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Too consumed with my "Ideal" future.
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I'm 19, currently attending Savannah College of Art and design, and I want to work for Pixar.
Lately i've been building this image in my head of the ideal future for me. Living in Emeryville, CA, working for Pixar, swing dancing in San Francisco on the weekends, snowboarding in the mountains... i've looked at wedding dresses, and i just keep elaborating on this vision i have of the direction i want my life to go in. And i'm afraid i'm just setting myself up for disappointment. My mom has told me that it's good to visualize your goals, but i'm afraid in 3 years when i'm starting the "rest of my life" so to speak, it's not going to be what i pictured.
Is it bad for me to be so concerned the future? Is there anything i can do to ensure this happens for me, or should i stop worrying about it?
Thanks for your help
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I like that you are thinking about your future and making plans. You're way ahead of most kids your age in that respect. However, I'm concerned about your anxiety about having the "perfect" future. You can take steps to achieve your dreams and work hard to get there, but I'm worried that this "ideal" vision you have in your head is so perfect that you may be disappointed when things don't go exactly according to plan. Because they won't. They never do. But that is the beauty of life! Sometimes the most unexpected things turn out to be the greatest things in our lives. While you should definitely visualize, as your mom says, and keep working, going to school, etc., just know that its unrealistic to think that everything will happen exactly the way you want it when you want it. As a matter of fact, the most successful people in this world are the ones who display the ability to be flexible with changing situations, those who can roll with the punches and adapt to new challenges. Don't focus so much on the specifics of your future that you bind yourself up in chains trying to get there. Keep going to school. Keep your goals in mind. But remember that reality is here and now. Take time to enjoy yourself and your life the way it is right now. Don't wait for "some day" to be happy. You can be happy right now. Remember, Life is about the journey, not destination.
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I'm gonna say no, that it's not bad to be concerned. More people should be like you with life-long goals that they are hoping to reach in their life time.
What's even more important are the steps that you are going to be taking to reach this goal, and for sure, not lose hope along the way if it's not quite panning out the way you see it in your mind.
There will be the humps to cross over with a struggle, but when you get past it, it will make your desire stronger and help you continue on with your pursuit.
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