hi, i'm a twenty year old who is afraid to fall in love. I'm asian and live in a conservative catholic environment. I once lost the guy I loved to the calling of being a priest, i was soo catatonic then that when I finally recovered my friend asked me not to enter a relationship till I at least finish collage. That was back when I was a junior in high school now I'm a senior in collage and i think i'm falling for my best guy friend. the same guy whom i promised I won't fall for. I'm afraid that if i tell him it'll put a dent in our friendship and i value him too much to risk alienating him for he is too important to lose.
Well that is a tough situation. I guess If I was in your position I would have to weigh my options. A) Telling him which could either result in a new relationship with the amazing guy I think I am falling in love with OR it could make things awkward B) Not telling him and living the rest of my life wondering what could have been if I had and watching him possibly falling for some other girl knowing how much I like him
Now to me I would tell him. Love is all about putting your self out there and making your self completely vaulrable. Plus if he is a great friend then it wouldn't put a dent in your friendship. Love is amazing and completely worth it to me.
Now Speaking from personal experience I am dating my best friend going on 8 months now. We talking for a year and we both REALLY liked each other but we wouldn't say anything, too afraid of losing the other. In the end he got brave and told me that he liked me and that he didn't want things to be weird but he had to tell me... and look at us now. SO it can work--- trust me, Good luck inbox me if you need anything else,
CD
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Hopefully u remember I'm the one who isn't happy well I have French with him .... Here's the main part my kinda friend from a different school is talking talking to him and they both like each other but nothing is happening it's like me and him back then.. So I don't know what to do things just keep getting worse.... I have noone to go to anymore I think my friend thinks I'm pathetic with him so I just don't feel comfortable talking bout it and plus im kinda a shy girl well I'm the girl who has the boys come and talk to me I mean I'm not freakishly shy just a little I get scared idk what's wrong with me:/
There isn't a thing in the world wrong with you. It's normal to feel like that, especially around someone that you like. I still feel that way. Evertime my boyfriend of 8 months calls I get nervous. In the future I guess we will all look back at our teen years and laugh ( I hope so). But this friend of yours isn't someone I would talk to about your relationship status. Again from personal experience my BEST FRIEND hates when I talk about my boyfriend or about concerns I have. She thinks that I am crazy and she isn't afraid to tell me. It used to hurt my feels someone because your FRIEND shouldn't be like that. I don't know what it is but I've learned to overlook her and I suggest the same for you. No one knows how you feel but YOU. Now as for the boy. He can't read your mind. Guys usually are terrible at seeing when a girl likes them. I would try your best to talk to him again. You can't stop him from having feelings for the other girl. Which I can only imagine must make you feel bad. Keep in mind if you do start talking to him and he does end up dating this other girl that it is NOT the end. Of course he isn't going to go out on a date or anything like that with you but keep a friendship with him because chances are he is going to either break up with her because he was going to anyways or because he likes you too much. Just work on building a relationship with him.
Hope that this helps, let me know what happens if you have anymore problems or just wanna talk :)
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This is my 3 Ed time asking basically the same question ... Well just advice I need it I'm pathetic I'm getting angry with other people including my family. So here the thing me and this guy hung out so much in the summerlike every day but after the group was done our talking kept getting distant. I started to really like him after summer even though I shoulda liked him when I had more of a chance he use to like me but I know hesitant like me anymore.. Bc I heard he's talking with another girl. He made me so happy I was nicer to people and now I'm stressed bc well I'm not happy like I tried so hard to get him back and to get over him it's to a point where it's gone to far. He's a sophmore and I'm a freshman he was in my math class but now we switch classes so I think I might have French with him but I'm not sure anyways it makes it worse that I see him all the time in school I just can't get my mind off of him and me not with him I'm just moody with different people. I have tried so hard to get over this guy believe and I gave it time it's just not working I've tried everything I'm stuck I'm moody and it's annoying 15 f I need elp:/
Ever think this might be a little more than a crush. When you find someone who makes YOU a better person its a really special thing. You can't make someone like you but chances are if you felt this way then he probably still has feelings for you. I would find out what class you have with him wait a couple days and try to act normal maybe say hello. Then ask if you can hang out sometime or if you have the same lunch ask if he would like to eat with you. After a week of that or maybe two of getting back to talking and he is single I would tell him you like him. Yes putting yourself out there for your heart to be broken is hard but its worth it in the end. Plus, I've been there. Just talking to him at first may hurt but just be patient and be thankful that you get to do that.
