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I am amanda
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Amanda
E-mail: a_cherrymann@hotmail.com
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So my first real boyfriend.. we went out for a long time. He didn't treat me right and for some reason he didn't really notice that.

So we were friends with benefits on the verge of a relationship again cept not. (link)
i dont think that ex 1 should be jumped either but it is good that u got a man looking after you. see i am what you would cal a "ho " according to a lot of girls at school but to the guys i am perfectly fine and they all care bout me. I love them to death and i know that if anything ever happened to me they would be on that kid like no other. each and every one of them. back to the point... just be glad that you have a guy to look after you. i dont think that you should let ex.2 beat up ex.1 because it doesnt need to happen. I think that point that ex.2 is trying to get across is that he still cares 4 you and he doesnt want you to get hurt. I hope that helped. =) Amanda


This guy at my class always look at me and smile. He finally start to talk to me 2 weeks ago, and being really sweet to me. He asked me out for little thing as getting coffee, buying cds...etc., but never a real date. (since I knew him the second day)
Most importantly, we only knew each other for less than 2 weeks.
We went out today after class for coffee, when I said bye to him, he kissed my cheek for goodbye.

Is he just flirting with me? or Does he like me? what should I do? I think he's a really nice guy, but hardly even knew him..... I'm confused.
HELP!! (link)
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww...that is so sweet...dont you wish all guys were like that...this guy really likes you and when he kisses you on the cheek he is making the first move. and the only way that you can show him that you like him is to make the second move. but if he is going to fast for you tell him that you like him but he needs to slow down. I hope that i helped.=)Amanda


my 15 month old son keeps bittind me and wont stop. ive tried rubbing his gums and give him meds to help with the teeth pain. but everytime i smack him when he bits and say no he just laughs at me and does it again. how can i get him to stop? (link)
well i dont mean to sound harsh or anything but you need to find out a taste that he doesnt like. my cousins son used to do that to me so i put vinegar on my arm where he bites most and he has never bit me since. put something on your arm that he dosnt like the taste of. i hope that helped...sorry if it didnt!=)


k so i am a female and i've had my period for 2-3 years now. and i don't have arm pit hair. not that i'm complaining! haha it's great not to have it, but i was wondering, is it like weird not to have it, like is it normal..thanks in advance (link)
i play volleyball and it is like my second life but i do get sweaty and i get armpit hair and believe me you do not want it. you are lucky! Just be happy while you dont have it! I think that it is perfectly normal.


well..i'm a senior in high school..and i applied to lots of colleges and got accepted..the problem is..im worried about it. like im already overwhelmed with high school classes..and i cant imagine classes being harder than they already are..and no i dont go to a private school or anything like that..so what do i do? (link)
it is normal to be worried. you have been with loved ones your whole life and you have to go to college and get away from them. it sucks prolly. I have cousins that go to college and they say that it sucks at first but then college is a blast. He says that the classes do get harder and that you have to study a lot more than you do in high school but he said that you also have time to make new friends and go to parties. he said that it is a blast and that it has been some of the best years of his life. And he goes to Princeton.
I hope that helped.=) if u want more of an answer you can email me at a_cherrymann@hotmail.com


This confuses me to the point where it makes me sad.
Ill explain the situation.
A guy.
Me and my friend both like.
We all know eachother VERY well.
He claims he hates both of us.
He told me he didnt hate me anymore,yet he told someone else he did.
He tells he hates her and he likes me as a friend.
Yet, he wont talk to me at school.
But, sometimes he talks to her.
Usually , he'll try and get my attention but not talk to me.
Or when we are together, he will do something to her and not me[for attention],he'll just like give me this stare.
oh yeah, i forgot to mention that both of us did sex kinda stuff with him, but i did it more and he said he would do it with me again but not her.
But at the same time, at school he would call me fat and etc.
IS this kid on drugs or what?
I need help , this is always making me sad.
And your gonna say to move on, i try and i try and i try,
i cant get over this kid.
Ive liked him ON and OFF for 3 years, but this time has been the most

thnks
(link)
i think that this guy is just not emotionally ready to handle everything that is going on right now in his life. maybe not i dont know. but to me it sounds like he does like you and your friend but he doesnt want to show it in front of his friends so he tries to hide it by telling his friends thsat your fat. i dont think that you should move on because the same thing is happening to me right now but i think that you should confront him about it and ask him y.i hope that i could help.=)


So this year, in my class.. I have my friend, Terry and this girl, Katie.

