynnexo...or email me at lildevilchic35@yahoo.com
Much love...xox...
Jaymi Lynne

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