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okay so one day this guy txted me out of the blue and weve been txting each other everyday ever since and he says hes 13 likes soccer like me and it seems like we have alot in common but weve never actually met in person or even talked on the phone just txting but dont know how to tell if hes telling the truth or not and i really want to meet him in person but what if hes not who he says he is thanx ahead of time 13/f (link)
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It all followas along the lines of the internet predator thing. Simply don't go meet him. Don't trust anybody you haven't met.
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Ok, I'll give you the complete awkward truth: the guy i had my first kiss with and first uhh..other stuff.. with, told me he wnted me to let loose during the year until i see him again (which i guess means he wants me to make out and fool around with alot of guys so i'd get better at it so hell like it next year) now there's this guy who is obsessed with me and ould do anything for me to "do stuff" even if it didnt mean anything to me..so technically I could use him to "practice on" and when i meet the guy i acutally like it wont be as bad and awkward this year.. but im hesitating.. i dont think i want to be that kind of girl. i dont want to kiss someone i dont like. but then again- i do want to be good at kissing for when i see him again. so he wont get disapointed again.
please help me (link)
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Why are you doing these things anyway? Messing around with a bunch of different guys is only going to get you in big trouble whether it would be with the law or you would catch something. I think you should tell the dude to forget you and move on. You really don't need a guy like that in your life.
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ok... so im in new york for spring break and my boyfirend is home with his friends and stuff... well my sisters went out to the casino for one her 18th bday... and im here babysitting my neice and nephew and i got bored soo i got on his facebook.. and i was reading old messages between him and his ex and it was weird sexual comments and he told me they never really did much with her and by the messages it didnt seem that way and some of the stuff he said to her he has said to me... and he also sent one of hjis oer girlfriends he said he didnt really like that much he dropped flowers off on her porch... and like he acts like when he spends money on me he only does it to be nice... not because he wants to just cz he wants to be nice and i dont care if he spends money on me but the fact that he acts like im just his last priority... and i spent $75 on his gift for our three months and like 90 for christmas he didnt really seem like he liked it or appreciated it... and it bugs me that i read the messages and saw he does the same with me that he did with the other... idk i just felt really hurt by it even though i know it was in the past... but it still hurt nme to read it and im scared to talk to him about it because i dont want to fight while he is with his friends and im not going to be back till next weekend... im just hurt and dont know what to do and idk how he will act if i told him i read his messages even though he reads mine all the time... and he gets mad if i have pictures of guy friends and ex boyfriednds which i dont cz i took them down for him but he has a ton on his facebook of them kissing... and with ex girlfriends and he would get sooo mad if i ahd them on mine... i really dont know what to do!!! i dont want to lose him but being around him i wont want to be physical cz i would be thinking about that and i would have to tell him.... please help cz i bald my eyes out when i saw these messages... (link)
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If he hasn't deleted those messages or pics it means he still isn't over her. So obviously he's a jerk and not good enough for you if he doesn't appreciate any kind a gift you give him period. (It never really matters how much it costs or anything under that catagory, it matters how much you really love each other.) If can't hang out with just your guy friends, how come it's alright for him to hang out with his ex girlfriend? Sounds suspicious to me. So put those pictures back up because if he has those kinds pictures on there you can too, and second he can't control you. I really wouldn't trust him and his buddies, knowing how he's acting now.
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I read a book from one of the alice series but it talked about how one of the girls didnt want to wear a tampon because they were saving their virginity fo when their older are you considered that you are not a virgin if you wear a tampon because im 13 and wear tampons for sports (link)
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No it's not considered losing your virginity lol it's kind of like an old myth.
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Hi, well i have this really bad habit of eating loads of food when not needed and i cant get out of it, i find it incredibly hard. I am not exactly fat but i am gaining quite a bit of weight now pretty much everywhere and i have love handles which i HATE so much!! I cant go to a gym yet because im not 16 and i dont like running on my own and my friend who i usually run with is so annoying and never does it anymore. Its just so fustrating i dont know how to control my eating habits and how to exercise and how long to do it for any advice would be great thanks =] x (link)
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Whatever you do don't do the crash diet thing first of all. When you want to snack a lot it usually means you're not eating what you should be in the first place. For the food part, try snacking on bananas or any other fruit you may like instead of snacking on things like chips or store bought cupcakes. You may also want to look up some healthy reicipes on the internet for things like that and snack on them instead.
