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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


PLEASE don't repeat questions. I appreciate all ratings and feedback, so please do it. It really gives me a good feel for how my advice is. Also, if you don't rate, and my advice is crap, I'd like to know so that I don't run the risk of telling someone to do that again.


Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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well i always pop my knuckles and my back and sometimes my neck. is any of that bad?

The first girl is completely wrong, it's not bad for you at all. In fact, it is good for you! It lets out the gas in between your bones. That's what the POP is. It's no problem, but don't do it in public. A lot of people find the sound revulting.

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sorry if this is under the wrong category. how do you insert a tampon? please do not give me the instructions off the back of a box. i don't understand them. in your own words, please?

The other people's advice is really good.. so I'm not going to repeat them. But if you find that you're having a difficult time getting it in, wear a pad first and wait until you menstrate, so that you're wet there.. on the inside too. It'll slide in easier that way. If you need to get it in in a hurry, than put the tiniest bit of vasaline on the tip and down like, 1/3 of the way. It'll slide in easier. Good luck!

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i didnt get my period in july and i havent gotten it yet and it is really late. i havent had sex but i know my friend gave her bf a handjob in her pool while i was in it (and of course i didnt know till later that night) and she said that he cummed. is there any way that i could be pregnant from that?

There's no way you could be pregnant from that. Chlorine kills germs in seven seconds. Plus, his penis would have to be inside of you. Don't worry about your missed period, if you're just beginning to get your period, you'll be a little irregular. If you don't get it for three months, try going to your doctor. Good luck.

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i have been like flirting more and looking at like every attractive guy that walks by and then wen there is a guy in my class that is hot, i cant stop staring....like my eyes just look off my paper and look at him.........i have been flirting with like every guy too, is this normal? is it like hormones or something with puberty or something? cuz i just cant help myself hah

OH MY GOD! I feel your pain! I flirt with every walking male thing as well. It's no problem, as long as you don't take it too far and start acting completely different around guys. Try not to make flirting a habbit though, because I have and my friends sometimes get mad at me for acting differently.

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what is the best color/ style of shirt to wear for picture day?
im a 16 year old girl and i have medium/light skin, kind of tan. i have hazel eyes. the background for the photo is a blueish color. what will make me look good? lol please help.

Pink and blue are REALLY common picture day colors, so I try to avoid them. Don't wear something too low cut, because sometimes when you do that, it looks like you're wearing no shirt. However, t-shirts are a little do under-done. Polos look nice, and so do cute tanks. Good luck!

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Ok well i started going out with this one guy named jonathan.The thing is dat he knows i like somebody else and i know he likes somebody else.Yes it seems wierd but we told each other that since the beggining.Its like we like each other to but it kind of feels wierd to know he dosent only think of me...i know he probably feels da same way but i dont know.I seriously dont think we are going to last.Although i wish it did=/So if you were in my place what would you do??

You can date him without going steady.. which can work in both of your favors. Just date around and don't worry about going steady. That way, you can both date each other and other people. Just make sure that you talk about, because otherwise he'll think you're cheating on him. Good luck!

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i need a new hair style coz i always have the same ones. i have a round shape face, strawberry blonde/red long hair and i have a side fringe. any ideas would be great.
thanks xx

Side swept bangs are definately the hair fad if you want to do that. They look nice on almost anyone. Also, if you have full hair, get a few layers, and try to get them so that they'll get on the shorter side. You can pull off basically any haircut, with your face shape. Good luck!

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Okay, so on this site, I created Advice Center group where people can ask about anything. (All the other groups with advice was for like only certain topics such as hair, or boys, or pets, etc.) And so I was feeling good because I made the group. And then someone joined the group and posted his Advice From Johnny group link in the msg board for my group asking people to join.

I don't know. I guess I mad because
1)he stole my idea
2)people might go to his group and asks questions there instead of in my group
3)leave my grou pt join his

And do you guys get my point? I don't know what to do. Maybe I should post my group link in his group msg board when enough people join. What shall I do? And yes, I might be a tad bit jealous =X

I think that it's an advice center.. and if people want your help, they'll get your help. If they don't want your help, they'll go to the other person. The point of your advice site is to help people, not a popularity contest. Don't worry about it.

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1. Ok so I just made out for the first time and it was only our 3rd date. Does that seem right or do you think that's too soon to be making out?

2. I have a horrible gag reflex and I almost gagged a couple of times. Does anyone know what to do about this?

Thank youuu!

Making out on the third date is perfectly acceptable. As for the gag reflex.. I have no clue. Maybe, if you were frenching, he stuck his tongue down too far and actually gagged you! To make him stop this, take your tongue and lightly push his tongue out. He'll get the picture. Good luck!

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I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do?

Making out is completely okay.. And you shouldn't be worried about it! The fact that he didn't respect your limits is the only problem. You should try to hang out with him again and ask him if you guys could talk more and kiss less. If he cannot do this, and says that the fact that you are attractive is the only thing that matters, than he is deffinately using you. Give this dude one more chance. If he disrespects your wishes again, dump him.

Good luck

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i dont know why i broke up with her, it just seemed right at the time, but wenever i think about her , which happens to be A LOT , i regret it.im not sure thging can ever be the same between us though. i need help. please tell me wht i should do.

