Well hello kiddies...If you're in need of an honest advice then you've come to the right person... because I'll say WHATEVER I think is right whether you like it or not...
Member Since: December 3, 2003
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Last Update: May 17, 2004
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I often feel really lonely. Most of my friends have changed, and I don't know who are my real friends anymore. Some of my friends became really snobbish since they entered college.. And they act much differently towards me. It's like I annoy them, like i'm not cool enough. Also none of them ever have time for me.. Sometimes, I tell them to invite me when they do things together, yet they never even think of me.
Since two years, I also met a really nice guy named Kevin. He really is my best friend, but since a few months he's been completely ignoring me. He is always talking to his online girlfriend. When he can't talk to her he calls me and complains how boring things are without her. I feel like I'm a "last resort" thing to him.
How can I know who's my real friend and who isn't? (link)
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Maybe it's about time to meet new people and make new friends since your old friends have drifted far away from you...including your best friend Kevin...but before you do this make sure you're not just suffering from depression. Sometimes when you're depressed you feel that the whole world is against you. Go to your doctor and check to see if you're clinically depressed...If you're not then go ahead and find ways to make new friends. People change as they grow older which explains why your old friends are kind of aloof with you - they've probably have different interest now than before. Don't make them the center of your life. Find ways or an outlet for yourself to enjoy.
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Is there any way to know how it works that when a person cares about others, that person is overlooked, but if that person doesn't care, more people care about them? I've cared about a lot of people, and when I stopped caring so much, I got more attention AFTER I stopped caring. Is there any logical explanation to this? I'm seventeen and can't seem to get a boyfriend, not that I need one, but it would be nice to have someone special who cares about me. (link)
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There is nothing wrong with being such a caring and loving person but if you overdo it you'll scare guys away. If you're not sincere with your actions, people would notice it. You're getting more attention now probably because you're not being phony anymore. You could still be caring and loving but only to those people close to you and to those you really care about...and not to every person you know even if you hardly know them. Be patient and be yourself...You'll find someone special when the right time comes.
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i posted this question earlier:
what do you do when u fall for you best friend? i know it sounds like the CLASSIC relationship question.. but i really dont know what to do! i have been best friends with this guy for 3 months.. that mite not sound like a long time... but we have grown really close in that time! i like him as more than a friend now and when he starts to talk about who i like... i dont know what to say! he says im shy.. and well i agree.. lol cause im not the foward type to just come out and tell someone that i like them... i dont want to ruin our friend ship by telling him how i feel, but what if he likes me 2 and he wants me to make the first move?? please someone help me..
and id like to thank everyone who answered.. but one more question on that subject.. we go to tha same school and im in 8th and he is in 7th... i know that shouldnt really matter, but ppl will make fun.. what should i do if we do get together and that happens? thanx tons (link)
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First of all, he's the guy-he should make the first move not you. Wait a little longer. Who knows maybe he likes you to too but not quite sure whether to tell you or not. Send him subtle hints and signals that you like him but don't make the first move. I don't see any problem if you're in the 8th and he's in the 7th grade...it's not like you're dating a 4th grader or something. Those people who would do that are such babies and should be ignored.
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I have been married to a man I consider my soul mate for eighteen years. We have a 5 year daughter. My father died about a year ago. My husband loved him more than his own father (who is a selfish, egotistical, non-caring male). The loss touched us all greatly. I turned to taking care of my mom (my father's dying wish) and my daughter. I didn't realize that my husband had turned to drugs. On Feb 17, 2003 he was arrested and sentenced to 15 years. His tenative release date is Oct 2013. On Valentine's day (3 days before his arrest) his present to me was a broken leg. I still love this man. He seems to have changed since he has been in jail from the letters that he sends. Ironically it will be Valentine's day before I can see him. He was never violent during the times previous to my father's death. But he built a persona of me in his mind that he seems to hang on to. 10 years is a long time to wait. I have been told by others that he will be a harder person when he gets out. I had returned to school and will get my degree in Spring of 2005. I am not sure if I should remain married to him or not. I am afraid that all the lovely words he is writing is because he is afraid of abandonment. There are a lot of other details too numerous to mention but pertinent to the situation. But because of what he has done I have lost my home, my transportation, and my life. Should I give him a second chance or not? (link)
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I can relate to your story because I used to be an addict myself the only difference is I am a female and that I wasn't arrested for it. When you're in drugs you think and act differently. Your whole world revolves around it and not the people around you...You're a completely different person...but once you've gotten rid of it you'll be yourself again. My husband was aware of what I was going through and he's always been there giving me encouragement and support. I couldn't have done it without him.