Best of luck and inbox me if you need to talk
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Hello i'm 19/f and yesterday during work all of a sudden my heart rate increased and it was like this for a couple hours. It was like i just ran a 5 mile run. I couldnt get it to slow down, then after about an hour into it my boss told me to take aspirin thinking maybe that would help and i think it did a little bit but it didnt eventually calm down until a few hours later. I took my break thinking maybe that would help but as i was eating my food it still continued to pound. I've only had this a few other times but it always went away within 20 min. Then i started to get a little light headed and the right side of my back started to hurt. My muscles have been achy and i've been tired but not more than usual. Nothing has been stressing me out either it just came on all of a sudden. I do drink soda but i only had one can of soda that day. Can anybody give me any ideas on what this could be? Thanks
I have no clue how to spell this but I am guessing you have a form of ventricular tachycardia (VT). Its not a common thing but I had it when I was a teen. I went to a cardiac specialist and they sent home a heart monitor and the next time it did I just took like a thirty second recording sent it in and they looked at it. Eventually ( not saying you will, its not necessary all the time) but I had heart surgury. It had to deal with an extra something, electrically, in my heart. It wasn't a huge problem just VERY aggravating. I always felt really light headed especially when it would come back down to normal. Somethings that they told me to try that worked the first few times is dumping my head in ice water...weird I know. I would just go to a doctor and have them take a look. Could be something else but this is just what it sounds like from MY past experiences. Message me if you need anything, Take Care.
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It's not that I'm always online or anything, but I've had very very few close friends in my life. I moved to a new town a year ago and I still don't feel like I have any genuine friends.. though I'm a good friend to anyone, even people I don't really know. As long as they aren't mean to me.
It just seems like its easier to find people online with common interests. Its annoying. Where are cool people like this IRL? I'd love to actually have a best friend I'd be totally on the same page with, who doesn't live in a different state, much less a different country.
HOW DO I FIX THIS. I'm a 16 (almost 17) year old girl. I can't change myself to be like other people.. I won't enjoy that. But I'd like to think I'm not that weird, even though my interests don't often fall into the mainstream I guess. But online theres far more people who share my interests. But I don't want my whole social life to be online you know? I suck at the friend thing in general, and being in a new-ish town doesn't help. I had to transition from the North to the South and people are very different.
I know I shouldn't give much focus to friends and all right now but.. I just feel so lonely and I've already missed out on all the friend perks of high school and junior high so Idk.. I'd like some fun to look back on, and not just reflect on these years as the worst time in my life? cause everything was good until 5th grade. But it would help school be a lot funner, you know
Online everyone finds it easier to "put them selves out there". Where as at school most of your peers are just trying to go with the crowd and fit in. Online its easier to be yourself, and if your not careful someone else.
If you have a facebook I would ( and no this isn't stalking) check the profiles of the people at the new school. Just see if any interest or classes are similar to yours. Then from there I'd add them as a friend. Try talking to them at school and if you see that they would be a good friend you can talk to them online too.
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16/f
Honestly, I'm not trying to sound conceited but I know guys think I'm attractive. I've just had really low self-esteem for the past few years, and barely flirt with anyone.
I was at a party, and this guy kept trying to make-out with me.
(Oh right, it was my first real kiss)
I kissed him, but I wouldn't make-out with him because I was scared I was going to be bad. How do I make sure I can be a good kisser, HELP
Follow his lead and try things you wanna try. You can't worry about being good or not because every guy is different and likes different things and so make it fun and don't worry about things.
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so im 17 yrs old from canada. im in a long distnace relationship with a guy who is also 17 and lives in the usa. 9 hrs and 36 min away from me. We talk every day on skype and have been for 10 months. We love eachother to death! we have so many things in common and even our birthdays are right after eachother. My family knows about him as well as his about me. my dad has talked to him and i have in ways talked to his. He plans on coming up here in the summer for a couple weeks to see me cause we have never meet in person. ...he just hasnt got the ok from his parents yet...and i really hope they say yes.
What im really askin here is, its the hardest thing i have ever done, parents arent really for it and some friends arent eiether which make it hard. Is there anyone who is in the same situation and still together...married maybe? What was it like meeting for the sametime? awkward? and advice? I really want to get peoples advice who are or were in a long distance relationship. Thank you so much for your time!
I am also in a long distance relationship. Its so hard because you do love them to death and when you're in love you feel like you should be with them. Yet again sometimes its easier to type what you feel and of course on web cam its not exactly REAL. It'll be so much different in person. You will be a nervous wreck from about a month before he comes till he gets there. But try not to worry if he is the love of your life and everything you think he is it will be fine. Ignore your parents and friends. People just don't understand unless they are put in that situation.I know what that's like and it is hard. But it'll be worth it after all is said and done. I wish you the best, just always be your self online and skype so it is easier in person. It can work I promise. Love is amazing and when you find it hold on to it.
