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i read some old conversations between my boyfriend and his e
ok... so im in new york for spring break and my boyfirend is home with his friends and stuff... well my sisters went out to the casino for one her 18th bday... and im here babysitting my neice and nephew and i got bored soo i got on his facebook.. and i was reading old messages between him and his ex and it was weird sexual comments and he told me they never really did much with her and by the messages it didnt seem that way and some of the stuff he said to her he has said to me... and he also sent one of hjis oer girlfriends he said he didnt really like that much he dropped flowers off on her porch... and like he acts like when he spends money on me he only does it to be nice... not because he wants to just cz he wants to be nice and i dont care if he spends money on me but the fact that he acts like im just his last priority... and i spent $75 on his gift for our three months and like 90 for christmas he didnt really seem like he liked it or appreciated it... and it bugs me that i read the messages and saw he does the same with me that he did with the other... idk i just felt really hurt by it even though i know it was in the past... but it still hurt nme to read it and im scared to talk to him about it because i dont want to fight while he is with his friends and im not going to be back till next weekend... im just hurt and dont know what to do and idk how he will act if i told him i read his messages even though he reads mine all the time... and he gets mad if i have pictures of guy friends and ex boyfriednds which i dont cz i took them down for him but he has a ton on his facebook of them kissing... and with ex girlfriends and he would get sooo mad if i ahd them on mine... i really dont know what to do!!! i dont want to lose him but being around him i wont want to be physical cz i would be thinking about that and i would have to tell him.... please help cz i bald my eyes out when i saw these messages...
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When your boyfriend is ... controlling you about what to do on your site, it's kinda messed up. It's also worse when you decide to give passwords to each other because you will sneak on and read messages. Even if you say you won't, you will still be curious and one day go through it.. and read something you do not like. You need to talk to him and set him straight about your issues. From my experience, the guys that control or either get mad at you over these small things.. usually are jealous or have no self confidence.. They feel like they need to restrict you, to keep you. I was with a guy like that.. it was a very long unhappy relationship.
I don't know any guy that keeps pictures of their ex up, especially KISSING? Did you even ask him to take them down? That you don't like it and that he gets mad when you put a picture up of a guy FRIEND. He shouldn't do that. I would NOT care what he thought about any pictures i put up.. considering his pictures. It's not even bad so you can put pictures up to get a conversation starting. I mean it's just your guy friends, he should know that it doesn't mean anything else.
You really need to talk to him. You don't have to bring up going through his messages. Just tell him you don't want to be his last priority and that you want to be appreciated because sometimes he doesn't show it. Don't buy him expensive gifts either, especially so early in a relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year.. we haven't spent more then $50 on each other yet. Small gifts are great and you wouldn't have to worry about them liking the gift.. if the money was worth it.. etc
Btw, if you are happy.. do not read his messages. I'm warning you. I've been there and done that. It will bother you until you bring it up and it causes all sorts of drama. He's going to say different things about his ex to you since he's with you. Of course he's going to say sexual things to his girlfriends, whether he did anything with them or not. His opinion changes since he's with you..
Do what you want. Put pictures up because his are far worse than any guy friend, you know? Don't get upset for the messages. it's in the past and shouldn't be brought up again. if anything, you should delete his old messages so you won't come across those again.
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If he hasn't deleted those messages or pics it means he still isn't over her. So obviously he's a jerk and not good enough for you if he doesn't appreciate any kind a gift you give him period. (It never really matters how much it costs or anything under that catagory, it matters how much you really love each other.) If can't hang out with just your guy friends, how come it's alright for him to hang out with his ex girlfriend? Sounds suspicious to me. So put those pictures back up because if he has those kinds pictures on there you can too, and second he can't control you. I really wouldn't trust him and his buddies, knowing how he's acting now.
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