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i have to act like i don't know.
i just got off the phone with my boyfriend's mom. she said he has a kidney disease that is sort of like AIDS but it's not, and it's not contagious. apparently, she wasn't supposed to tell me because my boyfriend didn't want me to know, i guess he didn't want me to worry or react like she is. but she thought she should let me know, since we've been together for almost a year. we love eachother so much and i plan to marry this guy and spend the rest of my life with him. she said he should be okay, but you never know. she's putting most of her faith in God, but as we know, God can't cure everything. He let's innocent people die all the time.
but the point is, she made me promise not to let my boyfriend know that i know. and that's going to be really hard for me, since i'm already getting depressed over the thought of losing him. i need to know if anyone else has ever been in this position, and what they did to cope. or for anyone who hasn't, just let me know how to keep my cool around him and not freak out and start crying. i know he doesn't want that. he wouldn't want me to suffer with this burden, and i really wish his mother hadn't told me. any advice? thanks in advance.
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One of the hardest things in life, among many others, is losing someone you love with all you have. Especially if it's unexpected, like a car wreck or sudden death.
I have to look at it this way, because my mom is very ill, and she doesn't want me to tell her sisters or mom until she knows if what she has is cancerous or not. That is so hard for me, because if she has cancer, then time with her will be precious and I, as her only daughter, would want her to have her family close by to be with her in her time of despair.
Going through something like that should not be done alone. I know it's hard because you don't want your boyfriend to think that you are just going to feel sorry for him, but you love him and care for him, and perhaps he really would like to have you as a shoulder to cry or lean on...People in those predicaments should not hide the problem,but seek out their loved ones for support.
If you decide to keep it hidden that you know, do your best to vent out feelings to his mother, as you and her both care a great deal about him, and you will need to console one-another. When the time is right for him to know that you know, then just be there for him emotionally and help out in all you can.
Much luck to you.
God doesn't save everyone, but prayer is still soul satisfying. :-)
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When you're with him next, treasure your time together. Crying and being sad takes up the time that could have been spent laughing, kissing, cuddling, holding hands, baking cookies together. Since I personally have never been in this situation I can't tell you not to cry...but first make as many happy memories as you can. And if God works his miracles and nothing happens, you still have all those memories to look back on.
*Hope I helped, and God bless you in your time of need.
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