Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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okay my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him .....i really want ot because i'm 16 sooo what do i do? (link)
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Well if you're certain you're ready and this is a relationship you can see lasting then go for it. Just make sure you're aware of the risks of STDs and pregnancy and make sure he wears a condom.
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Well I've been driving standard for a year. Two months ago, I booked my test (It takes very long to get an appointment here) and then two weeks ago, I started my lessons on an automatic car. I thought I was a pretty good driver until my new driving instructor pointed out everything that I did wrong and it was so horrible.
He told me so many bad things but I fixed the majority of it. Today, I failed anyway and I feel so bad.
I was freaking out way too much. The examiner told me I didn't make -one- good turn. Not even a good right turn. He also told me that it seemed like I was new to driving.
I feel so bad now. Just last week my friends got me a three-month rental on this cute car for my birthday but I can't drive it alone because I only have my learner's licence and my mum is at work from 6 in the morning to 8 in the evening on weekdays. This was my first test and now I have to wait another month to get my Novice Licence.
Have any of you ever driven without a supervisor? Have you ever failed a test? (link)
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I failed mine 3 times LOL!! Mind you I am from the UK but i guess it's pretty similar in the US. I felt awful after every one and they all said i was really bad and i had about 50 hours of driving lessons and it didn't seem to get me anywhere and really got me down. Some people just take longer than everyone else. All my friends had passed about a year ago and i was still taking and failing tests! Having said that I now have a full license and it seemed like ive really achieved something because i wanted to give up so many times but i didnt and i persevered!! It's really tough but keep at it and try not to take what the examiners say to heart because they're only trying to be constructive in their criticisms even if they do come over really mean! You'll look back on this and laugh i promise! Good luck!!!
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kinda of very weird question ever asked---- seriously is there any way to judge whether a female had sex earlier in her part of life or not? jus by looking at her....? No offense...jus info (link)
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Sometimes females that have had sex are a little more confident but I've known loads of confident virgins! So the short answer is no to be honest!
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Ok so i am a 17 female and ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 months...i had heard some stuff that made me upset...so i asked him about it..he told me that he would never hurt me and the reason for that is that he loved me--the problem is he wrote it through a text message...he says he wants to say it 2 my face but its hard because of what had happend in the past...all he is waiting for is for us to be alone and the right moment...so when do u think that will be? i want to say it back but i dont know when the right moment is either help (link)
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Seriously don't worry about it! You know he feels strongly so it's not as if you're worried about how he feels or anything. The best moment for both of you to say it is when it suddenly seems right and just pops out! It is really difficult when you say it for the first time but don't waste your time worrying when he's going to say it or when you should say it. Just enjoy the fact that you know he loves you and look forward to when he says it to your face!
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hey everyone! does anyone noe a good way to stop split ends? i have a ceramic and it`s killer to my hair! i rate high! please help
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Once you have split ends you have to get a trim because otherwise they'll just get worse. To prevent them you should use a conditioner for dry/damaged hair such as dove and use a heat protection spray before you dry/straighten your hair such as tresemme. Good luck
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I'm 14 yrs old girl and my boyfriend has changed he doesn't act the way he used to. Should I suspect he's cheating or that his feelings changed about me? or should I break up with him anyways I kno I should but I like him to much to do it. What should I do? (link)
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How about just talking to him and teeling him you feel like this? Just ask him if there's anything he wants to tell you because you've felt that things have been different recently and not how they used to be. If he says that he doesn't know what you're talking about you might need to think about ending it because there's no point if the situation is making you miserable. Good luck
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im 17 bout to be 18 i've been serious with my boyfriend for the last 9months now. He really cares for me but sometimes i feel like im losing interest what should i do me and him have been through alot together, he's a great guy, should i stick it out? (link)
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I know what you mean i've been through a similar thing and i couldn't be happier with the same guy now. The best thing that you sould do if you feel comfortable is just to tell him how you feel. It may be that you don't do enough interesting things together such as go out for dinner or do special things for each other. In relationships that last a while quite often interest is lost because both of you get comfortable and don't make quite as much effort as you did at the start of the relationship. Say to him that you love him to bits but you just wish you did a few new things. I bet then you'll wonder why you ever felt like this. Therefore, for the time being i think you should stick it out if you love him. However, if he doesn't feel the same about you 2 doing new things or if the new things do not make you more interested you may want to reconsider the relationship! Good luck
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I was searching through some xangas and I came across this girl that I'm not too fond of. I stopped to look at all the pictures she had thinking it might be pretty funny. I found multiple pictures of this girl, with my boyfriend on his bed. Nothing sexual, I think, but the fact I'M not even allowed in his room let alone his BED kinda ticked me off. Am I wrong to be upset that he had a girl that EVERYONE knows is basically a slut on his bed with him?
