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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.
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hi im 18 and ive been feeling low for awhile im a bit overweight and ive got a very small penis
its only about 3 inches long ive never been with a girl im too emabarrassed to approach a girl
im not sure but is there a way to make it bigger
does it matter to girls a lot what can i do?
sorry i've been away for a while, and haven't had a chance to check my inbox.
my youn ger brother is a bit overweight also, which makes his penis look kinda small. he went to the dr. and the dr told him that the size was due to his weight, and that if he lost weight it wud go back to an average size, and that it was just hidden in all his fat.
i don't know if thats the same problem ur having, but i dont think theres any other safe way to get it bigger, and in the end it doesn't really matter. all that matters is that there is love between you and the girl, other than that nothing matters.
Okay, so I'm going to camp soon and I don't really want to have a tampon box in my trunk. What are some cute boxes or things to carry them in?
they sell these cases especially for tampons and pads here are a few links:
http://cgi.ebay.com/TAMPON-TIN-CASE-DISCREET-STYLISH-Silver_W0QQitemZ150125665657QQcmdZViewItem
http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/tampon-case--dont-cramp-my-style
http://www.kyledesigns.com/product/PC
and if you google it you can find more..the only problem is the price is a bit ridiculous for something so simple, and it doesn't hold that many tampons.
the best option would be to use a make-up bag or a pencil case.
okay so to start of im 17 years old female. anyway im 17 and i have been for the last 5months my mom will not let me do anything and im so sick of it i had to come in at 10:30 pm like im a baby or something its friday night and all of my friends are out drinking but no i have to be home by 10:30 i cant go out to partys and drink because i drive i cant even stay out past 11 on the weekends im going insane..!! some one please help
everyone but DandKitsLOVE01 has given you the right advice. sneaking out is the worse thing in the world you can do because that will take away all you going out rights. like other people said you are only 17 years old...right now it seems old enough to do whatever you want, but trust me you still have A LOT of growing up to do. your mom loves you and doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. thats why she's not letting you go out with your friends, you should be thankful you have a parent who cares about you and wants to know your safe at all times. also 10:30pm is an extremely reasonable time...when i was 17 i had to be home before dark..which was sometimes 5 pm. so be thankful honey.. :D
and what else is there to do after 10:30?? besides stupid crazy things that could get you in trouble or even worse hurt.
I bought a new shirt last week and wore it the day after I bought it. Well that night I noticed this weird pattern of bumps the upper part of my inner arm. It's been over 2 days and it's still there!
It itches really bad and looks like an oval of mosquito bites or pimples, but that's not what it is. On the shirt there was a similar pattern of jewels right there, so I'm thinking I had an allergic reaction to the jewels or something. But wouldn't it be gone by now?
Does anyone know what it could be or how I could get rid of it quicker? I've been putting my niece's eczema cream on it and it hasn't helped at all. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
ok well first.. you should always wash a shirt before wearing it. you never know where the shirt has been or who has tried it on before you. so always be sure to wash it before wearing it. Second, try using hydrocortizone cream, that should help the rash to go away. If not go to a doctor and have them check it out.
My boyfriend and I just bought a new home and we had a housewarming party over the weekend. We had a friend named john and a niehgbor we never met before hanging out touching, groping, problem is they are both married. His wife was at home with the kids, and he went to the neighbors house and slept with her. My boyfriend and I were stunned. He has been married for 10 years and his wife is sweet and pretty, neighbor girl 25, he is 38 and she is UGHHH! What do I do if I am talking to his wife in the future?? He is a dog and I am digusted. To tell or not to tell?? By the way he was pretty sober and never mentioned anything about marriage problems in the past. My man and he just went to vegas a few weeks ago and my man said he was well behaved.. what gives?? are men this disgusting after all?
Its always tough to the bearer of bad news...but its even worse when the truth comes out and people know that you knew and kept it from them. If his wife is a cose friend of yours then you should tell her. But if you aren't that close to her, its better not to say anything..but maybe talk to the guy about it. Because if you're not close and you tell her she might end up resenting you for ruining her marriage. you really are in a tough situation..
maybe you could also tell a close friend of hers if you know any and ask their advice on what you should do.
Recently I have become friends with two girls who I like a lot. They used to be best friends with each other, but before I met them they had a fight and have drifted apart. Now, every weekend they both invite me to do stuff, and I have to choose which one to hang out with. Whoever I choose, the other one feels left out or thinks I like the other one better. I wish we could all hang out together, but I guess that's impossible. It seems like they are competing for my friendship, and I really hate that. Is there any way I can be friends with both of them, without getting in the middle of some drama?
