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Ok so I'm 15/m, and I was at a school function, and some girl that I didn't know danced with me. So after I left she got my AIM screen name from one of my friends and went home and asked me to the prom and and asked if I would go over to her house Friday to have dinner and a movie and all that stuff. Problem is, I really don't like her, and I don't really know her at all either. What should I say? (link)
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why dont you talk to her. maybe she likes you too
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May 1st I'm going to have to wear a white dress for this really REALLY important thing of my entire life. I've been eatting like a pig beause... I guess its anxiety. Well I want to loose weight. Also, avoid the things that make me gain weight. I was thinking of diet pills but I hear they are REALY bad for you. Anyway, any tips to loose as many weight as I can in less than 2 months? Im not exactly looking for permenant diet plan just... an emergency one. Maybe if I only ate a certain amount of calories... or didn't eat or drink nothing but water... or... did a certain excersice. I don't know. Please pretty please HELP ME! Thank you sooo muh for your time! (link)
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Don't do that because that's scary and you could end up getting really sick. Just go on a SAFE diet and don't drink only water. Don't starve yourself. Eat fruits and vegetables. And try to exercise.
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(Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long! (link)
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WOW. you must really, really like James. It seems like he's all you have. and you need to tell him how you feel. cutting yourself is not the answer. you have to try to find some control. if you dont, then it will not be easy for you. and if you cut yourself more, you could really really hurt yourself. i never knew that loving somebody could make you feel like cutting yourself> not to be noisy, but is there something wrong that's making you do this? if there is then try to deal with it or talk to somebody about it that will listen.
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Ok, so there is this kid that likes me and I like him. I talk to him on the phone and at school. One day we got into the subject of boyfriends and girlfriends. So I said we would be like perfect and he goes yea let me think about it? Its been a month. How do I bring the subject back up, or do I just let it go? (link)
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bring it back up. you like him, he likes you, and maybe he doesn't know what to say. you should bring the subject up again. hope i helped
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I have been off and on with this girl named Lindsey for about a year we really loved eachtoiher but me being a guiy screwed everything up.I broke up with her because she likes another guy i still love her but her and this guy may go out i dont know what to really do i love her and she doesnt know if she loves me or not help me (link)
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talk to her and maybe you'll see if she still has feelings for you
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are you still on advicenators? (link)
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Ok well this may sound very dumb but here it goes . . . In P.E. we're doing swimming. Today I drowned during the class they were obviously able to resusatate me. I'm embarassed to go in school on monday. The girls in my school are very catty and news spreads fast at my school. I don't remember much of it. All I remember is trying to do a back dive into the pool and all of the water being pushed out of my lungs and trying to breathe next thing I know I'm laying o the hard floor with my class mates staring over me and the lifeguard. It was horrible and terrifying. How should I deal with the girls at school? Is it true that I could get Peunomia (sp?).
Thanks very much! (link)
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It's not your fault you drowned. It was an accident and people run they mouth too much. Especially girls. Don't be embarrassed. Some people drowned before. I have and so has my cousin. Except she died, but I came out okay and so did you. And that's the important thing.
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Things with me and my boyfriend have just been fucking pointless for a while now. He left for the army and I'm away at school. We can't physically be together until Christmas and we can basically only communicate through letters.
Plus, I basically feel no attraction to him anymore. He's too naive for me and he thinks that we're going to get married and all of this other stuff that I don't have planned at all -- does he listen to me? Hell no!
So basically I need to figure out what to tell this guy. He thinks I'm his only reason to live. And that's a pretty scary responsibility to have. (link)
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Then what you need to do is decide if you really want to stay with this guy, or break up. Tell him how you feel without breaking his heart. You and him will eventually find someone new.
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(14/f) Hey. I'm having lots of problems with one of my friends at school. Ever since she had joined the school play about a month ago, things have been going downhill. Her and I, including 3 others, were such a close group of friends. We sat together at lunch every day and talked about everything. Get where I'm coming from? I was totally happy with school and it was the only place I could go to get away from it all.
I thought I would do the right thing and not say anything about the new part of her life and let it just blow over and everything would go back to normal. The play's been over for awhile, but even still she's been paying more attention to everyone that was in that little play of hers than to any of us, and I feel its primarily us two that are drifting apart the most. Every conversation seems to wander to how the play was "so fun" and how she misses it. Me and the others just feel like we're horrible friends and we aren't good enough.
She's a member of NJHS (a group that meets after school and during lunch sometimes) and today she had a meeting. She came back in about half way through the lunch hour, put her backpack down where we were sitting, and just walked off and talked to her acting pals. I was really hurt and I felt like I was gonna cry.
I've tried confronting her about it and she just thinks we're being protective. I'm sick of them planning things right in front of our faces and I just want my old Taylor back!! Please please please, give me some help. I'm gonna die without her!
-Nicole (link)
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you gotta tell taylor how you feel. shes not gonna automatically assume whats going on in your head. if she is as good of a friend that you think she is, then she'll talk to you about it.
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(15/f) Okay so my bestfriend and I are on the tennis team and we're doubles partners, and we do really well in doubles. Earlier last week she told coach that she had a dermatologist appt. *wich she did* so she wasn't able to go the the tournament. So when she told me i already was like what?! You can cancell a dermatologist appt and re-scheudle it. And you just don't not go to a tournament for an appt, it's just not done! But now her appt. is cancelled but she says that she already bought tickets for a concert and isn't going to tell Coach that she in fact is able to go the the tournament. Basically, when coach finds out she was there the entire day she can and most likely will be suspened for the rest of the season from all tournaments. So that leaves me w.o a doubles partner. Basically, should I tell her this is a bad idea? And how!? Adn should I tell coach?! Ah sorry for the lengthy-ness!!! Thanks! Any help is greatly appreciated! (link)
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dont tell the coach, give your friend some time to figure out what to do. and tell her how you feel about it and dont forget to mention that you would be without a partner. talking is best.
