I suppose I should introduce myself to you, and give you whatever I feel makes me quaified to do this.
Well, I'm Celena
And my Qualifications are: None.
I'm being completely honest, I'm totally underqualified.
But that's ok, because my sole purpose here is to entertain you.
I will answer questions truthfully and honestly, and giving the best advice I know how to give, as best as advice can be given from someone whose brain has been baked by Calculus, Unix and C++.
Also I suppose I should make some sort of a vision statment:
I promise, to you, my reader that I will keep this column as interesting and informative as the folks asking the questions allow.
There you are folks, I'm at your disposal, fire away.
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Hey im only a freshman, but i am so determined to go to college..i missed a week of school to have suregy, but i got right back on the work, and have an A in science an A in band and were gonna get our "progress reports" for algebra today, im hoping its an A. If not ill have to raise it.
But october 14th (next firday) we get term report cards. I REALLY want a 4.0 because i would really like to go to a good university..but im wondering can your jr high school grades affect your college resume in any way? I always got like a 3.0..and i even failed algebra in 8th grade..im hoping thats not gonna bring me down. Please help me, i searched colleges online and i dont really see anyone that checks jr high gpa.
*will rate high* (link)
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WOW. Oh dear, I've gotten out of the habit of naming people who don't leave names for themselves. Alrighty then, Mary Jane, here we go.
You are thinking way ahead, woman! I don't know of a university in existance that looks at your Jr High GPA. Some universities don't even look seriously at your Highschool GPA. And, if you're seeing Ivy League in your future, than you need to expand your horizons beyond your GPA. Study hard for your SAT and your ACT. There are many tests to take that will help you prepare for them, included among these is the PSAT/NMSQT (That's Pre-SAT/National Merit Scholarship Qualifying Test). Also, many universities are now looking at external qualifying factors -- such an community service and your linguistic abilities.
If Ivy league is not where you're headed for, I encourage you to talk to your guidance councilor and see if your state offers a Post Secondary Options Enrollment Program. I know that the state of Ohio has this program, but I do not know how many other states have implemented one.
The purpose of the PSEOP program is to offer wider options to those high school students whose educational level is high enough for them to excell in a college environment. -- Better still, the State pays for your tuition and books! Through the program, many highschool students graduate from college years earlier than they normally would, and at less cost.
Now that I've given you the obligatory text book advice, though, I offer the following emotional advice: As a former PSEOP student, don't take on more than you can handle. Don't become too focused on your ultimate grades and abilities. Enjoy life and enjoy the time you have without all the hassles of college and work.
Good luck in your scholastic and life endeavors, Mary Jane!
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Why Do people suck? (link)
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Sometimes it's because they have a straw in their mouth.
Others it's because people are inherently flawed. Part and parcel of the whole humanity gig. If you want to find someone who doesn't suck, I reccomend Jesus.
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Have you ever considered turning your totally cool advice colunm into a childrens book? (link)
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No, but I have often pondered a successful daytime talk show. Please recommend me to your superiors.
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So if YOU moved to the country would you eat a lot of peaches? (link)
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Yes.
Because Peaches are brilliant.
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I'm a 20 year old college Junior who is frustrated with her boyfriend. We've been together for a little over three months and he won't ever do more then a quick kiss on the lips. It's not like I want to have sex or anything but I don't know what to do, I am so frustrated. I've tried talking to him but all he says is that he doesn't want to do anything he'll regret. It is gotten to the point that he is so afraid of being alone with me that he refuses to come over to my house. I know he's really religious but at the same time it's really driving me insane.
Please help.
Erin (link)
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Sounds like you and your boyfriend are on different pages when it comes to the physical aspects of your relationships, eh Erin? It also sounds like the two of you are long overdue for a real conversation on this topic. And by a real conversation, I do not mean that you need to come in swinging low punches or that you need to let yourself be walked on. Good relationships are all about compromise.
If he says that he does not want to do something that he will regret, ask him, specifically, what he will regret. If he cannot give you a definite answer, then you need to sit down together and figure out where your boundaries are. If his religion is the driving factor, you need to make sure that you are both on the same page about that as well. In addition, you need to assert yourself, and make sure that he fully understands your perspective. Physical aspects of relationships are very personal decisions, and something that the two of you have to come to a consensus over. On the one hand, you shouldn't pressure him into a situation that he is uncomfortable with, but on the other he should also have your best interests in mind. I can't tell you what the right decision for the two of you is, you have to find that out together.
