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Q: So i'm pretty much the typical good girl but i've recently been talking with a guy in my english class who is the opposite of me. He uses drugs and skips classes, and there are many rumors going around about him all the time.
I didn't expect him to be a frequent reader of philosophical novels... we discuss ayn rand and many other topics in our english class and i'm kind of falling for him.
the thing is, all my friends hate him. i love my friends a lot and i wouldn't want to hurt them by getting too close with this guy.
what can i do?

First, I would get to know him better. I know you talk to him, but you don't know much about him. Then decide whether you want to let a guy go because your friends don't know him, just because they don't know him, just like you don't now. Maybe tell them who he really is once you have decided yourself. At the same time relationships aren't worth losing over a boy that you have no reason to like. But if your friends can't support you, they aren't true friends. So it all depends on who this guy is, to you and to others. So get to know him and then decide who is more important, him or friends who don't support you? I hope this helped. Hope the guy turns out to be better than the rumors say (which they usually do. Rumors get out of hand.)

Q: my name is brandon i used to be emo i carved my friend name in my arm but before i did that she said it would be kool but then she saw it and i asked her not to tell anybody and she did and i got introbule and i hate her now i mean she was my best friend and she betrayed me so should i give up on our friendship or wat

You shouldn't. She actually did what a good friend should do. Even though she did something you didn't like and caused you trouble, it was good trouble. It's never good to hide a secret that can harm them. She told because she was worried about you and really cared about you. Think about it. If one of your friends was suicidal, would you hide it? (not that you are/were suicidal, not what I meant.) I would approach her and talk to her about it. Get her side of the story, get to know how she felt and her reasons for doing what she did. No friendship should end because of something like that. I hope this helped. Good luck with your friendship.

Q: If drinking 64oz. of water daily is good for losing weight is drinking more water better?

Drinking too much water can just make you bloat. I would stick with the 64oz. and find some other things to do like exercising and eating healthy to help your weight some more. hope that helped.

Q: ok so me and this guy reallllly like eachother
and we say iloveyou to eachother and stuff and were pactically going out but the only thing is that he doesnt live that close and like hes perfect in every single way
what he says and stuff keeps me smiling soo much
and he tells me im beautiful and we call eachother baby and he tells me im his princess and angel and all this cute stuff and i call him my teddybear
but lately ive been thinking all this is just a lie. and i dont want it to be nad ive been really down casue like he will go out and stuff and tlak to me later in the night and like everything would be perfect at night before we go to sleep but then its like all my worrys are gone but then it comes a new day and im stuck here thinking hte same thing
like on myspace his friends that are girls will says hes sexy and be like mwuah i love u and stuff and i dont know if i should tkae it seriously cause two of them have pictures with him and one of the girls has her name nad then in parenthesis i love you hunnie and her mood is loved.
yesterday i told him ive been sad cause i think im losing him and he said htat im never losing him adn that we will be togehte forever
i dont know if i should confront him or like what to say if i do. i dont want him to be mad at me or anything but i feel like i might be getting played.
someone help me and tell me your opinion.
thanks

I'm not sure if he's being a player, or if you are just a victim to a long distance relationship... If you want to approach him about it, just think about what you feel. The best thing to do is be open. Make sure he knows you aren't accusing him, but you are confused and worried that (even though he says you won't) you are going to lose him. Tell him that you feel good at night after talking to him, like nothing could go wrong (don't quote me, just remember what you feel. What I am saying is just an outline.), then the next morning you feel worried and anxious again. Ask him if his gal friends like him and if he likes them. Just admit to him your fears. If he truly loves you he will calm you down, answer your questions the best he can, and will support and understand your feelings. Just make sure you know how you truly feel before you talk to him about it, that way you don't waver from your purpose. I hope that answered all your questions, and if not, let me know and I will surely answer the rest. Good luck.

Q: hey i'm 14/f
and i need tips for weight loss.
i weigh 100 lbs!!! (don't laugh at me)
i know i need to lose some weight.
or if you can give me tips for avoiding food, not eating and making your family believe your okay, that'd be GREATO!

You may think you need to loose weight, but that isn't that heavy. I personally think that you are the perfect weight, if not too light. I know that isn't an answer to your question, but I don't believe you need one, if you get that. I hope you can see you are great weight. Sorry I couldn't give you the right answer.

