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hiii! me and this girl like just became good friends ..well i knew her but we just started hangin out alot a little bit ago i mean she is one of my best friends and she is awesome! she is also very gorgeous..and im very jealous of her..because everytime we like go on the computer or something about a million guys will all i/m her and be like hey beautiful and they all wanna hang out with her and stuff and i dont talk to like any guys!! i wish i did.but im so shy and she like only talks to guys. i mean when we go places all the guys only look at her..and they're always like oh my gosh you looked so hott..they say that to her and i just feel so low about myself when im around her!! because i know everyone thinks she is so pretty..but they dont tell me that and i know im not the best lookin ..and i cant just not be friends with her because of this..i mean i love being around her she just like lows my self-esteem down i dont know what to do!? ..i mean i bet a guy tells her she is beautiful like everyday..i dont think ive ever heard someone say it to me? i just have no clue what to do..im lost..so can you please help me!?
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Hi! This girl and I just became good friends ..well I knew her but we just started hanging out a lot a little while ago. She is one of my best friends and she is awesome! She is also very gorgeous..and I'm very jealous of her..because everytime we go on the computer or something, about a million guys will all IM her and say things like, "Hey beautiful" and they all want to hang out with her. I don't talk to like any guys!! I wish I did, but I'm so shy and she like only talks to guys. When we go places all the guys only look at her..and they're always saying things like, "Oh my gosh you looked so hot". They say that to her and I just feel so low about myself when I'm around her because I know everyone thinks she is so pretty. But they dont tell me that and I know I'm not the best looking. I can't just not be friends with her because of this..i mean i love being around her she just like lows my self-esteem down I don't know what to do!? I mean I bet a guy tells her she is beautiful like everyday.I don't think I've ever heard someone say it to me? I just have no clue what to do..I'm lost..so can you please help me!?
Now for the answer: Self esteem for the most part is a bunch of new age bull crap that has been forced down all of the current generations throats to take away the reality of the world. People think your friend is hot, so what? Are you so shallow that you have to have the approval of others to be happy? If you have to "feel good" about yourself, think about what makes people want to be around you. That's what true self confidence comes from.
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I think you need to stop asking me personal questions whenever you ask them directly to the pool. That's so stupid -- don't ever do it again & waste my time.
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i've been in your situation before, and trust me i KNOW it sucks. don't let it get to you though, and stop comparing yourself with her. comparing yourself to others really helps lower your self-esteem (obviously) so just be happy with yourself nevertheless. your time will come and you'll find guys who think your beautiful, but maybe right now is just not the time. trust me on that one. ♥adina
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hey! well i dont think u should automatically stop being friends with her because that isnt her fault.I think that you should talk 2 her and be like "hey can you talk 2 him for me " well u shouldnt be intemadted because of her you should just talk more ... good luck ttyl
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I think it would be tough having a friend like that. But then again, if you like her and want to be friends with her try not to worry about what the guys think or how they act. One day, one will come along that likes you better, trust me on this one. It will happen.
She may be a flirt or like we used to say a (teaser)--and while guys act like they like that initially, they don't like it in a long term relationship.
For now, focus on things you like to do and first and foremost be yourself--and smile when you feel like crying! You'll be surprised what good luck smiles can bring.
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