I hope to help those in need in life lessons, love, friendships, and hardships.
It's a tough life to live for anyone, either in their work world, love life, their children, their money...."There is always Hope"....and I aim to help those find that hope and successfully get passed the woes of the world :-)
I carry a degree in Information Technology, but have also taken previous courses in Child Psychology and General Psychology to gather an understanding of our emotions and how we deal with them as humans.
I also have my own travel business EGVacations.com and I care for my 4yr old son, (I have 4 children; 18, 16, 12, and 4) so the range in ages allows me to see all aspects of what children are going through. Whew!!
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thats true, am just going to get the respect i need. we were in a relationship for 2 yrs and 1/2 . and he ended up cheeting on me.now he has another girl but she is all the way in dominican republic and he is all the way here in new york. its kinda sad she thinks he aint cheeting on her.but the truth is that he is. and once he goes overdere he is going to act like nothing is happening ..like if he never did nothing and she is actually going to beleive him...but humm i can't do noing about that. i just know that i still love him with all my heart and that is something that hurts me deep inside my heart :( (link)
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It's a sad thing that boys can be that way. They are not yet MEN, u know what I mean?? I dealt with the similar thing when I broke up with my BF of 8 yrs because of his cheating...His woman thinks I want him back, based on her own insecurities, u know, but who am I to tell her she's waaay off thinking I want that cheater in my life. I would love to set her straight, but you know they'll just think we're crazy and ignore us. It's way better when they get to see for themselves.
We all learn the hard way when it comes to things like this, and one day, after we've let go, we realize it was for our own good.
It's time to rebuild the wonderful inner you and grow with that.
Someone wonderful will come along, I just know it!!
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Okay so im in this relationship that ive been in for over 5 years. i love him very much and i always have. here a couple of months ago we broke up and i went around with friends pretty much partying like a rock star (not literally but kinda. nothing BAD). well anyways we got back together and we moved to new schools to be together and get away from the drama. well now all we do is sit at home and do nothing. and i dont have any friends now. like literally all i have is him. and not that i dont mind just having him its just i feel so alone. and i feel like we're to young to be just sitting at home. im about to turn 16 and we're gonna be able to drive and work so i need some ideas to what we can do to be more like teenagers and less like old married couples. we cant go to some places because thats where the drama is. so no places like the movies bowling allies, and etc.. and another thing is he's asked me to do alot such as give up my friends and my old ways. is he being to controlling by not wanting me to hang out with my old buddies?? 15 female (link)
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Well, forgetting the past is the hardest thing to do, because sometimes, we just never forget. It's only a matter of finding some inner strength to not allow this negative incident or drama make what your future is going to be.
WE all have control of our lives in the end. It is what we decide to make of it.
If you two are going to keep your love alive, just focus on the future you want for each other. Compromise, conformity, communication and understanding all play a huge role on what you guys will end up doing together in order to find new friends and a new beginning to your fruitful future.
I hope this helps.
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I'm 17, and when I was 16 I was sexually abused by an older man. He was about 20. It happened over 4 months ago, yet I can't seem to get over what he did to me. I'm not going to go into details of that night, but I still have nightmares about what he did, and I can't go near certain guys. I feel like all older guys are going to do what he did to me. How can I get over what he did to me? He made me do things that I was NOT READY to do! Please if anyone has any advice on how to get over what he did please tell me. (link)
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Unfortunately, I have to say Time is Key here with this one. This will serve as one of your life lessons, that you will reflect on from time to time. Your inner strength will slowly guide you from letting it hurt you and bring you down, as well as fear of other men.
Many women experience something like this, thus causing all the warnings we get from our mothers or aunts and so forth.
I'm really sorry this had to happen to you. I was molested as a young girl, and its something that appears to be in my head; we never forget, we can only seek out our inner happiness and let it guide our emotions to find better things to reflect on, rather than the horrible past.
But give it time, and it wont hurt so bad. You may even hold anger in your heart for alittle while longer and in the future with other men, it will prove to be beneficial to you to not share this experience with them. It will not only scare them in being able to please you and make you happy, knowing that you will fear them in some way,but it will also hold you back from giving love that they might very well deserve.