Q: what does "i cant feel my face mean"
does it have to do with something when your high?

meaning please?

It depends on the context. It very well could mean they are high, but maybe their face is cold. I don't believe there is an actual 'meaning'... unless I'm missing something. I hope that was the answer you were looking for.

Q: alright so lately i havent been eating a lot at all. i dont like my weight whatsoever. so ive been trying to eat healthy.
i drink a lot of water and all that as well.
but it seems like no matter what i eat, healthy or not, small or big, my stomach like bloats and i look insantly fatter.
so ive just been pretty much cutting off eating almost completely.
i would never make myself throw up, but is there a possibility that i might become annorexic?
im really scared to eat anything.
please help

I know you don't want to bloat, but part of that could be all the water you're drinking. I'm not saying stop drinking the water, but you need to eat on top of drinking water. If you don't want to eat too much (but you do need to eat something) I would suggest salad. That is what I do because I am going through the exact same thing. I eat salads and sometimes I will put something more in them like beans or chicken or something. Rice can be good in salads if you but black beans in. Just try things out. Maybe some milk or orange juice every once and a while, too. Hope that helps. Just remember to love what you look like. This society is too worried about what we look like. You are beautiful for you who are, and anyone who doesn't see that isn't worth your time.

Q: OK soo my bf broke up with me a while ago for alot of reasons but mainly because of the long distance relationship we were in.It hurt me because I really liked him and though he liked me the same and all his promises etc but I finally got to agree,its not easy too be with someone you only see once a year.I was starting to get over it(well i though so)until I heard he was back with his old gf who lives in the same country as him(whitch he left 4 me).My true problem is that now my parents decided to send me where he lives(in 6 months)we havent talked since the day we broke up though he said he would've continue to call me. so he doesnt know about my parents decision yet...
WHAT AM I GONNA DO??
PLEASE HELPPPPP!!!what should I do when I get there/or now??

I say you start to talk to him and get to know him as a person because there's no use trying to get him back (if that's what you want to do) if you guys can't even be friends. Keep the moving thing quiet until it gets closer. Get to know him (and his girlfriend) and just be friends with him. If he reacts to this with at least being your friend, he'll be more up to getting back together if it works out when you get there. You have to remember that even though the whole reason that he broke up with you was good, the "lots of other reasons" may be stupid and show what kind of guy he is no matter how close you live to him. You do have to remember that he has a girlfriend, so don't be the boyfriend stealer. Make sure he knows that you are happy for him. If he brakes up with her, then is a wonderful time to tell him that you are moving down there... but don't sound like "You dumped her? good, I'm moving down there and you can go out with me again!" Although I'm sure you would be glad, I would wait until something came up the next time you talked. Plus, you have all the time you need once you move down there to become friends with him again. Don't be too nervous or obsessive with it. I hope this helps a little, and good luck with your guy. I hope things at least work out as friends between you two...

Q: okay so i really started likeing this guyy. and he siad he liked me and we have been talking and i totally like himm. well randomly he was like i really love ur friend katee. kate and him liked each other a whie backk but kate didnt like him and now she has a boyfriend she truly loves and dereck the guy has still ot gotten oer herr.
its annoyingg.

idk what to doo?
got any advicee????

Tell him to move on because she has a boyfriend, and you move on too. If he doesn't like you, he's not worth chasing. It's never worth trying to MAKE a guy like you. If he ends up liking you, then great! But why work on him when you can find a guy that really does like you... if you want to stay flirting with him, I would suggest making your hints a bit more obvious... sometimes guys just don't get the hints... But don't stick yourself on this one guy, there are many out there. I hope it helps. Good luck with whatever you choose to do...

Q: how do you pleasure yourself with a shower head

You mean masturbate? get enough water pressure so that it isn't to week, put your clit under it and if it feels good then leave it there, it might fade a little, then it will get better. if you need a better explanation, let me know... I'd be glad to explain it better.

Q: how do you kiss a guy passionately? like you can think of nothing else you would rather do and also how can you be very suggestive while being with him and making out with him. any and all suggestions are appreciated!!! thanks :)

Passionately means either a lot of tongue, or just with all your heart and body you are completely in the kiss. How do you be suggestive? There's simple things like winking and smiling and slightly glancing at his eyes. If he's looking, look away quickly as if you didn't want him to see it. I can't really give you that many tips because it's kind of a learned thing. Just try things out, flirt. I'm sure you'll figure what works for you. I hope I helped at least a little. Have fun with it.

