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ok i have a friend thats been through a lot & i dont wanna be friends with him anymore. hes always threatening to kill himself & pushes things on me & if i juss ignore him he'll do something really stupid & i'd feel guilty. i don't know what to do. please give me some ideas.
thanks
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Do not abandon him. He sounds like he needs help. Be a good friend to him and try and help him. Wouldn't you want someone to do that for you? Watch him very closely and pay close attention to what he says. He may be hinting at something horrible he might do. Try talking to your friend and expressing your concern for him.
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A true friend stays through the good and bad. He obviously needs help so this is a time where you are suppose to have his back, his shoulder to lean on, the person he can talk to for comforting.
Stay strong he sounds like he needs a true friend right now.
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I actually had a friend kill themselves. We were like sisters but you know what...there is nothiing you can do to help someone when they really are that depressed. It doesn't matter how many good things you say to them they will still find a way to hurt themselves. This however, sounds like this "friend" is just trying to get your attention. My best friend dated a girl like this who threatened to kill herself if he broke up with her. BULL! Listen to me honey, first if he was really your "friend" he wouldn't put you in this position and threaten you this way. You need to do what's right for you and clearly this person is not a positive influence on your life. He is not bringing you any happiness, only dragging you down. Let him go. You don't have to be mean but make sure he knows you are serious about not wanting to be friends anymore. But honestly this will never change if you continue to let him control your emotions. Chances are his threats of suicide are just that, empty threats and the sooner you move on the better. Even if he is serious about suicide it will just hurt you because there is nothing you can do to stop it. But I don't think he is serious and what you need is some positive, strong friends that will support you and not mess with your emotions. Leave him behind and don't feel guilty. His behavior is his responsibility and not yours. You owe it to yourself to not have someone like that in your life.
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you shouldnt just like disown a friend because their suicidal, if you were any kind or true friend you would try to help them, what is wrong with you?
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what he really needs right now is a friend so don't bail on him. keep him as a friend and trust me you won't regret it. he's going through a really difficult stage right now, but if you were he'd be there for you too. just think of it that way, how would you feel if your friend backed out on you when you were going through depression? remind him how great he really is and tell him the things people like about him; that'll cheer him up and help him realize that suicide isn't the way to go. ♥adina
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at a point in a kids life they will feel like this i'd say ask a parent or talk to him about tell him like your not comofrtable with you being like this and i miss the old you((not sounding like gay or anything)) n then say like idk if this is gonna like work out cause your being weird n stuff hope i helped n i hope that it works out with you two
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Talk To Him About It ` Let Him Know That He`s Scaring You. And If It Continues to DO that You won`t wanna be friends with him. [♥]Lej
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The best thing to do in this case is to tell someone (a parent, teacher, spiritual leader) about this. By threatening to harm himself, he's crying out for help. If an adult is aware of it, they can take the steps to get your friend the help he needs.
You can also be there for him. Remind him of the good things in life and what he'll miss if he does what he threatens.
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It sounds like your friend needs help. Threating to kill himself is not normal .. and you not wanting to be his friend just seems kind of selfish. Anyways, first you need to get your friend some help. Have you told a parent, counsler, etc., about his threats? If you haven`t .. you need to. By telling him that you don`t want to be friends anymore .. is not going to make his or your problems go away.
♥ Allie.
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My friend is exactly the same way! It's so annoying, and it's like he's always telling me all these stupid things and what he wants to do to himself & how he's injected ink into himself, and always tells me his life problems! It's so annoying, I just told him I'm not going to sympathize for him, and telling me is a waste of time because I honestly don't care. Although I do care if something bad were to happen to him, atleast he's not telling me y'know what I mean? But, you just need to tell him to stop telling you these things because it's always on your mind & you're scared that you're the one who is going to be hurt if something ever happened to him. Maybe try talking to him about why he wants to do that crap to himself too?
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