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okay..high school classes can be very boring sometimes, as I'm sure you all know..and I suffer from..falling asleep during some of them.
I can't help it. Sometimes..even when I get like 10 hours of sleep, my eye lids still feel heavy..and they droop down..and I feel like sleeping. No matter what I do..clench my butt muscles, pump my veins, drink water..NOTHING works. what can I do to cure this? lol (link)
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I think you maybe suffering from stamina if you're listening to music or on the computer less than two hours before you go to bed. Try drinking some green tea before you go to school maybe that would help.
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I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because he cheated on me. That was about 5 months ago, and he has a girlfriend now and I have a boyfriend. We are still good friends, despite what he did to me, because we have always been friends, even before we went out. So we still hang out, but always in large groups of people and have a really good time (as friends). But I feel like I'm being disloyal to my boyfriend because my boyfriend really dislikes my ex and does not trust him (although he's never told me he doesn't want my ex and I hanging out). Plus, my ex and I were friends previously, even before my current boyfriend and I met. Should I feel guilty about hanging out with my ex? Hmm. (link)
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Well if you still want to hang out and be friends after what he did to you, then be friends with him it's your choice but maybe your boyfriend has a reason to dislike your ex. It could be the fact alone that he cheated on you, maybe not I don't know. But it's a situation where it is totally up to you.
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Ok so i want to write a storey. i want it to be a true storey about a murder. any ideas? also, i would need websites that give me information on the murder. oh, and i want the storey to be kind of a long one...like a chapter book.
all advice welcome! (link)
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Well depending on what kind of murder (shot, stabbed, gutted etc) you may want to look up local murders in the library archives or something like that for some original inspiration.
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how come there are some families that dont really care what their kids do? they'll let them have sex and just do whatever they want to do. do they not think that they will get in troulbe? (link)
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Well it depends on how they were raised. I think it's a shame that kids start having sex at 12 because their parents don't care, and those kids will end up like their parents because they didn't know better.
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okay so i have this friend and i went to school with him in sixth grade, then he left and now he goes to high school with me [ironic, i know] and i didnt like him in sixth grade but he liked me and he liked me at the beginning of this school year, and i didnt like him still but now i like him and im not sure if he still likes me, and he talks to a whole bunch of girls but some think that hes really annoying but like idk what to do because we have one class together and i kind of want a bf, but not really i just get jealous when i see couples like my sister and her bf together and like idk what to do. cause i dont want to like come off on him as like oh my god im totally in love with you cause im not like that and like we go to catholic school so its not like i can wear somthing cute and have him be like oooh.. niicee. or watever. im just really confused and i dont know what to do, should i like give up? or should i like wait it out a little bit more, pleaasee heelp=[ (link)
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Drop little hints telling him that you like him but don't be too overbearing and take it slow. Because you go to a school that requires uniforms, try to spice it up a little. Seventeen should have some good alternative advice on how to give your uniform a little life.
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what are some really great yet not too expensive perfumes that guys LOVE. my bf doesnt know what scents he likes and i kinda prefer sweet smells but i dont really care. i just want a smell that will drive him crazy! thank you so much! :) (link)
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Love Spell is a great perfume/body spray. You can buy it at Victoria Secret stores and it's only like 10.00 depending on what kind of bottle you get. It can be a little overwhelming if you spray too much but it smells really good.
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I've met him once and spoken to him on msn loads of times, and I've started to really like him, we get on really well. Who can I make him like me back?
I've had so many shitty relationships and I want this one to be better...help (link)
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I agree. I'm trying to get a guy to like me but I'm taking it real slow and not inforcing it. You have to figure out when is the right time to tell him. Don't plan ahead though because it would be unpredictable of what he might say.
