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okay to get straight to it i have a dad who has gotten our family to sit together and tell us that he wants to leave our family. He is always fighting with my mom and tell her what to do he bosses her around and she does what ever he says.. and he has just walked out on us before for no reason but then calls us and tell us he is coming home and even tho he tries to be nice sometimes and i dont no how to for give him for doing this to our family... PLEASE HELP ME
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hey hun well all i can really tell you is to just do the best you can to make your family happy. Like after your dad leaves spend more time with the rest of your family... i dont no what its like to really have people walk out of my life like that but my mom kinda did that.. altho i still hate her to this day.. but yeah... You cant let your mom just let your dad back in so easily... or he is just gonna keep doing the same thing...
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I know that it must be hard on your whole family. Have you tried just sitting down and talking to him? Tell him how much his negative actions are hurting you and your fam. Of course I dont know the whole story..but there might be some things going on in his life that you dont know about or maybe dont understand. Tell him how you feel :)
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I don't know...My dad is like the same way
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As trite as this may sound, forgiveness does take time. Your dad will have to prove himself again not only to you but to your entire family. Your parents may have serious problems and yes sometimes it is best if the parents do split up but that doesnt make it any easier on the children. Either way it is still a horrible situation for the children. I will not try to tell you that I know how you feel because I am not you in this situation and I have no idea about how this is affecting you. But, I do know that family can hurt you in ways that no one else can. I would recommend sitting down with your dad and talking to him, openly and honestly about how you feel and what his leaving put the family through. Tell him so that he can see through your eyes how it affected the entire family. Sometimes parents forget about their childrens needs when they arent getting along.....anger can blind people. There is still a chance that if you talk to him he can change this situation for the better, be nicer to your mom and actually begin to work through their problems as well as putting the petty ones aside. After you talk to him though, the ball is in his court. He must and will make his own decision about staying or leaving. If he leaves dear, it shouldnt change how he feels about you or your siblings (if you have any). Parents really can love you and be a part of your life even if they are apart. After you listen to his side of things, even if he leaves again, try to forgive him by remembering the good times and by your acceptance of what he feels that he must do. Unforgiveness is one of the worst feelings that you can ever endure.....it eats at you and eventually consumes your every waking thought. Love yourself by letting your anger at him go. In your mind you might not think that he deserves your forgiveness but you deserve the freedom that you will receive by giving it. I know that things will be tough for you for a while no matter what happens but stay strong. Remember, you can always talk to a school counselor (if you are in school), a close friend or me (my yahoo ID is on my column) anytime that you need to about your feelings. Dont keep them bottled up inside. Keep your head up. Contact me anytime. Best Wishes!
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ok, well i don't want to push my limit on what to say because i don't know the full situation and background for this. but, it almost sounds like your parents weren't meant to be together. maybe they were meant to be together, and are just having problems. you could suggest (or plead) that your parents seek counseling from a Christian guidence or marrige counselor. if they don't want to do that, then just talk to your dad about it. he needs to know how you feel about it, and you need to know why he's decided to leace you and your family. he might seriously think that it will be better for your family if he's not with you guys. but you should tell him how you feel. you just need to sit down and pray and think about it really hard. you might want to see a counselor too. it might help you get your thoughts and feelings out. you will have to forgive him, you will be miserable all your life if you don't forgive him. you might recieve a card on your birthday, and you would be absoloutly miserable because you got something that reminded you of him, and the mistakes and choices he made. if you accept what he's done (right or wrong) then you will be much happier and better off. it might take a while for you to forgive him, but trust me. it will be worth it. still, talk to him - even if it's hard.
-FunnyCide
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