Hello everyone. My name here on advicenators is Solcito. It's a nickname my ex-girlfriend gave me that basically means little sun. That's the only personal information I really want to give out. In the short time that I have inhabited this planet I feel that I have experienced enough to make good judgment in most situations. I've fallen in love, had my heart broken, been mugged, made and lost a ton of friends, lived in three continents and become fluent in two different languages. I just feel that it's important to let you know why I think I'm certified to answer your questions. I'm also a guy, so I know how men think. I'm not saying that there aren't a fair share of guys who have questions about girls. I just generally see more females asking about their love lives here than guys. Hope you like my advice, and good luck to everyone with their personal issues.
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normally, how much does a guy cum when he reaches climax during sex into a condom? (16-17 years old of age) does it usually stay in the condom for a while or does it kind of absorb into the latex? (link)
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It depends on a lot of things. The biggest determining factor is how long it has been since he last ejaculated. If it's been a really long time, it could be quite a lot (maybe the size of a racket ball). If he ejaculated that day it will be significantly less (anywhere from a drop of water to the size of a quarter). If the condom is put on right, it will all stay in the condom (assuming there isn't a hole). It never absorbs into the latex.
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15/f
hi!! most of my best friends have boyfriends. Some of them even have 8 -yes, 8- other guys vying for them as well. Like if they broke up with their boyfriend, they would be asked out by 8 guys at once in a heart beat.
Me on the other hand, i can't even get asked out once. i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, or even a real "i mean it" type of hug from a guy. I'm starting to get really lonely and also pissed off because im tired of being left out of plans becuase i don't have a date/boyfriend and i really want to be liked by atleast one guy (that i even remotely like-there are some guys who like me, but they #1 don't have enough courage to tell me/ask me out and #2 they are gross (don't brush hair, bad BO and bad breath, and don't wash clothes).
how do i get someone to like me and how do i flirt with a guy to get their attention to ask me out.
if you could PLEASE help me, i would be really really really happy and grateful.
(o, i forgot to mention, im really shy and not good at starting conversations or keeping them going)
thanks so much and sorry this is so long (link)
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Honestly, if you haven't met someone by 15, that does not mean you will never meet someone. I would actually say the majority of people have not been in a relationship by the time they turn 15. Guys (myself included) tend to be very immature at that age. I know because my brother just turned 16. Try to understand that just about all 15 year olds are fairly immature. They treat everyone horribly, including their friends, they date for all the wrong reasons, including who's the most attractive and popular, and are notoriously bad at serious relationships. If you want a guy though, try to get in good with his friends. The number one thing that will turn a 15 year-old guy off is if his friends say it's a bad idea. It also would probably be easier for you to approach his friends with intentions of friendship than to approach a guy you like with intentions of romance. Talking to guys is easy. We love to talk about ourselves. Honestly, at 15, I thought I was god's gift to mankind, and so did most of my friends. Just ask them a question and let them go on for days. If you don't get a guy at this age, consider yourself lucky, not unfortunate. I can almost promise you will not have a truly meaningful relationship until your last year of high school, and probably not until after you've graduated.
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about two months i ended a 3 year relationship with this guy and about 2 weeks ago my first boyfriend called me out of no where and he wanted to go get a coffee together and that was it . ever since we have been hanging out and. My family loves him and they thing his great but i dont know wut he wants. He says that he wants to take it slow beacuse i just go out of a relationship and when i ask him wut we are he says we are not friends but we are not boyfriend and girlfirned either. i just dont know where i stand. We have great sex but should we stop. He is a great guy for the future i mean i want somebody like him in my life later on but right now i dont know wut to do he says he cares about me alot but i feel like there is still something missing like he is still not sure about me. i mean if he isnt i would like for him to say it beacuse i dont want to get hurt at the end. Please HElp me (link)
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Maybe the best solution to your issue is just to tell him how you feel. It's not uncommon for someone, depending on age, to just want to date. It's a semi-relationship.
It seems to me that you aren't really sure about what you want. First decide that. If you want to be with him. Tell him. It would be better to tell him that you want to make in a monogamous relationship and have him say no, than it would be to stay in a relationship with someone who is not looking for the same thing as you are. Tell him how you feel, if you know how you feel. Express your concerns. These are the things that separate a relationship from just a hook-up buddy. Nobody can tell you what he wants besides him.
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ok, i have a bf. but he never tlks 2 me. then this other guy came... i guess i fell in luv with him. and i luv him more than my bf!! the new guy always tlks 2 me, flirts with me, and all of that junk, u kno. but my bf doesnt. i dont wanna break up with my bf cause i dont wanna go breaking anyones heart... WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!?!?!?! pls help me!! (link)
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Choose the other guy. It sounds like your boyfriend treats you badly whereas this new guy is some kind of prince charming. Nobody can beat prince charming.
