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okay so i just started a new highschool this year as a freshman, but nobody else knew eachother yet either so we all had to make friends. at the beginning of the year everybody was just friends with everyone but now kids are so cliquey. and the kids i hung out with at the beginning of the year are kinda split up into diffferent groups now.
okay, so the people i was friends with are really clingy and are started to get extremely annoying and thats my pet peeve. and now i have other friends too that i really like, infact i like them a lot better. how do i hang out with them more and and hang out less with my old friends without hurting their feelings? i mean they are nice people but they follow me everywhere and are really annoying and nobody likes them. and i dont want to sound like a bitch or anything because im not its just that they follow me everywhere.
sorry its so long, but thanks for help! (link)
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This has happened to me too. It's just normal for people to split up because in high school every person becomes so different and it's harder to make friends (it's not just a matter of asking eachother your favorite colors anymore-haha).
Anyways, try drifting off very slowly from your old group of friends. Maybe you could introduce your new friends and your old friends together and see how that turns out. If you want to totally stop hanging out with them, you can, but be slow and nice about it. Don't make them feel like you've totally ditched them at first.. Just slowly wean them off.
Over time, You'll drift enough so that you can hang out with other people and they won't care as much. They should give you some space to do whatever you want- and they might start making their own friends too.
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What're some good Coldplay songs?...And, if you watched the Grammys, they played a really cool song. I dunno what it's called though...does anyone know it?
And, one more thing. I wanna download new songs. Any ideas?...
Thanks for thy time.
Kay. (link)
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They played "Speed of Sound" at the Grammys (pretty sure, might have been "Clocks"). Here are ones I think you'll like (because I like pretty much all of Coldplay's songs):
"Don't Panic"
"White Shadows"
"The Hardest Part"
From their album, "A Rush of Blood to the Head":
"Clocks"
"In My Place"
And here are more that I like that you should check out:
"Green Eyes"
"Amsterdam"
"The Scientist"
"A Message"
"Yellow"
"We Never Change"
Haha so many! Coldplay is my favorite though. So for other songs, I recommend (according to what I like):
Daniel Powter, "Bad Day", "Lie To Me", "Holywood", "Suspect"
Brendan Benson, "Cold Hands (Warm Heart)"
Five For Fighting, "NYC Weather Report", "100 Years"
John Mayer, "Bigger than My Body", "Clarity"...
Gorillaz, "Dare"
Train, "Cab"
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These past few days I've hardly eaten anything. I mean I'll be hungry then when the food is put infront of my I'll eat like 4 bites then I'll be really full! Usually I can eat a full meal but now I can bearly eat anything. I'm currently active in a competative sport so I need the food but I can't make myself eat it because I get so full so quickly I begin to feel sick, is something wrong with me? (link)
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Digestion problem!
See a doctor!!!
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I am 16 years old and I weigh barely 90lbs. What can I do to gain weigh but not getting a lot of fat in my body? (link)
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Gain muscle- work out.
But assuming that you are healthy, why do you need to gain weight?
Whatever you do, make sure your health comes first (aka not eating junk food). Go ask your doctor before you make changes in your diet or anything else.
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14/f...ok so i kno this guy named Peter and two of his friends, Tyler and Trevor. So I like Peter a lot but he's really really shy and hard to get to know but I still am able to talk to him. One day i was talking to him and everything seemed like it was going well but after he was gone one of my friends said that Tyler said behind my back that Peter has absolutely NO INTEREST IN ME. But the next day I was talking to him and it seemed like he was SORTA FLIRTING with me. But after that I asked Trevor if wat Tyler said was true and he said probably yes. I dont kno wat to think and keep in mind that he is REALLY shy and wat i consider flirting could just be him talking. Please help
I RATE HIGH (link)
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Well they could be right or wrong but they have no proof really. Don't go totally nuts over this guy, his friends could be right about what they said but then again Peter could change his mind if he gets to know you better. Maybe if he's really that shy, he's just afraid and might be trying to avoid people in this way.. So try talking to him, get to know him a bit more and then you can see if he likes you or not.