A compromise I reccommend about his reluctance to come over to your house is to stay in neutral rooms (ie, out of your bedroom) plan an activity ahead of time and stick to it. That way you won't be tempted into anything you didn't already plan and you can both enjoy each other's company.
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Hey Celena,
Have Aliens ever come to you and asked you to steal all of the kangaroos?
William de Humphrydink III (link)
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Well, William, first things first, I seem to have a terrible cold *coughhackveryfunnyBrittanyhackcough* So I really apologize that my answer may not be as thourough as you may have anticipated.
In a word, No.
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I had sex with one of my professors but he failed me anyway. I'm a freshman in college and 18 yrs old and I really need good grades, I study for all my classes but sometimes that just doesn't cut it. He didn't proposition me but I was in his office discussing my grades and when I asked him about extra credit opportunites I hinted that I would have sex with him for a better grade but he never verbalized his agreement, he just had sex with me. Now what? (link)
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Again with the no names. I dub thee, Bethany.
Well, Bethany, as I see it, you have two or three options here.
One option is to accept that you failed the course, swallow your pride and take the course again like any other student who didn't sleep with the professor, and failed. I don't want to sound like an old, worn out cliche, but I'm about to. Being in college isn't about getting the grades, it's about learning the material. If you didn't learn the material well enough to pass the class, then you probably need to take it again, no matter how much you hate it, or how much your parents are going to flip out.
A second option is to inform the department office. If *he* had propositioned you, I'd reccommend you go there post-haste, but since you propositioned him... you do not have a very strong case for employee misconduct against the prof. The fact that he never verbalized his agreement rather takes this out of the school's hands. Actually, and unfortunately for you, you would probably be penalized for Academic Dishonesty for propositioning him in the first place... which would probably be a lot worse than failing the class. For this reason, I don't reccommend this.
Your third and final option is to confront the professor on a one-on-one basis. I don't really reccomend this either, since I'm sure it would lead to an awkward situation where your feelings are hurt and nothing is accomplished.
So, Bethany, I hope, for your sake, that the course material is quasi-interesting and that the professor you slept with was Hot, because you're going to have to take the class again.
Sorry, but sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles.
I just hope to God he had a condom.
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So, Celena darling, help me out here.
I like this guy a lot. We happen to be very close friends, and I am fairly sure that he looks on me as at least a *little* more than a friend. I know for a fact a relationship would do nothing to damage our friendship, even if such a relationship were to terminate. He's just not that kind of person.
The PROBLEM is, I told him I liked him months ago, before he developed whatever small reciprocation he has now. I bring it up occasionally in social situations, just a little remark to let him know *I*'m still interested... and he usually drops the bait. I know the ball is in his court, so I guess my question is...
Do I wait for him? I think it's worth it, but I don't know if he'll EVER come around... (link)
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I see two sides to this rather interesting coin.
On the one hand, you've already told him you are interested, and, as you've said the ball is in his court.
On the other hand, if, as you say, you have nothing to lose from bringing the topic up again, well, why not?
However, if he presents you with a second no, then you need to put this behind you, as solidly and quickly as possible.
Trust me, nothing in the world is harder than putting a crush on a good friend behind you.
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Okay, there's this guy I like. But, I'm not sure he likes me back. He isn't very nice to me around his friends, and he wasn't mean before I told him I like him. BUT I went to a sports game of his, and he kept looking at me. Is it because I was out of place or not? PLEASE HELP! Thanks for your time- Sakura (NOTE: Some evil guy told him that I liked him, and he said "Ewww." Then, a friend of mine covered for me and said that the evil guy was lying. But some time later I told him I liked him. Also, at the sports game, I told him 'good game' and he gave me a weird look. Is that because his friends were around?)
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Alrighty, Sakura, this may come as a shock, but chances are he wasn't looking at YOU at that sports game, but at that super cute blonde chicky on the bleachers behind you.
Sweetie, I'm sure you're a wonderful girl with a beautiful personality, and I hate to break this to you, but you have unforutantely developed a SATANIC. That is "Sudden Attraction To A Narcissistic Idiot Complex." This guy isn't into you, or more likely thinks you are 'beneath him.' That is -- by seeming attracted to you it will lower his "image." In other words, he isn't worth your affections.
