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Is it a sin that my senior bf felt my boobs?
So me and my bf are insane about eachother and we've been this way for a bit i guess... anyways, we always hook up behind the stage at our school and we make out only, because i myself have a purity necklace.. well i always wanted to get felt up idk why i just never saw it as bad because dr's touch boobs, i touch my own boobs, my friends joke around and grab my boobs, how would it be any different if my boyfriend did? anyways, as we were making out today he slid his hand up my shirt and under my bra, and he kept squeezing them. it felt amazing, but like, i feel soooo guilty. he's a senior in highschool and i am a sophomore. we get along great and he's like my best guy friend too not just a bf, so i can tell him anything, ya know? So, yeah i never thought i'd feel this guilty. Do you think getting felt up is a sin if it's the only limit i have until i'm married?? anyways.... one time when i was on the phone with him i told him if i was ready and we were dating for a long time, i'd do everything else EXCEPT sex... and now i really take back telling him that......... after being this guilty from just being felt i'd never want to do more-ever.. so yeahhhh, i think i'm gonna telll him. anyways, is being felt up against my purity necklace? i blessed it myself and when i put it on i made sure i promised that it'd only protect me from having SEX til i'm married. nothing else..... just sex..... i made sure with God that we were clear. if youw ere me, what would you do? is being felt up a sin? is everything but making out against my purity necklace? How am i supposed to feel? someone helpp me ): btw, i'm 15 years old, gonna be 16 this may. Easy five points
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I am fifteen too and I am going to be sixteen this may as well...
But yeah it is a sin, you made a promise to God not to have sex until marriage and i guess you found a loophole.
You body is the holy spirits temple and you are suppose to protect it no matter what..so protect it.
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I think your purity necklace is *wonderful* and I commend you and admire you for making the pledge and for sticking to it!
No, it's not a sin. It's lust; and it's exploration.
You ask how you're supposed to feel - you are supposed to feel however you *do* feel. If you feel guilty, then I think probably, if you're really, really honest with yourself, you'll know that the reason you felt guilty is probably not that you let him do it, but because you liked it so much! It's amazing, isn't it? *smile*
There's a reason for that too, though, and the person who answered earlier is right, that when you start feeling that amazing feeling, you want MORE!! *smile* That wanting more is what might lead to sex. Imagine how good it felt for him to touch you there, and then multiply that by a THOUSAND, and that's how it's going to feel if you keep going and let him move his hands around to *other* certain areas of your body. That's when you completely forget the world - including your purity pledge... so be careful.
No, it's not a sin - but I would think really hard and be very honest with yourself about why you're feeling guilty - I think it's *probably* because you liked it so much, but only you really know.
I know you *want* to convince yourself, and you *want* someone to tell you, that it's ok to go as far as you want - as long as you don't have sex you'll be keeping your pledge. Well, that's true, technically. BUT - remember how good it felt, and think about why you felt guilty - and then think about, if you felt good in that way, but much MUCH MORE good, how easy it just might be to forget your pledge... then you would be breaking your pledge, and you would surely regret that.
If I were you I'd set very clear limits and stick to them very strictly. Explain to your boyfriend that you just don't know if you can trust yourself, and you thought it would be ok to mess around without having sex, but the temptation is just too much and you don't want to get carried away and end up breaking your pledge.
So in summary - No, if your pledge included only sex, being felt up doesn't go against it. No, it's not a sin. Only what you promised when you put your purity necklace on goes against the purity necklace. You are supposed to feel - the way you feel; it's completely normal.
And finally - if I were you, I would think very hard about *why* you felt guilty - be very honest with yourself about how far you might be able to go and still stay in control, then act accordingly.
Your body is going to WANT to break your pledge; you have to see that, admit it, and decide to control it. When you start letting him touch you, you are tempting your body, and your body starts wanting to go farther - it's normal, it's healthy, and its the way God made us. Still, God wants us to SAVE our bodies for sex in marraige. I don't know what you pledged exactly, but remember that your body and your mind are going to have two different ideas of what you want to do - and the more you give in to what your body tells you - the harder it gets to listen to what your mind tells you. *smile*
Good luck, stay strong, have fun, and above all - respect yourself.
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Don't freak out it isn't a sin and you shouldn't feel so bad, pray to god about it to clear your mind, then you need to talk to your boyfriend. If you feel THIS guilty about it he should probably keep his hands on the outside of your shirt. Plus don't forget that often times getting caught up in the moment can lead to sex. I thought I was a very strong person but passion is something that is strong. Making out and kissing is perfecting fine and normal. Just don't forget that your a child of god and YOU want to stay pure no matter what he wants "if he loves you he will wait" and if your as close as you say you are he will understand your feelings and respect you. This doesn't mean he won't want to... that's natural but you won't be put in a situtation where you will feel guilty again. Make sure you talk about this possibly on the phone or out in the open, not in the middle of making out.
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