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im adina and im sixteen. ive learned to live around the fact that life sucks sometimes, and i'm here to help you figure out the way. =]

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Hey, i am currently on medication to help make my pimples go away..it's not working all that great right now though..are there any ways i can make my pimples go away faster in addition to my medication?

you have to eat alot healthier. don't eat so much junk food and drink crapload of water. im no expert but i know that gets the job done. ♥adina

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Ok well I've liked this boy for some time now. Like 6 years. I just dont know what to do I think he likes me but not sure. We were best friend but we both went to new schools this year and well we kind of arnt that close anymore. I still get that butterfly feeling in my stomach everytime he calls me or I see him but I just dont know what to do. I'm way to chicken to tell him I like him or to ask him our so dont even think about telling me to do that. Also I dont have anyfriend that are close to him to tell him. I just dont know what to do so please help me!!! I rate 5 for good answers!!!

call him and talk to him. not telling you to call him every 10 minutes, but just more than you usually do. hang out with him and ask him about what he thinks of you. you're eventually going to have to tell him how you feel, it's usually the only way to get things done. sorry if i didn't give you the advice you wanted, but it's my opinion on what you should do. good luck ♥adina

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hi my name is jess i recently broke up with my b.f tony and wel he went to a party like a week after we broke up and hooked up with a friend of mine. i still like him and i cried when i heard what happened. i cnt take it anymore. how can i get over him. please help me ill rate 5's
--jess

i've had to go through that so many times, im sorry! it really hurts but you can get over it even if it takes a while. just go hang out with your girls, keep your mind off of guys right now. you don't have to rush things and go looking for guys because it'll just make getting over your ex harder. have girl nights, go shopping with girls, etc. and for a while don't look for guys.. let them come to you. deal? good luck and hope you feel better. ♥adina

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Its a long story but I'll just ask my question.

this guy I liked told me that he used to like me, but he talks to me about the girl he likes now and asks me if she likes him, well when he told me he used to like me I almost said something. but then he said "but then I thought that could never happen" AND YES IT DEF. COULD!! so what can I do OTHER than the obvious, which is telling him how I feel, which I will do if worst comes to worst.

THANKS!

if you don't tell him that you like him more than just a friend he's going to keep looking at you as just a "friend". you have to speak up girl if you want things to happen, no matter how hard it is. ♥adina

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well in sixth grade i was a complete loser, i mean ugh i had really curly hair and wore it in a bun, and i wore big clothes. like i didnt even care. and i liked this guy A LOT. his name was david, and like he didnt like me at all. and he hated me in seventh grade. and we havent seen eachother in a year. untill saturday night. and when he saw me. he kept looking at me. and like we cuddled or whatever. and he said he liked me. but like i dunno. sixth grade was weird for both of us. and ive changed A LOT since then. and i just wanna know should i give it a chance?

definetly give him a chance, don't hold the past against him. yeah he should have given you a chance back in sixth grade, but guys get older and change too. there's no reason why you shouldn't go for it. ♥adina

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how do i get in your pants? seriously

uh you figure that out on your own ♥adina

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how do you know when you are really ready for sex? and how do you know if he is the right guy?

if you have to ask yourself that, then your obviously not ready. BUT i don't have the right to tell you that, because only you know when you're ready. trust me, you'll know it. dont let people tell you the answer, because it varies. think about your opinion on sex and if you want to put up with the responsibility. read facts about stds, pregnancy, etc and maybe that'll help you decide. ♥adina

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14/f boyfriend 15
me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost three mouths and we still havent kissed. we havent even done anything outside of school.im starting to think that he's prude. what should i do? should i kiss him? if so should i kiss him on the lips or on the cheek? also i dont think he's ever kissed a girl before so i will be his first kiss. please help me because i really dont like going out with people and not being able to kiss them or make out with them. it bugs me when i see other people kissing in the hallway.

haha, stop hesitating and just kiss the guy on the lips already. it's going to happen for him sooner or later, so just help him out. but keep in mind that kissing doesn't make the relationship so if he doesn't want to, don't force him. it shouldn't matter, but i understand how you probably feel. just make the first move k? ♥adina

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wuts yur fav posotion in sex

uh personal?

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this may seem like a dumb question but i heard someone talking about it.

lets say you use a public bathroom & you're a girl. if there's sperm anywhere near the toilet, on the seat, in the toilet itself, is it possible to get pregnant?? if you were juss using the bathroom??

thanks!!

the only way a girl can get pregnant is through sex. using the bathroom while there's sperm on the toliet isn't necessarily sex is it? nope. so don't worry, and once sperm touches air, it's no longer effective. (you can't get pregnant). and if you're that worried about it, don't sit on the toliet silly! you shouldn't at all it's gross and unsanitary. you can get infections by doing that. and the most reliable thing you could do to prevent pregnancy is to not have sex until you actually want to get pregnant. i promise you sex is the only way you can get pregnant. ♥adina