Terry has been my friend for almost 3-4 years. We were at the same middle school so she knows me.

But this new girl, Katie... is really weird.
Our class is Biology.

And since I had to retake .. I'm aware of all the things we have to do. Katie.. is a baby about it. She won't touch things or work with us. I'm quite tired of doing things by myself. She often comes into Terry and I's group.

She's annoying sometimes, assuming everything about everyone.. and she doesn't even know me.. and she talks about me like she does. It just bothers me.

So in this lab before.. she didn't know what she was doing and I was trying to explain it to her.. but she was messing up our slides. So I took over and Terry said at lunch.. Katie said she hated me?

I didn't really care because I need good grades this year. And if I have to do things myself, I must do so. After that I let her lead the group and we had this drawing thing to do.

She made us start over 3 times so I took the paper home and did most of the work. She got mad at me. Even though I left work for all of us to do.

I may sound mean. :I

Terry stole something off of Katie. I was laughing at Terry because she's a funny person. The whole stealing thing wasn't my idea. So Katie noticed her missing things and while I was laughing at Terry.. she thought it was me! She called me a bitch and came up to me cussing me out. "Give me my fu*king things!" so Terry put the items on my desk under my bag. And I would not move because obviously it looked like I stole it.
And my word against hers.. is poo. So Terry took the blame and Katie still seems to hate me? She said she was sorry but I know she somewhat hates me.


I don't know what to do.
I work well with my friend Terry but not someone that doesn't pay attention in class and almost destorys our experiments. We have this egg project and we had to leave an egg in a beaker full of vinegar. Yeah? Well she takes out the egg and just.. throws it onto the table when the teacher said not to 3 times. And if there's a crack.. we can't continue the lab.

We told her not to touch certain liquids and then she got skin eating liquid on herself.. and she blamed me! I don't know how she got it on herself because we all touched the same beaker. (There was a blister)

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. She's annoying me and my friend now.

What can I do? Do I sound like a bitch or something? (link)
be a bitch about it. she doesnt deserve to treat you like that. And dont go off easy on her either. if she is blaming you for everything that you do then dont cut her no slack man comeon.she is being a bitch to you you need to be a straight up bitch back i aint kiddin either.i dont mean to sound harsh or straightforward or anything but it can just get on my nerves when people annoy me or other people. I hope that i helped which i prolly didnt so sorry if i didnt.=)


In a recent Cadillac commercial, the background song has the lyrics "I'm a punkrocker yes I am." I tried googling it, and after a long time of searching, came up with two bands. I'm looking for the original song in the commercial, not a technoy redone one.


Thanks! (link)
I think that it is by the Teddybears. hope it helped a lil' bit.=)


i have to very best friends who are also friends. my female friend has a lot of feelings for my guy friend. about a month ago he broke up with a girl who cheated on him a lot and always lied about where she was. the other week they were flurting a lot. now she has a whole lot of feelings for him. and we dont know what his intentions are with her. he stilld flirts a little and she has already told him that she doesnt want someone messing with her emotions and he agreed. but he still flirts with her. what do you think we should do? should she let him know how she feels? or should i do the ditry work and ask him for her how he feels about her? we just dont know what to do. she is afraid if she asks and he saids he doesnt see he that way that they wouldnt be able to stay friends cuz then it would be weird between them. she is also afraid not to say anything becuase what if he does have feelings for her but doesnt want her to feel like a rebound? and i feel like im stuck in the middle becuase i dont know what to tell her anymore. please some advice anyone. (link)
exactly what the person under me said: play a game with him. start naming off random people and then put your friends name in there and see if he likes her and then tell her to take a chance and tell him. I know that i am pretty much repeating what the person below me said but it was really good advice.i hope that i helped.=)


15/f

I know this question is getting old but I'm in some need of advice. Preferably from a guy.

Alright, Well I'll just use my name and his.. I'm not ashamed:].

