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Cant Figure this guy out.
20/f
okay so theres this guy at work,I just starting working there like a month ago we worked together alot and talked, and he asked for my number.Well about a week and a half ago we hung out 3 times. He met my parents the third time we hung out because my parents always want to be introduced to the guy.So during our third date he was driving me home and he talked about us (he went away to college the next day, so it was cute he spent his last night with me) and he was saying how this happened to him twice he was hanging out with this girl and he messed it up the first time and he said he thinks he knows how to do it this time. He said to not think hes ignoring me hes just really busy with school and he said that if we kept doing this that I could visit him at school during the week or he could visit me during the week or come home on the weekend and he said he didnt want me to think he was just messing around with me and I said good because i would kick his butt at work lol and he laughed and said yeah and things would get pretty awkward at work. And then we kissed for awhile kinda like he wasnt going to see me for a long time type of kiss.(by the way he only works one day a week because hes so busy with school) So all last week he never contacted me once. He used to text me only on the nights we were going to go out to say like if I was ready or something but he never texted me just to even talk. So I texted him on wednesday just to talk and we talked for like 2 hours I asked him if he was coming home and he said maybe sunday because he forgot some things so we could hang out i said oh okay then I didnt hear from him the rest of the week until saturday when he came in to get his check ( but he came in during the time I was working he knew my schedule) and he acted normal with me and he was flirting and he asked how school was and how his was and he said he didnt like it because he didnt have time for anything then we talked for a little but then he left and said ill talk to you later. Well last night I texted him hey (I was assuming he wasnt going to be home because we didnt hang out) and I told him I was visiting a friend at this college and he said I shouldve told him because his friend lives up there too and I said well will you be home tomorrow ? (since it was labor day) and he said he might but he could try to come down anyway and hang out for a little and I said sure let me know.Well today he never texted me. Its going on almost 2 weeks since we last hung out and he never texts me just to talk I had to do it twice. I might just be paranoid but I mean I know college can be busy and time consuming but if you really wanted to see someone that you liked wouldnt you make time to see them and text someone you liked just so they know you were thinking about them? Im just so confused by him. I mean not to sound conceited or anything because im far from it but other guys have been texting me and asking me to hang out with them and there doing everything i wish he was doing now..but I dont want those other guys you know? and I dont even know if the guy wanted us to talk to other people as well so were not "exclusive". But I mean the way he was talking about us in the car sounded like he didnt want me to talk to other guys you know cause we work together that would be awkward so I feel like he wouldnt play me but do you think thats how it sounded? What should I do and what does this all mean? lol Sorry this is so long Im just completely confused as you already know and I didnt want to leave anything important out but if you could help me I would appreciate it thanks!:)
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Hi. I don't mind long questions.:) I am happy to give you some advice.I am a full time college student taking 18 units. It is a full load, which takes a lot of time. But, I still find time to text, call and go on facebook to return comments and messages to friends. Even though I am busy, I still find time for friends and family because they are important to me. But even though he goes to school full time, it's not possible for him to be at school all day. The most class I take a day are two classes day sometimes in a semester three and that's it. The other rest of my day goes to the library to study,meet up with study groups, hang out with my friends and do other social activities. So if you mean a lot to this guy, he would schedule a day out oh his busy schedule to hang out. And he should never be too busy to text you every now and then to let you know that he is thinking about you. If you mean something to him, then he should make an effort. After all in all relationships, communication is the key. I think you need to go talk to him, ask where you stand with this guy, if he wants something serious or not. If he doesn't then move on. I hope this helps.
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I love long questions!:) I like Reading, haha. Wellll...This guy sounds cute and nice BUT
honestly he strikes me as a guy who does this a lot, but i could be wrong. i got to college full time and I still text allll day! College is time consuming but there is no way he goes everyday unless he has like six classes or something and i think the max is five!Even so he's not stuck there day and night! I think he is not only busy with college but with friends and parties or something. Yeah if he really cared he would make an effort to talk. I always think the most important thing in a relationship friend or boyfriend is COMMUNICATION. THERE IS NO BETTER PERSON THAT CAN TELL YOU WHAT IS GOING ON BUT HIM. We could all be wrong about what is really going on. You should talk to him about this the next time ya'll talk and ask him that you understand that he is busy BUT how can he possibly not text u not even once a day for two weeks,and ask him if this is just a fling or exclusive, because you don't want to be confused. He should be able to tell you if he doesn't want you to talk to other guys and if he says he doesn't mind you are obviously just a fling, and if you think you want more than that it's better not to keep talking to him and have your heart broken.But it's really important for you to pretend like you don't mind either way like say "it's cool with me, i just want to make sure that this is not boyfriend and girlfriend so i will be faithful" Because if not he might just say something that won't hurt your feelings(basically what he thinks you want to hear).But if afterwards he says he does wanna have a relationship tell him he should try and make more time, if not move on like i said don't risk having your heart broken because no guy is worth it. It just sounds like he could make an effort to talk to you more but he just doesn't. Hope i helped Good luck!
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