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Q: do girls call their boyfriends baby or is that just something guys call the girl.?

they can if they want.

why not?

Q: I am a male, 15, and lately I've been wondering about something. There are many girls in our school and grade. I am a gentleman and open doors, get chairs, etc. for the girls. It is pretty much the same way with my friends, we are all like that. But the girls in our school keep saying they like "skaters" or "skaters are soo hot" and we really are wondering what is wrong with us. Not to boast, but all of us are good looking. The girls just keep talking about "skaters." So why is it like this, and do girls not like gentlemen or something?

its a proven fact...girls like dangerous boys, skaters are usually, more often than not, bad boys. be a rebel, get the girls.

kay?

Q: I am East India so my hair is very very dark. A few months ago, I streaked it copper. I want to try to temporarily change my hair colour (I'm partial to reds) but I'm not sure if it will show. I used a red Colourpulse last time but it tinted my -highlights- redder (just by a bit, though) and I want a more dramatic colour.
Usually, at the side of temporary colour boxes, there is a sample of before/after hair and the darkest shade sampled is "dark brown" which isn't really dark brown, it's more light brown if anything.
Is there a shade in Colourpulse, Colourflirt, or any other dye that washed out in 8-12 shampoos that I can use? Is there any technique that will make the shade deeper?

a way to get deeper colour that i use is to leave the dye in about 5-10 minutes longer than it says to, but no longer than that(it might damage your hair) so say the dye stays in for 30 minutes normally...try and leave it on for 35-40.

this works for me so it might work for you, it all varies from person to person.

good luck

Q: Hey. Is it true that guys won't have sex with girls if the don't shave their vaginas?

it depends on the guy's preference, there is no proven fact that says you must shave in order to get some.

kay?

Q: i am 13/f and i am a very artsy person. i am redecorating my room and i want to paint some paintings to frame on my walls any ideas on what i could paint? i love music, dance, and color if that helps at all. i rate & thanks a bunch!

well i dont have any famous paintings for you to copy, but i think it would be much more neat if you did something of your own, such as: black painted walls with neon/pastel splatter paint all over(ive always wanted to do that), or maybe do a drawing of you own then enlarge it and paint it.

i hope i helped a little bit. good luck & have fun

Q: Okay so theres my best friend, and this guy that ive loved for a year. my best friend makes me laugh everyday and is so cute and everyone says he likes me.
But then there is the guy ive loved for a year, and he has everything i like in a guy, and everyone says he likes me too.

what sucks, is that THERE BEST FRIENDS
i really like them both, but which one would be the better bf? Cause i wanna ask one of them out.thanks so much

well...i would normally say just go for which ever one you like better, but you seem waaaaaaay confused on that. so, think about which one youve liked longer, which one you think likes you more (this isnt being cocky, if they like you, they like you) also, think about how it might affect their relationship as best friends...if they both really like you then you might have to...youre not going to like this...not ask either of them out. you dont want to be the one that kills their friendship, do you? so consider all of those factors and then make your decision , thats all i can say.

good luck

Q: Hey I need some icons could you guys help me give me a few websites with icons !?

www.iconator.com
www.buddyputty.com
www.originalicons.com
www.buttybuddy.com

kay?

Q: OK so to get rid of stretch marks, whats that stuff called? And whats the brand, and where can i get it? Thanks in advance

mederma(not the kids brand) you can find it at mostly any drug store, no prescription needed.

Q: hey...i want a new screen name but i cant think of a good one. can anyone help me?im a girl and im 13 years old. my name is rachel. i like softball, the beatles, simple plan, fall out boy, and i also like random quotes and statements and i also just like random things. please! i rate high

bingbangboom[anynumberyouwant]
letitbe[anynumberyouwant]
softballingitup[anynumberyouwant]

thats all i got, good luck.

Q: i just got my period i take a bath soon i know that you have to take your pad off but how does the blood stop coming out if u take a bath or a shower. explain them both to me fast and i will right all 5s if u hurry

nothing stops. you should just take a shower and refrain from baths while you are menstrual, unless you want to risk 'dirty water'.

have fun PMS'ing, :)

Q: Hey, I'm trying to make a Pittsburgh Steelers-type layout (yep, I'm from the burgh). Well, I just want my backround to be plain black, but I don't know where I can make it that way. Where can I go to change my backround? Please help! Thanks!

xoxo Meeee

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Q: before you get all eww...this is kinda gross...

i lay on the deodorant twice a day: in the morning, and during pe (5th hour). but i still hyave b.o! its not awful, but its kinda gross. what should i do?
btw im a 13 yr old girl

you need to make sure you are using DEODORANT and not just ANTIPERSPIRANT.