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I want to tell my friend something..It's a problem I've been having and it's kind of serious. I've never told this friend anything this serious before though. How do I know if she'll accept me and keep it a secret? (link)
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One way to predict is to evaluate the way she responds to certain situations. Try to figure out how she would react to your serious news- put yourself in her shoes. To find out roughly how accepting and trustworthy she'll be, you have to ask yourself..
Are you good friends? And if you haven't been friends for very long, she may not be so trustworthy.
Does she gossip a lot? Does she treat other friends/people well? Could you see her doing something really mean?
Would she seem like a supportive friend, thick and thin type of thing? Does she seem mature enough?
Use your judgement. It may change your friendship in some ways, either bad or good ways, so think of the outcome.
So to tell her, say something like "I feel that I need to tell someone about something about me that is serious..I want to tell you and I need your support, could I talk to you in person?"
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whenever i'm meeting someone i don't know, i have the hardest time keeping a conversation! i'm really outgoing and friendly, but most of the time i just don't know what to talk about and we end up standing there in this awkward silence. any tips / suggestions?? thanks!! (link)
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Current events are great, usually everyone has an opinion.
When the winter olympics were going on, I found that just saying "have you been watching the olympics?" was a nice conversation starter. Even people who said they weren't watching would end up saying "I heard that ski person slipped and was on one leg for a few seconds but he made it..I also heard of that woman who celebrated too early before the finish line and someone else won!"
Haha
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I got a pimple near my lip or.. on my lip on the side I guess. It's not a cold sore.. So yeah what can I do to make it go away? It obviously hurts when i move my mouth. it has a white head and all but i dont know how to pop it without hurting my lip. (link)
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Just leave it and it will go away. There are some things at the drug store you can get to treat it and if it doesn't go away, go see a doctor.
But whatever you do, don't pop any of your pimples!!! It makes it worse and actually spreads the bacteria around that area of skin (which makes more pimples); plus it could get infected, scar, etc.
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What are websites to places similar to Myspace? Like places where you can make a site and have people look at it and have their own? (link)
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I use this site, it's easy to navigate and all that.
http://www.blogger.com/home
Your friends become members and you can make it private or whatever you want.
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ok i know i have wrote to ya'll before about me being worried about my period but now im really worried. i have only gotten my period once because i am 13 and it first started in the last week of October. i bled for 2 & 1/2 days. now it is the 2nd week of march and i havent seen it sinse october. is something wrong with me. my friends say that i shouldnt worry about it because it will be eregular but it had been almost 5 MONTHS! no im not pregnant because i havent had sex but the day that i did get it i was masturbating but i know i didnt pop my cherry because i bled for 2 and 1/2 days. do you think i cut myself or something? anyway please help if your can and dont give stupid answers!
i rate high for good answers! (link)
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When I was around 12 years old I got this "teaser" where I had my first period (and it lasted 1-2 days, like yours). A year later I got my regular cycle, and it still wasn't a totally regular cycle every month.
So I was like you and it's different for everyone but generally most people are a range of "irregular" during the first 2-3 years. Once you start, don't expect it to be "regular".
So don't worry, it really does not matter at your age!
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Okay, this is a really weird question but is there a pulse in your stomach? Because when I like hold my hand over it I can like feel something... like a heartbeat but there's not a heart in your stomach. If anyone knows what I'm talking about I will rate!! Thanks. (link)
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Pulse is all over your body because it is just simply your blood being pumped by your heart. When blood is pumped it goes throughout veins and arteries (and you can feel each "pump" of blood- that's what a pulse is).
So since blood-in veins, arteries,capillaries, etc-is everywhere in your body (to support cell life), there is a pulse everywhere blood flows. So yes, you have a pulse in your stomach (along with just about everywhere else in your body).
Research the "cardiovascular system" for further information if ya want. It will tell you all about the heart and circulation.
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Probly wrong subject sorry about that.
I asked a question on here about my weight and i got that im not over weight by all but one person and so im going to attempt a diet.
