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cheater!!
My boyfriend and I just bought a new home and we had a housewarming party over the weekend. We had a friend named john and a niehgbor we never met before hanging out touching, groping, problem is they are both married. His wife was at home with the kids, and he went to the neighbors house and slept with her. My boyfriend and I were stunned. He has been married for 10 years and his wife is sweet and pretty, neighbor girl 25, he is 38 and she is UGHHH! What do I do if I am talking to his wife in the future?? He is a dog and I am digusted. To tell or not to tell?? By the way he was pretty sober and never mentioned anything about marriage problems in the past. My man and he just went to vegas a few weeks ago and my man said he was well behaved.. what gives?? are men this disgusting after all?
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well the truth is some men have that little somthing inside them that makes them want to do stupid things. just thankful you found a good one. i think you need to tell the wife. but do it privately. talk to the guy and the woman who cheated (seperately). you should tell how you feel about this whole thing. and yah sure the guy has been sober but who cares. if people just went around doing bad things and then acting sober that shouldnt replace what they did. sober just means their sorry but still needs to be punished. he wasnt sober when he was sleeping around! and that slut needs a big talk to. tell her that she messed up a relationship thats been good for 10 years. and dont be afraind to get harsh. their both adults they can take it
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It's a really tough situation. You don't want to get involved, but you don't want to just sit back and watch this happen.
Just think, how would you feel if you were the wife, and you found out a neighbor knew the whole time but never said anything? Think about that before you decide to do something. Hope it works out well =/
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You should tell his wife. Even if you two are not that close, she deserves to know that her husband is cheating on her. Tell her straight up, exactly what happened and what was going on.
Yes, there's a chance she'll get defensive and not believe you, but if that happens, she'll find out eventually. It always comes out.
If she happens to get upset with YOU for telling her, just let her be upset and deal with the information in her own way. Even if she's mad to begin with, she'll appreciate it eventually.
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Yes men are disgusting and filthy but women can be also have seen a few of both in my day.
heres the advice ask yourself these questions
1. How close are you with the wife
2. Can you talk to the wife about anything?
3. If bf went to Vegas with him they must be close can BF maybe talk to the hubby?
4. The couple could be swingers and have an open relationship also (yes there are actually people in the world like this)
5. Would you want to know?
Me personally if I am a close friend I would say something escpecially to the husband he did the deed or send an anonomous letter busting him and last but not least at least you found out what kind of neighbor you have now you know to watch her around your man maybe this was a heads up notice to you :-)
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Its always tough to the bearer of bad news...but its even worse when the truth comes out and people know that you knew and kept it from them. If his wife is a cose friend of yours then you should tell her. But if you aren't that close to her, its better not to say anything..but maybe talk to the guy about it. Because if you're not close and you tell her she might end up resenting you for ruining her marriage. you really are in a tough situation..
maybe you could also tell a close friend of hers if you know any and ask their advice on what you should do.
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