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I would be!! Especially if you're not allowed and you're supposed to be his girlfriend! However don't jump to any conclusions or get too cross without talking it through with him as there might be a good explanation for it. (not sure what but give the guy a chance!!) If he can understand how you feel and has a good explanation then that's great but if he comes up with some lame excuse and you begin to doubt whether you can trust him then you may want to rethink the relationship. Good luck
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i'm a guy and was wondering something. as the question implys, i would like to know whether most people put feelings or morality first, and why. my example is pre-marital sex. there must be at least 20 questions on that topic before this one...some say 'do it if you feel ready' while others say 'no because you'll regret it and it's not meant to be that way'. both seem good reasons for or against it. is it both? should you really put your feelings and that of another first, or should you stick to your moral values, reguardless of what others or society has to say about pre-marital sex. thanks, will rate. (link)
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Whenever anyone asks a question like this everyone gets on their high horse about it and says exactly what their view is on it and how anything other than their view is wrong. I don't believe that anyone has the right to do tell anyone else whether they should or should not have sex as long as they are of the legal age. Therefore each person has to do what's right for them. Some people have moral or religious values that say they sould wait until they're married before they engage in sex and in this case these values should be upheld. What's the point in having strong values if when it comes to the crunch you're going to go ahead and have sex anyway? If someone has values to start off about sex then they will only regret their actions later on. However, if someone of a legal age wants to have sex and they feel ready for it and they're not married but they're entirely happy about the situation then why not? It's all about individual differences! Well that's my little rant over!!! Hope that was of some help!
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Im 15 female
A lot of my friends like to drink and smoke pot. I don't like it. I had my fun with that already, I smoked pot when i was in 6th grade and stoped when i saw my brother get locked up for it. Yeah and i had my experience with alcohol i drank and i puked my guts up and now i wont ever drink again. well at least not til im old enough. But anyway my friends are always drink like on the weekends and they always ask me to go but i just go to my boyfriends house and hang out and what not. I always find my self thinking that im better than that and i don't want to ruin my life with that stuff.
Is this normal because i always thought that teenagers will like to drink and get in trouble and just do bad stuff just to make a laugh? Am i abnormal? (link)
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Not abnormal just sounds like you've got your head screwed on! You've been there, done it, decided it's not for you. Who cares if other people are doing something different to you? You not drinking or smoking pot makes you happy right? Well keep going as you are then! Too many people in this world get swept along with what they think is "cool" whether it's what they want to do or not and i bet if a lot of teenagers were truely honest they'd say they did this stuff to "fit in." Keep on as you are and good for you!
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ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me. (link)
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If you have any doubts about sex then don't do it. It means that you're not ready yet. If you were ready then you would know that you wanted to do it and you would have no doubts whatsoever. It's perfectly normal to want to have sex- it's your hormones! But at your age it is just as normal to have doubts about it, and these doubts should be the thing that stops you from acting on your feelings. You're not completely happy about it so don't do it. Good luck
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what are the signs of being pregnet??? (link)
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Missed period (but when you're young this can happen ALL the time), sore breasts, feeling or being sick in the mornings, strange cravings.
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My English teacher once told me, 'Don't marry someone you love, marry someone who completes you.'
