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Is it really love?
Ok so my boy friend Dylan is really a great guy and I really do like him...The thing is that i don't have those "butterfly's" any more about him now all he does it piss me off all the time and what really makes me mad is that he said that he doesn't care if I'm mad because it doesn't effect him and he just treats me like crap all the time and I really do lie him I just feel like he is using me for sex.... like we haven't done anything yet but he is always wanting to make out and he is always hinting about it but I pretend that I don't know what he is talking about... like he said that "we are going to have fun when we turn 16...." and that "hopefully I want to too or will accept".... "but he has to wait until I'm 16 because that is what his dad said" and I turn 16 this month on the 20th and I don't know if I'm ready to have sex yet.... and I have a feeling that if he doesn't get what he wants from me that he is going to leave me..... well I talked to my best friend about this and we decided that I should deny him if he tries anything once I turn 16 and to see if that is all he wants from me..... but it makes me sad if that is all he wants because we have been dating for like 4 months now.... but yeah so like I don't really know what to do... so help me and give me your opinion on all of this....
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i think you should dump you especially because you think that he is using you because i think so too. i know its hard to break-up after so long but he might pressure you into doing something and might, not saying he will because i dont know him, even eventually rape you if you dont give him what he wants (when you guys are still together) and also, if all he does is piss you off and doesnt care about your feelings then he is definitely not the guy for you and you are waaaaay to good for him so just let him go and find a better man who cares about you. like my mom says "there's plenty more fish in the sea"
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If you feel like you aren't ready then you really shouldn't do it. This boy sounds like a normal teenage guy, he is very interested in sex. Whether he is simply using you for sex remains to be seen and I really can't tell you if he is or not. Once you turn 16 and he tries something and you don't feel comfortable with it, stop him and if he breaks up with you then you know. If he does then it is his lose, you deserve much better than someone who will just use you. Never compromise yourself for anyone, just remember that.
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I'm sorry hun, but from what you are telling me, it sounds like the only reason he's been waiting around for you for so long is so he can have sex with you.
If he doesn't get what he wants from you, you shouldn't be sad if he leaves you. I mean, the guy is using you! If you don't want to lose your virginity you DON'T HAVE TO! You will definitely regret it. When you meet the one, you'll know. It's not something you have to debate about.
Also, if he doesn't care about your feelings, that means he doesn't care about YOU. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't care about you???
Dump the guy and move on. Go with your first instincts, if you think he's using you, then he probably is.
Good luck girl!!!
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HUnn, it's simple, like you and your friend discussed, if he tries when you turn 16, you deny him. Besides the legal age in most places is 18, not 16. Anyway, if he leaves you, that's all he wanted in the first place and, as hard as it may be to hear, he's not worth crying over if that's all he wanted from you. Srry to tell you that.
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