Hello my names Lili. I am 20. I am college student. I honestly love people. I am a communications major. I am the go to girl for advice among my friends. You need help ask me and I will do my best to give you advice. We all need advice every once in a while. My goal is that the advice I give you will help you with whatever problem you have. I cant guarantee a perfect answer. But I can guarantee that I will try to help you.
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Location: California
Age: 20
Member Since: June 12, 2010
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Last Update: September 16, 2012
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So, I am 18f and I have a boyfriend that is 18 as well. He lives about 40 minutes from me so I like it when I have time to drive to his house or for him to drive to my house. The one thing I wish we could do more, is sleep at eachothers houses. He has never slept over at my house, but I have slept at his house about four times now. We have been dating for about four months, I have known him for seven. His parents don't want him sleeping over at a girls house or a girl sleeping at their house near eachother. The first few times I was at his place we were three floors apart and then the next few times we were on the same floor, but in separate rooms. I just think, it is not like we are having sex, because we never have. Also, I would hope that his parents trust us or should I say me. We just want to spend more time with eachother and by being able to stay over and not have to drive home late at night, we can lay beside eachother and talk/cuddle/fall asleep together. Its just easier and more enjoyable, you know? What are some things we can do to make our time together more valuable? I really wish his parents would let us stay over at eachothers so that we could spend the whole weekend together and not just one afternoon. He is in Uni and we both have jobs. Please help me with some ideas, thanks!
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Do you maybe know anyone that lives around your boyfriend like a friend of yours that you can stay over for a night?
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so , I met this guy , and so we hanged out and everything , but then... he talked to me about sex... like he said he wanted to get me comfortable for a week and then have sex on the end of that following week and then I told him , oh well you know I can't have it that fast, so then he went on about like if I came over later he'd have my top off , and he another time said oh I shaved for you bla bla... and then I got sick of it and I told him and he was all insulted and he said well that's not why im talking to you , I really want you , and I want to love you. And he told me the way he was going to ask me out was by a song and dance? should I buy it? and he barely talks to me anymore and I Said I wanted to go to the movies hes like no not going to the movies till we have a stable relationship... now we barely talk...
what do I do leave it? (link)
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Well this guy is after only one thing, and that is SEX. He made it pretty clear. The stuff about saying that he doesn't want to go to the movies till a stable relationship is total bull shit. I am sorry, but in order to get to know someone, you would usually go on a date and get to know them better. This guy is a total tool. You can do better.
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Paracetamol havent worked, so i am going to try another way and that is slit my wrists and then it will all be over. That is how i want it (link)
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I think you are calling out for help. Call the teen hot line in your area. Go call a therapist for help. It's okay to ask for help. But suicide is not the answer.
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Hi 8)
ok i have a huge problem and its been on my mind for ages basically theres this boy i really like but he doesnt know me. he doesnt even know i exist. i see him sometimes but he hasnt ever seen me. ive had a crush on him for 5 and a half years now and i really want to meet him i hardly ever see him now only sometimes, and im always with parents when i do see him. i think im in love please help i need to find a way to speak to him, hes been on my mind a lot lately and i cant eat, think or study please help
thanks in advance (im 19)
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Hi there!
I honestly been there before. I was twelve when I met him. He knew who I was because of a mutual friend, but we kind of talk, but nothing more. I had the biggest crush on him, but we were never more then anything. Then as we got into high school he ignored me. But I really wanted him. Like I wanted him to talk to me and get to know each other. He was always in my head. It been like this till Junior year in high school. I dated around and stuff, but like I really wanted him. Then finally one day, I had enough. There are other guys, who are great guys, who talked to me, listened to me and made me laugh. Now we are in college, we do our own thing. This is what I learned, don't waste your time on someone who don't give you the time of the day. There are other great guys out there who would give you time of the day. See, the way I see it is, he missed out not me. I now have a guy who I am talking to and getting to know who respects me, likes me for who I am. He treats me so well. So the point is, don't waste your time pinning over a guy who don't give you a time of a day. You deserve someone who will give you their time, and you deserve someone who pays attention to you, and truly respects you.
But, if you really want to go talk to him, then go up to him and introduce yourself. Or if you both are in a place somewhere, just start a conversation, like if you see him wearing a t- shit of a band you like, say something like hey, I see you like (Name of band). I love them. or something along those lines to start a conversation. And hey maybe you guys might have some connection. So I hope my advice to you helps. But if after the conversation and nothing comes out of it, then move on. Don't waste your time.