Does anyone have any idea what that could mean, in a way? Like, how can someone complete you? (link)
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You can't understand until you're in love with someone! Basically you feel complete when you're with them, like they're a part of you. So when you're apart from one another you feel like something about you is missing. Have you ever heard people referring to their partner as their other half? It's the same sort of thing. However i kinda disagree with your teacher- i think if you fall in love with someone, they complete you automatically, i don't think you can fall in love with someone without them completing you! ugh this is getting all lovey dovey now!!!! Hope that made sense.
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(Sorry this is so long)
I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. Like...ever since school started. I was doing this psychic board thing (Kinda like an oija board) and usually I never believe those things, but it kept insisting that he liked me, too.
So I kinda went along with it still not believing it, and kinda watched what he did around me. I started talking to him online and he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say and won't talk a lot. In school, he looks at me and stretches in the middle of class and he'll accidently touch my leg or my desk or something and pull back his hand, blush, and say: "Oh, I'm sorry." And I always laugh at my jokes, because if I don't he'll look back at me and then kinda bow his head.
Anyways, my friend has had a crush on the guy since she was in Preschool. She's in 8th grade with me now. She's really jealous because I keep telling her I think he likes me, and finally she told me how much she likes him, and how they used to be best friends but then he became popular and they grew apart.
So whenever I talk about him she gets really jealous and hurt and yells at me to stop talking. I'm afraid if I go out with the guy she'll have a nervous breakdown, or be afraid to hang out with me anymore.
So my two questions:
1. Do you think this guy likes me? If so, should I ask him out?
2. Do you think if he does like me, SHOULD I ask him out? Or should I be considerate of my friend? Because she said she's never going to actually ask him out, 'cause she knows he would say no, but she doesn't want me going out with him.
What should I do?
Thanks!!! ♥
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I always say this but it's true- friends are there for a lifetime but guys come and go especially at your age. You've gotta ask yourself what would create the most hurt? 1) you not being able to go out with the guy you fancy or 2) your friend feeling betrayed because you started something with this guy when she fancied him and after she specifically said she didn't want you to go out with him. It is hard because no noe can help their feelings and who they fall for but at the end of the day friends should come first. Good luck
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Hey,
I have been asked to consider what subjects I want to do at A Level next year for college. I am thinking about English Language (I have already completed the GCSE and am currently doing the AS level and I enjoy this a lot), perhaps English Lit, Psychology and Philosophy of Religion and Ethics. I'm also doing Childcare as I want to be a nanny. Has anyone done any of these subjects? What are they like? And do you think they'll be relevant to being a Nanny or will look good on my CV? Have you got any subjects to suggest that were a lot of fun or would be relevant? Because I want to have some fun as well as do well :)
Thanks, and please only answer if you are English as people from other countries won't understand our crazy messed up education system :P (link)
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I've done A levels in English Language and Psychology and i really enjoyed them. English always looks good on your cv whatever you want to do with your career as it's a curriculum subject. Psychology was really good (I went on to do a degree in it!) and is certainly relevant to being a nanny- in fact most courses will have a section about child psychology within them. You probably don't want to do both english lang and english lit at A level as these are really similar and you don't want your cv to look too samey- you want it to look as varied as possible. I also did an AS level in sociology which was really great and i think that this would really come in handy if you want to work as a nanny as it explores issues within the family. Your idea of philosophy and ethics is also a good one as this would explore ethical issues surrounding childcare, the family and religion so its all relevant! Good luck with everything! (p.s it's nice to give advice to someone english for once!!!)
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I have a little fat around my stomach, and also I guess love handles? I'm not sure if that's what they are called. But I'm like skinny by my ribs, then it just bulges out on the sides near my belly button. It's so ugly, I hate it.
So I've decided to do something about it. But I have a question. I've just started doing 100 crunches per night, and the thing where you hold your legs about 6 inches off the floor for a minute (every night). I'm just wondering, do these exercises just help build muscle, or will it also help me lose my extra 'tummy' fat?