Q: ok im a 16/f. i first had sex right when i turned 15. im currently not sexually active but i probably will be soon. i dont think that i have ever had an orgasm and i dont know if my cherry has ever been popped. when i first had sex i didnt bleed and i have bled twice from getting fingered but it lasted about two days, and it was after i started having sex. my now boyfriend thinks it is weird that i dont and thinks he is doing something wrong. it feels great when i get fingered but i just cant seem to "get off". any help? don't tell me to google it. thanks guys.

It is hard for some girls to reach climax, and it can take a long time sometimes too. For a guy, they hit climax fast. So my suggestion is to do a lot of pre-talking and foreplay. If he does things to help you along before you get to the sex part it should help. He just needs to get you a lot more aroused before the sex. I hope this works, and that it answered your question. Good luck with the...sex thing...

Q: 15, f. i've been with my boyfriend since homecoming. we are so happy together and i really couldn't see myself with anyone else. we never fight either, and have recently started saying "i love you". he is 17, but is only a junior. he goes to another school (an all guys school) and at his school it is a junior/senior prom. prom is april 12th, and he still hasn't asked me. he told me when he got the invite for it in the mail and whatnot, and his mom asked me what my dress color was because he was going to get his suit tailored. i responded with "well, i haven't been asked actually" because he was sitting right there. when we were talking about it, he said "i have everything under control". i'm starting to freak out about timing and stuff. i need to get a dress and make appointments! what should i do? help pleaaaase. i'm getting nervous he is going to not want to take me or something cause he hasn't asked me yet!

He is going to ask you. I didn't even have to read the whole thing to get that. When he says "I have everything under control" when you said you hadn't been asked, you should have known. He's just trying to find the right time and make it special. Don't freak out too much. He loves you if he's saying it, and he knows you love him. Besides, when he said "I got the invite in the mail" or whatever, he was clueing you in, that he was thinking of you when he got it. Don't worry...he'll figure it out. I hope I helped, and calmed you down a little. Have fun at your/his prom!

Q: hi i am sort of embaressed of my parents and relatives. i am having a bat mitzvah in a couple weeks and all my friends have to see my relatives. any ideas to make me not embarressed and more confident?

You are always going to be embarrassed of them, but a good way to be less embarrassed is to be able to laugh it off or not take it so hard when they do something embarrassing. When someone in your family spills something or says something embarrassing just laugh and say how stupidly funny that was. Just remember that they are your family, and your friends will too. Hope that helped! Good luck with your bah mitzvahs!

Q: okay so my parents never let me tan
and finally there letting me but like only 3 times cause i dont no why really lol.

but yea what do i have to do to get a good amount of color but i wont burn?? and like how much and witch kind of lotion and all

well, are you tanning inside or out? Inside you can decide how long you want to be under the bulbs and how strong you want. It's sort of the same outside. If you burn easily, stay outside for less amount of time. If not so much, stay for longer. Hope this helped. By the way, the lotion thing? That's a good idea... use the sun tan lotion with SPF in it.

Q: soi really like this guy [lets call him J]. but teh thing is that i liked his best friend [T] and he hates me alot actually :/
but i actually started liking J cos he always looked at me alot also smiling very nicly, always turning around when he sees me and things like that. also his friends always react when they see me. and recently T actually started talking to me on msn. but he didnt say much tho, but he wasnt mean either. but J has another guy he likes to hang with [A] who also seems to like me. and now i'm a bit confused because i dont know who to like. and i also cant believe that J actually likes me because T hates me so much. and J also has these days when he ignores me alot bnut then smiles again. and also A and his other friends always point at me when they see me, and then J sees me, sometimes he grinnes and sometimes he just looks away awkwardly. and everytime i walk by him theres just this preasure between us but in a good way. and it feels like he's actually 'giving' it to me. for ex yesterday he was walkin by me and half way i didnt feel anything, but then he saw me and as soon as he did i felt it again. its really freaky actually lol.
but i dno if he really likes me or if hes just making fun of me or something, because also his friends never added me back on facebook. but i didnt add HIM tho. so i thought he told them not to add me cos i didnt add HIM either or smth. but i dunnoo :(
sorry if this is so long but please help !!! thankss xxxxxx

I think J likes you, but I'm not him so I can't promise that. The best way to find out is to not go all elementary and ask him yourself. I don't think this T guy is worth your time, and A is just some friend... unless you really want to, I wouldn't try to like him. The tension you feel is called liking someone...you get close to them and it's like this buzz of energy between you two right? The reason you don't feel it until he sees you is because you are giving energy but he's not giving back until he feels you, then he starts to give and it makes a buzz. I can understand it more if you want me to. But that's what I got. I hope I helped you a little... Good luck with that J guy. Don't be afraid to take a chance.

