BY no means am I always right or know what to do. However, I will tell you what I would do in your situation and what I know to be the most honest and helpful advice that I can give.
Thanks for asking,
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ok hey, question for the girls. How would you feel if your boyfriend did something like this for you on Xmas. (by the way i am the male not the female lol) I get 2 roses, and put each in their own wrapped box. Ill say "when this rose dries up and dies, i will love you more," then give her the box and let her unwrap the first rose. then say "when this rose dries up and dies, you will love me more," then give her the box and let her open it. Then i will take a third box and say "when this rose dries up and dies, i will STOP loving you." and she will open the box, and it will be a glass rose. (for all the blondes out there, glass doesnt dry up and die ;-)) Ever. lol. what do ya think? (link)
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I would love it my boyfriend had even a splinter of romance in his bones. I love glass figures, if she doesn't like it, send it to me. How long have you been together? The only thing that would make the moment better, besides a romantic dinner, would be a proposal of marriage with the ring attached to the stem of the glass rose. The blonde thing, I thought it was cute too!! :)
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okay, what should I do...I really like this girl and she says she likes me also but she has a boyfriend. We hang out quite and lot and have the best time because we are practically best friends. I want to stop liking her but I know the only way to do that is to stop talkin to her because if I do that makes me only liek her more. I tried doing this already but she got really upset and really sad and said it hurt her most out of anything, knowing she was loosing me...I dont know what to do...because we are such close friends and I really do love her (link)
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Dear Confused,
Did you mean it when you said "I want to stop liking her"? What about "I really do love her."
She has you very confused. Not talking to her is only going to break her heart and leave a hole in yours. Try finding another girl with similar qualities, and get to know her. Double date with your best friend and her boyfriend. If you do this, a couple of things could happen:
A) Your best friend will be very happy for you and you might find someone you can love as much as her.
B) Your best friend will become jealous and realize she loves you and leave her current boyfriend for you.
I am not saying use someone to get your friend to leave her boyfriend. That's not fair to the girl who may get hurt if possibility B happens. Your friend has a boyfriend she obviously loves or she would be with you instead. You are important to her, but you should try and find someone else to give your passion to. You will always have place in your heart for your friend and if he comes to you, it will be there good as new. What ever you do, keep spending time with her and above all be honest. What ever you do, GOOD LUCK
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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I know a lot of people can relate to this. My first time was wit my "First Love". We broke up like 4-5 months after my first time. I mean now I regret it or whateva but can I actually get my mind back to thinking like he's not really my first because my cherry didn't bust. He didn't put it all the way in. I mean I really dislike him. Is that bad? Can someone help me to get my mind off of it. Please no DUMB, Smart answers, if you have a smart comment then keep it to yourself because I am already hurting in the inside and to come on here and get jugded by ppl I don't know is even more devastating. THank you (link)
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Dear Mistake,
Let me tell you about my first time with my first love. It lasted 5 minutes. Later that day he started telling our friends that I wasn't a virgin to begin with and that I was very loose. This hurt me bad because I WAS a virgin. He was so small that I didn't feel a thing. He too, did not break my cherry, but I didn't say anything because I loved him. He broke up with me less than a week later. I cried myself to sleep for months. All the while he went through girlfriend after girlfriend after girlfriend. I finally was over him, but it took a while.
I too disliked him for the way he treated me. I also felt sorry for him because of how inadequate he was. Maybe that's why he went through so many girlfriends. I finally told myself that he did not count as my first time and went on with my life. Every experience in your life makes you who you are. You have a second chance at your first time because he did not pop your cherry or put it all the way in. To take your mind off of it, read some books on Tantric sex. Practice on yourself and when you have mastered the art, then start looking for another boyfriend. That way the when you have sex, you will blow the his mind and you'll be to good for him to want to leave you. I just wanted you to know that I can relate to how you are feeling and life does go on, it just takes a little time.
Keep your head up and keep smiling. Good Luck and Happy Halloween :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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Hi I'm a 27 year old woman but dress like I'm a lot younger. I was wearing a pair of tight track pants that showed off my figure. They were not slutty, but just the style right now and I also wore a black jacket. Anyways these two older men were sitting on a park bench when I walked by, one man said "that's a little tight".
Also two days ago me and my friend who is 33 (but looks 25) were at Tim Hortons having a coffee. We were sitting outside and these old men were sitting behind us. We were not talking to them but they were eavesdropping on our conversation ( which was about men). When we left they jeered at us and said BYE GIRLS.