Well, people do make mistakes, however, after you break someone's heart it's nearly impossible to mend. Getting back together isn't really an option for your situation. Get over her.

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I have been dating this girl for a few months and recently we broke up. its probably the hardest thgin i have ever had to do, do u have any tips or advice on what i should do.

p.s. i still have mixed feelings for the girl

If you still liked her, why'd you break up with her? Anyway, I think that re-dating is rarely a good idea.. So if you just recently broke up, she's probably not into the whole "friends" idea. People usually can't be friends so soon after a relationship, especially a strong one, ends. Give it some time, and maybe she'll be into friends. Until then, give her space. I know that's what I would want.

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ok well i was wondering what color eye shadow would really bring out my eyes.. make em "pop" & just be bright. my eyes are round and kind of a denim/dark blue.. blonde hair & kinda light/average skin.

ok well picture::: http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b235/xo_kristin/PICT1718.jpg
my skins a lil darker than that now tho if that helps! thx!

Since you have such light hair and light skin (even though you're a little tanner now) you shouldn't use black eyeliner. Instead, try using a brown or an occasional fun color, like navy blue or white or gray/silver. Also, I would reccomend using a little bit of a shimmery shadow, but I wouldn't tap into dark colors. What I do is use a brown from the lash line to the crease, and then use a copper from the crease to the brows (only a small amount), and then I use a gold by closing my eyes and going over the tear duct on the top and the bottom. It looks really nice. So, try it out!

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How do you make advances , or make a move on a girl without making it ackward.?

If you're talking about going from, like, a conversation to getting physical, look the girl into the eye and smile. It's all about talking with your eyes.

If you're talking about kissing or making out into something else, such as going up her shirt or something, hint towards it by playing with the bottom of her shirt or touching her stomache. If she pulls away, than don't continue to do it. However, if she gives you welcoming vibes, go for it.

Hope I helped, lemme know how it goes.



-Samm and Ron

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ive liked this guy for almost a year now. is that too long to be liking someone? like i really do like him and i want to go out with him but i dont think that he likes me that way back. should i move on? but then again i dont think i can. i talk to him almost everyday and i see him sometimes. but he doesnt live here. im just really confused and dont know if its been to long and i should try to move on and look for other guys. thanks.
p.s.- sorry if this is confusing or kindof pointless

If you don't see him very often and you aren't getting good vibes back, than a relationship probably would not work out very well. Keep your eyes open for other guys. Good luck!

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Whats a good-cheap waterproof foundation and concealer? and how do you use them? like techniques? Also is it true that your sapposed to get a shade darker than yur natural skin tone? What shade do i get?

Well, I know the store Sephora has a great line of makeup, so I looked up waterproof concealer and came up with this: http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P151107&categoryId=B70 However, that stuff is VERY expensive. I just use cover girl and it works fine enough for me. Foundation: that matte mousse works great. As for the color, I usually get coverup that's lighter than my skin color and foundation that is the exact color of my skin. But if you're using concealer only, use one the exact color of your skin.

Techniques:

Concealer: Apply to spots that need to be covered and dab to smooth. Do NOT rub it off.

Foundation: Use a makeup sponge to apply evenly to your face. Don't foget your eye lids! Also, smooth so that it will go a little further than your jawline. Good luck!

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ok, my boyfried is 18 n im 13.And we have sex, Please dont call me a slut cuz i am NOT ONE. it doesnt matter what age i am cuz im not imature. But,we have been going out for 6 months. sometimes when we do it with out a condom dont worry its safe for some reasons he says its dry in there n it hurts, any help on what that is???

"sometimes when we do it with out a condom dont worry its safe for some reasons"

SEX IS NEVER SAFE WITHOUT A CONDOM OR SOME SOURCE OF PROTECTION. Don't tell me that you're not immature because, clearly, you are. Sex is a very intimate thing and isn't something that you should be having at the age of 13. Six months is not long enough for you to be having sex, especially when you're thirteen years old. And not only is it just wrong to be having sex with him, it's illegal.

You just probably started having your period. You're NOT ready for sex. Break up with him. You can't have this relationship.

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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

I would reccommend giving him your cell phone number so that he doesn't have to get in an awkward situation of talking to your little brother who picks up the phone.

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I am 18 and my girlfreind is 13 but will be 14 in 2 weeks. We have tried to have sex on a nuber of times but my problem is after pettin and stuff as son as she touches my penis i cum. We have been unable to even try to get to putting it in becsue it cums right away how can i stop this from happening

I cannot give you any advice on how to prevent your cumming, because haven't you considered the fact that your physical relationship is, in fact, illegal? Because it is. You should break up with her and remain friends. However, the whole touching cumming thing.. maybe you should just wear a condom so that you don't cum into her? I don't know, honestly. Sorry if I was no help.

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help!! im 13 years old and i was wondering why i get these weird throbbing in my vagina?! im too young to get cancer down there or anything..
so do you know what it could be??

I've never heard of a throbbing vagina.. but if it's itchy you might have a yeast infection. You should see your doctor, that sounds abnormal. Or, do as I do, GOOGLE IT!

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