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hi m sarab 25 years old..i want to commit sucide just beacause m very poor n i lost ma first love just because i m not fucking rich....but now i have already in a relationship with some other girl n in this case also money comes between us...she belongs to very rich family ...n the main problem is m unemployed n totally dependent on others even sometimes i feel hungry so i cant afford to buy 1 burger...i tried so many times to get visa of USA but every time i wasn't able to get it...every day my father discouraged me alot,..he says i spent lot of money on u..but now m not gonna spend a single penny on u, m so helpless so i think sucide is the best way to keep my self satisfy.... (link)
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No, suicide is not the answer. Suicide will NEVER BE THE ANSWER. When life get's tough there's always a silver lining. Through every darkness there's always a light somewhere. Life may get tough, but you can get through it. Just have hope and faith that things are going to get better in life. Because with everything that just falls apart and breaks, hope is the only thing that keeps us going. My mother always tells me, "Life is not easy. Life is a uphill struggle. But it doesn't mean it's not worth living for. What you struggled and overcome is your greatest success and pride." Those are true words. Life is not easy. Life is tough especially this bad economy. Being in college is hard, and working and doing stuff is hard. There are times where I have to deal with so much drama. But guess what? At the end of the day, I thank god. I thank god, for everything I work hard for and everything I have. I thanked god, for the place I internship for. I am happy everyday at the teen hot line that I helped someone in need. I don't get paid by the way. Knowing I helped someone was pleasure enough. Just know life is going to look up for you. Just keep fighting and holding on. Be strong. Because in the end, god will take care of you. Because in the end, all your struggles will pay off. Life is worth living for. You only have one life. This is it. You are so young with so much potential in this world. Don't let your father discourage you. Don't let anyone discourage you. You live your own life. You run your life. SUICIDE is NOT THE ANSWER. There are brighter days in life. Just keep fighting. Please do not kill yourself.
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I want to commit suicide. I want someone to help me do this. Please let me do it. (link)
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Please don't do this. Trust me, suicide is not the answer. I went through the toughest moment and darkest moments in my life before. When I was 13 I was very depressed. I hated everything in my life. There was days that I just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up ever again. There was times in my life that I thought life was not worth living for. Maybe death was where I belonged. But eventually things change. My depression lifted. I'm 19 now, happy most of the time. Yes there are times where life is difficult, but it is still worth living for. The reason why I got better was because I started thinking about all the good things in life. I thought about the people I cared about. I thought about what it would do to the people I love if I ended my life. And I realize I don't want to die. I got too much to live for. I got too many hopes and dreams to fulfill. I got so much to live for. I realize my goal in college is to help people. I wanted to help people. It's my purpose in life. I love it when people ask me for help and I direct them to the right direction. I work for the teen hot line center as an intern. I work but get paid no money. But, I like it, because all the callers call for help, and I feel so accomplished when I help someone feel better about their lives. So I am begging you, don't do it. Don't kill yourself. Because, I promise you there is a silver lining among those dark clouds. There's a rainbow after the storm. There's is going to be clarity. I promise you that. What helps when you go through sad day is to listen to music, take a walk, call a friend, draw, write in your diary. Those things all work for me, when I have a bad day. Killing yourself does not solve the problem. Think about all the people who love you. They will miss you. Think about what it would do to them. You know the cliche saying that life goes on. It does. Life goes on. You got to accept the hardships in life, and move on. Keep pushing forward. You could make your world as happy as you want it to be or as small and sad as you want it to be. Don't kill yourself.