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my boyfriends at dinner with his ex because she said if they talked things out they could come to a conclusion. should i be worried? or is it just nothing?? i dont know what resteraunt they are at so i dont know if its a fancy dinner or not. (link)
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I agree with them, worry, but don't freak out. It sounds like they're up to something promiscuious (I'm not sure if I spelled that right but you get the idea) and if all of the sudden he wants to break up with you, don't think anything about it.
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so here is the shortest version of the story I can manage. When I was seventeen I met the love of my life. we both knew it the moment we met. we lived 8 hours away from eachother but had a long distance relationship. he is 2 years older so he moved to the east coast to be in a band before I got out of highschool. i was supposed to go when I graduated but as life goes...I moved to the west coast with another man when I was 18. when i was 20 we found eachother again and he still in the band we saw eachother a few times and were still in love. this is like really true love, our hearts and souls are meant to be. he cannot leave his band, they tour 10 months out of the year. anyway we stayed in contact and over the years he would fly out between tour dates and spend a few days with me. two years ago we decided it was very hard to be together long distance so we agreed to see other people because we were both lonely but we both knew we still loved eachother. we planned to get married when I moved from the west coast. he started seeing his ex and I met someone from work. we still stayed in touch and in love. well, I ended up getting pregnant and had a baby with a man i do not love, and still do not love. we lost contact after I had my baby, he was really hurt yet supportive of me keeping the child. I two years later, my son is over a year old and I still live with his father who is not a nice person at all. Recently we started talking again and although we are both in relationships the love is still there. I guess i just need advice on how to move on from here...i am staying with my baby's father for my son, but I love this other man so much. he is constantly touring so its not like we can be together because I cannot move to his home base because it would bring my son 2000 miles away from his dad. I just dont know what to do. I love him and I know we are destined to be together. sorry if my question is not really precise, but any advice would help me greatly. this man is always on my mind and I know now that i am always on his mind. thanks (link)
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You are in a really tight situation. Since the father of your child is a jerk, he might just not be the right one for you, even though the other guy is touring, you could find ways to still be with him. Either way you're going to have to make some sacrifices so you can be with who you want to be. I'm sorry I couldn't give you any better advice.
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how can i be a happy person if:
i hate where i live
i dislike every person who lives here
i am a moody person and get annoyed very easily
i go on and off with friends, like ill not like them, except one of them, for a week, then get annoyed with that person, and switch off (etc.)
sometimes i dont like any of them
after broke up with my bf almost 3 months ago, i forgot how to be happy, even though im over him now
i couldnt change friends even if i wanted to. the transition wouldnt be worth it.
please teach me how to be happy. i cant make myself have a better outlook on life. it just doesnt work. ill have happy times, but it doesnt last for long.what do i do with myself? i liked it better before i faced the reality of life. last year i was oblivious now after my 5 month relationship, i cant find that same high spirited person i used to be. where did that person go? how can i be that person again? how do i stop my moodiness? i cant help it.
thanks;;
xhopeless (link)
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Well nobody can teach you to be happy. Only you can. Maybe you should talk to somebody about it like a pyschologist. Think about the things that do make you happy in life and enforce them into your thoughts. Thins about what you really want in life and set some goals.
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16/f..i have a boyfriend..we've been together for almost 3 months..and he says I'm the "only one" yet..he flirts with girls in my face..acting like nothing is wrong when he talks to me after! he changed his myspace status to "single" but he still treats me the same..(like his gf) idk what's going on. whenever i walk by with him..holding his hand..if he sees a girl that he knows..she'll obnoxiously walk over to him..(as if not noticing I'm there) and go..Jimmy(not his name lol)!!!! HEY BOO! And she'll give him a greeting kiss..I won't respond to it..I'll pretend it never happened..though I'm a bit hurt inside. He talks about how hot girls are sometimes...though limiting that subject of conversation when I'm around. Whenever we talk..he doesn't sincerely admit how he feels about me..It's all physical. He talks about watching porn. Something you wouldn't do when you're around your girlfriend. It's as if he has NO regard towards my feelings..as if I'm SUPPOSED to hear that from him and stand it. This is my first boyfriend..so I'm not entirely sure. I'm not one of those people to speak when something is bothering them, so I'll keep it in. I didn't confront him about the comments he sends to girls on myspace..or his status. Or any of that. His ex-girlfriends also give me weird stares..and glances. I just want to know..In your opinion..do you think I'm just a make-out buddy for him? 3 months seems long enough to grow up..And he's my age, so he should at least TRY to act normally. I know I'll never be able to confront him..I'm too scared. He gets mad when I do that..and he might break up with me, lowering my already lowered confidence...