Much luck to you!! Don't lose hope...
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i just got off the phone with my boyfriend's mom. she said he has a kidney disease that is sort of like AIDS but it's not, and it's not contagious. apparently, she wasn't supposed to tell me because my boyfriend didn't want me to know, i guess he didn't want me to worry or react like she is. but she thought she should let me know, since we've been together for almost a year. we love eachother so much and i plan to marry this guy and spend the rest of my life with him. she said he should be okay, but you never know. she's putting most of her faith in God, but as we know, God can't cure everything. He let's innocent people die all the time.
but the point is, she made me promise not to let my boyfriend know that i know. and that's going to be really hard for me, since i'm already getting depressed over the thought of losing him. i need to know if anyone else has ever been in this position, and what they did to cope. or for anyone who hasn't, just let me know how to keep my cool around him and not freak out and start crying. i know he doesn't want that. he wouldn't want me to suffer with this burden, and i really wish his mother hadn't told me. any advice? thanks in advance. (link)
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One of the hardest things in life, among many others, is losing someone you love with all you have. Especially if it's unexpected, like a car wreck or sudden death.
I have to look at it this way, because my mom is very ill, and she doesn't want me to tell her sisters or mom until she knows if what she has is cancerous or not. That is so hard for me, because if she has cancer, then time with her will be precious and I, as her only daughter, would want her to have her family close by to be with her in her time of despair.
Going through something like that should not be done alone. I know it's hard because you don't want your boyfriend to think that you are just going to feel sorry for him, but you love him and care for him, and perhaps he really would like to have you as a shoulder to cry or lean on...People in those predicaments should not hide the problem,but seek out their loved ones for support.
If you decide to keep it hidden that you know, do your best to vent out feelings to his mother, as you and her both care a great deal about him, and you will need to console one-another. When the time is right for him to know that you know, then just be there for him emotionally and help out in all you can.
Much luck to you.
God doesn't save everyone, but prayer is still soul satisfying. :-)
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16 female
Ok, I'm kind of freaking out right now! My family's computer has an anti-virus program and it does a weekly scan to find any threats. The reason I'm worried is because lately I've been kind of curious and looking at a little bit of porn. If something comes up in the scan about that, I'm really afraid of what my parents will do. I'm straight, but the porn I've been looking at is of girls just out of curiosity. Another reason is that I'm kind of self conscious of how my body has grown, so I wanted to see how other women's bodies looked.
How am I supposed to explain this to them? I don't want to get in trouble if they think it's wrong or something. Is it wrong? (link)
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well, it's not totally wrong.
I, as a parent of an 18 yr old female, have to say that I would not get mad if I found porn on my daughter's laptop...it would kind of tell me that she IS just curious, and of course I'm the kind of parent that would be curious to know why she was even looking at those sights; perhaps to get ideas of what sex is like, as she is still a virgin.
I would not worry too much, and I hope your parents are understanding if it comes down to you actually having to answer to them. Everyone gets curious at times, and well, porn is out there for everyone to experience....that is just a fact.
But I totally believe being honest should help you through it, as opposed to having to come up with some kind of lie.
Best of luck to you on this one!