Your husband needs your support and encouragement more than ever...and yes he is probably afraid of abandonment...wouldn't you feel that way too if you were in his shoes? After years of spending your life as a prisoner, If he is naturally a kind man, he must've realized all the wrong things that he did and will make sure that he doesn't make the same mistakes again. Give him another chance. If you truly love him you will wait for him.
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Me & my BFF really wanna pierce our bellybuttons. She's got hers done already, but I can't get mine thru! Any tips?? (link)
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The safest way to pierce any body parts is to go to a professional. Do not do it on your own unless you're also a professional on this field. If you're not you're risking yourself to infections and possible ugly scars...and you won't like that, would you?
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What do boys REALLY like in a girl? All these magazines & stuff say that they love what's inside, not outside. Is this true or is it crap? (link)
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Both...because everyone is different. 33% of boys would rather have a girl who has a good heart rather than good looks, 33% would only go out with a girl who looks hot and another 33% of them would like their girl to be beautiful inside and out. Whatever it is...if you want people to like you, you have to be yourself. Nobody wants to be with somebody who is phony.
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Everytime I am on center stage, for playing an instrument, singing, acting, auditions, giving a speech in front of my class, whatever.... I get soooo nervous. My feet shake, my hands shake so hard it's hard to hold papers or instruments steady and they get really cold. Sometimes I get this nervous twitch above my lip. I don't know any way to get rid of it! And I can't just avoid the stage, because even though I get nervous, I really want to perform. Ugh.
Help! (link)
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Close your eyes, take a deep breath and imagine that the stage is empty and that this is just another practice that you would have to give your best shot. Sign up on any musical, theatrical or talent event whenever you can because once you get used to getting up on stage, you'll eventually ease up and not get a nervous breakdown when you perform. Goodluck!
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There is this guy in one of my classes, and I'm not sure but I think hi MIGHT like me. he's on tha honor role but he's not a nerd. HE's actually kinda cute, but we've only really talked once. we were on a field trip and he just came over and started talking to me. Later I decide to eat lunch with him and he asked if I wanted his oreos. I know that sounds like a question a friend would ask but the way he said it was so sweet a kind (not like other people). So I'm confused. Does he like me or doesn't he. Kinda sounds like a question Shakspere would ask (to be or not to be? That is the question.)
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Only time will tell. It's better not to think he does coz you'll only get dissappointed if you assume he likes you only to find out he doesn't...but keep being friendly and nice to him and enjoy every moment you're together. Hopefully he'll eventually tell you how he feels towards you.
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My friend(not best friend) is moving! What do I do!? She's moving to Florida and she doesn't want to go. her mom is getting remarried. What do i do?
I don't want her to go and she doesnt want to go. (link)
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I am sorry to say but this is out of your hands. This are family issues that she has to deal with her mom herself. Maybe she can ask her if she can stay with a relative or a family friend but I doubt if her mom would allow her to do that. Just keep your friendship going strong even though you'll be far apart from each other.
Maybe she can come visit you over the summer or vice versa. Make sure to always keep in touch via phone or the internet no matter what.
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I HAVE A RABBIT BUT I HATE RABBITS. I LOVE DOGS, THOUGH. MY GRANDMA (WHOM I LIVE WITH) SAID I COULD HAVE A DOG IF I TOOK CARE OF A RABBIT FIRST. I DON'T WANT TO TAKE CARE OF IT BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO. WHAT DO I DO? I DON'T WANT TO TAKE CARE OF IT BUT I REALLY WANT A DOG. (link)
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Your grandma is probably just testing you to see if you're ready to have a pet. Dogs are much harder to take care of and not to mention much expensive than rabbits. Whether you like it or not, this rabbit is your ticket into getting a dog so love it and take good care of it!