Q: i get really random like stabbing pains that i can feel in my bones. they're mostly in my legs and arms and sometimes my back. i've had them for atleast a year and they last between a minute and 15 minutes. they're really painful. i'm not on any medication or anything. i've tried to get my dad, who's a doctor, to look at it, but he just shrugs me off. what can this be?

I'm pretty sure you need to go to a doctor. I know this doesn't answer your question, but I've seen a lot of people asking things that they should just go to the doctor for. I know your dad is one, but he isn't giving you an answer. Not many, if there are any, people on here are doctors. So not really anyone can answer what it is. I would suggest you ask a doctor. Sorry if you wanted an answer, I'm not a doctor either...

Q: kay this is kind of a wierd question> but i have heard that if you cuz your private area hair or like shave it that it will grow back faster,
is this actually true?

I don't think it grows back faster, it's just noticeable when it does grow back.hope that was a good answer...

Q: My wife and I had been married for over four years.
I have ADD and high anxiety which I'm not taking medication for.
I had a pretty good paying job but was laid off early 1n 2007.
My eyes started giving me problems before the lay off but I did get them checked out while I still had insurance.

Found out this year that both of my eyes have cataracts. I've attempted working at three jobs but my eye sight prevented me from passing the probationary period.

Here's my issue. I had a step daughter that had always found a ways into getting into trouble. Everything you asked her not to do, she went ahead and done. The computer she would stay on Instant messaging, My spacing all her friends till early morning.
I gave her so many chances but she proved to me she didn't care.
Her mother and I constantly fought about her because every time I tried to lay the Law down, the discipline was always to severe.
Even if it was just a few weeks without the computer.
Then she started on the phone..the same thing.

My wifes daughter wouldn't barely do any thing in the house.
And after her mother and I told her we expected more from her since she was 16, like washing clothes, doing the dishes...she made sure she washed only her stuff when begged, ( and if she washed three loads of clothes, it would take over three days and then you'd never find them put away) until I got so tired and fed up with her and the way me and her mother fought all of the time because how she ran the house, I made her move out when she turned 18 and graduated.
My step daughters every other word was profanity, and I don't think that she once told her mother or me the truth.
And Lord if you found her in a lie ( which was always ) she would cover it up with another one. She never admitted to anything she done. From bringing guys over when her mother and I were gone, to finding a ways to explain why she messed around with her best friends boyfriend.

Well, My father and mother passed away with cancer. And I made sure that no body smoked in the house. My wife and I don't smoke.
My wife invited her brother over ( or he invited his self ) and in both houses we used to live in, he smoked in each one, not caring.
And my wife let him and to this day, if he wanted to visit...I'm sure the same thing would have happened.

Well again, on Christmas eve of 2007, her daughter wanted to spend the night with us, to be there on Christmas. She smoked.

When I went down to visit my family in Alabama, mysteriously as it sounds, my wife let her daughter move back in knowing full well we never got along. Knowing full well her daughter never listened to one rule of the house, never helped out.
Then one day out of the many fights that broke out in the few months her daughter stayed there, my wife asked me to leave. And I did.

Amy, was I asking to much? Showing respect seems to be a thing of the past in today's society, but the way my wife handled each situation, and the way her daughter and her whispered and told there secrets, was it fair or justified at the way things were handled?
It seems as though the many things I accused her daughter of doing, my wife finally told me that yes, she did smoke pot, yes she was smoking in every room in the house when she ( her mother ) was in the hospital, yes, she fooled around with boys when we weren't there.

But instead of digging in deep and finally sticking up to her guns
and giving discipline to her daughter, it was easier to let me go.

What are the parameters of a marriage? Just because a person has children, does that erase the morality or any since of any opinion I may have had? I love her mother very much, but would I be asking for more heart ache if I tried pursuing this marriage. I don't want to walk away from this marriage. To me I think the Lord gave her to me, I'll get counseling and change anything I can.
But if I'm going to be the only one who'll attempt to change, will
this be visible?

