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uhh.. coming out
(15/f)
how can i like.. "come out of the closet" to 4 of my best friends.. i tell them EVERYTHING and i just hate hiding from them. they know i'm in a relationship, they just don't know its with another chick. please help.
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well wow well they should understand and still be your best friends, but you just don't know if they can keep a secret. i don't know what you should do. do what you think you should do. you know them really well and should know if they tell stuff like this. and what they think about girl and girl relationships.
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Tell them what you said in your question - that you really care about them and tell them everything, and so you hated hiding this.
Your sexuality is a normal part of who you are, and any halfway intelligent friends will understand and support that fact. You can always point out that you haven't changed.
Coming out can be hard, but it's also very liberating. Best of luck.
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If your best friends really care about you, they should listen and understand and won't care that you are dating a girl. They should accept you for who you are and will be there for you. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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if they really are your best friends then they wont care. but the longer you hide it the more upset they will be that you didn't tell them. just come out and say it. i never been in that situation before so i dunno HOW to tell them. but if my friend was gay i would want to know. coz that way i would know that she really does trust me and we have a good friendship.
~ANGE
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"Shouldn't" is a long distance from "won't". Personally, I wouldn't tell them. Maybe you'll get lucky, but my dim view of human nature is practically garunteeing that it'll cause problems. Nothing at first but then they'll start distancing themselves and... I'd hazard that you can imagine the situation.
Ignoring all that, I'd suggest that you not make too big a deal of it. Mention it out of hand if the topic comes up, and move on to something else. They'll probably think you're kidding at the time, but it'll get them used to the idea, and they'll start considering that you might have been telling the truth.
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the first thing about friendship is honesty. and if you're not honest, then you would lose friends. so just be honest with them.
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If you tell them everything anyway, they should totally understand! Just explain that you feel the most comfortable in the relationship you are currently in, and they shouldnt look at you any differently because of your sexual preference. Just follow your heart! PLEASE RATE! HOPE I HELPED!
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