So, Sakura, My advice to you is, have a good cry and try your best to get over this guy. He's hurting you whether he realizes it or not, and you, dear, don't need that kind of stress. So, take some time out, and have some girl-time with your friends (who seem to be willing to stick by you.), eat some chocolate and watch some Julia Roberts flicks.
Then, when you feel like you're ready to move on, the best of luck to you finding a guy who appreciates your beauty based on who you are.
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Well I have this friend at my new school and she would always say hi and talk to me in the halls but now she hangs out with these 2 girls that are mostly popular, because she had a fight with her other friend [which she is my friend, too] ,and now she never really talks to me the way she used to. Plus she really never notices me it makes me feel really left out. why doesn't she talk to much anymore? (link)
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Well, first things first, your lack of inclusion of a name, alias, or something to call you by leaves me liberty to re-name you as I see fit, Murgatriod.
But moving onto your issue. Your friend doesn't talk to your because you are stupid, ugly and uncool. Ok! Next question!
No Seriously, Murgatriod, your friend isn't talking to you as much any more because her new friends are dominating her time. She probably doesn't even realize she is ignoring you because she's so swept up with these other two friends of hers. And likely, since they are so popular, they'll continue to dominate her attention until she falls from their good graces. Magically, when that happens she'll expect you to be there for her to lean on. In the meantime she's having fun thinking of herself as one of the "cool" girls and is probably having a good time listening to bubblegum pop and oogling over Josh Hartnet, or Orlando Bloom, or whoever it is that girls are drooling over these days in teenie magazines. So, since she's off having fun, who's to say you can't have fun without her? Is her not talking to you hindering your ability to make new friends? What about your other friend that she's mad at? Isn't she still talking to you? My point is, the issue isn't really *why* she doesn't talk to you any more, but rather, how you are going to deal with it. You have a two options:
1. Follow her around everywhere, with wide schoolgirl eyes imploring that she return her attention to you. This will completely freak her out, and will cause her new friends to think you are utterly annoying.
2. Pull her aside for a quick, private chat. Tell her that you miss spending time with her. Ask if you can join her and her other two friends when they hang out. If she tells you that's fine, they your problem is solved. If she tells you that she doesn't want to spend time with you anymore then realize that she is behaving in a petty chilish manner and isn't really worth your time anyway. Then make new friends.
Hope everything works out for you, Murgatroid.
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I like cake.
dJeu (link)
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DJeu, In all the time I have been offering advice on the internet I have never encounted a problem as severe as this. Please, for the good of yourself and all who know you consult a doctor. Or, if you prefer, simply continue reading my response, because the doctor will merely tell you the following:
Pie is clearly superior.
If the doctor doesn't tell you that, he is obviously a quack, and you should beat him repeatedly with a rubber squeaky hammer. So, in closing, good luck to you DJeu, and may your future be filled with heaping helpings of Pie A la mode. Oh yeah, and remember to share. With me.
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Dear Celena,
My friends said a guy from their school looked at my picture and said he liked me. They also told me that he wanted to meet me. I don't know what to think of this person. How can one like someone from looking at a picture. More so, I know I'm not the type that people will like from looking at my picture. (I don't look pretty already, but when I take pictures, I look drowsy all the time...)
Thank you,
Sighing Confusion (link)
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Sounds like you've got a self esteem problem, SC. You may not think you look pretty in pictures, but you know what they say, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Or in this case, the eye of the guy that's got the hots for you. Obviously, since you've never met the guy, he can't be interested in your great personality. So I assume what your friend really meant was not that he "liked" you in the sense you took it to mean. He was probably flipping through some pictures with your friends and mentioned in passing that you were cute. So... SC, why not ask your friends to introduce you to this guy? I mean, unless he's 4'11" with halitosis, a missing leg and a mental disorder -- What have you got to lose?
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Dear Celena,
I dropped out of public school about four years ago. I've been homeschooling and the only human interaction I have had is with my family and some people online. I have lost touch with all the friends I have known. I don't think I could handle the "real world". I'm very sick and can't even answer the door or go anywhere by myself. I know I can't support myself. My family just makes me feel guilty and depressed. I want to be dead. I've gone for help...and have only gotten pills that don't work. I need real advice. Please help me. (link)
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Ah, another no-name. Well, No-name, sorry it took me so long to get back to you, but my advice to you is this:
Since you are able to get along with your online friends, you've proved that you aren't a complete social flop, and obviosly you have interests outside your home if you're able to keep the conversation moving. Is it possible for you (with help from your family) to find a club or community project that involves some of the interests you share with your online friends? Despite not being enrolled in a public school there are many ways to meet new people where you live. Church groups and community interest groups often offer special services to allow disabled people to join in their activities.
