|
computer scan
16 female
Ok, I'm kind of freaking out right now! My family's computer has an anti-virus program and it does a weekly scan to find any threats. The reason I'm worried is because lately I've been kind of curious and looking at a little bit of porn. If something comes up in the scan about that, I'm really afraid of what my parents will do. I'm straight, but the porn I've been looking at is of girls just out of curiosity. Another reason is that I'm kind of self conscious of how my body has grown, so I wanted to see how other women's bodies looked.
How am I supposed to explain this to them? I don't want to get in trouble if they think it's wrong or something. Is it wrong?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
It is not wrong at all to be curious of the female body. I suggest talking to your mom (or female parent) about it upfront. Just be like, "hey, in health class we've been talking a lot about the body, I've just been feeling interested about how my body is growing and changing so I checked out this site the other day." Tell her how your feeling about your self consciousness as well. She'll most certainly understand, and if not, talk to your guidance counselor. If they do get angry and they ground you, just remember, you've done nothing wrong. They say Curiosity killed the cat. But, cats have nine lives don't they? ;-)
-Ms.B
]
Hard to say.
Porn sites can definitely put things that show up on virus or anti-spyware scans on the computer. Google "deleting your internet history" if you feel like you might need to protect yourself.
Parents vary with the wind. Many parents view things like porn curiosity as the natural development of teens, like the poster below me. Mine were Catholics, many devout Christians consider porn and such an abomination, I got taken to confession over it.
My default advice is to refuse to talk about it. If your parents don't seem upset or angry, you might rethink that, but until you get a non-scary reaction circle the wagons and just tell them you got curious and you don't want to talk about it.
]
well, it's not totally wrong.
I, as a parent of an 18 yr old female, have to say that I would not get mad if I found porn on my daughter's laptop...it would kind of tell me that she IS just curious, and of course I'm the kind of parent that would be curious to know why she was even looking at those sights; perhaps to get ideas of what sex is like, as she is still a virgin.
I would not worry too much, and I hope your parents are understanding if it comes down to you actually having to answer to them. Everyone gets curious at times, and well, porn is out there for everyone to experience....that is just a fact.
But I totally believe being honest should help you through it, as opposed to having to come up with some kind of lie.
Best of luck to you on this one!
]
More Questions: |