I started 3 days ago. lol well ive cut down on the snack foods and alot of food all together. And its fine i guess But i have no idea what i can and cannot eat. Do i count calories or saturated fat.?
Also i drink alot of soda and i probly can't give it all up. I can maybe make it one or two a day but i dont think not drinking them is a choice. Unless there is something better out there.
And exercises i live in maine so im not up to running around outside and i dont have exercises machines at home so anything i could do in the house to help me out a little bit?
Any websites would be nice but easy to read ones would be nice.
Thhx in advance. (link)
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http://www.am-i-fat.com/
And cokes are very bad for your health if you have them regularly. You might be addicted to the caffene in them. Replace cokes with something else sweet that fills that craving, like juice.
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All my friends are on the competition dance team at my dance studio. I'm always nervous to try out for things so I never do. Last year I finally worked the courage up to try our for soccer, and well it ended and tears and a lost friendship. Dance tryouts are march 18 and all my friends are expection me to be great because they are good friends and want to support me. I have been dancing for 5 years and I guess im okay...just not under pressure and expecially not in front of all the good people! I just need some confidence any tips? I know my friends don't want to hurt me. They keep telling me as loNg as I smile and act peppy ill be fine. AAAAh!! (link)
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Go ahead and try out. Why not? I doubt anything bad will happen. If this is what you want to do, try out, and if you don't make it keep trying. Your friends will give you the support you need, so don't be afraid.
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This may be long so...prepare yourself.
I have a best friend and a 2nd best friend. Unfortunately, they hate each other. Last year my best friend and I made fun of my 2nd best friend endlessly. Then she found out...it was a long and terrible time where I realized how rude I had been. Finally she forgave me. But she never forgave my best friend.
My best friend got a boyfriend in September. I realized this meant I wouldnt be spending as much time with her as he went to a different school district so they hung out on the weekends. I only became super upset twice 1) on my 16th birthday weekend she chose to hang out with her boyfriend rather than me (and we did have plans...sadly they also included her boyfriend and his family) 2) she invited me over but spent 5 hours on the phone with her boyfriend with me just sitting in her bed watching tv. I think we only hung out once or twice other than that. The thing is, I hung out with my 2nd best friend during those four/five months they dated. She was there for me on my birthday weekend when I was a crying mess because my best friend didnt want to be there for me. We hung out and got closer. Then my best friend and her boyfriend broke up. Since then is when the trouble started...
My 2nd best friend got in a fight with another friend about my other friend writing Yellowcard lyrics and saying they were hers. Which led to my best friend telling my 2nd best friend to leave my other friend alone. Which led to basically a fight. I told all of my friends "I do not want to be involved in this fight." I was in an awkward position and had no idea what to do other than do nothing and let them all work out there problems. Well, my 2nd best friend insulted my best friend nad my best friend argued with her and such on so forth.
I had made plans with 2nd best friend to see FD3. Then my best friend invited me and I also told her yes. When I realized what I had done I had no idea what to do. I decided to go with 2nd best friend because 1) I told her yes first 2) she could get my little sister in also & my little sister really wanted to see it more than me. I think that made my best friend jealous even though we made plans to go see Date Movie that same weekend (later cancelled bc she went to Florida the same day as plans).
On Fri. morning I had to talk to a teacher and I was walking with my 2nd best friend when my best friend came up with my yellowcard friend. They say meet them in the caf after I talk to the teacher and I say 'ok' but the teacher wasnt in her room she was in the main lobby so I had to go to the main lobby. This causes problems because I saw my best friend/yellowcard friend in the hall and they thought I had just ditched them. I could tell my friend was mad because I said hi to her then and she waved but made a "whatever" face. Then I had another friend (not yellowcard friend) tell me later "this situation with your 2nd best friend and best friend is trouble. your best friend is going to do something soon." Then I get on the bus and my sister tells me that my best friend was talking about the situation to the lunch table. She said that she was upset mad something was wrong with her. I cant remember even what was wrong with her. Basically it all sums up to she felt I was spending to much time with my 2nd best friend instead of her. She thought I was making fun of her like we did to my 2nd best friend last year or something. I dont even know what she was thinking. I was so mad. I mean...shes telling everyone she has a problem with me but ME. And my other friend (not the yellowcard friend) is telling my best friend not to talk to me and I'll see what I'm missing.