Why do I always get this reaction from older men? I am not a slut and not a flirt. (link)
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Dear Perverted old men......,
You get this reaction because most older men have nothing better to do but gawk at beautiful women. It's just entertainment for them and you should not take it personally. You should be flattered that men look at you. Thank them for their comments, hold your head up and smile on your way out.
Stay Honest
Honestymatters
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yeah... I go to a really bad school (drugs, sex, rumors, suicide, acohal, smoking, & ect.) & I'm mad fun of alot. I under understand what I ever did to them... I transferd from a private school (PRK-8th Grade) that had only 187 students, now I'm in public school & theres more people in my grade, I transferd 2 years ago.
I'm called gay, queer, shim, & all sorts of rumors are going around. & I don't know what I ever did to these people... I'm on medication for depression & I'm seeing a shrink... but its all the popular guys who say these things... & i guess the girls do to, just not to my face. I don't have many friends, acctly, only girl-friends who go to that school... & even they make-fun of me... & I don't know what I did to hurt these people so damn bad... & I've got a bad homelife... my mom is married to someone I hate, my dad is mean & treats my sisters awfull (he was married once befor & had 2 kids, so tehre my half-sisters) & my grandfathers, bother of them, died within a year of eachother & just theres a whole lot of things going on in my life... & I don't know what I should do... kill myself (I'm the only thing between my parents that keeps them fighting)? take drugs? I've no clue what I can do or what I did to them... & I'm not really sure how much most of my friends would care if I just died... & my best friend (I've known him since I was about a year old) dosen't want to have anything to do with me... & I don't know who would really care, other then my sisters, my mom, grandmothers, dad, & various other family... & 1 teacher... & so I don't know what to do... it keeps me so depressed & its so hard on me, I don't do good in school cos I'm depressed, my friends make-fun of me... I know I'm not the best looking person ever... but I just want to know what I can do...
if anyone needs contact with me then at the bottam of your post put your e-mail
-Cameron (link)
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Cameron,
I know this is a little late. Has your situation improved any since May? Nothing is worth killing yourself over. I was made fun of a lot in school too. Develop a sense of humor. It is what has seen me through. Keep a note book and make fun of the people who make fun of you in it. Pick out their faults and take them to extreme in your note book. Give yourself a good laugh on at their expense. If seeing a shrink doesn't work for you, then you can talk to me. My e-mail address is genericaddress@peoplepc.com please e-mail me and let me know how you are, anyone who threatens to kill themselves really needs a friend to talk to. Medication for depression will not fix your problem, changing you environment is the only way to cure depression, I know, I was on meds for 3 years, until I changed my environment. I have been off of them for almost 4 years. Take care, keep your head up.
Sincerely
Tammy
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okay!!!!! my friend is having a halloween party tonight and i'm going as a member of the "rainbow gang"...i'm going to have a rainbow clown wig on and baggy pants n a black tee....any ideas on my make up?? (link)
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YES, paint a big rainbow across your face on top of a solid white or black back ground to match your black tee.
OR paint rainbow stars around your eyes and a big rainbow smile around your mouth. Color your teeth in rainbow colors too, that would be funny. Don't forget your finger nails either, if you are going rainbow, go all the way....GOOD LUCK HAPPY HALLOWEEN :)
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Okay, my friend (we'll call her mary) and I are about the same size, except i'm a bit leaner because i'm tall and stuff. But she ALWAYS wants to borrow my clothes. I didn't mind at first but now it's coming to every day -- she sees what i'm wearing and says "I'm borrowing that." Also, our other friend is like 2 sizes smaller than us but "mary" has even borrowed clothes from her. "Mary" has worn my petite friend's favorite hoodie more times than she has!