You need to get them together and tell them that you don't like how they both are treating you. It's very unfair to you, and they need to grow up and stop being childish. Right now, it seems as if they are using you as a way to hurt each other and make the other one feel bad. So whether you like it or not, you already are in the middle. The best thing to do is just step away from them both, but be sure to let them know why.
i've been really close friends with this group of 5 girls since pre-school. now we are all 13 and in middle school, and even though we all have other friends, and different interests, we still hang out together a lot. the problem is with one of the girls, cyndi. she has always been very over-sensitive. she's always imagining that someone doesn't like her, and she gets really upset if, say, two of us do something together and dont invite her. every time we're together she will find something to get mad about, and start pouting, and pretty much spoil everyone's fun. actually, we (and even our parents) dread having to invite her to stuff, because we know she's gonna start pouting, but we always include her anyway because she's part of our group and we don't want to her to feel left out. so we're always sooo nice to her and try to keep her from pouting. now at our new school, most people don't like her because of how she acts. and she gets really mad at us for being friends with any of those people (which is basically the whole school). she accuses us of not being a true friend. i really feel like saying something to her, like "if you'd stop being mad at people for not liking you, maybe they WOULD like you!" but i know that will just make her even madder. is there any good way to handle this? she's pretty much like my sister, but its really getting hard to handle.
she sounds like an only child who is used to getting her way all the time. One of you guys should sit her down and talk to her..dont do it as a group since it will feel like an ambush. I don't quite know what you should tell her, but I do know the only way to get her to stop is to tell her. Shes being selfish and needs to see that her behavior is unacceptable for a girl her age. Just explain to her that not everyone is out to get her, and she needs to be less sensitive sometimes and just loosen up. some people like to be the victim, they like to have the drama..she might be like that and if she is then it will be a bit harder to get her to stop.
i am a female, around 185 lbs. and about 5'4
what should my "average" weight be?
or the normal.
is 110 too little?
oh and any good tips to help me get to my goal.
thank you!
much love
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if you weigh 140 your pants size could range between 8-11, it depends on the pants style and brand. as for shirt you'd probably be medium.
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110 is too little, I'm 5'4" as well, and your average weight should be minimum around 120 and maximum around 140.
115 is okay.. 110 though is really too little.
and to get to your goal just eat right, cut out junk food from your diet. Try eating like six small meals every day, and oh of course exercise. :)
okay so ijust broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago cause he cheated on me.
so tonight i decide to go out on a date with another guy. Turns out hes really nice and sweet, but im not going to rush into a relationship. But if
i do decide to go for this boy theres a problem hes 15 and im 13 and hes black and im white.
my mom woulldddd flip see i dont care about the whole white black relationship im not rasict and my mom isnt either she just has always said she didnt want me to date black guys idk why so what do i do
The age gap isn't that big, its reasonable. but i could see how that could be a problem for your mom. The skin color however should not matter at all. and should not be considered a problem. all that really matters is if the guy is really a good guy. his manners, his personality, his morals, and that kind of stuff. You're right to not rush into a relationship, just take things slow and see where it goes. and if you end up liking him, have him meet your mom. but before that, talk with her and let her know.
i dont want to make my mom upset because i am. My family is moving in 2 weeks, i tell my mom im alright with it because i dont want to seem over whelemed(sp). but i know my feelings will come out sooner or later. i find myself almost crying on the smallest sad or happy things. i dont know whats wrong with me. i really dont want to leave all my friends, im really about to cry. wat do i do?
I have lost count on how many times I moved or switched schools, however it got better each time. Heres the good thing about moving, when you move you meet new people and it broadens your mind. Also, im sure where you are living now people have certain expectations of you or a certain image of you; moving lets you be someone new. It lets you grow and expand outside of those expectations and images. I know its sad and really hard, but theres email, letters, IM, and lots of other ways to keep in touch with your old friends. and im sure you will make a lot of new friends. Also if after a month you're still miserable you could invite some friends to come visit you, or maybe your mom would let you go visit your friends.
Good luck!
I'm a 19 year old Female and I am engaged to be married. I love my fiance so much and am thrilled to get married. The problem is my family is against my marriage. They keep telling me I'm screwing my life up, I'm making a mistake, and that I don't know what I am doing. I understand that I'm only 19 but I am positive I love him and he loves me. I just want them to be happy for me but they just seem to be angry and upset with me. I don't know what to do. I want to marry him but I want my family to stop being negative about everything. what do I do?