OK well heres the situation.. Mike was being all nice and sweet to me. I known him for a good year and I liked him last year and he liked me. Lets just say wrong move by me and I never got my chance with him. Well now this year we have a class together and we flirt like crazy. Well just recently my uncle fell ill and so Mike put "hope your uncle gets better sara" in his MSN Personal Message space. Well he's like my support system when I'm down. I always tell him he's the bestest and he says you are too. So basically it feels like he's into me but thats where I got lost I'm guessing. We had made plans to hangout just didn't know when exactly. Well we still haven't set a date yet but we know what we're gonna do and he seems excited. Like he was like
"Can I go into A.E while we're at the mall?" and I was like
"Yes of course, but can I go into boathouse while we're there?"
And he said yeah of course and that we'll go together.
Basically he lights up my life(sotospeak) But now I'm confused by him. His p.m read what I said up there and well my family came over and so I was downstairs with them so I was on msn as away, so I never had the chance to see him sign in. Well when I came back up his p.m said "get better soon nicole." Which I understand that his friend is sick and all and thats fine but what I don't get is, when I changed my status to online in a matter of 5 seconds he was away and then next time I looked(about 10 min later) he was offline.

I know I didn't give enough useful information for the question I'm about to ask but please make do with what I gave.

Does he like me even just a little bit or am I blinded by the light, and should just give up on a year long crush?

Thanks sooo much. (link)
I think that this guy likes you but he also likes the other girl Nicole.And believe me he is gonna be attracted to other girls other than you while being attracted to you at the same time. Its what all boys do. And they make you jealous by doing it. I know from experiance. But I have to tell you...you will never know unless you try to make things work. I dont want u to get hurt hun so what i think you should do is make the first move.

if you have any other questions for me I am always here. Just email me at: a_cherrymann@hotmail.com

I hope that my advice helped and you work things out.=)


I cry like 2-3 times a week for one reason.
A boy,I will tell you my story.
He moved here about 3-4 years ago, he was a new kid so i just messed with him and thought he was cute.[I'll call him "B"]
Then we would talk online and stuff and see eachother around the neighborhood and stuff,so i had a crush on him.
He acted like he liked me, he would call me ,Im me, all that good stuff but he would say he liked my friend but he would like invite me over and stuff all the time.
Then I got over him , next year came around and i liked a totally different boy until the end of the year.
My Best friend came over and was pretty good friends with "B" so we would hangout , which made my crush on him come back.We started talking more again online and on the phone, then we did ""stuff"" and he still continued to call me and talk to me online
yet he would say he didnt like my best friend.
Our school found out about what we did and everyone knows.
Of course , we both deny it,
At the exact time of all the rumors going around i moved out of the nieghborhood he lived in.
He started hating me becuase he thought i went around telling everyone [which i didnt] and we didnt really say much to eachother for about a good month or 2, besides the occasional him taking something from me or flicking me or some boy shit they like to do.
Just recently , maybe a week or 2 ago he randomly started talking to me [honestly i didnt expect it]
online, he said he didnt hate me and we started talking and he even asked me questions about why i moved and he told me to move back and just some other conversation.
After that one night , he never talked to me again.
My friend talked to him and asked about me and said he hates me so much and he said he has ALWAYS hated me.
Which makes me cry becuase i miss everything we used to have [but it wasnt a relationship, it was a friendship with benifits]
I dont know if he was just saying that to get as many people to believe we didnt do what we did, or if he really hates me?
Sorry this was soooo long, i just need help and I cant be sad anymore
and please dont say to move on, ive tried
and tried and tried
it isnt working at all
What shld i do? (link)
wow that is really sad and i hurt for you girl. he is just a dick and i know that it hurts but he never really liked you or he did he just didnt want anybody else knowing that he did. But if i were you i would save the tears. There are more important things in life and i just wish that i was as strong as you. If i was in your position i would cry myslef to sleep at night. But he is a dick and you are too good for him. Even to good to be friends with him. You got this girl just be strong and dont let it hurt you like that. I hope that i could help=(


HOW THE HELL DO YOU MAKE THIS STUFF TASTE GOOD?!?!?