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okay so theres this guy at work,I just starting working there like a month ago we worked together alot and talked, and he asked for my number.Well about a week and a half ago we hung out 3 times. He met my parents the third time we hung out because my parents always want to be introduced to the guy.So during our third date he was driving me home and he talked about us (he went away to college the next day, so it was cute he spent his last night with me) and he was saying how this happened to him twice he was hanging out with this girl and he messed it up the first time and he said he thinks he knows how to do it this time. He said to not think hes ignoring me hes just really busy with school and he said that if we kept doing this that I could visit him at school during the week or he could visit me during the week or come home on the weekend and he said he didnt want me to think he was just messing around with me and I said good because i would kick his butt at work lol and he laughed and said yeah and things would get pretty awkward at work. And then we kissed for awhile kinda like he wasnt going to see me for a long time type of kiss.(by the way he only works one day a week because hes so busy with school) So all last week he never contacted me once. He used to text me only on the nights we were going to go out to say like if I was ready or something but he never texted me just to even talk. So I texted him on wednesday just to talk and we talked for like 2 hours I asked him if he was coming home and he said maybe sunday because he forgot some things so we could hang out i said oh okay then I didnt hear from him the rest of the week until saturday when he came in to get his check ( but he came in during the time I was working he knew my schedule) and he acted normal with me and he was flirting and he asked how school was and how his was and he said he didnt like it because he didnt have time for anything then we talked for a little but then he left and said ill talk to you later. Well last night I texted him hey (I was assuming he wasnt going to be home because we didnt hang out) and I told him I was visiting a friend at this college and he said I shouldve told him because his friend lives up there too and I said well will you be home tomorrow ? (since it was labor day) and he said he might but he could try to come down anyway and hang out for a little and I said sure let me know.Well today he never texted me. Its going on almost 2 weeks since we last hung out and he never texts me just to talk I had to do it twice. I might just be paranoid but I mean I know college can be busy and time consuming but if you really wanted to see someone that you liked wouldnt you make time to see them and text someone you liked just so they know you were thinking about them? Im just so confused by him. I mean not to sound conceited or anything because im far from it but other guys have been texting me and asking me to hang out with them and there doing everything i wish he was doing now..but I dont want those other guys you know? and I dont even know if the guy wanted us to talk to other people as well so were not "exclusive". But I mean the way he was talking about us in the car sounded like he didnt want me to talk to other guys you know cause we work together that would be awkward so I feel like he wouldnt play me but do you think thats how it sounded? What should I do and what does this all mean? lol Sorry this is so long Im just completely confused as you already know and I didnt want to leave anything important out but if you could help me I would appreciate it thanks!:) (link)
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Hi. I don't mind long questions.:) I am happy to give you some advice.I am a full time college student taking 18 units. It is a full load, which takes a lot of time. But, I still find time to text, call and go on facebook to return comments and messages to friends. Even though I am busy, I still find time for friends and family because they are important to me. But even though he goes to school full time, it's not possible for him to be at school all day. The most class I take a day are two classes day sometimes in a semester three and that's it. The other rest of my day goes to the library to study,meet up with study groups, hang out with my friends and do other social activities. So if you mean a lot to this guy, he would schedule a day out oh his busy schedule to hang out. And he should never be too busy to text you every now and then to let you know that he is thinking about you. If you mean something to him, then he should make an effort. After all in all relationships, communication is the key. I think you need to go talk to him, ask where you stand with this guy, if he wants something serious or not. If he doesn't then move on. I hope this helps.
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so im 17 and my bf is 21 i thought i would end up having a happy life with hin but 4weeks ago he got arrested and he told me it was because he violated probation. even though he was locked up he called me every day and he asked me would i wait for him and i said i will because he is my future husband. so one day i wanted to see his mug shot so i googled his name and i found out the real reason why he was locked up was because he's a drug dealer.... now im feeling like i dont really know him any more and is this what i really want in my life. he dont know that i know the real reason why he's locked up im just waiting till he gets out to confront him. should i try to help him change or should i move on. i really dont want to leave him. i love him soooo much. (link)
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Honestly honey move on. You got so much going for you in in your life. You don't need a man who would lie to you. You deserve a better bf than him. After all he lied to you about his sentencing, what else can he be hiding from you.
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This guy and I have been really good friends for a very long time, and its always been obvious that we have feelings for eachother. We went to school together until last January when I moved to a different school an hour and a half away. But we've kept in touch a LOT and we still talk every day. Well this year he graduated and is going to college, and I'll be a senior in highschool. His college is almost 5 hours away, and even when he comes home, his house is still and hour and a half away from mine.
Lately, we've been talking about getting together finally, but we don't know if its a good idea to start a long distance relationship with some one who is just about to go to college. That's the only thing keeping us from going out. I trust him, but I dont know how well he would be around other girls while we were so far apart. We really want to be together, but we're a little hesitant because it seems like it would be super hard to do. What do you think? Thanks a ton for your help!
