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my boyfriend who ive been with for a very long time wanted to finger me today..but im on my period! hes already done it many times before so when he started to go for it and i took his hand away he was like whats wrong? i didnt want his hand to touch that he'd be DISGUSTED! so i just said"not now"but he kept trying to later on! i wear pads most of the time but even when i do wear tampons..i still cant tell him im on my period cause thatll make everything so awkward! how do you tell a guy without being embarassed and it is it gonna make them freaked out?? cause frankly, its the only thing thats stopping me from doing it and i have no idea what to say.

Having periods is totally normal............it shows that we are healthy. You shouldn't be embarrassed by them.
I am surprised if your boyfrind doesn't know what they are and if he is freaked out then he is totally immature and pathetic.
Besides, no offense, but what the hell are you doing with a guy when you can't even trust him enough to tell him that you are on your period? :)
Vick x

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wen you give handjobs do you just rub up and down the penis or is there a certain way to do it or what? and are you supposed to use lubricant or something or can you just do it normally? and also this may sound dumb but is there any possible way to get pregnant from giving those? like if he..came..onto your hand and then your hand touched..ya you get the point. thanx!

You can't get pregnant from that. As for the rest of it..... i have no idea.....i would like to know too...haha :)

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When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f

Christianity sets a good basis for marriage, so i reccomend that but some people just don't feel the need to get married, you know. It's like they don't crave that other half to "complete" them.
Loads of people don't get married, they don't feel the need to and it is not one of those things that you have to do.
God didn't intend for us to get married, only if we wanted to....due to feeling lonely. He wanted us to remain single and unmarried which, to me, is fucking scary. But everyone has their free will, just do what makes you happy.
Besides, you don't know what is going to happen in your future. You might meet someone and totally change you outlook on marriage...who knows? :)

Vick x

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hey, if you masturbate so much will u actually lose the temptation to have sex when u are older? haha i am just wondering ... thanks in advance :)

No because having sex with someone is a lot more intense than masturating, it's totally different.

However in a way, masturbating can be good in the sense that you were talking about because because it helps a lot of people to not have sex at such a young age, i.e they can wait longer :)
Vick x

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ok so i always wear pretty much the same color make-up every day and i really wanna try something new does ne one have suggestions? like what color eye shadows and eyeliners would look good? thanks

i have light brown hair and light green eyes if that helps = ]

I have green eyes too and
.....black eyeliner makes the green stand out more and defines the eyes.............

.......blue eyeliner also looks quite good...........

............a goldy, grey,or purple eyeshadow looks best too...........


i have a green eyeliner but it doesn't do much. Plus i also read somewhere that wearing an eyeshadow that is the same colour as your eyes i.e green, doesn't make them standout so green eyeshadow would do absolutely nothing for you!!! :)

Vick x

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