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i really like a boy but i not sure how he feels about me . how can i find out???? (link)
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You can't unless you're a mind reader or something...If you ask him out it would seem as if you're easy to get. Just be friendly and nice to him whenever he's around. Hopefully he'll notice you and ask you out. If not, don't be sad...I'm sure you'll find other interesting guys who'll be able to reciprocate how you feel.
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What does everyone here do to become a better writer? I want to be a writer when I grow up and I want to know if there are any writing excercises to become a better one. I know reading helps...but I'm just always in a writers block because all my writing is the same and it gets frustrating.
Know any way to improve my writing?
Anything...even if you think it sounds stupid.
Thanks! :) (link)
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Aside from reading, you could always go to your local library and ask books about writing and composition. There should be books there that can give you pointers on how to be a better writer...or if you don't feel like going there you could always search the internet. Also, don't forget the saying "Practice makes perfect". Keep a journal and compose short stories and poems whenever you can. That way you could see what area you need to improve on and the progress you're making in becoming a good writer.
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okay here is the problem.
my friend entered in a beauty pageant and she is in the finals and she had them send ME info so i could enter. but my mother won't let me. my mom is 53 years old and im REALLY bummed out that she won't let me. i feel that im very pretty and that i could even beat my friend if i wanted to (not that i want to beat my friend) is my mom afraid that im not pretty enough to be miss teen of the nations? or does she think i will get a big head? im not going to get a bug head because thats not me. my mom use to do all this stuff when she was younger. is it that she WAY old or am i not good enough for her?
anyways im on this site to GIVE advice no ask but i really wanted some advice.
always
~kat~bare~ (link)
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There a lot of things aside from being pretty that is involved in beauty pageants. It is sometimes time consuming and expensive to join one of those things. There are rehearsals that you would need to attend. You would have to spend money on outfits and matching shoes and makeups and not to mention entrance fees. Have a serious talk with your mom and ask her why wouldn't she let you participate in this competition. Hear what she's gotta say. If she fears you're not ready for this then explain to her that you would really like to committ yourself to this and you're ready to accept any challenges that will come your way. Convince her that you are physically, mentally and emotionally ready for this. But if she says it will be a financial burden in her part if you join or that she has to work all day inorder to support you and can't possibly drive you to rehearsals and practices, I'm sorry to say but it's out of your hands. I mean she is your mom after all and if she says no then there really is nothing you can do about it. Goodluck!
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All my best friend talks about is her computer! Me & my other friends will talk about what we did over the weekend, and "Ellie" will just talk about gigabites, megabites, and that sort of stuff. We don't understand that sorta stuff at all! How can we get her to talk about normal people stuff, like guys, parties, or even her pets?! (link)
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When people starts using computer linggo on me I either say "Speak english please!" or "What the hell did you just say?!?" Hopefully they would get the idea that not everyone is as knowledgeable as them when it comes to computer. If they look offended, I would just simply say "I'm sorry but I'm really not into computers and stuff, so have you seen this movie....." blah, blah and so on. Change the topic right away if she starts talking about computers again. Hopefully she'll get a hint.
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if i went out with a boy but now i hate him cuz he is mean buti cant stop thinking about him andi want to talk abotu him what does this mean? and how can i stop it? (link)
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It means you have a major crush on him. Since he was mean to you, it's a waste of time focusing all your energy on him. He obviously isn't a gentleman. If you find yourself thinking of him, divert your attention to other things or if you caught yourself talking about him, change the topic instantly. I'm sure you'll find other guys that interests you aside from him in no time.