Im 20, and i just recently got engaged and I'm getting married this summer. All I can think of is that your parents must love you a whole lot. Mine are completely freaking out about the idea of their baby girl being married and starting her own family. Im sure that is what yours are going through too. And you being 19 means you're still in college, and they are probably worried that you getting and engaged and soon to be married, will get in the way of your education. I'm sure you're planning on finishing your education, but you just need to reassure them. and of course after marriage comes children, and if you're in college its really hard to juggle both kids and school work. just sit them down and have a mature conversation. find out why exactly they think you are ruining you're life and just try to reassure them. Thats all you can really do, in the end its your life, and you have to do what makes you happy.
i wrote this last night:
titleless- blog 16
love doesnt exist.
people spend their whole lives searching for love
and end up short handed.
because it doesnt exist.
if it did, then i wouldnt have half as many problems as i do now.
my whole life is one big mistake.
every single breath i breathe makes me more of a failure.
no one understands where im coming from when i write this shit down.
at times it seems like no one really wants to.
they'd rather blame me than try to help me.
which in turn, makes everything worse for me.
i absolutely hate looking in the mirror.
i dont see the same girl that you do.
i see a girl who's dying to be perfect.
a girl who's dying inside.
a girl who has no control of what goes on in her life
and its greatly affecting her.
greatly killing her.
and nobody realizes it but me.
its hard to explain all the shit that i put up with.
so i just hide it in hopes that it will go away.
but everytime i do,
it gets worse.
learning to let go of the past is harder than i ever thought it would be.
accepting things for the way that they are and knowing that i cant do anything to change it.
or to bring him back...
the fact that i have no control over who i am
or what ive become
totally messes with my mind.
i dont know who i am anymore.
not sure if i ever did.
just knowing that noone will ever understand what im going thru.
and feeling alone in this.
love is a hoax.
and my life is a total waste.
needless to say, thats how i feel. theres more of them too. (blogs, i mean)
what should i do to help myself feel better, if there is anything. cause right now, i feel like just "ending it all". dont tell me how wrong it is or how much people care. i know. ive heard it a thousand times. just, what can i do, if anything, to feel better about myself? i get my toes and nails done every two weeks... that helps a little.
i understand how you're feeling, i mean not completely..but if i had a dollar for all the journal entries and blogs i wrote that sound almost identical to that id be rich...not just middle class..id be filthy rich.
i know sometimes it feels like no one understands and no one knows what your going through but its more than likely that someone not only went through it before, but that there is someone who is going through it now.
but when you're feeling really low it does feel like you're the only person who ever felt this way.
all i can say is the best way to feel better is to talk. if you have a best friend, just talk to her. writing, as you already do, also helps, but when you have a friend who possibly went through what you're going through or some similar situation it helps a lot more. because then you're not alone. you have someone who understands and is there for you. i can't stress enough how important communication is.
and as for family...honey believe me, we ALL have family problems. and family is the type of thing you cant live with and you most definitely can't live without (altho sometimes it feels like you can)
i know this is extremely long, and i apologize, but if you ever feel like talking i'm pretty good with family problems.. :)
i hope you feel better, and always remember that tomorrow is a new day, even if its not better than the day before, just keep a positive attitude and things will get better eventually. :)
Well I have been dating this guy for 4 months. He is SO sweet, like always saying, i love you, your pretty ect. Anyways, his bestfriend told me that my boyfriend told him that he wanted me to hug him sooo badly. I mean really badly. Everyday after school he looks like he wants a hug but instead we go seperate ways (which we have to) and say bye and i love you. and thats it! should i hug him or not? I want to but im realllyyyyyyyyyy shy. i really need help
thanks
i agree with the person below me.. just go for it. turn ur nervousness into excitement (its hard to do but its possible) and give him a hug.
okay so im 14 i weigh 108 and im a lil over 5 foot.
i know that im not fat.
i have ab muscles but there is just a little bit of fat covering it.
do i need to run off the fat?
or just keep doing ab excersises [pilates, sit ups, etc] .
im afraid if im trying to run it off im going to loose my boobs :] haha.
thankss
everyone has a little bit of fat.. its nearly impossible to get rid of it all. however, the best way is pilates and sit ups.
whats the name of this song and the person that sings it?
"i miss you just like the air that i breath i need you with me im not gunna lie"
thankss
the only song i could think of that was somewhat similar to that lyric was I Need You by Maurice White
i have an addiction to gum. i buy about five packs a week and if i dont have gum i get really antsy. i know this sounds stupid but is chewing about 3-4 pieces of gum a day bad for you in any way if you dont swallow it?
there are some hazards to too much gum chewing. one is directed towards sugar free gums that have Phenylalanine which is an amino acid and component of the artificial sweetener known as aspartame, or NutraSweet. some people cannot metabolize that component which can result to many problems, ranging from seizures to headaches.
and lots of studies have proven that aspartame is harmful to the body, so chewing lots of sugar free gum is probably not the best idea. Aspartame can also work as a laxative, which is another con. Another bad thing about chewing too much gum is that it causes gas..ya sounds funny now, but its not so funny when your in pain because you have too much gas.