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17/f My boyfriend of 4 months doesn't ask me to hang out as much as he used to. We used to see eachother 3 times a week, and now its only once or twice, and I feel like most of the time I'm the one asking him to hang out. I feel like he's afraid that his friends will think he is pussy-whipped. However he still says really sweet things to me all the time, like how much he misses and loves me (but he never says them in person, only over text or AIM). Is he getting bored with me or what? I'm so confused..

it's not that he's getting bored with you, he just might need time to himself. i'm not trying to say that ya'll need to break up but don't hang out as much for a while. let him hang out with his friends without you and you should do the same. yeah you may miss him, but time away from each other will help increase each others feelings. and the possiblity of him not wanting his friends to think he's pussy-whipped could be another problem. it's pathetic but normal for guys now a days. just don't let that discourage you and talk to him about how you feel. he's your boyfriend after all, and you should be able to share your problems with him. ♥adina

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Okay usually I have no problem talking/flirting with guys. And I usually never fall for the popular type.

But now I'm head over heels for Adam. We have a few classes together and share some similar intrests. I'm also the cheerleader for his basketball team. We talk occasionaly in class but I never know what to say around him cause he's more of the popular sort. When we do talk; its really flirting. He smiles alot and so do I. We make each other laugh alot too. However; after that its like we don't even knew each other.

How do I make things idkk .. more pumped? Hah, like how do I get us to talk more without it always being me saying " how was your day " then getting a one word answer.

Help equals instant 5.

well ask him for his number or his aim, that way you can talk to him outside of school. also, you should probably let him know you're into him because he could just be clueless. this will help him look at you as more than just any other girl and possibly help him open up to you. you should definetly open up to him also (don't cross the line though by telling him very personal things), but things like "we'll me and my mom got in a fight today and this is what happened.." just little things like that will help you talk to him better. another problem could be that you just get nervous. brush it off take a breath and just go for it. even if you don't get what you want, atleast you tried and you won't be in this situation. ♥adina

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How old Should a child be when they start dating?

Whenever they feel is right. There is no wrong or right age to start dating. Some start dating in their teen years, others start dating in elementary. It varies. ♥adina

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Alot of the time I wish I could me more glamourous; more well-liked; more respected. I guess you could say popular.
Not like the bad popular, I just want more people to like me. I have a bunch of friends but I want to be friends with everyone. Not just a few cliques. I want to be self-confident; A girl all the guys like; a girl that would make a great friend; a girl thats always got plans to be with someone. I hate being alone and unliked. Anyone got any ideas?

Haha let me remind you, popularity isn't everything. BUT i guess i could give you some tips on that. lol Glamour-definetly read magazines like crazy. All the beauty and fashion tips will help you dress and look alot better. It'll fill you in on what's in and out. Boys-go out to public places and find guys you think are cute. Friends-go to parties, talk to people you dont normally talk to at school. Basically, you should probably be more social. My advice probably sucked, but i tried. Just don't let popularity be the center of your life, you won't be as happy. ♥adina

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ok i have a friend thats been through a lot & i dont wanna be friends with him anymore. hes always threatening to kill himself & pushes things on me & if i juss ignore him he'll do something really stupid & i'd feel guilty. i don't know what to do. please give me some ideas.

thanks

what he really needs right now is a friend so don't bail on him. keep him as a friend and trust me you won't regret it. he's going through a really difficult stage right now, but if you were he'd be there for you too. just think of it that way, how would you feel if your friend backed out on you when you were going through depression? remind him how great he really is and tell him the things people like about him; that'll cheer him up and help him realize that suicide isn't the way to go. ♥adina

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hiii! me and this girl like just became good friends ..well i knew her but we just started hangin out alot a little bit ago i mean she is one of my best friends and she is awesome! she is also very gorgeous..and im very jealous of her..because everytime we like go on the computer or something about a million guys will all i/m her and be like hey beautiful and they all wanna hang out with her and stuff and i dont talk to like any guys!! i wish i did.but im so shy and she like only talks to guys. i mean when we go places all the guys only look at her..and they're always like oh my gosh you looked so hott..they say that to her and i just feel so low about myself when im around her!! because i know everyone thinks she is so pretty..but they dont tell me that and i know im not the best lookin ..and i cant just not be friends with her because of this..i mean i love being around her she just like lows my self-esteem down i dont know what to do!? ..i mean i bet a guy tells her she is beautiful like everyday..i dont think ive ever heard someone say it to me? i just have no clue what to do..im lost..so can you please help me!?

i've been in your situation before, and trust me i KNOW it sucks. don't let it get to you though, and stop comparing yourself with her. comparing yourself to others really helps lower your self-esteem (obviously) so just be happy with yourself nevertheless. your time will come and you'll find guys who think your beautiful, but maybe right now is just not the time. trust me on that one. ♥adina

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How do I get myspace to be private so only my friends can see it?

Go to home, edit profile, basic info, and change your age to anything under 16. Although you're older then that, that's the only way to set your myspace private. ♥adina

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