Basically I call my best friend up and say "whats going on, I'd really like to know why you are upset with me" and I say "the teacher was in the lobby, not in her room. I could tell you were mad because I saw you make a face." she says "no I wasnt mad about that that was yellowcard friend". I said "well, what is this about" and she said "other friend (not yellowcard friend) thinks that since we are best friends you should have no problem telling 2nd best friend that you want to hang out with me" and I'm like "well, if this is about FD3 then I told her yes first. And also, when you were dating your boyfriend she was there for me a lot. I dont want to just stop hanging out with her because now you are available to hang out. I dont think that would be right." and she said "no I'm not mad about that weekend." I have no idea what other days she was talking about because my 2nd best friend and I havent really hung out maybe once or twice outside of school the past 2 months. She said that in the mornings she wishes I would walk with her some (which makes no sense because I try to split my time evenly but I dont know what to do when they both come to me and want to walk with me. I dont want to make the other one mad by telling them I'm walking with so and so because I know that they would both be upset I chose the other. I know thats the way those two are). She said "well I was talking to my mom and we both think its weird how when 2nd best friend says that you are her best friend that you dont say 'no best friend is my best friend' and I said "2nd best friend and I have an understanding about this, we've discussed this before. when she says I'm her best friend she means she thinks I'M HER best friend. She knows best friend is my best friend." Then she said "and it hurts that you didnt defend me when 2nd best friend talked about me. if someone was talking about you I know I would say something." and I understand where she is coming from, but I had repeatedly told both of them I didnt want anything to do with there fight because they had put me in a situation. I figured it was their fight and if they wanted to fight it they could go ahead but I didnt support either side. Then she went to work. While we were having this phone conversation another girl who sits at my best friends lunch table but is friends with my 2nd best friend told my 2nd best friend what my best friend had said about us at lunch. That made my 2nd best friend mad and she wrote this big long thing about it on xanga. My best friend texted me later and said "why did you tell 2nd best friend what we talked about" and I said "I didnt. That was "girl". Why do you have such a problem trusting me." Then we called and talked more. And I told her how 2nd best friend was there when she had basically ignored me while she was with her boyfriend (I cited bother incidents) I also said then we hung out once but the whole time we sat in fishbone while you flirted with the worker (twice this happened actually).
Apparently, to her, we resolved it. But I am still upset. I feel I did nothing wrong but have another friend. And my best friend felt threatened by our friendship and insecure by her. She assumed I was doing stuff I wasnt and it hurts that she didnt trust me. And that fact that she was mad at me when she did worse and turned my one friend against me really hurts. I dont know...she even made a myspace post about how she wants to leave this town and she cant talk to me and about basically how I have been a shitty best friend.
What should I do about this? I really want to say something about how I feel like I did nothing wrong but I'm not sure. Did I do something wrong? Any help with this problem would be MUCH thankful.
AND THANKS FOR READING THIS. (link)
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Hey, I'm a good person so I'm going to actually give you advice. Haha
it sounds like your friends are way too emotional/sensitive if they are not forgiving you fully, etc... Do they truly care about you? It just sounds like all the things they have been arguing about are pretty immature and they are not willing to change.
What I would do is to try and talk to them again. Express your feelings and all that, even if they are unreasonable or they don't listen. Then I would stop hanging out with them so much- give everyone a break (so they can think about what they did to you and the other friends). Try making new friends.
Just aviod this complicated web of hurt your friends created, at least for a while. Things will change, don't worry. Later on you can be good friends again when they realize what they did and are more mature when it comes to arguments. :)
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I have this friend, known her forever. Shes turning out to be really mean, and its gettin me down.
This summer, we spent EVERY DAY together. Never ever missed a day. When we got back to school, she paid no attention to me. I talk to her on the computer these days and she tells me im fat, ugly, slutty, fat,fat,fat,fat,fat!!