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Ok well theres this girl(will call her lucy) and shes liked me for about a year. I want to go out with her but i guess i get shy and i never asked her out. Well now im going out with this girl (will call her choppy) and i like her becaues she reminds me of another girl i went out with and i cant really explain why i like her its just something you have to look into my eyes to understand. Any ways i dont know what to do because i like both of them and the other girl "lucy" has liked me for a very long time and we have a pretty goood relationship. So, what do you think i should do? (link)
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i think that you should talk to your friend lucy and get to know her better. and maybe you should talk to your girlfriend too. see what qualities you like in the both of them. and which ever one you like the most, call them up and tell them your real feelings. im not telling you to leave your girlfriend, but you should find out if there's anything else you need to know about her before you make your final decision. and if you do decide to go with lucy, try to remain friends with your girlfriend.
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whenever my friend talks to a guy i get really jelous.. its really wierd. and its only with her and nobody else. i don't get it. do i like have a crush on her or something or am i just a little protective?? help.
-confuzzled (link)
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your just being a friend. theres nothing wrong with showing a little jealousy, it shows you care. you should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel.
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Ok i know this is kinda gross, but i have really bad backne. (acne on my back) I dont know what to! I have to wear this really pretty dress to banquet in May, and its spagetti strap. These dont mix. Does anyone know any easy non painful ways to get rid of it? i rate high! (link)
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i heard that proactiv works, but i dont know if its only on the face, so i dont no about that. but i do know that sometimes bathing in oatmeal soup works. and being gentle with your skin works a lot. talk to your dermetologist or doctor and see if they have some "backne" cream they can give you.
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ok so i like really like this guy but hes got a gf, ive liked him for almost a year now and i dont know if i should give up on him or not. me and him are pretty close friendship wise but it looks like him and his gf are gonna be together for a long time.
should i give up or should i just wait it out? (link)
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that happens to a lot of people. its even happened to me. except for i never talked to the guy and his girlfriend was a good friend of mine. you should be open minded to other boys, but just because you have feelings for him, doesn't mean you should i hide it just because he has a girlfriend. your time will come soon.
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at school, its sooo annoying! i am so good in every subject...EXCEPT american History. i study so hard but i just cant do it. i got a 65% on my last test and my highest is an 80...but i always get 50's and 60's on them. my friend doesnt even have to study and she gets 90s and 100s. what can help me study more and learn/remember the stuff? (link)
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why dont you get tutoring from your friend. and if you still dont get it, try making history interesting for you. it helps most of the time. history isn't boring if you try to make a little fun out of it. sometimes history can be interesting.
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okay.. i have this guy friend.. and he used to sit behind me and we would talk and have so much fun! and we would flirt to. but i got my schedule changed and hes in only one of my classes. we dont talk that much any more.. though i wish we did. we have a dance on friday and i want to aske him to dance with me. like for a couple of songs. how should i do it.. w/ out messing up our kinda friendship?
sorry so long!
i rate high! (link)
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why dont you ask him and say you want to go as friends. just to have a good time. and you want to talk since you don't get to anymore. it usually works. but if he has a date, you should still go with friends and talk to him at the dance. a dance isnt just for relationships, its fun and a night out dancing with friends. so no matter what you do, as long as you're there with friends, nothing will go wrong. hope i helped.
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OMG i friggin dont kno how to tell my mom a need a REAL Bra I mean i tried once but like she is always busy with work and the weekends dont work becuz we are each doing our own thing please help
Tried of Training BRA (link)
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if your mom cant take you bra shopping, then ask somebody who you trust, a female would be best, and someone who knows what they're talking about. im sure your mom will take you bra shopping one day. but if you need it badly, you need to go with somebody else.
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ok, whenever my best friend hangs out with someone else, i tend to get really angry at her, i mean i love her to death, but, i dunno, i just get mad. I know that your can have more than one friend and all, but since like a few years back, its only been me and her hanging out, very rarely has it been with other people. I love her to death and i dont want things like this to change us!! How do i make this stop? please help!! (link)
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its probably not jealously. its concern. it happens to a lot of guys--even girls. its normal. i guess you're so use to hanging out with her by yourself that it just gets to you when she's hanging out with somebody other than you, and especially if it's another guy. so just talk to her and tell her you're feeling left out. because if you tell her that you just dont like her hanging out with other guys, she might not want to hang around you again.
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my friend steels stuff from stores, and it really bothers me. I'm afraid that if im with her when she does it ill get in trouble for it too. She trusspasses onto peoples property too. I dont think that she is a good friend for me, we get along really well and always have fun when we're together but i dont want to be her friend when she does that stuff. What should i do? (link)
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you should talk to your friend and ask her why she's stealing and trespassing through other people's property. if shes straight foward with you, then you should tell her how she can fix it. but if she does it just to be doing it, then you should tell her how you feel about it. if shes calm about the way you're trying to handle the situation, then she's a keeper. and if she snaps right away before you can put in your two cents, then shes a bad friend and you need to be searching for a new friend. hope i helped.
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how can i like.. "come out of the closet" to 4 of my best friends.. i tell them EVERYTHING and i just hate hiding from them. they know i'm in a relationship, they just don't know its with another chick. please help. (link)
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the first thing about friendship is honesty. and if you're not honest, then you would lose friends. so just be honest with them.
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