Its really starting to get on both of our nerves. During the summer I let her borrow one of my coolest skirts and she got a stain on it. Yeah, it's tiny. But I mean, come on. Also, she always says I can borrow any of her clothes whenever I want when she borrows mine. But the truth is, her fashion sense sucks. All she does is buy brand names and the clothes are usually the wrong size for her because shes in denial about being a size xlarge. So, she gives the clothes to our small friend who could practically wear them as nightshirts their so big on her. Anyway, so should I just keep kinda ignoring her requests to borrow my clothes or just let her borrow them once in awhile to keep her sated? Or just outright tell her that she stretches out my clothes? WHAT? (link)
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Dear Clothes Borrowing,
Everyone covered most everything. You could tell her that your parents won't buy you any more clothes if you keep lending them out. You could stop being friends with her if she annoys you so much. OR just buy duplicates of everything you wear, only buy them 4 sizes to small for you. When she says I have got to borrow that, give her the one that is 4 sizes to small, she will soon quit asking to borrow clothes because she doesn't fit into them. Haahhaaaa. Either way you should do it soon because she will only keep taking advantage of you. Keep in mind if you tell her that your parents won't let you lend your clothes out, you cannot let her see other girls wearing your clothes either. The best thing for you to do is just sit her down and say please don't take this the wrong way but your fashion sense sucks and you are stretching out my clothes. Honesty is always the best way to go and sometimes the truth hurts. Put your foot down now before it is too late.
Good Luck
Honestymatters
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ive lived with my grandparents for 13 years and just a few months ago i moved in with my mom and her boyfriend. i REALLY miss living with my grandparents and i feel like my moms trying to take me away from them. sometimes ill ask my mom if i can stay the night with my grandparents and she says no. we fight and argue every single night and im so sick and tired of it. i cry myself to sleep everynight because of her and her boyfriend. her b/f is so rude to me too. i try to talk to her about this but every time i try we get in another argument. i talk to my grandparents about it and they undersatnd but they dont know what to do. i just cant stand living with my mom and her boyfriend. if anyone can tell me what i can do besides talk to my mom please help me. (link)
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You are 13 years old, that is old enough for any court to listen to you and place you where you want to live. If your mother's boyfriend is creating a hostile environment for you then make a record of it. Whenever there is a fight, and he is out of line, write it down, keep a diary. DO NOT LET ANYONE KNOW ABOUT THE DIARY. Anything you write down needs to be the truth, never lie, it will ruin your chances for the court to believe you. Your diary can admitted into court as evidence. You need to try proving that your mom is putting her boyfriends needs before yours. This will show neglect Please be careful not to instigate anything. What state is the house in, messy, neat? Does your mom do drugs? Does she leave them laying around? When you have recorded a couple of months worth of fights take a walk to the family court. Tell them you need public representation to protect you from your mother, use the words PRO BONO (Boe-know) That means FREE.
Your grandparents can go with you and testify to the conversation that you have when you call them crying about how you are being treated. How does your sister feel bout your mom? Since she gets all the attention she may like your mom and it would be a mistake to talk to her about anything you plan on doing. Eight year olds tend to tell on everyone. Keep your diary and your intentions secret. Go on with your daily life like you are now. Just keep track of everything. If you can get photos of the way your mom keeps house or if she leaves dangerous things lying around, or if there is any physical abuse on her part or her boyfriends part. You have to prove beyond reasonable doubt that you are in danger of physical or mental abuse. You have to prove that living there will bring you harm.
Unfortunately, if you cannot prove any of this then you will have to go another route. You say that your grandparents have raised you, right? Why did your grandparents raise you? What made your mom absent? Maybe whatever it is, she is still doing it. You could try and say taking you from the people that raised you is emotionally crippling and you are depressed. I hope that my advice is useful, just remember, NEVER LIE or try to plant fake evidence, this will only make it worse for you. Keep me posted, I am here anytime you need me. GOOD LUCK.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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What is the difference between them? I have decided to put my faith into one of them cause i know they both involve Jesus and the Bible but how are they different?do you go to hell for being one over the other? do they worship the same god? and where can i get a bible? also is it true that luthern is based off the bible. I have ruled out Catholic. Also is mastrubating a sin? I will rate 5's for decent help.
---former athiast (link)
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After reading what the others have said they are right about the difference in the religions. But why are you limiting your self to these two? There are so many, just like shopping for a car, you should test drive them all. For masterbation to be a sin you must first believe in GOD. Religion is based on faith and belief, just like a theory or an opinion, (yet to be phyiscally proved) to each their own. Try looking into Kabbalah, you may feel it more rewarding. I hear it's the latest among the Celebrities. What ever you choose, Best of wishes.