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I got taken out of school in the middle of school last year it is almost going to be a year since, and it will be the second semester of school. I got taken out; because there was too much was going on and I was getting in trouble I guess you can say. I drifted away from everyone; I don't talk to anyone from that school old friends anyone. I have been on my own just doing school all day. I believe it was right for me to leave school to I guess re create myself and find out who I really am. Well I have learned so much from being home schooled. Being home schooled has helped me with school and also having a different out look on life and right from wrong. Skipping to Halloween night this year. I was in my room with my mom just crying to her about things that were bothering me, I just was telling her that I can't stand being home schooled and I just want to go back, I have learned so much from this experience and I am ready to go back. I just want to be a normal teen girl living my life... Then I said to her now I want to go back to school so bad but I am so insecure with myself and I compare everyone to myself I just can't go back cause I’m fat and I hate myself. ect. I told her I would NOT want to go back to the school I was at before I left, because I said that everyone moved on with there life and they don't care about me, there going to talk about me ect. And I was just crying and crying... once I let that all out we just kind of talked and I stopped crying..... All of a sudden the door bell rings, my mom goes down stare and all I here is my name I got extremely nervous! They were screaming like oh my god I haven't seen her in for ever I miss her tell her to come down ect. my mom came up and I herd them cause they were screaming but she was telling me that I needed to go down maybe it's a good thing they came it was about 7 people... talk about pressure I hadn’t seen any of them in half a year, I told my mom no I didn't want to but in the back of my head I really did want to because I missed them but I didn't cause I was scared of what they would think of me. I went outside and it was so normal it was like I had never drifted from them and I wasn't different from them body wise. After they left me and my mom continued talking and she said wow was that GOD or what.
So I said you no maybe I should go back to school that I went to before... I have been thinking about it ever since that night and I just don't no my mind has been going back and forth like one day I will get really existed saying yea I should go back and think of all the positives then the next day ill think what the hell there is no way you can go back I’m too fat what if they don't like yada yada yada. My mom wants me to wait till high school, but I would want to go back this January. and she said she doesn't no if she would let me go back... but I wasn't worried about it because I didn't believe that I would really go back because I was scared... well last night we were on our way home from Hollywood studios.. and I told her how my mind just goes back and forth and I gave her all the details... she said well maybe you should just go back this year and ignore your negative thoughts something like that....
I don't understand I got my moms exseptince my old friends excepted me but it's still not good enough because of my stupid mind, I am so uncomfterable with my body and embarrassed with it I want to love who I am but I just can't. I am trying to make god number one in my life again cause I no once my relationship with him is good then everything will line up and I no that I just have to trust him but
I don’t know ugh and I have like 25 days or something in till January:( I don’t know what to do I need help should I take the chance and go or just wait in till I loose weight and love who I am??? Help!
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How great it was for you to see that what you were feeling was just 'figments of your imagination' as they say.
All too often, women moreso, beat ourselves up on the inside with all our insecurities. But low and behold, these people in your life were missing you all along and were concerned for your well-being.
I hope that you can now grow positively on the inside and face everyone else with a smile on your face, carrying the new positive thoughts, and be encouraged to face the day with a whole new ray of beautiful sunlight; as well as take on a whole new will-power to change your outer beauty to match your new inner beauty!!! :-D
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I can't seem to stop itching. It's been going on for a week or two. I'm itchy from head to toe. It's driving me nuts. I think I might rip my skin off. I've tried allergy pills and calamine lotion. Showering works for about ten minutes. I wake up in the middle of the night just to scratch.I have scratched enough to make myself bleed. I'm scratching myself like crazy right now. It can't be poison ivy or oak, I am rarely outside. Please! What should I do. I think I am about ready to scream. Should I go to the ER?? It's getting worse as days go by. I can't stand it anymore. (link)
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It very well could be the weather, causing seriously dry skin, if this tends to happen to you around the same time every year...Lotion, lotion and more lotion...skin could be just really dry.. Calamine is mainly to heal broken skin, so you still might need that, but if you put 'moisturizing or healing' lotion on daily, like 4 times, it should help...
I had bad itching like that, and didn't find out about lotioning for a couple years.
I no longer have the problem...
Hope this helps.
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16/f
I'm really interested in purchasing a chi flat iron, but my problem is that i'm not sure which one to get or where/if i can get it without ordering it.
-I have long, thin, wavy hair.
My only requirement is that it be a 1" flat iron.
So...suggest away :)
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For sure and most important, make sure it's the Original Chi...and most hair dressers can get it at wholesale cost...I got mine for 85 bucks!!!
From a hairdresser I've used for over 2 years.
Other friends of mine have had to buy them for 120 bucks or so...but most had better luck through their own hairdresser.
It also has a 2 yr warranty, so hold on to that box.