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So me and my bf are insane about eachother and we've been this way for a bit i guess... anyways, we always hook up behind the stage at our school and we make out only, because i myself have a purity necklace.. well i always wanted to get felt up idk why i just never saw it as bad because dr's touch boobs, i touch my own boobs, my friends joke around and grab my boobs, how would it be any different if my boyfriend did? anyways, as we were making out today he slid his hand up my shirt and under my bra, and he kept squeezing them. it felt amazing, but like, i feel soooo guilty. he's a senior in highschool and i am a sophomore. we get along great and he's like my best guy friend too not just a bf, so i can tell him anything, ya know? So, yeah i never thought i'd feel this guilty. Do you think getting felt up is a sin if it's the only limit i have until i'm married?? anyways.... one time when i was on the phone with him i told him if i was ready and we were dating for a long time, i'd do everything else EXCEPT sex... and now i really take back telling him that......... after being this guilty from just being felt i'd never want to do more-ever.. so yeahhhh, i think i'm gonna telll him. anyways, is being felt up against my purity necklace? i blessed it myself and when i put it on i made sure i promised that it'd only protect me from having SEX til i'm married. nothing else..... just sex..... i made sure with God that we were clear. if youw ere me, what would you do? is being felt up a sin? is everything but making out against my purity necklace? How am i supposed to feel? someone helpp me ): btw, i'm 15 years old, gonna be 16 this may. Easy five points
Don't freak out it isn't a sin and you shouldn't feel so bad, pray to god about it to clear your mind, then you need to talk to your boyfriend. If you feel THIS guilty about it he should probably keep his hands on the outside of your shirt. Plus don't forget that often times getting caught up in the moment can lead to sex. I thought I was a very strong person but passion is something that is strong. Making out and kissing is perfecting fine and normal. Just don't forget that your a child of god and YOU want to stay pure no matter what he wants "if he loves you he will wait" and if your as close as you say you are he will understand your feelings and respect you. This doesn't mean he won't want to... that's natural but you won't be put in a situtation where you will feel guilty again. Make sure you talk about this possibly on the phone or out in the open, not in the middle of making out.
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my boyfriend he doesn't like to do anything fun.. he's so boring!! and i went to this party n made out with his bestfriend, what should i do????
Stop being acting like a slut dump the poor guy and get on with your life. You obviously don't need a boring boyfriend.
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Okay, im 17/f and my ex is 20/m. I dated him in 06' when I was 14 and he was 17. Two months of us dating I turned 15, so it was only a two year difference. We dated for 8 months. We broke up because his mom said we had two different maturity levels, and we needed to either break up, or get back together later on. I thought I was in love with him, and he said he was in love with me but everyone said I was too young to know what love is. When we broke up, he pinky promised me that on my graduation day in 2011, that he would propose to me. I believed him.
Every since then, I haven't had a real boyfriend since, its like my heart just doesn't feel like giving anyone an opportunity because I guess it finally found its home with him. During these last 3 years, I have seen my ex here and there. My parents got real attached to him, so he comes over to visit occasionally. I really believe my love for him is real. Everytime I see him, my heart drops, stops, and skips beats, and I get a little nervous inside. I only feel 100% normal and secure when he's hugging me, Im hearing his heartbeat, or he's just holding me. A few months ago, he came over and we sat in his truck, and he was bringing back old memories that I thought he would forget. It made me happy to know that he remembers EVERYTHING. He even remembers the promise he made me, and he also said that he's still in love with me, and after we broke up, he hasnt be able to be with anyone longer than 3 months. He cried to me, for the second time in our whole relatioship, just because he really missed me, and he missed the feeling of being able to be himself 100% and someone love him for it. He promised me that when Im legal (18) he will ask me back out, (therefore his mom can't trip about our age difference) and we can finally be happy again. I turn 18 on November 20th. He still remembers the proposal promise he made me 3 years ago, and he says he still plans to keep it.
He says Im the only girl he's ever been able to look at and his heart stops likes its the first time he's ever seen me.
Im just not too sure if his feelins are real, or if im to young to know what it is, but i do know the way I feel about him, isn't anything you feel for just a friend.
Awww I think I just witnessed a love story
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Well.. for starters he sounds like a real jerk. I'm not saying that in a relationship you have to be 100% honest, but a good 90-95% is expected. Because in order to make this work, your going to have to have trust. Which can't be earned when your boyfriend has, yes, a secret life on facebook.
