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How can I stop letting people go too far with messing around with me?
Like in my history class there are 2 guys who poke fun at me. especially this one guy. like this one guy always makes comments to me almost everyday.. hes in a couple of my classes. like he'll call my name pretty loud when i come into class or something. like he actually wouldn't be that bad if he wasnt such a jerk like 90% of the time. so then i think it carried on into history and then now this other guy who sits in front of me does little things and says hes just messing with me. and its annoying cause im not good when people are like that.. especially when i dont know them that well so its like... you think they are being genuine when they arent. and im not always the best at detecting when someone is joking or not and just arent the type to like come up with all these good comebacks on the spot and stuff. im not into drama, its just not me. like if i talk to some guy whos sitting next to me, the guy whos sitting in front of me joins the conversation and is like "no" and then he laughs or something. and the guy whos sitting next to me actually seems fine but its just annoying how the other guy is just trying to make me look bad or something. and i dont know what to say or what to do in that situation. but its kinda embarassing. like theres this other girl in the class who everyone makes fun of cause shes really not smart and everything but still i wonder how that girl can take getting made fun of like 24/7. like i think im confident in myself and what i do.. so when someone else has a problem with me it can suprise me especially when i hadnt done anything to them or anything. idk if they have a problem with me or not, but they say they are just messing. but its annoying when like half the class laughs then. the guy next to me doesnt though.. from what i've seen. but idk if hes now doing it just to be nice. ahh well its better to do that than to not try at all though. but im just like wtf about it cause im not like a total weirdo or anything but its like the 2 guys are trying to make it seem like it in front of the whole class? ugh. i know i repeated in here sometimes but blah.
like other things w/ the guy who sat infront of me.. sometimes he fakes handing papers back to me and stuff like that. like today he suddenly took the book from my desk and put it on his cause he was called to read (we didnt have enough books today). and then when he gave it back it was like in the middle of someone reading and he just dropped the book loudly on my desk and like half the class stared at my reaction and im just like wtf. like i dont prepare myself for that type of thing you know? i dont know what to do. i dont even have any friends in that class anyways.and my teacher is like really laidback and stuff which is actually pretty annoying cause i wanna learn. i dont want to spend half the period listening to him asking people about their weekends ,and then me having to listen to it. like theres this group of kids that the teacher spends a lot of attention on and it just takes most of the day. like his teaching style is so bad and everything, its like teaching us stuff isnt his priority or something. i guess thats what you get for being in a CP course. and then the other guy who called my name and stuff i used to have a crush on him in 7th grade.. i have no idea why since hes not even good looking. he actually used to be nice before he like changed to being super annoying. i didnt even tell him too.. i told like 3 friends and then somehow word got to him and someone said he said that he only liked blonde girls. hes such a ******** anyways. like i hope hes not just trying to act macho cause he thinks i still like him or something when i dont. ughhhh FML
help me out pleaseeee? sorry this is really long, too.
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those 2 guys are just soo annoying.in a class you must have a class clown and thats them.how old are they??they could be picking on you because thats the way to communicate with you.it could be because theyr trying to flirt or have a connection with you but dont know how to do it.
have you tried to show them that your annoyed?in your position id probibly wait for the next time they try and harrass you and look at them and say,can you guys just stop it because this game is getting really stupid.if you think your funny then stop because your not.
you could do that or you could be friends with them.get to know them and have a decent conversation with them.it may sound stupid but if you get to know them theyll think that your actually cool and that your not what they thought you were.soemthing like that.i mean from the signs they probibly do want to get to know you,especially the guy that dropped the book on your desk really loud.he may even like you(maybe).
im just giving you options.the person that sits next to you and didnt laugh.he/she is being nice because thats soemthing id do.if a guy was making fun of you i wouldnt laugh because if i laughed id be encouraging the siituation.so shes a good person for not laughing.
but overall in the end i really do think that they need to know that you think their comments are childish and stupid.if your showing that your annoyed then maybe try another approach to the situation.like maybe ignore them and like dont even look at them.if they make fun of you give them and evil look then look away.just say nothing to you them.
just change your approach to the situation because the way your acting towards them now isnt working.if your not talking to them and paying attention to them then maybe you should try talking to them and saying hi or soemthing.
but in the end just keep in mind that boys like that never change till they get older and mature.just stick it up for alittle while longer trust me iv been through it and it really does hurt you
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This is all too common, when people just do dumb things for attention. There are those people who just have to have other's approval by making them laugh...and from what it looks like, it is at your expense.
Having quick come backs is a trait, and I don't know if it can be learned. I say this, because my boyfriend is quick! I mean like, someone can say something, and he has a comment for it within the blink of an eye...funny, yes, but sometimes annoying...but he likes that he got someone to laugh.
I too have this annoyance, but it does not carry on all day, like what's happening to you.
I totally feel that you do need to speak up...even if it's just a quick comment like, "dude, come on, relax", or give a look just to make it seem like they are crazy, and they will just laugh all by themselves.
You seem to pretty much be the observant one, just the bystander that watches other people make fools of themselves...and sometimes, there's no need to blend into all that craziness.
Don't stress on it though...it will pass, and you'll think back on it and think how silly people can be sometimes.
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