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Well I have pros and cons. Let's start with the pros: Today we have so much technology that can keep up us connected. We have facebook, cell phones, text messages, emails, skype, aim, and even myspace. It is so much easier to keep in contact with each other. Technology helps us. So it is going to be easy to keep in contact with this guy. There are multiple of ways for you to keep in touch with him.
Cons: Sometimes life gets busy. Senior year is a big year in high school. It is filled with fun but a lot of work. In between classes, scholar ships, college applications and spending time with your friends you are going to be busy. Trust me on that. There are going to be foot ball games, home coming dances, prom, and senior activities. And he is going to be busy with school, and living the college life. You two will have sperate lives and it is going to be hard to find a time to talk.
BUT if you really like him, maybe you should try things out before he leaves for school and lets see where it goes. You never know until you try.
Hope it helps :)
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You can love in a lot of ways. you can be with someone so amazing and say you love them; the next, and scariest step, if youre serious enough, can be saying youre in love with them.
(lets make sure we know the difference between loving someone & being in love with someone. i always believed you can only be in love so many times.)
For example, my story.. i met this guy in the beginning of sophomore year. we began to talk but we didnt get close until early 2010. we were best friends for months & then he admitted to liking me. I began to like him back and weve been together officially for nearly two months.
when someone's your best friend, is it faster to fall in love? how do you know? what's the differnece between loving someone & being in love with them?
i know they say youll know when you know. but maybe there are some little factors that everybody catches on.
thank you!
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My idea of being in love is: You love the person unconditionally. You accept their flaws. You see the beauty in them that others don't see. You see the person as amazing, wonderful, or any of these adjectives. This is the person that makes your heart pound when see this special someone. You smile and laugh more, when your with this person. You see and view world differently. You see the beauty of the world around you. When you wake up the first person you think about is that special someone, and the last thing you think about when you go to bed. When you love someone, you cant picture a future without them in it. When something happens in your day, it is the first person you think about telling. The one you love is like your best friend, your confident. The one you are love with, you trust with all your heart.
That's how you tell when your in love.
I think since he is your best friend it can be faster to fall in love, but it is not always the case. It on depends. I think the difference between loving someone and being in love, is in my opinion, loving someone, can just be an idea. I think to me, it is liking the idea of loving someone. But to say you are in love with someone, I think there is more meaning behind it. It's hard to explain. To say you love someone sounds a lot different then saying your in love with someone. I think it has more meaning. :) I hope this helps
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we already know kids / teens of all ages are having sex. but how do you know youre physically, emotionally, and mentally ready to have sex? (link)
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First of all how old are you? This is how I determine if one is ready for sex. Don't ever let a guy pressure you. Don't let a guy try to tell you that your ready. You are ready, when your heart, your mind and body tells you it is right. Think of it like a light bulb going off. When your with the right guy the right setting and the time is right, there is something that kinds of goes off and says this is it. This is the perfect time,I am ready. It was six years ago, when we were 13, my friend gave up her virginity to a guy who pressured her all the time. She wasn't ready. She was not physically, emotionally and mentally ready for sex. She told me that deep down every single fiber of her body was telling her that she was not ready. So my advice to you is listen to your heart. Don't give it up to a guy, until you are sure that is the guy you truly care about. You only have one virginity to give up. Loose it to a guy that you truly care about and who cares about you. trust me when your truly ready, you would have no doubts in your mind. When your ready, you will know. Hope it helps
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hi, ive had my first period a month ago,but i haven't had sex because im only 12, and ive missed this months periods is it ok, after my first one to be irregular i dont know what to do, i would really like a answer please,
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Don't worry sweetie it's completely normal. :)
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my boyfriend wont let me near his phone. he gets paranoid if i ask to see it and watches my every move. he sleeps with it in his pocket or under his pillow. should i be worried? (link)
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Well you should be worried... It is something that does raise suspicion, but however it dosent mean he is cheating.
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Ok so I'm going to be 18 in like 18 days and I haven't given much thought on what to do for my birthday. Im getting a very expensive puppy for my birthday so I didn't want any kind of birthday party. So basically it's just going to be my
immediate family and my best friend. What can we do that's fun but not too expensive? (link)
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How about a picnic, or a BBQ? That is something that is fun and not too expansive, or maybe a sleepover if you invite more of your friends over?