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aww thanks!!!....well he is always telling me to go to his house..but i know he just wants me to go to his house only to have sex..i dont go and he gets kinda mad...i do want to go because i wanna see him but then in the other hand something tells me no to go..and speacially i have to got to his house at 12 or 1am in the night...thats something he doesnt even cares..wat happenes if something happenes to me walking to his house at that time, once i sneeked out of my house at 3am but i got home safely even though we live right there but thats not an easy thing to do. i have to go to his house at that time because he doesnt want his parents to know about what we doing...but i havent gone ovedere because am kinda scared :( (link)
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I've totally been in this situation, back in the day...
When you're young, you sometimes don't take the time to think things through, but you seem to have thought about the consequences that could happen when you are out in the streets late at night. Kinda sad to think that he's only thinking of himself and his 'sexual' needs, and not your safety.
I have to say it's not a good thing that he controls things, like you know? making you go over there so late and hiding what you guys are doing. It's not even healthy that he tries to make you feel bad if you don't go. Like some would say, "don't let him have you like that, gurl"...you know what I mean...WE as women should typically have the control, u know? Like we have what they want, they shouldn't be able to call the shots...Take that into consideration next time he calls on you for the booty ;-)
It's a respect factor too, for you and your body...
This will prove to be a learning experience with your relationships to come.
Keep me posted :-)
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i was in a relationship for 2 yrs and 3 months and at the end my boyfriend cheeted on me..am so dissapointed because i gaved him everything i could possibly give a man...now am devasted i dont know what to do :( (link)
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I know how that can be....We as women are always in hope to have that one special person will be faithful to us in all areas...Emotionally supportive and faithful to our hearts that we so openly give them.
The downside to this is that we have to step and either realize this has happened for a reason and he's not the best one for you and move on, or give it only one shot to see if it's worth looking into.
WE all make those mistakes that we regret. I have forgiven a man for cheating, merely because he was the father of my child, with hope that I could forgive and forget.
Only one thing is that we never forget. Forgiving is so hard, especially when we just want to be happy in love.
If you know in your heart that you can not find the trust needed to be in a healthy relationship, then you will need to just know in your heart that he was not the one,that was meant to be in your life.
Moving on is hard, and I once thought I would never find that kind of love ever again, but after months of crying and sadness, I finally let go, and two weeks later, found the love of my life and am happily married.
This too can happen to you...have faith and don't lose hope!
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i'm FIFTEEN years old, i've started my period, had my growth spurt, and have all signs of puberty but i've never developed breasts. it looks like i have the chest of a 10-year old boy, and i'm so embarassed because of it. all i can say for now is, i'm lucky there's such thing as padded bras. i look around me and everyone has C-cups and started getting them before their period as early as age 9. what is wrong with me? i told my doctor "i don't think i'm developing breasts" and she just smiled and said "they'll come, you just have to be patient." then why haven't i ever met or even heard of ONE PERSON in the same position as me? some girls might have small boobs, and i would be fine with that, but mine are non-existant. what is wrong with me? is it possible i will never get them? (link)
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If you're anything like my 9 year old when she was going through all those lovely changes, her boobs popped out at 11...and I mean 'popped' out...they grew so fast that she has hard to miss stretch-marks.
I wouldn't worry though...every girl is different, and surely, yours will come in on their own time.
It's not really anything you can rush, unfortunately, and Lord knows you wish you could, because you feel out of place as a woman.
I hope they come in soon, so you're self-esteem will not slope down any further than it already probably has...Stay positive!!!
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Two weeks before starting our first year of college (at the same university), my boyfriend broke up with me when I brought up how we were leaving so soon and things seemed up in the air with us. I was very much in love with him; he was my first, we dated for a little over a year, we were always there for each other, and none of our friends ever saw the breakup coming. We hang out in the same group of friends, so by the time the news got around most people were already at school.
I visited my best friend that following weekend to get my mind off of it, but at the end of the night I ended up being left by myself in this guy's apartment where he raped me. I didn't tell her (I really didn't want to make her feel like a bad friend, she was drunk and thought I was already gone), and all my other friends were in college already so I didn't want to bother them with my problems, and my parents would freak out and probably make me stay at home, and plus it can't get any more sad; it was the day before my 18th birthday. I'm the kind of person who hates being felt sorry for, and I would rather put it at the back of my mind.
