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Friend Stealer
For the past three years I have been best friends with a girl my age. We've really had no problems before this, but lately things have started going the wrong way. Because of the school we go to, we no longer have any classes together, or lunch. I've seen her only five times outside of school since the beginning of the year.
At our Halloween dance, she waited up for me, and we walked there together and hung out for the first twenty minutes. But after a while, a friend of her's named Kylie (They share several classes together) came over. Kylie came and went, but after an hour at the dance, Emily (my best friend) ditched me and started hanging out with Kylie. Every so often she would come back to talk to my other friends, but every time that I tried to start a conversation, she would say, "Yeah..." and then ignore me.
Then, we went to a movie last Friday, we sat in the back talking, and she mentioned that we should hang out on Sunday. I agreed and she promised to call me Sunday morning to set up the where and when we should hang out. On Sunday, she never called. At noon I got on Facebook and she IM'd me. She said, "Hey." So I answered, "Hello," And then she promptly told me that Kylie had stayed the night at her house the night before and that they were going to hang out all day, never apologizing to me for canceling our plans.
Kylie has been a growing problem since the beginning of the year. Not only is she starting to take Emily away from me, but she already turned my friend, Sami, and my other friend, Kiersten, against me. Whenever I try to be friendly with her, however, she always ignores me.
Now I'm resentful towards Kylie for stealing my best friend and other friends away from me. I know that I need to tell Emily about what's going on, but I'm not sure how. Please, tell me what you think about what's going on. I would really appreciate it.
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i have had someone who likes to steal friends from me but girl you have got to be strong and not let it bother you. First i would go and confront your long toim bff. Ask her what is her deal, why is she not wanting to hang and if she just shrus off like nothing has changed. Then girl, tell her to take a hike with her brand new friends and that you do not need them. You are your own individual. There are more people out there that would love to be your friend, i promise. But just go have a talk with her. And you could also go talk to kylie and ask her does she relize that she is stealing your friends and if she is sincere than she will apologize and talk it out but if she lets you know that yea she is stealing your friends then you will know it and you can just tell her to screw herself and keave and let it be and move on.
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I know exactly where you are coming from with this one.
I'm not in school, but I too have that friend that is actually going to be my Maid of Honor, but she made herself a new friend when she moved into her new big house in this new neighborhood and they started hanging out alot and so forth.
This new friend would go out of her way to like interject into our conversation....for instance, we would talk about about things we've done in the past, and she'd want to come in with things they've done together recently...everyone notices this!
First and foremost, you have to find that security within yourself, that your BF is just going through a short-term phase. Surely she could not have just forgotten everything about y'alls friendship, but merely has ventured off nearby to get to know this other friend. Granted, she doesn't seem like the best friend kind of material, seeing as how she is not showing any interest in making sure you guys stay friends, u know?? like perhaps including you in what they do.
It will be hard now that the strong feelings of resentment have kicked in, but apologies are in order, u know....
hopefully, you can voice your concern to your friend and they'll be understanding of your feelings and hopefully do something to change things. Dont walk around with hate..it's a wasted emotion, especially when your friends are your life support through life.
Friends can come and go, but true ones know how to be life long friend worthy....
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