Private or personal things that go one between you, physically or just in conversation should be kept private. It's something special and can only be special if you keep it personal. So as far as this guy is conserned.. you have 2 options.
OPTION #1: Stick with the.. sorry I gotta say it.. Loser: He will eat away at you, and kill your spirit if he keeps this up. No matter how much you can convince yourself that you don't care about this little group.. or how much he tries to convince you it's no big deal. As long as it's there.. then it will kill you. But if he deletes it.. and you wanna see if you can earn his trust back.. then do it. It's your life, it's your choice. Be prepared though... he isn't trustworthy right now.
OPTION #2: You BEST option in my opinion: MOVE ON
A boyfriend who stars a secret club.. about you and your relationship is a bad boyfriend. Eliminate the headache that this will cause and know that he wasn't who you thought he was. Establish that you forgive him.. and that is as far as it goes. Don't feel bad.. it's his fault. He wasn't honest with you, he hurt you. You are better then that, don't take that kind of crap from ANY guy. GOODLUCK because any breakup is hard, but don't worry sooner or later Mr. Right shows up.
- CD
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so me and my boyfriend have only been together a few days, and yeah i expected the first time we went out just us to it was going to be awkward but it was't really that bad we just talked about our familys and stuff and got to know each other abit better, but now its kinda awkward because theres noting left to say, any ideas on what to say ? pleaseee!
Talk about things you have in common like sports. Another great topic is music! That one can last atleast an hour, and movies, books, what you wanna do with your future. In a couple more dates you won't have to think about it anymore it'll just come to you. (if it doesn't then something is wrong)
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I am going to be giving away my laptop pretty soon and all the social network sites have my e-mail and password stored. does that make sense? like when i want to log on to facebook, i just have to click on the e-mail space and it will show my e-mail and when i click on it it automatically types in my password. is there anyway i can delete all that so the next users won't hack my accounts?
Hey I am going to tell you how to do it with the newest Internet Explorer ( IDK firefox)
Click on the internet and open launcher, click on tools and go down to Delete Browsing History.
Then it'll bring up a box and at the bottom it says DELETE ALL click that and bam it's all gone. Check just to make sure
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hi, i'll keep this really short
i'm moving to a new city, and the humidity there is worse than it is where i live now. i straighten my hair and it curls in less than 15 minutes of being outside.
Any products or suggestions that will keep it smooth and manageable (even curly, doesn't matter) rather than frizzy and poufy?
Alright... I have a couple suggestions:
1.) Fix your hair at night wash dry and straighten ( if you do) wrap it in a silk bandana or scarf or anything ( not a pony tail leaves crease) and it'll also keep the oil from your face and pillow off your hair. It works for me.. try it .. I don't know how it does it, but it works.
2.) The new panteen hairspray for medium thick hair.. frizzy to smooth. That hairspray is amazing. Before you head out spray your hair all over ONE time. Take a brush and after you have been outside for awhile .. in a bathroom or car just brush your hair one time. It makes it silky and smooth.
3.) Pony Tails hide it all, just put some mouse in your hair and scrunch it and pull it up. spray with hairspray and your good to go. I do this when I don't have much time
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I am 15, girl. I am having my birthday this month and I had a few plans with certain friends that weekend before my party and it was all set, we knew exactly what we were gonna do.. and my best friend (boy) bailed. So, I asked if he would be able to come to my party still and he said yea why not and then he said he doesn't know when he is going to come home from where he was going to be that weekend and I got so mad. Naturally, when I get mad at someone, I freeze them out. I am a happy person who is nice all the time but when you do something to me, you could die of frost bite. So, I told him that it was funny because everyone said he wasn't going to come and I was just saying all of this stuff to him, I don't regret it but I just really want him to come. So my question is, if he comes, what should I do and say? If he doesn't show up, what should I say to him and how should I handle it?
Thanks!
haha, I would just like to say I was also once a master of freezing people who hurt me out. From my experiences with that I would like to conclude "DO NOT... EVER DO THAT" It's the worst thing possible because it'll end up hurting you. You will miss this guy because as you said he was/ is your best friend. Do you know how hard it is to get someone back after freezing them out? Very hard, and you don't want that. In this life you need to have friends.. and I know it feels like he is being a complete JERK. But I agree. Maybe you could arrange a movie or somehting small after he gets back.. or just be like "if you wanna come, come I would love for you to be there" and if he shows great be happy its YOUR b-day don't let him ruin it. If he Doesn't show.. well that's bad, lol there isn't any other way around it and it'll hurt your feelings. You can tell him you wished he was there, he missed out. But don't freeze him out. Losing someone is one of the worst things, and you realize that a little bit as your doing it but a couple years from now you will REALLY notice-- promise.