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i had a boyfriend for almost 3 years we did everything for eachother i thought he loved me but i guess not...i found out he cheated on me 3 times and he is in the military..he got stationed in germany met a girl and brought her home..wat should i do?? (link)
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Girl,
He has no balls and he will do to her what he has done to you, I know. I have been there only he was my husband and he is in the Navy. NOW he has since dumped her and tried salvaging our marriage, I said hell no, you left me high and dry. He is now getting married to his cousin and get this, has a baby with her. EWE. Do not sweat this guy. Don't even waist your energy on him. He isn't waisting any on you. Move on, you will be happier, trust me.
GOOD LUCK
Honestymatters
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OMG!!!!! I AM SOO ANGRY RIGHT NOW ok sorry well i like this guy lets call him chris and he likes my best friend lets call her ash. well chris talks about ash to me all the time and i kinda ignore it and he was going to ask ash out and ash was like oo no i would never do that to you. and that was cool and all and i can tell she likes him but w.e. so theres the winter dance coming up and i asked chris if he was gonna ask ash and he said probally not and i told ash he wasnt going to ask her and she said good i wouldnt go with him any way cause you like him...totally cool so far right? well tonite he asked her to the winter dance and she said probally but i dont know yet but its probally a yes. and she hasnt told me or anything it makes me so upset not the fact that chris is going with my best friend but that she said she would never do that to me and she is. it really hurts my feelings im crying so much...i dont know wat to do...sorry if this isnt really like a questions it just upset me soo much and sorry it was soo long (link)
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There is only one way to get to the bottom of your dalema. Tell your friend that it is going to end your friendship if she lies to you. Just because he likes her and not you is no reason for you to be mad at her. Do not get mad at her for changing her mind about going out with him. She likes him but does not want to hurt you. DO GET MAD AT HER FOR NOT BEING HONEST WITH YOU. There are plenty of guys out there and we do not always get the one we want. Talk to her, tell her you want the truth and you will give her best wishes with Chris. Ask her to ask Chris if he has a single friend that wants to double date to the dance. Be happy for her, who knows, while they are dating he may get to know you and realize he likes you better. Don't try and steal him, be honest and tell her that if it doesn't work out between them, that you would date him if he asked you out. Above all be honest and be a good friend. Good friends just want their friends to be happy. Encourage her to be honest with you, don't say you'll do one thing and do another. It hurts, but you cannot make him like you. The next time he talks about her to you, tell him how you feel. Ask him to stop and tell him that it kills you inside because you have liked him longer than your friend has. Do not let this guy come between you. Be her friend and find someone else to like. It will seem hard to do at first, but there is someone else waiting for you to like them, you just have to look past Chris.
GOOD LUCK
Honestymatters
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Problem- Last year, CA and CB were best friends. CA use to go out with BG, but BG dumped her in August, but CA is still very inlove with him. Now they both have gone put with a couple of other people, but ofcurse CA still loves him. Now, at the end of October, BG starts to like CB, and vise versa. CA is super mad at CB because she said that "best friends are not supose to go out with people that there friend likes." Well to make a long story short CB and BG go out for like a week, and CA is SUPER mad at CB for doing that. Now CA's new best friend is KM. Well KM has liked ZK for about a week now, and and had heard that he might ask her out. Well CA decides about a week after KM told her she liked ZK that CA likes him too, but she knows that KM liked him first. Well the next time CA and KM see ZK, ZK asks CA out, and CA says yes.
Now here is the question- Don't you think it is wrong of what Ca did to KM? CA got all mad at CB for "breaking the rule" and going out with BG, but then the next week she does the same thing to KM.
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Dear Is it right?,
NO it is not right. CA made a pact with her best friend, and she burned CA. Then CA goes and burns KM. CA should have asked KM if it was ok with her if CA went out with ZK. After all CA cannot help it if ZK likes CA instead of KM. Personally, I think that if CA was a real friend, CA would never do anything to jeopardize this friendship. But I am not CA, and CA will do what ever CA wants to. CA should keep in mind how it felt when CB burned CA with BG. That's how KM is feeling right now.
