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boyfriend acting weirdly
16/f..i have a boyfriend..we've been together for almost 3 months..and he says I'm the "only one" yet..he flirts with girls in my face..acting like nothing is wrong when he talks to me after! he changed his myspace status to "single" but he still treats me the same..(like his gf) idk what's going on. whenever i walk by with him..holding his hand..if he sees a girl that he knows..she'll obnoxiously walk over to him..(as if not noticing I'm there) and go..Jimmy(not his name lol)!!!! HEY BOO! And she'll give him a greeting kiss..I won't respond to it..I'll pretend it never happened..though I'm a bit hurt inside. He talks about how hot girls are sometimes...though limiting that subject of conversation when I'm around. Whenever we talk..he doesn't sincerely admit how he feels about me..It's all physical. He talks about watching porn. Something you wouldn't do when you're around your girlfriend. It's as if he has NO regard towards my feelings..as if I'm SUPPOSED to hear that from him and stand it. This is my first boyfriend..so I'm not entirely sure. I'm not one of those people to speak when something is bothering them, so I'll keep it in. I didn't confront him about the comments he sends to girls on myspace..or his status. Or any of that. His ex-girlfriends also give me weird stares..and glances. I just want to know..In your opinion..do you think I'm just a make-out buddy for him? 3 months seems long enough to grow up..And he's my age, so he should at least TRY to act normally. I know I'll never be able to confront him..I'm too scared. He gets mad when I do that..and he might break up with me, lowering my already lowered confidence...
What can I do?
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If you allow a guy to disrespect you and still get some action (and action doesn't have to be sex, it could be kissing holding hands fingering whatever) if you allow him to straight disrespect you like that and still give him action...he is going to do it. People will only treat you the way you allow your self to be treated. You gotta know you are worth it, you gotta be proud of who you are. That needs to happen aside from a guy. Cuase anyone that you think is "giving" you self confidence can easily take it away and then what? You gotta give you self, self confidence and then you gotta say hey...i can't make you be good to me, but what i can do is find another dude that will be good to me naturally. Feel me? So I say deal with his bullcrap as long as you need to, for you to learn whatever it is that this life lesson is teaching you, and then move on. Don't sit around waiting for him to dump you. Dump his behind. Say you know what...Infact! next time you see him kiss another girl infront of you, say you know what, since you like kissing on her so much go be her boyfriend and then keep it stepping. And most of all...MOST OF ALL! DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK NO MATTER WHAT. He will take this as a sign of weakness. He will say well all i have to do is be nice for a while and she will take me back every time and i can just keep on treating her like crap. I would just free myself up for a better dude.
Peace.
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maybe breaking-up would be the best for you guys. you should talk to him but dont sound like youre mad, frustrated, etc. just tell him that it hurts you that he flirts back to all those girls and about those messages and the status. and then again, say it hurts your feelings but you dont want to sound like a baby. then just leave it at that. if he doesnt change, im sososo sorry but you have to break-up and find someone better. but give him time.
let me know how it goes =]
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Girl it's simple. Dump the jerk. I have a feeling that he's either cheating on you or most likely he really doesn't think much about you. He may just think you're an item, but I already know you're more than that. You got to stand up to him and confront him, and tell him that if he doesn't want to take you seriously as a girlfriend, than he can forget all about you.
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Personally, I agree that your his make out buddy. You are young and don't need a lying, cheating gigilo of a guy. You should dump him or get revenge by flirting with guys hotter, and or uglier than him and maybe I'm wrong and he is a very horny male teenager and now days if you don't sleep with a guy he'll flirt with another girl and have intercourse with her...
I hope I helped...
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You've Met a Pimp.
And I know this because, well, I do the same thing. But The girs I mess with are all kinda like cool with being hook-ups, Idk i just dont date. My best advice, Break it off. Because he just wants to prob. have sex with you. Im sorry you had to stand all this, and I hope I help. Need anymore advice just ask :)
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I think your boyfriend is a total buttface! How could he talk about porn and hot girls in front of you? I think you should dump him--and fast. If you dump him first, he'll feel like shit but he deserves it. You need to find a better guy who will treat you with respect as his girlfriend. He's your first boyfriend, and you don't deserve that treatment.
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