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my friend is madly in love with his girlfriend. they both love each other and were planning on getting married when they grew up. they were gonna go to college together, get married, and have a family. however, she went to a party without him and got very drunk. some guy took advantage of her and they hooked up. she apologized to him (my friend), and told him how much she regretted it, and how she would never do it again. should he break up with her? (link)
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If these two people are as close as you say they are, then I would say no. Everyone makes mistakes. If he loves her, he should trust her that it wasn't her intention. However, I think it is completely reasonable that he asks her to stop drinking, or at least to stop drinking when she's not with him. Also, if she says it will never happen again, that's got to be the truth. There is no third chance. Cheating is a horrible thing, but a strong couple can make it through it.
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okay so im a freshman and just started high school. ill just start by saying i was pretty weird in like 4,5,6th grade and then made some friends in 7th and 8th grade was a great year. well now i want to make some new good friends, maybe even a new best friend. most people already have their groups established and i dont really know how to get into them. dont get me wrong ive become "friends" with new people but id like to be better friends soid know i would always have something to do on the weekends and you know stuff like that (link)
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High school can be a really great or really horrible time depending on how you approach it. The good thing is that there are typically more people than in middle school, so you are more likely to find someone like you. I can just tell you to try and find the people that you fit in with. I spent the first two and a half years of high school hanging out with jocks, going to keggers, and dating really cute preppy girls. Then one day I realized that wasn't me and started to hang out with people that were considered fairly nerdy. I loved my last year of high school, but hated the first few. Find your niche and you'll be fine. Just don't idealize any one click and determine your level of happiness by your relationship with members of that group.
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Ok so... my cousin moved to his adds apartment in san fransico from brazil last winter (his mom and sister still live in brazil). On the 15th his mom got a him a ticket to go back brazil because his dad said he didnt want him anymore (yeah i knowits sad) howeverl i NEED to see him before he leaves because otherwise i will porbably never see him again (his mom wont lwt him back to the states) and i live in michigan. I asked my parents if i coudld go this weekend and they said no. I cant take no as an asnwer, how can i get there without my parents? pleasee give me rational answers this is really important to me (link)
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If your parents said no then it's probably not a good idea. Besides the fact that if you're under 18 traveling alone without authorization from your parents is illegal, there is no cheap way for you to get there. You would have to buy a plane ticket to get there quickly, or take the bus which would take a few days each direction and still be fairly expensive. Honestly, if you go, you'll most likely end up returning home in a police car, so don't do it.
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this question is preferably for guys to answer, but if a girl has a good answer then that would be great too! What are ways to tell a guy really loves you. Other than him just saying it, what are some things that could really determine it? thanks! (link)
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I'm a guy!! Alright, as a guy in love I think I'm qualified to answer this question. It can be hard to tell if someone really loves you. What it comes down to in the end is trust. However, if a guy really loves you, he should go out of his way to do things for you. I can't ever stop thinking about my girlfriend. I send her emails every day just to let her know how important she is to me. I call her as much as possible just to see how she is. I send her packages with cards and little gifts I pick up for her (it's a long-distance relationship). Basically, when a guy acts like you're the center of his universe, he loves you. If he won't stop talking to people about you. It's hard to say, but when somebody really loves you, they make you feel like the most important person in the world just because they're hoping you feel the same way about them.
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Hey guys
I went to planned parenthood the other day and they told me i should be taking my pills for about a week until they work. Does this mean it's okay to be taking the pills for 2 weeks (or a little more) and to have sex? I won't get pregnant right? well of course with birth control theres always a risk but i mean, the pills will be working by then right?
thanks (link)
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It really depends on the pill you're taking. The one my girlfriend takes we had to wait a full cycle of her period before it was safe to not use a condom. Honestly, look it up online for the specific pill you're taking. If you're in doubt, use a condom!! Also, even when you're taking birth control, it's not a bad idea to use a condom during your "risk days" i.e. 12 to 16 days after your period.
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I know this might sound like a stupid question, but what does someone look like when they're high? And what about when someone's stoned?
Do people look any different or do they just act different? (link)
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"High" is a very broad term used to describe someone under the influence of just about any kind of narcotic. How someone looks when they're "high" is dependent on the drug and how someone reacts to it. "Stoned" typically refers just to marijuana, so I can tell you that. Most people look pretty much the same. They might look a little more tired. Many people get red or glossy eyes. People will act different, but it depends on the person and how they react to the drug. Most people will just seem really lazy and tired. They may have trouble talking, and it's common that they will find absolutely everything funny and/or interesting.