Above all CA should be honest with everyone.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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ok. so i made out with him.
and it was unthinkable amazing.
he usually calls 2x a day just to say he's thinking about me, leaves notes in my locket, sweet stupid stuff. it's like a long weekend and he didnt call so
i had 2 call him the night after. fine.
its been 3 days since then.
he hasn't called. ouch.
why?
am i that bad at making out?
or is it something to do with him?
plz just tell me the truth...even if it sucks.
id rather know.
thanx. (link)
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Dear Ahhhhh,
Maybe he went out of town for the weekend. Maybe something came up suddenly that was out of his control. Do not immediately assume it is you. Give him a couple of weeks to contact you. DO NOT KEEP CALLING HIM. It is a turn off and shows that you are clingy and desperate. If he hasn't been in touch with you in 2 week, blow it off and go make out with someone else. Joking, on that last part, get on with your life if he has not called in 2 weeks.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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i have these little bumps on my nipples. my mom said they were just like pimples, but yeah, they're not going away. and they're gross. well, not really that bad, they're just little bumps, weird huh? anybody know anything about this? should i go 2 a doctor? (link)
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Dear Gross...sorry,
What you are talking about usually happens to girl when they start to mature. If you feel your nipples becoming more sensitive to pressure or the cold, or the brown area gets bigger, see a doctor. They can't give you life advice, but they can tell what is going on in your body. Take care
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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ok so my boyfriend i went to a boy girl party and we palyed spin the boottle andi got my kirst like REAL kiss by then like an our later he give me the middle finger and told me to shove it cuase i wasnt "cuddling" with him. Then he apoligized and i gave him a chance and he was like kept getting mad at me b/c i wasnt lik making out with him. He was acting all perverted, do i dump his sorry ass. And how shloud I say it? (link)
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Dear Boyfriend Issues,
Sounds to me like your bf has issues you do not know about. It's obvious the REAL kiss turned him on. That's natural for most guys. As for dumping him, that's your call, he is unstable. One minute he wants to love you the next minute he wants to hate you. Be honest with him and tell him that his mood swings are too much for you! Unless you like that sort of drama bringing you down at parties? Keep being honest and stay happy! Have great Halloween.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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I won't really be shocked of nobody answers this, because it feels so unanswerable. But, my sister had a friend in my grade, and the friend talked really bad about my sister. So I told her it was bugging me, and she was really rude to me about it and used profanity in front of people at school. I ended up crying in the hall, and the next day my sister talks to her again when she knew I stuck up for her in a crowd of people. In other words, she doesn't care, I saw her talking to the girl today and I just wanted to scream and cry. Theres really no ending to her selfishness. I can't tell anyone, because it's a very long story, my mom doesn't care, my dad has no control. I'm just wondering how I can deal with my sister and mom treating me like crap without just screaming at them like always. It hurts to know that someone you stuck up for never even cared. What is the best way I can cope with this? (link)
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Dear Unaswerable,
I agree with some of the other Advicenators when it comes to talking to your sister about her choice in friends. Beyond that I think you should keep your distance from her and her friends. The negativity is rubbing off onto you. Anyone who yells and uses profanity has serious anger issues, you were just a way to vent them. Let your sister learn the hard way. Don't try and stand up for her, she obviously doesn't need you to. Get out and make your own friends but keep your life separate from hers. She will soon learn that girl is a backstabber.
I feel for you with the whole mom thing, but "screaming at them like always" tells me that there is a lot of yelling. You feel like no one is listening to you, or treating you badly. Try this: instead of going off in a yelling fit, or arguing with them, keep your mouth shut. Say nothing. Grab your notebook, go to a place of peace for you. Your room, a park bench, the library or where ever it may be (some place where you can calm down without any of them disrupting you). Then write down on paper how they made you feel. Write a letter to each one of them that made you feel bad. Now this is going to be hard, but you can do it, break the pattern and be stronger than they are. It sounds to me like their lives are out of control. Choose your words wisely. Do not be rude or use profanity. (Any negativity will escalate to another fight) Do not put anyone down, just tell them how they make you feel. Make sure to remind them of how much you love them and you are tired of being treated like that. Above all be honest. Spend more time around people who do not make you feel badly. Keep up with your school work and focus on things that make you happy. Take up a hobby that requires a lot of your time, but stay in school and focus on your life, not your sister's, OK. Take care of yourself and if you ever need me I am here! GOOD LUCK
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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hey is it true that when you sleep you're supposed to take your bra off? (link)
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Dear Is it true,
