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Break-up
Things with me and my boyfriend have just been fucking pointless for a while now. He left for the army and I'm away at school. We can't physically be together until Christmas and we can basically only communicate through letters.
Plus, I basically feel no attraction to him anymore. He's too naive for me and he thinks that we're going to get married and all of this other stuff that I don't have planned at all -- does he listen to me? Hell no!
So basically I need to figure out what to tell this guy. He thinks I'm his only reason to live. And that's a pretty scary responsibility to have.
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tell him there is another girl that is right for him but its not you.also his life is not your problem so don't feel guilty i think this guy is being a drama king!lol!let him down gently and don't hurt his feelings.he will get over it!don't let him control your life.
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Before you do anything, think about your feelings. Is the lack of attraction due to not seeing him? If so, is it worth it to you to keep waiting?
And if he listened, would you want to be with him? How hard have you tried to explain your side of things to him?
I agree that it sounds like you are ready to end things with him, but you'll want to be careful. If he's away in the Army and thinks you are his only reason for living, you'll want to break it to him very gently. Perhaps you can wait until you are on the phone or next see him, or write him a honest, open letter.
It's not fair to either of you for you to stay in a relationship where you aren't happy. At the end of the day, we're each responsible for our own happiness. We just need to make sure we're careful of other people's feelings when we make tough choices.
Best of luck.
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i would hate to be that guy havin to wake up everyday and have to love something as ungrateful as u
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Then what you need to do is decide if you really want to stay with this guy, or break up. Tell him how you feel without breaking his heart. You and him will eventually find someone new.
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You are right you need to write him a letter and tell him how you feel and that you need to break up and maybe go back out in the future but you would like to see other people in the mean time. You would love seeing him during x-mas but you think a break could be good. And your not ready for all this committment! good luck!-trix
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Dear Break-Up,
This seems pretty serious. Ok, if you don't want to be with him anymore that is perfectly ok. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel (even if it hurts) he needs to know the truth. Tell him there are other reasons out there to keep living besides you. If he still doesn't get the message then try to have someone who you know he'll listen to help you get the message across. I hope I've helped you in some way with your problem. Good Luck :)
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