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My mom hates my boyfriend. But it isnt the first time, she's literally hated every single person ive ever been friends with and or dated. She makes it completely obvious that she doesnt like him, and because im with him, she's horrible to me. She likes to call me names and refuses to help me in any way. Today is my 20th birthday and she told me she would take me out to dinner, and when my boyfriend was there she made a huge scene and refused to take us anywhere. It just hurts so badly because im one of the nicest people ever. For mothers day i took her out to eat twice, and im the only one who even remembered her birthday.
I dont care about not getting a dinner, i care about her ruining the only relationship i have right now that honestly makes me happy.
She kicked me out today and right now im sitting outside of her house at 10 at night, waiting for her to fall asleep so i can crawl in through the window.
What should i do!? Everytime i try talking to her she turns it into a huge scene and I just back down because i hate fighting. Please help me
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You need to sit your mom down for a talk. Start with this: "Mom, please sit down. We need to talk. We need to talk about *enters name* Before you interrupt, hear me out. I know you do not like my boyfriend. But he makes me happy. This is one of the relationships I'm in that honestly makes me happy. You dont have to like him, but you cant treat me like crap. You cant be horrible to me just becasue you dont like this guy I am dating. I am twenty. I am a grown up. I make my own decisons. I love you mom, I hate fighting with you, but we cant keep doing this. You are ruining our relationship."
Let her know how you feel.... You are a grownup, and she should respect your decisons you make, even if she may not agreee with them. She should not make a scene. And if she dosent see it that way, it's time even though it is sad, it's time to end relationship with her... at least temporily.
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I've taken nude pictures on my webcam before, and little did I know computer stores see everythin you do on your computer, including see the pictures taht you see. Some guy has them and sent them to a lot of people i dont know, now he found my syke adress and is harassing me saying hes going to send them to my family and friends. Please how do I go about this to the police? Who do I contact? Im only 16, a minor in my state. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! (link)
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sweeetie, I am sorry this happen to you. A lot of things like this happens to a lot of young girls. You need to tell your parents immedately. They need to be alert that this is going on. And than together contact the police department and report this. What this man is doing is illegal. He is exploiting a child. What he is doing is beyond harassment. The police department should put a stop to it. I'm sorry this happend to you sweetie, I hope everything resolves. and if he already snet them to a lot of people, chances are they are there.... but lets hope they catch this creep, and take down all those picture he has released and hope he does not exploit other girls... There are too many sick guys out there.
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soo a couple a days ago i got high for the first time. i had smoked two previous times but i didnt get high. however, when i got high i colapsed to the floor, and my whole body was throbbing with pain. it was terrible, and i thought that it would go on forever but it did stop. i am just wondering why that happend, and if it will happen if i smoke again. (link)
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My advice to you, dont do it again. There's no reason to. I know it's not an answer you want to hear, but that is honestly the best advice one can give you. If you are expereincing pain, than best if you stop....
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okay me and my girl been together about a few months but ive known her for about a few years,i know she slept around but not with anyone i know,she cheated on her boyfriend with me and well she cheated on him with others before me,i ask her all the time if im just another Sergio(the guy she was dating)but she says she cheated cuz he cheated,bt i still have a real hard time trusting her,but i love her with all my heart,what should i do?or what should i say?-yazeed:D (link)
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You have every right not to trust her. Man if my boyfriend did that to me, I wouldent be able to trust him no matter how much I love him. You need to sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you love her, but you cant trust her. She needs to earn your trust back. You guys need a break from each other.. however long that is. You cant be in relationship with someone you cant trust. good luck. :)
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hi..
i am a year and a half older than my sister... we're somewhat close... it's very complicated... when we both moved away to college (i am 2 years ahead so wen she started freshman we moved but i'd already had creds from my old college) anyway so i adapted fast and she didn't... she is a tattletale ever since she could talk... she was depressed and miserable and missed her friends... i made friends in my new city fast and was out partying all the time.. i get straight As and she flunks and got warnings from the faculty she's in... she's very conservative and religious (my parents are like that and am cool with it but am more liberal) anyway my parents were also on her case about grades so she ended up pointing the blame on me and they found out about crap i did... i mean i didn't do drugs or have one night flings and stuff but i did party... and i am usually safe and end up being the DD for my friends... i party sober!!
needless to say i got in trouble because of her and was close to not being able to go back to school.. since then i stopped trusting her at all.. things are getting better even though i still don't trust her. she's finally coming out of her shell (4 years later!!!)