I think most of the other Advicenators said it! I really like sillyrob's advice. I will tell you that it is not good for your bra to be worn for more than 18 hours at a time. Sleeping in your bra will stretch it out and shorten the life of it. You could go through bras faster. I don't think anyone else mentioned that to you yet. Stay Honest. Happy Halloween :)
Sincerely,
Honestymtters
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Okay I am 18/f and I have a wonderful boyfriend. He's 22 and he lives about 1 hour from me because he moved that far to work. He comes to visit me every weekend and calls me every night. We have alot of fun and talk about everything. We have been dating on anf off for 3 years now and are planning on getting married in about 1 1/2. Recently at my work I noticed this guy flirting with me alot, and well I do the same. I saw it as harmless, I would joke with him and stuff and he would back. He had a girlfriend at the time too, but just the other day he walked over to me and pushed me against the wall and said 'watsup babe' and laughed. I found it funny at first but a little odd, then I found out he broken things off with his girlfriend partly because of me. He also slipped me his phone number in my work folder and the other day I saw him he asked me to come to his apartment. I really find him attractive(he looks like the lead singer from my chemical romance) and really like him, I only want to be friends with him because I love my boyfriend so much and wouldnt ever cheat. But when Im around the guy at work Im much more open and talkative then I am with my actual boyfriend. Im just asking if its wrong to be friends with a guy that likes me in a way that my boyfriend wouldnt find appealing? (link)
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Dear Is it wrong,
Man did you ever set yourself up on this one. You should ask yourself if you truly love your boyfriend. When a woman loves a man, she has eyes only for him. If you're noticing other men, then there is something missing in your relationship with your boyfriend. Eighteen years old and already talking about marriage.
You should be living life, discovering yourself and making a career. Guys are a dime dozen and when you find the one that makes you laugh day and night, the one that won't leave your side for anything, even a job, then that's love. Why are you in this long distance relationship? Did he ask you to move with him? Long distance relationships tend to fade the longer you go with out seeing one another. The guy you work with likes you because you give back what he dishes out. I mostly agree with what the other Advicenators said about getting yourself into a position to have to lie. That's NEVER good. Honesty is always the way to go. Talk to your boyfriend about the distance between the two of you, talk to him about the guy at work. Tell him you are attracted to this guy, but it makes you feel guilty because you love him, yet the distance and his absence every day make it very hard to keep from being lonely. Why has the relationship with your boyfriend been going on and off for three years? Why has it not been a solid three years? Look at everything here and ask yourself WHY? Question your own motives. I could just tell you to invite them both over at the same time, get some cooking oil, a game of twister, strip in front of both of them and say “Who wants to play?” BUT hey, some people find that sort of thing nasty and wrong, until they try it. You sound like a pretty intelligent person and you have been given advice from many different people here. Go with your gut but always be honest with yourself and everyone around you. Happy Halloween :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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okay well i was going to ask this boy out on the computer...i RLY like him and ppl say he rly likes me and it looks like it because all he does is flirt with me and only me but when i ask someone to ask him if he likes me...he'll say no! the other day i asked my friend chelsey at my other friends party to tell him he should go out with me and he said no!!! and then on the computer a few weeks ago chelsey asked him if he would ever go out with me and he said he didnt know...now is he just doing this because he doesnt want to admit that he'll like me? i rly like him and EVERYONE says he likes me and some of his friends even told me he said he liked me but why is he doing this if he does!? should i just ask him out and get on with my life if he doesnt!? please help...ill rate 5's for any advice unless its mean (link)
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Dear Asking him out,
So the only reason you think he likes you is because EVERYONE tells you that he says he does, Right? Yet he won't admit it to anyone. Let me pass on some advice my dad once gave me in a similar situation: Believe only part of what you hear, part of what you read and half of what you see. Get to the bottom of this by simply asking the boy if the rumors are true. Go to the source, quit beating around the bush. If he likes you and you like him then you are just waisting time that you could be using to get to know each other. If he denies the rumor then you know EVERYONE was just messing with your head. Quit having other people ask him questions, maybe he is saying no because you are sending other people to do your deeds. Just talk to him and above all stay honest. I hope I helped you. Happy Halloween :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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if the guy you like messes with ur head and likes beating you at stuff what exactly does that mean? is that considered flirting or not? (link)
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IF a guy 'messes with your head' then you should really beware of his personality type. Ask him why he is so competitive with you. Why does he feel the need to prove that he is better than you? Open up and ask him what the deal is. Maybe it is his way of trying to impress you! Or he just has an ego the size of Texas. Above all just be honest and tell him you like him and would like it if he would stop trying to prove he is better than you. If this turns him away, then he is not worth the time you are waisting on him. GOOD LUCK
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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