And of course any recipe you provide...should have low fat and calorie content....

thank ye

P.S. Its chocolate flavored (link)
I dont know what whey protein tastes like but my step dad has it and he puts it in skim mild. And he said that the only way to make it taste good was to sweeten it yourself. But if u are going to sweeten it use splenda and not regualr sugar or anything like equal. I hope that i helped.=)


Ok so I got on the depo shot just before thanksgiving. I skipped a period. And then I started one in late december. I have been bleeding for 3 weeks. At the beginning it was just brown spotting and now it is like a regular period. But just this morning I went to the bathroom and a large peice of something fell out into the toilet. It wasn't a blood clot it was bigger and not red..i'm not sure what it was. And then when I got into the shower a huge peice of blood[blood clot or whatever] fell out of me. It was a bit bigger than a toddlers hand. I don't know why it was so big. Maybe it was because of the depo. Please help!! I don't know whats going on. (link)
i know that i dont know anything about what you are going through but i really think that you should go to your doctor. I dont want to seem rude but you should call someone and ask like the nurse hotline or something. i dont want to be answering this question without knowing about it but it seemed serious and i want you to do something about it.


so i have to give this 10 min speech. and i have no clue what topic to do. so far ive thought of

school dress codes
off campus lunchs
abortion
how technology is changing life.

but i feel those topics wont be good enought to last me 10 mins.

it can be either a persuasive speech or a informative speech.

please help me.
its part of my final.
and its due of friday january 12th. (link)
unlike what a different columnist said. i think that you should go with abortion. a teacher cant give you a bad grade because what you did on your repot offended him. abortion is a good issue to do because there are two strong sides of it. go with the one that you want. i did a speech on abortion and it lasted about 15 and 1/2 minutes. it is a good topic and i think that you should go for it. i hope that i helped.=)


14/f
There's this guy in school that I like that I dont're really talk to that often. I want to ask him to the Sadie Hawkins dance, but I'm not sure how to, thinking it might be kind of awkward because we don't talk that often. What would be a good way to ask him...and is it appropriate that I ask him? thanks. (link)
just go up to him and ask if he wants to go to the dance with you. dont plan a speech or anything because that just sounds cocky ya know. act natural like you know him like a best friend. dont stress. and remember guys feel the same way when they want to date or go to a dance with u. U have the guts i know you do. u can do it. i hope that helped.=)


if you have the left side of your lip pierced will it affect the way you give head? like, is it gonna get caught somewhere or something? haha i know that sounds horrible so im debating whether to get it pierced or not.

Advice from people with the piercing already would be greatly appreciated (link)
it wont get in the way. I know from experiance. but i didnt take care of it and my piercing closed. but it doesnt get in the way. and all the guys that i have slobed know to say that it actually felt better than when i had givent hem head before. just dont do it for a couple months after getting it pierced. it sucks and it hurts when it gets caught on anything. just make sure that it has healed.


So I'm buying my friend's old bass guitar from her, because she's selling it cheap and I thought it would be fun to teach myself how to play. I need to know where I can get equipment (extra strings, a case, an amp, etc.) cheap. It's a Bradley, if that helps, in good condition except the neck is just slightly warped (this is no major prob).

Also, if you have any tips on teaching myself, let me know.

Thanks in advance!
-moi (link)
umm.. i know that they sell them at music stores and whatnot but i have an uncle that plays guitar and i will ask him and then edit my answer
i hope i will get in contact with him soon.


So I go to a hookah bar everyfriday night, but last friday i went and like two days later i got this like, kind of like a cold sore on the side of my mouth like a little off the corner of my mouth. And I was wondering like what is it? Does it have to do with the hookah? like could somebody have had an std and givin it to me by the hookah head? (link)
umm.. i think that it could very well just be a cold sore but it may also be an std. just go to your soctor and have it checked out. like one person said a cold sore is a form of herpes. and thats what you might have. it might also be mono or a different disease that you get from kissing. Im not sure but i think that you should go to ur doctor and get it checked out.


During lunch, I sit with one of my best friends. She's nice, but when she eats, I can see every since crumb of food in her mouth in mushed up form, and she talks while she is at it too. I can't help but want to stop being friends with her for this. One time food even spit out of her mouth onto me! She doesn't even realize how vulgar I feel watching this! It's hard to ignore when she sits right infront of me. What is a nice way to approach her about this? (link)
I used to chew with my mouth open too. And then my mom told me that i needed to chew with my mouth closed and it was really embarrasing so I stopped. Just tell her in a nice way. And it will help her in the long run. even if she gets mad at you for the time being she will eventually come around and she will see that all you were trying to do was help her. I hope that i helped.=)


Will replacing soda and only drinking water as a drink really make you lose weight? If so, why? (link)
i think that in time it will help you loose weight. but i am not completely sure. I am sure that when you drink water you loose a lot of your water weight. so in time i think that you would prolly loose weight.




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