now she trusts me (because unlike her i can keep secrets and i don't gossip and i actually help with problems instead of report them) she is very tame compared to me... although compared to the rest of my generation i am not even near anything wild... she's still struggling with school and i am still doing great... the problem now is that she somehow got past what happened that year and doesn't realize i still have issues with her... she thinks now we're good friends as in we should hang out all the time... i love her to death but i find her company boring... she's always raining on the fun... she only has 2 friend here because of her judgmental attitude and rude expressions and if i were to put myself in her shoes i'd die... i like so many things but she isn't creative and has no interest in anything her idea of bonding and fun is boring... i don't trust her enough to involve her in my life but i did try to integrate her into my friends with a huge warning about her so they won't spill anything she can use... i tried hard to help her have some fun in her life... she's getting better... but as i said she won't think twice ratting me out if she needs to... in her opinion she forgave me for the crap i did and for making her "worry"... she doesn't realize that i don't trust her and never will... and she doesn't understand how she basically mutated my relationship with the rest of my family forever... and now she gets mad at me for spending time with my friends and makes it sound like she has rights too over me to spend time with her.... if we weren't related i wouldn't befriend her... she prefers staying at home, going to a movie, supermarket, walk or a drive literally that's it.... she's always rude, ruthless, and she's boring!!! i mean i love her sooo much but how can i detach!!! help meee! if she's mad (like she is now because i am going out with friends) she'll make sure i pay for it... often by telling my parents!!! (link)
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I think you should talk to your sister... Let her know how you feel. Let her know that you dont trust her like you used too.
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I am 17/Female. I have been dating my current boyfriend for 11 months, and he is a wonderful guy. He treats me very well and obviously since we have been together for so long we are very comfortable being ourselves around each other. I feel that these are two very important qualities in a relationship, and that is why I have stayed with him for so long.
The problem is that I still have very strong feelings for my ex boyfriend. This ex boyfriend and I haven't spoken in a long time, but he was my first kiss and my first boyfriend. I have had long-lasting, deep, emotional/romantic feelings for my ex that I simply don't have for my current boyfriend. This of course makes me feel incredibly guilty, because my boyfriend doesn't do anything wrong and doesn't deserve that. And of course I can't exactly admit that I have feelings for someone else to my current boyfriend; I really don't want to hurt him. I have no idea what the solution is to this problem. No matter what I do, I can't seem to get over my ex. I have tried to move on by dating other guys, and obviously it's not working.
My question is, what should I do about the whole situation with my current boyfriend? I feel awful breaking up with him because I really do value our relationship deep down. I care about him a lot, and I constantly worry about what things will be like if I were to break up with him. I'm terrified to do so.
Also, what should I do about my ex boyfriend? I feel as though it is impossible for me to WILLINGLY give him up because for the majority of the past four years, he has been my entire life. I know that I need to get over him and I know that I need to talk to him to get the closure I need, but the problem is that I don't want to. (link)
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All girls always going to harbor feelings for their first love. He was your first everything. But obviously something went wrong with your ex. There is a reason why you two broke up in the first place. My first ex was in middle school. when we got to highschool, we both realize that we both grew up. We wanted different things in life. We both were just different. And we brought out the worst in each other. It took me a long time to get over him because I known him and liked him for a very long time. Those feelings dont dissapear like that. They will eventually. But there always be a tiny little spark left behind as a reminder. So if you still have feelings for you ex while you are with your current bf, you need to take some time and think about it. It's not fair to your current bf. You need to figure out what to do. You need to think if those feelings you have for your ex are worth rekindling. You need to figure out if your ex is worth trying again. You need to figure out who you really want to be with... your ex or your current bf. And most importantly, you need to know if your ex feels the same. It is a sticky situation. You cant string your current bf along for the ride. Your current bf, sounds like a real keeper. he sounds like a really good boyfriend. And if you are still deep down still having these feelings then he is not the right guy.... I'm not saying the ex is. But it is something you are going to have to question. So the best advice I can give you is to think things through and to listen to your heart. Every thing will eventually work out, hopefully. Good luck. And I hope my advice helped. P.S. I know you dont want to hurt your current bf. But when it comes down to it, you do need to be honest with him and your feelings.... I know it hard and it's going to hurt him. But honesty is a good policy to have in a relationship. :)
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