Anyway, back to my ex: we planned on remaining good friends, but after arriving here, we starting ignoring each other, he would do anything to avoid me, and vice versa. I avoided him because I didn't know how to deal with my situation, and I cared about him so I didn't want that hanging over his head too, I would rather him be able to have fun his first year of college without worrying about his ex and her sob story. I have no idea why he is ignoring me, but as winter break is approaching, our group of friends is set on hanging out, and I'm nervous about seeing him; when our mutual friends came up last month to visit he avoided seeing me and we had to take turns taking them out (mature, I know). If we talk, should I explain to him what happened? Would he not care? We're in a band together too so we're basically forced to interact, and I feel like what happened to me was relevant to the way things ended between us. But I know that's not something a guy wants to hear about an ex, which is why I didn't say anything in the first place. Help! (link)
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You do have a touchy situation. You have to take into consideration that you were with your boyfriend for over a year, so the feelings are still there, I'm sure....and there is a part of me that says it would not hurt to tell him what happened to you, but then again, if you guys end up getting back together, I'm not sure how comforable he'll be with getting intimate with you. things of that nature are very difficult to push to the back of your mind. Perhaps sharing it here might have released some of the stress of it, so let's focus on what you're going to do come time to hang out or see him.
Confront him, finally, to see what his thoughts are, or if he's interested in being closer. It would be healthy for you to find this out just to see where things will stand for you two come time to go back to school.
I hope all goes well!!
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whats the difference between love and lust?? what do i have..like when me and my guy chill we ussually get intamte we dont go out or anything its just always in his car doing you kno.. we have been together for 2 years and ome months and never did we do anything fun and when i do mention to go out he doesnt like that idea because were keeping are relationship on the downlow for now and i dont even know its so confusing? can somebody help me out with this.. id appreciate it thanks (link)
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Well, most 'lustful' relationships are kept on the downlow for their own reasons. Lust is more of a sexual thing, with lots of intensity and strong desire.
While with love, it goes so much deeper, reaching emotions inside that make you feel like you want this person to be a big part of your life....with that, it becomes a relationship that is definitely not hidden in any way. If it's love, you want everyone to know!
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Okay.
I'm 19, currently attending Savannah College of Art and design, and I want to work for Pixar.
Lately i've been building this image in my head of the ideal future for me. Living in Emeryville, CA, working for Pixar, swing dancing in San Francisco on the weekends, snowboarding in the mountains... i've looked at wedding dresses, and i just keep elaborating on this vision i have of the direction i want my life to go in. And i'm afraid i'm just setting myself up for disappointment. My mom has told me that it's good to visualize your goals, but i'm afraid in 3 years when i'm starting the "rest of my life" so to speak, it's not going to be what i pictured.
Is it bad for me to be so concerned the future? Is there anything i can do to ensure this happens for me, or should i stop worrying about it?
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I'm gonna say no, that it's not bad to be concerned. More people should be like you with life-long goals that they are hoping to reach in their life time.
What's even more important are the steps that you are going to be taking to reach this goal, and for sure, not lose hope along the way if it's not quite panning out the way you see it in your mind.
There will be the humps to cross over with a struggle, but when you get past it, it will make your desire stronger and help you continue on with your pursuit.
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For the past three years I have been best friends with a girl my age. We've really had no problems before this, but lately things have started going the wrong way. Because of the school we go to, we no longer have any classes together, or lunch. I've seen her only five times outside of school since the beginning of the year.
At our Halloween dance, she waited up for me, and we walked there together and hung out for the first twenty minutes. But after a while, a friend of her's named Kylie (They share several classes together) came over. Kylie came and went, but after an hour at the dance, Emily (my best friend) ditched me and started hanging out with Kylie. Every so often she would come back to talk to my other friends, but every time that I tried to start a conversation, she would say, "Yeah..." and then ignore me.
