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Help me please
Ok well I've liked this boy for some time now. Like 6 years. I just dont know what to do I think he likes me but not sure. We were best friend but we both went to new schools this year and well we kind of arnt that close anymore. I still get that butterfly feeling in my stomach everytime he calls me or I see him but I just dont know what to do. I'm way to chicken to tell him I like him or to ask him our so dont even think about telling me to do that. Also I dont have anyfriend that are close to him to tell him. I just dont know what to do so please help me!!! I rate 5 for good answers!!!
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well....you could like email and be like hey....i really kinda like you ...jw do you wanna go out sometime or something like that and if he says yeah then its all good but if he says no..just be like oooohhh i was sending that e-mail to everyone seeing what they would say...it was a joke..
well...thats all i can think of
hope i helped
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♥ mari
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Some people are "chicken" because they believe that they will be rejected. However, since you don't really have him...think of it this way "you have nothing to lose". Send him a simple card. Don't over do it, just say something like...
Since we've been apart, I have been thinking about you a lot. Please meet me (give time and place) if you aren't able to make it, give me a call and we will make other plans.
This will give him an easy out, he doesn't have to respond. If he doesn't then you will really know he doesn't feel the same way about you.
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I'm not exactly sure what you are asking but I'm going to guess that you 1) want to know if he feels the same way; and 2) let him know how you feel. As for both of those, people in general say a lot more of what they mean with what they do than with what they end up saying. With that in mind you can fairly easily tell how he feel about you, as well as give him hints, with actions when you two are together. Such an example: if you know him not to be one of those people that touches everyone, not sure if you understand, but he does it with you. That's a pretty sure sign his into you. Now what you have to be careful aobut, is if it's a sibling type of care for you or more than that. So it also is the way he touches you or in the reverse to give him the hint in the way you touch him.
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call him and talk to him. not telling you to call him every 10 minutes, but just more than you usually do. hang out with him and ask him about what he thinks of you. you're eventually going to have to tell him how you feel, it's usually the only way to get things done. sorry if i didn't give you the advice you wanted, but it's my opinion on what you should do. good luck ♥adina
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Ok, so here are your options:
NOT tell him and pine away for him secretly and make yourself miserable with the does he, doesn't he stuff and have your heart broken <b>anyway</b> when some girl who isn't a wuss tells him and he starts dating her.
TELL him, and for good or for bad, find out for sure where you stand so you can either shove your tongue down his throat or find a new boy to crush on and worry yourself with whether or not <b>he</b> likes you back.
Look, I have been there. I have been way to scared and nervous about whether or not a guy liked me. Every little thing that he does makes you think it is possible or puts you in a total depression because now it is impossible...then it become possible again.
Love happens, you don't get to pick and choose who you fall for, you just fall for them. They are your feelings and you should be proud of them instead of worrying and being insecure about whether or not he likes you back. I say that you tell him and accept his answer. You will be a stonger, better woman (and I say woman because it takes a woman to be able to own her feelings and be proud of them)
This guy is just one of the many, many, many guys you will like/love/date/have sex with/ become engaged to/marry/divorce/remarry.
You will need the practice. Think of him as a test run, that way if it doesn't work out, you will be better equipped for when the real one comes along.
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if you're trying to find out if he likes you, start trying to notice the signs. see if he flirts aroung w/ you or makes flirtable remarks. eventually if he does do anything quite suspicious just know he's into you!!!:) stay in contact w/him don't leave the connection hanging!sooner or later you'll find out he's into you and you'll be much happier than you've expected!! GOOD LUCK
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He's probably as shy as you are. Tell you what, the best way to deal with this is to ask him out for something that's not *exactly* a date, but is more than just a short "Hi there! Bye there!" greet session. How about you go out for coffee? You know, to "catch up". If not coffee maybe bobba/bubble tea? Or whatever the devil people drink for fun nowadays? Oh, alcohol is not a good idea. Sure, they call it "liquid courage" for a reason, but too much of it and you'll probably tell him more than he needs to hear.
At the end of the day if you don't tell him and he doesn't tell you, then nobody wins. What's the worst that can happen? He says "no". Sure, it might *seem* devastating, but in time you'll learn that rejection, terrible as it may be at the time of occurance, is a part of life. After all, nobody can win ALL the time.
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