As for wanting to be dead -- don't. There is a purpose for you, don't worry, you'll find it. And if you're only being prescibed pills that do not work, you need to talk to your doctor and explain that your medication is not helping you. If you don't feel comfortable disscussing the issue with your current doctor, you need to find a new one that you do feel comfortable with.
Good luck, No-name, and work on building back your self-confidence! I know you can do it. ^.^
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On my way home from school today, I ran into myself, and I don't mean that I walked into a mirror. Standing right in front of me...was me. He pretended not to notice and walked away. Still shaken, I got home only to find that the house had been trashed. To my further dismay, my own mother began to berate me for destroying the house! My girlfriend is hiding from me, and my friends have become my enemies. I think this other me is destroying my life, and what worries me is that since then, I've noticed a number of other people who bear uncannily resemblances to me, some of whom are even female. What should I do? The world is being overrun by a multitude of mes. Please help me!
--Lance Snow (link)
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Well Lance, the first thing you need to do is stop watching old Re-runs of Card Captor Sakura and sitting in your basement watching the Matrix. The second thing you need to do is stop chowing down on gummy snacks before bedtime.
After you have accomplished those tasks you need to take your imaginative talents and apply them to a novel, or maybe the plotline for a short-lived late sunday night sci-fi TV show. It's time for you to start cashing in, bud.
Or maybe you just need new glasses.
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I need help my crush does not have a crush on me what should i do? (link)
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Well, the first thing you should do is include something I can call you with your question. Thus, diving again into the bag of horrible names which I give to people who don't name themselves, I dub thee Gertrude.
Ok, Gertrude, what you should do is endlessly obsess about this guy, follow him around, doodle his name with little hearts on your peachy folders, buy yourself a ring with his first initial carved in it, if you live near enough, set up a tent and camp out on his doorstep, call his phone at odd hours of the night, email him every hour on the hour (make sure you send lot of forwards and surveys about yourself), oh and buy him a 2004 Chevy Corvette, but send it to my address.
Come ON, Gertrude, what did you think I would say? If he's not into you, he's not into you. That's it, the end. You guys can become friends if you feel comfortable enough with him and yourself to do that, but for now, that's the extent of anything that might happen between you two. You can't MAKE someone like you, Gertrude, that's just the way things are.
Oh and that corvette? Make it silver.
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Hi Celena, I have this problem. I'm married to this person, ok? Her name is Celena, but she's cheating on me behind my back with this guy... =( Keep in mind that we have beautiful, talented and smart children.
-Sailor Erin (link)
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Well, Sailor Erin, It seems that this Celena character has been throwing you for a loop while she runs off and has fun with this other guy! How dare she! I recomend that you teach the beautiful children to cry, the talented children to write a heartwrenching melody, and the smart children to deliver a short, but heartfelt and effective guilt speech. Then sic them ALL on her at the same time. She'll be helpless. Failing that, join the fun with the other guy. After all, you can always have have more beautiful, talented, and smart children!
Good luck, Sailor Erin!
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i started seeing this guy we got along great then his exgirl friend who is crasy started calling me telling me that he is still with her. i broke things off we decided to just be friends he calls me every night and the other night we kissed (peck)"hold on we are just friends" i told him i was confused all he said was that "he was to" what should i do? (link)
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Another no-namer. I guess this means I get to dig into the sack of random horrible names again.
Well, Bertha, let's review your decisions about this guy! He dates you, while also dating his crazy girlfriend She somehow mystically gets your number and harrasses you, so you break it off. GOOD MOVE! You keep in contact. BAD MOVE!
By staying in contact with this looser who obviously had boundary issues before you broke up with him, you're only setting yourself for more of the same crap. He'll continue to play mind games with you until you cut him loose. Worse - he won't even be aware of the games he's playing with your mind! To him, you are an available female who is a willing participant in what he is currently doing. Unless you absolutely put your foot down with him, he will keep this up and get progressively worse. Oh yeah, and you leave yourself in the breech for more harrassing calls from girlfriends and ex-girlfriends.