Then, we went to a movie last Friday, we sat in the back talking, and she mentioned that we should hang out on Sunday. I agreed and she promised to call me Sunday morning to set up the where and when we should hang out. On Sunday, she never called. At noon I got on Facebook and she IM'd me. She said, "Hey." So I answered, "Hello," And then she promptly told me that Kylie had stayed the night at her house the night before and that they were going to hang out all day, never apologizing to me for canceling our plans.
Kylie has been a growing problem since the beginning of the year. Not only is she starting to take Emily away from me, but she already turned my friend, Sami, and my other friend, Kiersten, against me. Whenever I try to be friendly with her, however, she always ignores me.
Now I'm resentful towards Kylie for stealing my best friend and other friends away from me. I know that I need to tell Emily about what's going on, but I'm not sure how. Please, tell me what you think about what's going on. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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I know exactly where you are coming from with this one.
I'm not in school, but I too have that friend that is actually going to be my Maid of Honor, but she made herself a new friend when she moved into her new big house in this new neighborhood and they started hanging out alot and so forth.
This new friend would go out of her way to like interject into our conversation....for instance, we would talk about about things we've done in the past, and she'd want to come in with things they've done together recently...everyone notices this!
First and foremost, you have to find that security within yourself, that your BF is just going through a short-term phase. Surely she could not have just forgotten everything about y'alls friendship, but merely has ventured off nearby to get to know this other friend. Granted, she doesn't seem like the best friend kind of material, seeing as how she is not showing any interest in making sure you guys stay friends, u know?? like perhaps including you in what they do.
It will be hard now that the strong feelings of resentment have kicked in, but apologies are in order, u know....
hopefully, you can voice your concern to your friend and they'll be understanding of your feelings and hopefully do something to change things. Dont walk around with hate..it's a wasted emotion, especially when your friends are your life support through life.
Friends can come and go, but true ones know how to be life long friend worthy....
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18/f - 19/m
The other night my boyfriend and I were having sex. The condom broke, but luckily he hadn't came yet. I know there's the whole pre-ejaculation thing, so what I'm asking is can I still get pregnant off of that? I've been told a whole aray of different things. Some being that yes I can, and some being that no I can't. I just need a straight answer. At the time I was just getting off my period (that just so happened to be two weeks early, so someone told me that I was just ovulating). It'd be really great to get an answer. Thank you. (link)
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it has to be said that YES, you can get pregnant from their pre-ejaculation, as it still carries their little soldiers (sperm).
Considering you just got off your period,there is a that chance you wont get pregnant, as the egg for that month has left the building...However, only 1 concern is that your cycle came 2 weeks early.
Play it safe; get a test in a couple days to check for pregnancy.
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what matters more to you, what you really really want or what you deserve? and why? (link)
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Having struggled through 2 8-year long relationships that failed, I would have to say it comes down to what you deserve.
I was cheated on and unappreciated and took for granted.
Today, I'm with someone who provides for me, who takes care of my every need and loves me unconditionally.
I'm greatful because it just seems like it's my time, u know?? like to finally have someone that cares about my wants AND provides me with what I deserve as a good woman.
If you know you're giving your all,then you're only going to want what you feel you deserve...goodness in return.
Almost a trick question! lol. Because we alll really really want to be given what we feel we deserve ;-)
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Idk if it's a yeast infection, a bladder infection, or something else.
I'm mostly a virgin.
(13/F)
I have random extreme mucusy discharge or white discharge. Like, I need two sheets of tp to clean it up! My underwear is screwed up normally.
I pee all the time and half the time it burns.
I have a rash? right below my belly button.
vj smells, bad. even if i shower.
appreciate help.
also, what are the causes of a yeast infection?
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Sounds like a definite yeast infection...but not sure about the rash below the belly button tho.
Yeast infections come from wearing tight jeans (not only this, but its one cause)....your vaginal area needs room to breath, u know?? without it, you lock in any bad odors, or bacteria, causing an infection.