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Well I just got my first period on November 1st, and then it was brown. So I knew it was my period, then later, I put in a pantiliner in case, then it was probably covered like umm. Half of it? In like light redishh. So I then put in a pad, and like nothing came out, it was like 2 spots. At night, I also put in a pad, and then there was like nothing. When I was at school, only like a bit, dried blood. That was like the second day. So then on the third day, i probably thought it might be more regular but no... When i use a pad, nothing comes out. When i use a pantiliner, then there is like blood. But not a lot. Now like today, i used a pad and same problem. NOTHING! and then pantiliner, then yes. Whats wrong? Will it get more normal the next time i get my period? oh yeah, and im 13/f. And im Canadian if that helps? (link)
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Alright, first off I'll let you know that I'm a guy, and I'm just telling you this from experience with my girlfriend and almost 19 years of wisdom have taught me. It really shouldn't have anything to do with whether you use a pad or a liner. As weird as it sounds, it's almost definitely just a huge coincidence. It should start strong for the first couple days and then get much lighter on the third day, maybe a little on the fourth. At 13, I believe periods can still be very irregular, especially if you're a small girl or hit puberty late. Have you lost a lot of weight recently? Are you eating well and staying hydrated? I hope you're not at 13, but are you sexually active? All these things can cause irregularities. I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if it's irregular next month, or if you're really worried about it, go to a gynecologist just to be sure.
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Hey im 16 and my boyfriend is 17 turning 18 ( We've been going out for 8 months almost 9) , and i really dont know what to get him for his birthday. Anyone have any idea.. please dont say "get him something he likes" because it really doesnt help me =[ im soo stuck. I want to get him something that a guy dreams of getting from his girlfriend.. ya know .. ( GUYS opinions appreciated ) also anyone whose in a relationship or past that gave an awesome birthday present, please shareee =]...
Thanks :) (link)
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I can't tell you what to get him, but I can tell you what my girlfriend got me my last birthday. She bought me a cd, not because I liked the group, but because there was a song on the cd that always made her think of me. She dedicated the song to me or rather to us. She made me a huge card where she glued all the pictures she had of us two together, and then wrote me a loooooooong note. She made a giant envelope for the giant card and wrote "Baby I Love You" on the front. Gifts like that are what I like. When a girl only spends about 10 dollars, but then takes about 6 hours just to let me know she loves me. Then again, if you're boyfriend's a shallow guy. Buy him guitar hero III. Hope this helps.
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okay. I'm kinda freaking out right now.
let me start from the top...
on sunday the 21st of october, i started birth control for the first time. [[ One week ago ]] the Nuva Ring. and i'm supposed to wait for 1 week before having sex.
well last night my boyfriend stayed the night.. and well, we couldn't help ourselves. lol. and we had sex about 10 hours before it would be 7 days. so i waited 6 days and 14 hours... but we did use a condom. THEN this morning we did it again, in the heat of the moment, I just figured it would be fine. it had been 7 days. so we didn't use a condom [[ we were out of them anyway ]]
but i'm really nervous about the whole thing. If I get pregnant, it'll ruin both of our lives. we're only 17. [[ i know, 17 year olds shouldn't have sex ]] i've heard all the lectures. just please help!! (link)
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Here are some statistics that will make you feel good and bad. There are only a few days a month you can get pregnant. Most people know this. It is approximately two weeks after your period. That's great news right? Not exactly. Sperm can live in the vagina for a long time. Usually only a few days, but sometimes up to a week or two, so you can get pregnant as a result of sex you had on your period.
Birth control in generally effective from the day you start taking it. I know this about the pill. I'm not familiar with the ring. They just put a time before you can start having sex to make sure it's as effective as possible to avoid law suits. In short, you could be, but you probably aren't. Factors that would matter would be whether he ejaculated inside or out. I've had plenty of scares myself. My girlfriend and I didn't always use as much protection as we should have, but she isn't pregnant. The best thing to do is stay calm, I would use protection for sure from here on out. If you doubt your ability to say no to your boyfriend if he doesn't have a condom, don't let him come over if he doesn't have one. I suggest using birth control and a condom. Really though, stay calm. Statistics say you aren't going to end up with a baby, and stress can delay your period or even cause you to skip a period. If you're really worried, take a pregnancy test 4 days to a week before your period should come. Good luck, and don't forget to practice safe sex. It's a lot easier and cheaper to change condoms than diapers.