another thing is chewing too much gum is bad for your jaw according to the ADA, because it makes your mandible muscles over developed which is bad for your teeth and can cause jaw aches as well as head aches.
the good that comes from chewing gum, it has been shown by a few studies that chewing gum can improve your memory. Also chewing gum curbs your apetite which means less eating which means weight loss.
but again regular sugar is A LOT better for your body than aspartame (i cannot stress that enough).
is it true that when you dont smile often or get angry you get wrinkles or get white hair?
these are the most significant factors that cause wrinkles:
Aging, Sun Damage, Smoking, and Facial Muscle Contractions (smiling, frowning, squinting, and other habitual facial expressions)
http://www.webmd.com/skin-beauty/guide/cosmetic-procedures-wrinkles
and the causes of white hair are:
Your hair can turn white or grey whichever because of genetics (your mom and dad had grey hair early) Also severe illness, shock, malnutrition, or prolonged periods of stress, anxiety, worry, or deep sorrow can cause grey hair.
So to answer your question more completely, not smiling or smiling..you're still going to get wrinkles..its inevitable. Grey hair however does not depend on smiling or not smiling, although if your feeling stressed out your probably less likely to have a smile on your face. but the lack of smile will not change your hair color...white hair goes deeper than just not having a smile.
hope i helped, and if you need more info you can just google causes of white hair or causes of wrinkles. :)
do you know any cream or anything that get rid of eye bugs?
Im guessing you mean eye bags, like puffiness under the eyes?
What can sometimes help is a cold tea bag, or cucumber gel. Also there ae some cooling cucumber masks that you can buy at almost any store, and i just remembered that hemorrhoid cream (preparation H) also works to remove puffiness from under your eyes, just be sure not to get it into your eyes.
If none of that works then they sell these great little gel packs at bat and body works(i am not sure what they are really called) and they go into the refrigerator at night and when you get up in the morning you just place the packs on your eyes for 5 to 8 minutes. I think I paid $8 for the pair, but if you do not have the money I have also found that spoons in the refrigerator work just as well. Don't put the spoons in over night though or else they will be too cold for your eyes, just place them in the refrigerator when you wake up in the morning, and when you get out of the shower go get them and place them on your eyes for 5 to 8 minutes.
lastly, the bags under your eyes could be from lack of sleep or allergies, so be sure to gt 8 hours of sleep every night, and check with you doctor if you have any type of allergies.
sorry for the lengthiness of this reply and if you didn't mean bags under your eyes, then you should go to a doctor because i have never heard of eye bugs, and that could be something serious.
hope i helped! :)
so my youth group is going to the ichthus music festival in wilmore [specifically wilmore farm], ky., in june. i see on the site that they have two showerhouses with 22 showers each, haha, which is quite frankly, NOT ENOUGH. so, to anyone who has been to ichthus, or anyone that has been to the wilmore campground place: is it insanely packed if you go to take a shower, or what? it sounds like it will be, which sucks. any details about what it will be like would be great.
Well, I've never been to ichthus or the wilmore camground..but I do remember going to science camp with my class in 5th grade. Basically there were a limited number of showers, and a lot of kids. What happened with us was that each cabin would shower together at a designated time. we had to wear our bathing suits to take a shower... not very nice i know.
okay so there is this girl in our school and her dad recentley got a good job. it's not a great job though. she thinks she can afford anything and she told everybody that her mustang 2007 was over $100,000 dollars. NOT true. it isn't fully loaded and it has no special features. can that possibly be true???????? next she all told us she bought this dress for $400 dollars. no one believes her though because it's pretty plain and not that cute. she is crazy.
so here is the link
tell me what you think if it is
really worth $400 dollars ( and it fit her fine she didn't have to have any hemming or alterations done. nothing was done to it. ABSOLUTLY NOTHING!)
http://photos-042.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v78/172/43/1439070035/n1439070035_5042_2806.jpg
tell me what you think about the dress, car, and her.
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I'm sorry, but the way you were asking your question seemed like that. i had no background to know. and you're right, I shouldn't have judged you. As for the girl, just ignore her. shes not worth your time.
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What I think about the dress, it is completely possible for that dress in the picture to be $400 dollars, yes its plain, but it depends on the store she bought it from. I have a dress that looks similar to that and it originally cost 350 dollars, of course I bought it on sale.
what i think about the car, i'm not really a car person, but that does seem a lot for a car..even fully loaded. but who cares?!
as for her..i have no opinion of her..my opinion of you though is that you are bitter and jealous of this girl. and you need to stop obsessing about how the gilr is choosing to live her life. if she wants to say shes rich then let her! I fail to see the problem.