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My friend pouts all the time
i've been really close friends with this group of 5 girls since pre-school. now we are all 13 and in middle school, and even though we all have other friends, and different interests, we still hang out together a lot. the problem is with one of the girls, cyndi. she has always been very over-sensitive. she's always imagining that someone doesn't like her, and she gets really upset if, say, two of us do something together and dont invite her. every time we're together she will find something to get mad about, and start pouting, and pretty much spoil everyone's fun. actually, we (and even our parents) dread having to invite her to stuff, because we know she's gonna start pouting, but we always include her anyway because she's part of our group and we don't want to her to feel left out. so we're always sooo nice to her and try to keep her from pouting. now at our new school, most people don't like her because of how she acts. and she gets really mad at us for being friends with any of those people (which is basically the whole school). she accuses us of not being a true friend. i really feel like saying something to her, like "if you'd stop being mad at people for not liking you, maybe they WOULD like you!" but i know that will just make her even madder. is there any good way to handle this? she's pretty much like my sister, but its really getting hard to handle.
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yeah i have to say that is a really sticky situation but i was in it this year i was fed up with my friend becka always pouting and putting her parents down. i mean i'm a foster kid and i don't have my parents. but finally i told her becka look you have a good thing going for you now stop expecting everyone to like you. you need to take a chill pill and look at how your making other people feel including your friends, becka i love you but your making it really hard to be your friend because your making fun things into things that aren't fun i still want to be your friend but try not to bring me down just because you are. I'm also gonna have friends that you don't like but that's ok because they are my friends not yours you don't have to like them.
well i hope i gave you something you could use with your problem
sorry if i don't
Sincerely
Katie
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she sounds like an only child who is used to getting her way all the time. One of you guys should sit her down and talk to her..dont do it as a group since it will feel like an ambush. I don't quite know what you should tell her, but I do know the only way to get her to stop is to tell her. Shes being selfish and needs to see that her behavior is unacceptable for a girl her age. Just explain to her that not everyone is out to get her, and she needs to be less sensitive sometimes and just loosen up. some people like to be the victim, they like to have the drama..she might be like that and if she is then it will be a bit harder to get her to stop.
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Okay your friend is being very selfish. She obviously wants attention and she thinks being this way is going to get her it, which it seems to be doing. Sit down with her and tell her that the way she is acting is getting pretty immature and explain to her that you shouldnt have to spend every waking minute with her. Tell her positive stuff to like that she is a good friend and that you like spending time together but being so difficult is influencing negative attitudes from the people around her. If she accuses you of not being true friends tell her that the way she is acting is nowhere near being a friend. She should accept that you dont have to spend ALL the time together. But she could be feeling alone with having no friends outside your group so try introducing her to new people, or get her a boyfriend! Maybe asking her if she has any problems she wants to talk about or something with you. If she gets upset and says you dont like her or something just say "look ive tried to talk this out with you and other people feel the same im trying to be honest and be a good friend but the way your acting is really immature, if you dont think we're true friends then go find some who you think are." You deserve a friend whos as good as you, but dont bitch about her or talk about her behind her back, because she could end up with having a serious issue of loneliness or depression or maybe somethings going on at home thats making her act like this. Hope i helped if you have anymore questions just ask me! =D Hope it all goes well with your friend and if it does go wrong, atleast you tried and thats all that matters. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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