BaM!

Q: There's this huge show next month at school, and I volunteered to sing Carrie Underwood's "Jesus Take the Wheel". I know I can do it, I'm already halfway there perfecting it, but I need some tips. Can anyone who knows much about this subject give me great tips? Mostly including tone, airflow, and lots of vibrato? Thanks in advance.

well i dont know much about the topic but heres some personal advice from me--
dont be afraid to not sing it exactly like carrie underwood, put your on spin on it, ive heard that song and i think a different style on it would be great. so try some new things out and see how it sounds.

hope i helped you out a little bit, and good luck!!!!! ♥!

Q: Ok well I just gauged my ears, theyre 18s I guess? That is what the person said. So I was wondering what that meant? I don't understand the differnce. And also, why are they so small?! Normally they are huge and when I told the guy I wanted to gauge my ears he gave me these. Somebody help I am really confused.
Thank you in advance!
Sarah

ha ha.

a normal earring is size 18, and the bigger you go the lower the number (18->16->14->12, and so on) but you have to start with normal(18) and then go step by step, 16 first, then 14.....

if you want to skip sizes you can but it will hurt, alot.

when you see those huge ones on other people, the are most likely plugs, and those people have stretched the hole enough to fit them, you cant fit that just yet.

Q: I know this may sound weird but i want to gain weight but not make it noticeable so ill weigh more but wont look any diffrant because im taking wrstling and i want to be heavy so i wont be able to be taken down as easily any suggestions?

dont gain weight for it unless you need to go up a weight class by only a little. weighing more so its hard to get you down is somewhat stupid, no offense. just try some weight lifting, therefore it might be easy to get you down but you will always have the upper hand cause you can fight back strnong. also remember if you weigh 200 pounds wrestling, yeah youll be big but according to weight class youll be paied up with someone just as big. you catch my drift?

good luck with your season.

Q: How can I get rid of a hickey. Preferrable pretty fast.

use concealer or coverup if you have it

Q: ok i have a friend thats been through a lot & i dont wanna be friends with him anymore. hes always threatening to kill himself & pushes things on me & if i juss ignore him he'll do something really stupid & i'd feel guilty. i don't know what to do. please give me some ideas.

thanks

you shouldnt just like disown a friend because their suicidal, if you were any kind or true friend you would try to help them, what is wrong with you?

Q: How old Should a child be when they start dating?

well its sort of up to the parents but they shouldnt be ridiculous about it like "no dating until your 18!!" they should talk to their kid(s) and see what they think, kids can hate overprotective parents waaay more than they can agree with them. but personally i think unserious dating can start at like 13, since most kids sneak around and do it anyway.

Q: i was just wondering what people think of glasses. do you find them nerdy or attractive? i have to wear glasses fullo time and i am wondering if contacts are the way to go or should i wear glasses but i dont want to seem like a four eyes freak. any inputs are appreciated.

well i have glasses so i think im gonna go ahead and say they are HOT! haha just kidding, it all depends on how they look on you, what kind you have, stuff like that. like for instance i have the "emo" type glasses i guess you would say, but im not emo and i dont like to label other people, but honestly, you know the glasses im talking about, right? yeah, well anyways i didnt get them because im emo or want to be emo or anything, my sister just said she thought they would look ok on me, and my glasses before them were sooo nerdy! so...to sum it all up, get glasses if glasses look good on you, get contacts it glasses dont. also you might want to consider the recurring cost of contacts when glasses are just like a "flat fee" i guess? haha aaaaaaand make sure you are comfortable with putting contacts ON your eye, some people dont really like that. well i hope i helped a little and my hole "emo glasses" spiel didnt confuse you too much.

have fun choosing? :)

Q: alright so there is a black and white party coming up
and i want a black dress

any cute websites to find them?

i want it mid thigh, and flowy .. black ofcourse

i need help as soon as possible

thanks!

http://www.hottopic.com/store/product.asp?LS=0&M=1690254062&ITEM=224990 thats pretty, or just look at all the dresses on that site, but some wont work for what you want.

good luck.♥