And it gets me down, because im not fat. she gets others to hate me
But then.. Im so nice I go back to forgiving her!!
I cant stop myself!! What do I do!?!!? (link)
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She's insecure about herself (probably thinks that she is fat, ugly, etc). She doesn't care about you, so don't be her friend anymore. She needs to know that you won't tolerate what she's doing. Block her sn, delete it off the list. Don't get involved. Maybe someday in the future she'll realize what she has done..Then maybe you could be good friends again.
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My dog is a mixed breed. He's rather tiny.. I'm just wondering how long do those kind of dogs last? He's healthy but I'm kind of worried that I'll lose him. He's 7 years old and apparently is having some hearing problems? (link)
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Every dog has some problems. But that does not mean that he's gonna die soon.. loss of hearing is just a disorder.
Small dogs actually live longer than larger ones because their heart does not have to work so hard to circulate blood through their body (that's what I was told). It also does depend on genetics. Anyways, don't worry, the oldest small dogs can be almost around 20 years of age!
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I have a ferret. He is so cute and I love him to bits. He's about 10 months old now, but all he likes to eat is his ferret food! He won't eat chicken or anything else! Should he be eating a more varied diet, other than his ferret food? If so, how do I get him to accept new foods? (link)
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I believe that their diet can't be varied. They are carnivores, all they require is high amounts of meat-protein and fats. Don't feed him "anything else" in large quantities if it isn't meat. Ferrets have a sensitive digestive system so be careful (you can look up ferret diet info online).
If you are worried that your ferret isn't getting enough ferrety nutrition, you should just gradually switch to a better quality ferretfood.
Ferrets determine their food preferences during the first six months of life. Most likely your ferret won't want to accept new foods. But you can still try, feed it in gradually even if he doesn't eat it (he'll be getting used to the smell).
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Well, my mom said that I could have a sleepover this weekend starting Friday. There will be about 5 or 6 girls all about 13. What are some fun things we can do? I have Charter television, a trampoline, a nice neighborhood, and a big backyard. My house is fairly small so I'm not sure what we can really do inside. And, what are some things to talk about? We are all really close friends.
Thank you in advance! (link)
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You could ask some of your friends what they would want/like to do, that makes it easier!
What I do- I don't set any specific plan up (that would be weird lol). My friends and I just wander around and do whatever. Sometimes we even go in the kitchen and cook something random (and get sugar high lol).
Usually, if you are close friends, the time flies no matter what you are doing (especially if there is more of you).
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I am 13 and have never had a bf. All of my friends laugh at me behind my back. I found this out after we had a school dance a couple of nights ago. I danced with this one senior who is kind of on the geeky side, but he's a really nice guy. He's also the only guy who asked me to dance, all the guys in my class don't really like me. Well I found out from one of my nicer friends that all these girls that I thought were my friends were laughing at me at the dance and saying that Lee (the guy I danced with ) was the only guy I could get. They were also laughing and saying what a geek I was for never having a bf.
I was really hurt and felt like crying. Since when is it a crime to have never had a bf? I know girls a lot older than me that arent dating.
What should I do? (link)
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Do NOT be ashamed! Girls like that are not worth being your friends. Don't feel that being boyfriendless (lol) makes you a bad person. I think that girls that constantly have boyfriends tend to be.. bratty, have less moral values, and all that..(it is hard to explain). But there is a lot more to life than having boyfriends. Ya, even if you danced with a "geek", why does it matter what everyone else thinks? I bet he was nicer than any of the boyfriends all the girls you know have.
It's just all a game of inmaturity. You are mature. So don't worry about it. :)
P.S. I'm 14/f, join the club. lol
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Hey there! Currently, I'm experiencing feelings of disinterest towards the things I once enjoyed in life.... It's like, I don't really care for school, when it used to be the most important thing, and it seems like, the things I once valued so highly and such, like my ambitions aren't as important as it used to be. Is there anything wrong with me? What may I do to change this perspective? (link)
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You probably have a small case of depression (caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain). Go ask your doctor. It can be treated with medication.
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