Thank you

I know exactly what you mean when you say you don't want to go on despising your step daughter. When you said that respect doesn't seem to matter anymore, you were completely on. It took me a long time to understand that in my relationship with my step father. He was always saying how he deserved respect from me and that I didn't ever give it to him. I would always just ignore him. It didn't seem like he deserved it, always telling me what to do and never giving me respect. Every time he and my mother fought over how he was using too strict of discipline I would always take her side and hate that they fought over me. But then when my mother started staying at other people's house, my dad (I call my step father dad, so that you don't get confused.) and I began to talk. He was tired of yelling, not getting along, and never getting anything out of any of it. I was tired of him yelling at me and always demanding things. We both realized that it wasn't either one of our faults, but both. I don't know if I bored you with my long explanation, but what I was trying to get across is that you and your step daughter need to sit down and talk out your differences. No mother, no yelling, no demanding or interrupting. Take turns listening, takes turns explaining. No blaming, only apologies. Your wife can't take you and your daughter's disagreements and she can't be stuck in the middle. Your step daughter doesn't understand where you are coming from and you don't understand why she can't just listen. Although she is 20 and well past the age of being stuck in the house, she should still respect you. If that isn't happening, you have to learn to take control. Don't force control, but take it. Whenever she chooses to defy your rules, say that you respect that she has her own ways of thinking, but that you would like if she could smoke outside or a little ways away from the house. That it makes you uncomfortable. I can't tell you if fighting for this marriage is a good or bad thing, only you can. But if you love your wife (which I know you do), I say it would be worth it. You need to talk to her and tell her that you are willing to work with her and your step daughter and find a half way point. Tell her that you are sorry for all your differences and wish that you two could just start over and try to find ways around your differences. Maybe you could get past the smoking thing, although you have a very very good reason for hating it, others do it, and they HATE when people tell them not to. Maybe make one room or area where people, when they come over to your house, can smoke without bothering you so much. At our house it's the garage or on the back porch. The most important thing is to not let people tell you you are wrong. You had all rights to ask for respect, and for all the things your step daughter did, to stop. But if you are willing to give in a little, maybe they will. Try to compromise with them, or the counseling sounds good. I don't know what else to say, so I hope that helped. Good luck with anything and everything you are up against in the future.

Q: 13/f

Ok so I've been hanging out with the same group of friends since I came to this school. They are so awesome. Except I think its all going wrong or something. I mean some people seem like they like me more the the other friends and they one of my closest friends seem to be annoyed with me or something and it hurts. So I am usually a quiet girl but how I really am with my friends I usually am a person who actually does talk. I don't know if I should be that way anymore though. I feel really upset. My other friend I am really annoyed with because she won't stop talking about the guy she likes and he has a girlfriend ect. So I don't show that I get annoyed with people very much either. I am really upset and feel like the girl who seems to be annoyed with me, she has all my classes and thats how we are close but its just not the same anymore. Ok I am really tired of it and everything. Somebody please help me, its stressing me out. And its not like I can forget about it. Thanks so much.

I'm not sure I got the question in that, but I will try to answer. Your group of friends is ever changing, as are you. Every person in your group is going through drama and it sounds like you are just lost in it all. I agree with what you said: you should stop being shy around everyone but your friends. Get to know more people. I'm not saying walk up to every person you see and tell them all about you, but if you sit by someone in class and you have eye contact, smile, say hi...something? And with your good friend whom you have all the classes with (if I'm not mistaken), I would talk to her about it. Ask her if she's annoyed with you, and why, if she is. There's not much you can do to fix it if you don't know what's bothering her. With the friend who is always talking about the guy who has a girlfriend. Tell her that you would love to listen to her problems,but maybe you could talk about something different for a little while. That you are a little tired of talking about a guy who has a girlfriend and that maybe you can help her find a guy that is better for her that is single. Don't be rude, but try to change the subject with something a little more interesting for the both of you. She might be offended, she might not. I hope I answered alright, with what I had. If I answered incorrectly I would be very pleased to answer anything else. Just ask me anytime! Good luck. And to help with the stress, try meditating. Not the whole crossing the legs, monk, meditating. Just sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes, and try to clear your mind. It always calms my senses and helps me think clearer and calmer. I hope it helps.

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!