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ok my girlfriends parents are neo nazi's. she a few bad grades and now shes grounded for over a month... this sux it means i cant do anything for her at all no two month annervirsy no dates no flowers nothig i cant even call her she has to call me...is this complete bullsht... we are trying so hard to stay together and it seems like one thin after another gets in our way we spend more time defending our relationship than atcually having one...her parents are cool but only to my face once i leave they say horriable things to my girlfriend...what can i do ive decided to start writing letters to her by snail mail since i cant see her or talk to her online but other than that i dont know what to do...i could use some help on this if anyone has any bright ideas please pass them my way thank you very much. (link)
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If you really care of her, you'd stay with her through thick or thin. Encourage her to make good grades so she won't be grounded anymore. Try to make a good impression with her parents so they won't think you're not being a bad influence on her. Goodluck!
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I am a senior in highschool and once i graduate i would like to go into fashion designing or interior designing. I have "shadowed" an interior designer before and have helped people in their rooms with designs. I am also curretly designing my prom dress and would hopefully some day like to design my wedding dress. Just one concern.... What if i am totally out of my league and really have no clue with what i am doing. What if i go to college and major in this and then find out that it isnt for me? I guess its just a concern i have been having for awhile now, someone please give me advice. KT
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I would say go for it. You will be more likely to be successfull if you're in career that you really enjoy. You can always switch courses if you find out that this isn't what you really want to do but you will never know if you will not try.
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OK IM 13 IN 8TH GRADE AND IM 5'6 AND WEIGH 130 LBS THATS LIKE SO FAT IM TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT I WANT TO GET DOWN TO AT LEAST 115 IM JUST FAT IN MY STOMACH WELL KINDA OF AND IM MOSTLY MUSCLE CUZ I LIFT HEAVEY THINGS AND PLAY SOCCER SO MY LEGS ARE MOSTLY MUSCLE BUT I THINK IM TO FAT FOR MY AGE I MEAN IM ON A DIET THE FAT FREE ONE BWECAUSE I WANT TO LOOK GOOD IN MY BIKINI BY MAY OR APRIL SO DO U THINK IM TOO FAT AND COULD U TELL ME SOME GOOD WAYS TO GET SKINNY I WANT TO LOOK LIKE PARIS HILTON BECAUSE THE BOY I LIKE WHICH IS MY NEIGHBOR SAYS THAT SHES HOT AND UR PROABABLY GOING TO SAY NOT TO CHANGE MYSELF FOR HIM BUT I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR MY NEIGHBOR HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS!!! HELP ME !!!! (link)
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If you want to succeed in losing weight, you have to do it for yourself and not for somebody else. Okay, say you lost all those weight but your neighbor still doesn't have any interest in you, what now? You'll only feel miserable afterwards and you'll probably just gain all those weight back. But if you loose weight because you wanted to feel good about yourself, you're most likely to succeed and keep the weight of. You cannot be skinny like Paris Hilton if you have big bone structures but you can be physically fit by eating mostly just fruits and vegetables, Drink lots of water - No sodas please and by excercing daily. Remember not to starve yourself but snacks on veggies and fruits only. Goodluck!
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if i had a dream about a boy that i dumped like a month ago and i liked the dream does that mean i like him? (link)
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No. What if you dreamed that you hated your best friend? That doesn't mean that you hate her in reality, right? Look deep inside your heart if you still have feelings for him or not. A dream doesn't really mean anything it's just a sequence of images that appear involuntarily to the mind of a sleeping person, often a mixture of real and imaginary characters, places, and event but it doesn't necessarily indicate how you feel towards a person.
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OK GTHIS BOY I WENT OTU WITH TELLS ME IM HOT AND THAT IM BEUATIFUL AND COULD HAVE ANY BOY I WANTED BUT HE SAID ALL THIS AFTER WE WENT OUT SO IF HE SAID I COULD GET ANYBOY I WANT HOW COME NO BOYS AVE ASKED ME OUT? (link)
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Everybody has their own opinion. Just because this guy thinks you're all that doesn't mean all the guys in the world thinks the same thing about you. Good looks is not everything, personality has more impact to others than good looks. Maybe just maybe, they see you as a snob because you're pretty. Practice being friendly to the opposite sex and make sure you feel good inside regardless you get dates or not. Feeling good inside is more important than getting dates. Keep smiling!
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