What can I do? (link)
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Girl it's simple. Dump the jerk. I have a feeling that he's either cheating on you or most likely he really doesn't think much about you. He may just think you're an item, but I already know you're more than that. You got to stand up to him and confront him, and tell him that if he doesn't want to take you seriously as a girlfriend, than he can forget all about you.
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I'm a 42 y/o single man. Less then a month ago my best friend died in an accident. I have not been able to come to grips with his death. I have recently been having thoughts of ending my life. This happens whenever I am alone, especially at night. I have lost loved ones before, including my parents and brother all within a year of each other, but I never felt this type of despair, or loneliness. I am afraid I may eventually give in to my suicidal urge. Can anyone help me? (link)
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The worst thing you can do right now is kill yourself. It's terrible that you have lost a lot of people who you love, but there a people still alive that would be heartbroken if you would kill yourself. I've been suicidal off and on, but now after I've been diagnosed with Lupus and given only eight years to live, I've realized that I have a wonderful life and I'm betting you do too. Think about how dissapointed your deceased parents, brother, and friend would be if you gave up.
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Usually I'm the one who is giving advice, but here goes nothing...
I seriously think I'm a shopaholic. Ever since I got an ATM card and car when I was 15, I would go to the mall everyday. I buy so many things I don't need. Sometimes I feel bad and return a few things.
It doesn't help that I'm pretty well off, the mall is two miles down the street, and the only stores in there are designer stores. Besides clothes and jewelry, I buy a lot of MAC makeup and my haircut costs $75.
All of these are things I don't need and could live without. I will sound spoiled for saying this but I'm so into luxury it's kind of hard to downgrade.
In addition, I drive an SUV which is roughly $60-70 a tank. I drive around a lot. Most of my money goes to gas, shopping and eating out all the time.
The only thing that has stopped is that I'm away at college now. Not having a car has really stopped me from buying so much, but I fear that once school is over, I'm going to go back to the same thing again. I went home for spring break for one week and spent $500. I don't even know where it went.
I am so ashamed because this money is supposed to be for my tuition. Hell, I've never worked a day in my life but I'm very serious about starting when I get back. Unfortunately, I feel like I'm going to spend my paycheck the day that I get it.
What do I have to do or say to stop my urges? I feel so guilty every time I come home with a trunkload shopping bags, but I just can't help myself. What should I tell myself? Does anyone else have this problem? (link)
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Omg lol you sound like me. Try to have a assertive family memeber or friend go shopping with you and tell them to try and stop you from buying big things you don't need. Have a trusted friend keep care of your paychecks and tell yourself that if you don't need these things don't get them. I know this advice sucks but I tried lol sorry.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend broke up last year..we were going out for a month and two weeks..and broke up because my friend kept putting drama in between us. Its been a while sense we broke up and i think i still love him? I had fallen for him sense i first met him and yea. My friends still ask me if i like him and i say no, but i do. Everyone thought we made a good couple when we were going out, and now he's going out with this other girl and he says he doesnt like me anymore..so..i really need some help in thiss. (link)
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Well think about how he really did treat you while your friends were creating drama, because there might be something behind that. And if he says he doesn't like you anymore, get over that loser he's a jerk.
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I am an 18 yr old girl w/ a bf who i have been dating on & off for about a year now. He asked me back out recently & i really didnt want to say yes but felt obligated to. so we're currently dating. recently, another guy has started to show interest in me. we hung out a few times recently & he actually kissed me. i feel awful because i dont think the guy knows about my bf & i know my bf doesnt know about the guy [they go to different schools] i know i need to make a choice but i dont know what to do... i have more fun with the other guy, but i know my bf is the better 'boyfriend' in the sitatuion. im so stuck! (link)
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It simple: Which one do you really love?
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