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Well I have this friend at my new school and she would always say hi and talk to me in the halls but now she hangs out with these 2 girls that are mostly popular, because she had a fight with her other friend [which she is my friend, too] ,and now she never really talks to me the way she used to. Plus she really never notices me it makes me feel really left out. why doesn't she talk to much anymore?
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She might feel as if you aren't her friend because you are friends with the other friend who she got into a fight with. I think that next time you see her say hi to her and talk to her and ask her how she is and all that. Then if she doesn't talk to you still ask her why she's acting that way towards you and maybe you'll figure things out. Maybe it's all a big misunderstanding. I hope I helped!
-Chloe-
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Well, first things first, your lack of inclusion of a name, alias, or something to call you by leaves me liberty to re-name you as I see fit, Murgatriod.
But moving onto your issue. Your friend doesn't talk to your because you are stupid, ugly and uncool. Ok! Next question!
No Seriously, Murgatriod, your friend isn't talking to you as much any more because her new friends are dominating her time. She probably doesn't even realize she is ignoring you because she's so swept up with these other two friends of hers. And likely, since they are so popular, they'll continue to dominate her attention until she falls from their good graces. Magically, when that happens she'll expect you to be there for her to lean on. In the meantime she's having fun thinking of herself as one of the "cool" girls and is probably having a good time listening to bubblegum pop and oogling over Josh Hartnet, or Orlando Bloom, or whoever it is that girls are drooling over these days in teenie magazines. So, since she's off having fun, who's to say you can't have fun without her? Is her not talking to you hindering your ability to make new friends? What about your other friend that she's mad at? Isn't she still talking to you? My point is, the issue isn't really *why* she doesn't talk to you any more, but rather, how you are going to deal with it. You have a two options:
1. Follow her around everywhere, with wide schoolgirl eyes imploring that she return her attention to you. This will completely freak her out, and will cause her new friends to think you are utterly annoying.
2. Pull her aside for a quick, private chat. Tell her that you miss spending time with her. Ask if you can join her and her other two friends when they hang out. If she tells you that's fine, they your problem is solved. If she tells you that she doesn't want to spend time with you anymore then realize that she is behaving in a petty chilish manner and isn't really worth your time anyway. Then make new friends.
Hope everything works out for you, Murgatroid.
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Stuff like that happens all the time. Two friends split ways... one to be popular, one who realizes where her loyalties lie...
There's really nothing you can do. You can still be friends, but probably not too close..
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