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ok i have no log off button and i've tried pressing ctrl-alt-delete and then tried logging off like that but it still doesn't work. (i have no log off button on the start thing or on the task manager). i also have another problem, when i turn on my comp i don't have a welcome screen, so i cant pick which account i want to log on to, it picks the admin one by itself.
-i have tried right clicking on start, then properties, then customize, then advanced, to see if i can enable the log off button but there is nothing about that there.
please someone help me i know its being disabled but dont know how to fix it
thank you (link)
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OR you could just go start menu. Then control panel. Then go to user accounts. That's probably the easiest way to customize things in that area.
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So a few hours my friend asked me out and I said yes.
Except he and my best friend have never gotten along. That's all fine and stuff, and even he doesn't care I'm friends with her.
But she's getting really pissed off. In those short few hours she's been getting a bit narky with me, and she actually said to me when he goes overseas she wants him to find another another girl to be 'her problem'
I think she also may be jealous I found a guy and she hasn't.
What the HELL do I say to her to get her to pull her head out of her ass? (link)
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The fact that he's willing to live with the situation and she isn't is a clear sign that he's more mature than she is. Tell her that you want to be with him, and if she is your friend she should accept that. Also listen to her advice though. If she thinks all these negative things about him, ask yourself why? Does she have a point? Is it you being stubborn or her? Give me more information on him and on her, and I can help you more. Just don't let your friend potentially ruin a relationship, but also don't let her words fall on deaf ears, every now and then people really will be looking out for your best interests.
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hey..see i love this guy who lives 2 or so hours away from me..we used to go out but he dumped me because he couldnt handle the long distance..i was devasted and..its been 2 years but im stil not over him ,then one day he phoned me and said he wanted to be friends..but i know he has feeling for me and recently admitted he loved me..but doesnt want to form a relationsip because he feels it will be too hard...what should i do??? move on? or keep hopin?i really need advice please!!...ps i am 17 yr old girl (link)
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With long distance relationships you need to ask yourself a few questions before deciding whether or not to continue with them. First off, two hours is not that far. Next year you will have a lot of freedom if you go off to college and you will be able to see each other a few times a month if not every week. If he needs to physically be with you to, be in a relationship with you, maybe the relationship is a little too sexually based. Also, you have to be tight enough really trust him, and he has to trust you. When you don't live close to each other, there is nothing to go on other than your partner's word. You need communication. Phone calls, emails, send pictures so that he knows what you are doing while he's not around.
Talk to him about these things along with your feelings and any concerns you may have. If he's not mature enough to talk things out, then he's saying your not worth a 2 hour drive and a 30 minute conversation. You can find much better guys than that.
My girlfriend lives in another continent and we're still strong after 4 months apart. I prefer a phone call from her to sex with any girl close by that will never be as important to me as she is.
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Ok so last week my friend told me that this guy liked me. I was pretty excited cuz i had a little crush on him too. But now he shows like no signs that he likes me. It could be that hes just confused or i dont know. But i really want to get to know him more. any help here? (link)
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If you like the guy, it shouldn't matter at all whether or not he likes you. Pursue him. Based on the fact that someone else told you he liked you, I'm guessing you are fairly young, maybe in the first couple years of high school? Guys at this age are usually fairly scared. I know I was. Most of them will sit around hoping for some relationship to fall out of the sky and hit them on the head. Now I'm not saying you should take up skydiving, but ease the transition by dropping some hints that you like him. He's not confusing. He's just normal. That's how things work.
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I've just broke up with my boyfriend and it's official it's over. I don't want him to get with another girl but obviously it's inevitable he will. I just can't stop thinking about his hands over a girl and him "doing things". I know I'm torturing myself and I feel so sick about it. I've tried keeping busy and even when I'm at work I imagine it. All I wanted was for him to care and love me and he went for no reason. I know he isn't worth it but that doesn't make love go. I know time will only do that but how do I control the girl thing? n e suggestions? (link)
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It's a situation most people find themselves in after a relationship. Unfortunately there is no cure. There isn't a pill you can take that removes all heartache within 24 hours. Fortunately, it does go away. The best thing to do is let your friends help you. Keep your head high, try to smile, laugh, and joke around, but don't be afraid to talk to your closer friends about what you're feeling. I promise that at some point, whether it be tomorrow or a year from now you'll find yourself looking back on the situation and laughing. You will get over him, you will find someone else, it just takes time.
For future reference you might want to post more information. This basically says, "my boyfriend dumped me. Now I'm sad. Help!!" Every situation is different. The more information you give. The better someone can help you out.
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