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Well am a female n i just had sex with my bf a day after i got my period. He cumed inside of me twice but i had my period. Can i still be pregnant or can i get pregnant during my period?? Please help me am very worried now and idk what to think. Thanks you (link)
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I personally never got pregnant that way either (with my boyfriend cumming inside while on the period). It's not safe, but if you think logically, they egg has been or is being released, so it can not be en-pregnated, u know??
Play it safe though...take a test in a week, just to be sure...
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Like in my history class there are 2 guys who poke fun at me. especially this one guy. like this one guy always makes comments to me almost everyday.. hes in a couple of my classes. like he'll call my name pretty loud when i come into class or something. like he actually wouldn't be that bad if he wasnt such a jerk like 90% of the time. so then i think it carried on into history and then now this other guy who sits in front of me does little things and says hes just messing with me. and its annoying cause im not good when people are like that.. especially when i dont know them that well so its like... you think they are being genuine when they arent. and im not always the best at detecting when someone is joking or not and just arent the type to like come up with all these good comebacks on the spot and stuff. im not into drama, its just not me. like if i talk to some guy whos sitting next to me, the guy whos sitting in front of me joins the conversation and is like "no" and then he laughs or something. and the guy whos sitting next to me actually seems fine but its just annoying how the other guy is just trying to make me look bad or something. and i dont know what to say or what to do in that situation. but its kinda embarassing. like theres this other girl in the class who everyone makes fun of cause shes really not smart and everything but still i wonder how that girl can take getting made fun of like 24/7. like i think im confident in myself and what i do.. so when someone else has a problem with me it can suprise me especially when i hadnt done anything to them or anything. idk if they have a problem with me or not, but they say they are just messing. but its annoying when like half the class laughs then. the guy next to me doesnt though.. from what i've seen. but idk if hes now doing it just to be nice. ahh well its better to do that than to not try at all though. but im just like wtf about it cause im not like a total weirdo or anything but its like the 2 guys are trying to make it seem like it in front of the whole class? ugh. i know i repeated in here sometimes but blah.
like other things w/ the guy who sat infront of me.. sometimes he fakes handing papers back to me and stuff like that. like today he suddenly took the book from my desk and put it on his cause he was called to read (we didnt have enough books today). and then when he gave it back it was like in the middle of someone reading and he just dropped the book loudly on my desk and like half the class stared at my reaction and im just like wtf. like i dont prepare myself for that type of thing you know? i dont know what to do. i dont even have any friends in that class anyways.and my teacher is like really laidback and stuff which is actually pretty annoying cause i wanna learn. i dont want to spend half the period listening to him asking people about their weekends ,and then me having to listen to it. like theres this group of kids that the teacher spends a lot of attention on and it just takes most of the day. like his teaching style is so bad and everything, its like teaching us stuff isnt his priority or something. i guess thats what you get for being in a CP course. and then the other guy who called my name and stuff i used to have a crush on him in 7th grade.. i have no idea why since hes not even good looking. he actually used to be nice before he like changed to being super annoying. i didnt even tell him too.. i told like 3 friends and then somehow word got to him and someone said he said that he only liked blonde girls. hes such a ******** anyways. like i hope hes not just trying to act macho cause he thinks i still like him or something when i dont. ughhhh FML
help me out pleaseeee? sorry this is really long, too. (link)
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This is all too common, when people just do dumb things for attention. There are those people who just have to have other's approval by making them laugh...and from what it looks like, it is at your expense.
Having quick come backs is a trait, and I don't know if it can be learned. I say this, because my boyfriend is quick! I mean like, someone can say something, and he has a comment for it within the blink of an eye...funny, yes, but sometimes annoying...but he likes that he got someone to laugh.
I too have this annoyance, but it does not carry on all day, like what's happening to you.
I totally feel that you do need to speak up...even if it's just a quick comment like, "dude, come on, relax", or give a look just to make it seem like they are crazy, and they will just laugh all by themselves.
You seem to pretty much be the observant one, just the bystander that watches other people make fools of themselves...and sometimes, there's no need to blend into all that craziness.
Don't stress on it though...it will pass, and you'll think back on it and think how silly people can be sometimes.
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