Run as far and hard as you can.
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'sup celena?!
why aren't our bodies comfortable in 98 degrees F, when we in turn regulate a 98 degree body temp?
maeko (link)
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Not much is up, Maeko. Suprizingly little actually, thanks for asking. And now I will answer your question, which I, of course know the answer to. Right after I do an internet search, which has absoloutely nothing to do with the aforementioned question. Alright, Maeko, I'm back to answer your question, after consulting multiple articles on heat stro--- I mean after consulting the tremendous wealthy of knowledge stored in my cranium I can give you the following answer:
If the surrounding environmental air temperature is less than normal body temperature, that is less than 98 degrees F, the body will lose heat directly to it. However, if the air is at a greater than or equal temperature with body, heat will be absorbed through the skin. This excess heat puts greater demand on your body's sweat system, which will in turn lead to fluid loss making you even hotter.
So there you are, Maeko! Any questions on hypothermia you'd like to add? Because I know all about that too, now. I mean.. uh. Forget I said that.
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Ok, Not too long ago, my best friend and I both liked the same guy. I dont think anyone knew it but us 3. Anyways, the guy (I'll call him Roboert) told me that he liked me. And my best friend was sitting right there. She got really mad because he knew that she liked him alot and he decided to like me. She even got mad at me. Well, she got a boyfriend and everything was cool. But now, they're fighting and she's started talking to Robert more. We're not goin out or anything but, I dont want the same problem to happen again. What should I do? I mean, should I stop liking him for my friend or is she a friend at all if she'd get mad at me for someone liking me??
--Thanks--
~Confused~
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Alrighty, Confused, I just got a phone call, it was Junior High. They want you to give them their drama back. But let's adress the issue first, shall we?
You are the only person not in the wrong here. You have three possible plans of attack:
1. Date Robert, piss of your 'friend' and then break up with him three months later when he decides he likes your friend better.
2. Don't date Robert, resent your 'friend', and later hook up with her current boyfriend to piss her off. (Meanwhile Robert dates that weird girl from your English class who writes depressing poetry on her peachy folder.)
3. Wash your hands of this Junior High drama, realize that both your friend and Robert are behaving in a manner that would disgust any self-respecting seventh grader. If Robert was really interested in you he would have taken you aside privately to share his feelings, not make a pronouncement in front of your friend who he knew would be jealous. On the other side of the equation, your friend has a boyfriend, and can't date Robert anyway. She's being petty, possesive and selfish. I'd say your best bet is to talk a little more with that
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Theres this guy at my school, I REALLY like him and I've told him exactly how I feel. One day we were on the bus, on the way to a football game, and he told me that he liked me too. Now that he told me that, everything is all weird between us. And he alwayz reminds me that he likes me but, he never does anything about it. He also likes this other girl but, IDK. He flirts with me and stuff like that...I don't know what Im supposed to do to find out if he really likes me or if its really gonna go anywheres. I dont wanna talk to him and make myself look like a complete idiot. And I dont want to hold on if theres nothing there and theres never gonna be anything...He got really mad at me for goin to my sis' boyfriends and watchin a movie with his cousin. I mean, my god!! If he wants me so bad, why dont he just take me?? I guess what I want to know is...how do u know if a guy really likes you and do you think i should just let go..and if so, how do i do that? Thanx for your help in advance!! (link)
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What is with people not signing their names, or at least an alias, to questions? As of this question I'm going to re-name anyone who doesn't include some sort of a name myself. Starting with you, Humberta.
Well, Humberta, The only way you are ever going to know if this guy likes you is to call up a psycic hotline and ask them to read his mind for you.
Get real.
Obviously, you're going to have put looking like an idiot on the line and ask him where he feels his interest in you is going. Tell him that you feel he isn't giving you enough attention to sustain a relationship at present. Also, tell him what your expectations and interests with and in him are. If he consents to an exclusive relationship and forgets that other girl, good for you. If not, also good for you, because you get to pull yourself out of what looks like it's turning into a never ending cycle of mindgames and emotional crap.
As for letting go, there's about a million articles, books, TV movies, help ads and programs on letting go, which, of course means - None of them work. There is one tried and true method to letting go: Time and separation.
Good luck, Humberta.
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