If this isn't going to help me lose the fat, can you tell me a simple, at-home, exercise that WILL reduce the fat & needs no equipment? Thanks! (link)
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As well as helping to build muscle, at the same time you will lose the fat. The fat will turn into muscle. Just be sure whenever you are working your abs to hold your tummy in otherwise it won't work at all and all your hard work will be for nothing!
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Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys! (link)
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It's going to be really hard but friendship is more important than guys at the end of the day. What would end in the most hurt? You not getting with this guy and causing you and him a bit of heartache or you getting with this guy and hurting your friend not only because she can't have the guy she fancies but because her friend has gone behind her back and betrayed her. I can understand that you have feelings for him and no one can help who they fall for thats why this is so difficult! In any case (although it's very easy to say) if you two are meant to be it will happen it really will. Hey, she might decide she doesn't like him anymore and she finds someone else! But for now i really think the only thing you can do is leave things as they are however difficult. Good luck
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ok...i have a serious boy problem...lets call my jus broke off boyfriend(tyler)and my ex before him (lee) ok tyler and i went out alil over 2 months and i fell so hard for him but lee kept coming in the way...i went out wit lee for about a year and now i just want to be friends with him nothing more but tyler cant understand that.tyler heard that i was with lee the other week and just broke up with me without wanting to talk it out but it wasnt true and i tried to tell him that but he wont listen...he told my bestfriend that we was gonna get back 2gether but he needs time 2 think...should i wait or move on? (link)
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You should wait- if you want to be with him he's worth the wait. Give him time to think and be there and tell the truth when he's ready to try again. Good luck
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well their this kid that i been dateing for like a year and cheated on me like 4 time i dont no if i wamms be with him or not but their this really nice kid that likes me and i dont no i need help (link)
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If the one you're with at the moment has cheated on you 4 times that means he's going to do it again- he's had too many chances and whats the point in beign with someone if you don't trust him? End it with him and start something with the nice one especially if you like him back!!
Edit: Yes i honestly believe you should leave him otherwise i would not have given you that advice! No trust= relationship won't work. Pls don't give me a 2 if you're not prepared to hear the truth.
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What's wrong with me?
My parents think I'm strange and that I have something weird going on with me. "I have weird habits and a weird way of thinking."
Habits as in...counting the number of cracks I've stepped on, the times i circle around something, the seconds im in somewhere and if its not under a certain time then i..feel the need to start over..and then im yelled at when im still doing it ...I dunno. People think I'm retarded X___x I didn't notice that i was doing this stuff... i just do it because...its what i've always been doing..then people pointed it out. Its like ringing the doorbell a couple of times..before entering because..its just..there. I always think about something. I'm afraid of pain. I'm afraid to do P.E. in class. I'm afraid of running..tripping and landing on the ground..seeing blood or having my arm bend the wrong way or having my fingers crushed or having those bent the wrong way. It makes me sick. I don't want to twist my ankle or have a ball hit my face..because it might hit my ear piercings and those might rip out and hurt. I've got glue on eyelashes and I've just recently thought..what if i get the glue in my eye? My eyes will start to water and then i might get eye problems...might have to go see a doctor...and then i get awful images.. I dunno. I always worry a lot. Also.. my little sister was going across the street to a friends house...in my head I heard a loud crash..and had images of her lying in the street covered in blood and...blah. My boyfriend had this safety pin in his mouth...and it was open and for about 20 mins..he was talking with it still in his mouth..and all i could think about is.. what would happen if it cut him...or if he swallowed it and it got stuck..and i couldn't do a thing about it because there was no adult around.. argh. Am I stupid? (link)
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No you're not stupid but your parents are right in being worried about you. It sounds to me as if you may have something called obsessive compulsive disorder. This is when you feel compelled to do certain habits and you have to do them over and over again until you are satisfied. It also sounds as if you may be a bit paranoid in certain situations and imagining the worst outcomes that could happen. You can get help for all this from your doctor. Talk to your parents about this and say that you'd like to get some help for this and ask if they'll go to the doctors with you. Good luck
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