CD
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thanks for the previous advice,it helped,yes I really like him and I asked,like you said but he avoided to answer and the conversation continued like nothing had happend...what do you think about that?
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If he is avoiding the question... he doesn't like you. I am sorry. I know it's very Cliche' but you will KNOW when it's the right guy, and if it's awkward and everything and he is avoiding a serious question then move on.. establish a friendship and leave it at that.
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Hi I'm Alexandra and 13 years, I'm from Romania. I like a boy in my class, but he knows, in July has a birthday and I was also invited, but I told him that like him, I just sent a message on messenger, and do not know if you read the message. I want to tell him that you like, but do not know how to tell. Please help me
P.S. I have not had until now a boyfriend
Alrighty ... I am just going to give you some advice from some of my past experiences.
I used to be "in love" with this guy in my grade and I talked to him on msn messanger as often as I could.. even when he didn't talk to me. I sent him a message and told him I liked him. I know he read it because things got weird and we don't talk anymore.. But now looking back I realize that he wasn't my true love anyways.
In life you "live and learn" and if you want to find out if this guy likes you your going to have to get brave... ask him. It'll be hard, but more then likley he got the message and he just doesn't like you the same way... I am sorry but that's just how it usually happens. When you find the right guy you KNOW and he does too. Don't worry though even though right now you feel mature and everything you will change alot in the next couple years, and will more then likley date many, many boys. This guy or not.
Good luck,
CD
(sorry if I have any mispellings- I am sure I do :)
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17/f
Do you guys think that it's worth it to spend $110 on a watch that you're in love with and will most likely wear every day? I will be spending my own money on this.
Thanks :)
Yes, it's alright to splurge every now and then. Also you have to think of its purpose. You'll wear it every day, and keep track of time. Well worth the money although I wouldn't splurge over $150
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18/Female
I am a freshman at my local community college, and in my second semester. Right now I am just taking my general education reqirements, so picking a major hasn't been that big of a deal. Now however, I have to pick a major before my next semester. I have no idea what I want to do or what I want to major in! It's driving me crazy, and the pressure is really starting to get to me. It's all so confusing; normally when I give advice I always tell confused students to see an advisor, but I don't even know who to see or what to ask. There are general ed. advisors, transfer advisors, course advisors, etc. I feel completely lost. I don't even know what school I am going to transfer to, or if I am even going to transfer.
I have been back and forth between going to law school, elementary teaching, counceling, ultrasound/radiology technician, journalism/writing, opening a business, and plenty more! I have no idea what I am going to do, and I am terrified I am going to make the wrong choice.
Some general information:
- I live in a small town, so I don't know if opening a business would be a good choice. I have no intentions on moving to far away.
- I am shy. It sucks as far as getting a job goes, but it is what it is.
- Making a good amount of money is important, but so is enjoying what I do. That's what makes the choice the most difficult.
- I have a boyfriend that I have been seeing for five years, so I want to start a family sooner rather than later. Going to school for ten years is not something I would particulary want to do.
- I love children
- I love giving advice and helping people.
I guess I am just looking for some guidance, options, advice? I don't know. HELP!!
Hi,
You have alot of key points, which in my opinion (with not really knowing you) I would eliminate a few of your choices above. for example a ultrasound/ radiology technician would involve not only the standard colloge but also aprox. 3-4 years of med. school, not ideal for family starting! Also opening a buisness would be somthing you would probabley have to either move to a good location, or dish out alot of money to beging,then hope you would get that back in a smaller location.
Elementary teaching sound good, and the money isn't the best in the begging, but after college you can do online classes to get your masters if you want to earn more money.
Journalism, i don't know much on that career, sorry.
Bust I just wanted to tell you to follow your heart, not the money and not the boyfriend!
Okay maybey the boyfriend, if your really serious and thinking or settleing down in the next 10 years. Don't let money stear you into something you dont want to do, its a horrible mistake, and not one you can always get out of!
Good Luck, and best wihes
-aml
p.s. if you descided to be a teacher your get summer breaks, spring breaks, christmas, and so on! just thought you should keep that in mind!
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on facebook the chat thing at the bottom wont let me enter text. like it shows the people and their convos but wont let me enter anything i type. how can i fix it i cant figure it out?
Alot of times if you have a slow connection it won't work, or if you don't have the latest internet
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