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cheating/breaking up
my friend is madly in love with his girlfriend. they both love each other and were planning on getting married when they grew up. they were gonna go to college together, get married, and have a family. however, she went to a party without him and got very drunk. some guy took advantage of her and they hooked up. she apologized to him (my friend), and told him how much she regretted it, and how she would never do it again. should he break up with her?
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I've been through the same thing but it was my boyfriend who cheated on me under somewhat similar circumstances. I dumped him right away but in the next few months we talked things over. I definetely suggest that your friend talks to his girlfriend right away. It's not something you can move on from. They need to decide what is best for them.
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Considering the fact that she was drunk I'd say No. What she did was wrong but then again she was drunk and at that moment didn't recall exactly what she was doing or with who she was messing around with. I'd say give her a second chance WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES although you didn't really go into detail about their relationship it looks like this is the first time she's done something like this to him but then again I can't be saying this without proof. Not everyone deserves a second chance but this one does because it was a mistake. The situation does look bad on account that she went without him but if you look at it the other way its much worse. Hope I helped =)
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I dont think he should break up with her, people make mistakes and she probably didnt know what she was doing at the time. When people are drunk they do things they wouldnt normally do. She has apologiesed and said she wouldnt do it again. I think he should give her another chance. The way you have described their relationship they seem like they both love each other and i think he should try and work things out.
So nope i dont think he should
Hope that helped
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People fuck up.
Its a fact of life.
She didnt fall for someone else. She didnt go somewhere to get sex from someone else because she wasnt satisfied. She got drunk and was taken advantage of on some level.
I like to think that everyone deserves a second chance.
Infidelity is hard to get over. But if they both still want to be with each other, I think that that is what they should focus on.
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He should not break up with her. If he trusts her enough, then he should believe how much she regrets it... and he shouldn't shove it in her face later... people make mistakes.
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Do to the heart ake from aomehitng like this i would have to say yes, but then that might jump to things too quickly. I would feel very insulted and probably seperate for a while and just being friends for now. To have all that commitment shattered like that i personaly wouldn't forgive. If she said herself she was sorry, how could he trust her again? his heart is probvably scared and in a different view of how promises from men or women are void and nothing more. I would just tell him to keep it as friends for now till she realizes what harm she's done by that, maybe he'll find someone who really does appriciate him and values him for who he is. If they still do love eachother then that's good to know how strong of a commitment they have for eachother and second chances maybe possible. Hope this helps
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I don't think he should break up with her because she was drunk, so she wasn't in her right mind when this happened. It must an unfortunate mistake, and if she's as great as she seems by reading this -- then I don't think she would ever do this intentionally. And if her boyfriend (your friend) doesn't think so either, then he definitely shouldn't break up with her. If I were him, I'd give her another chance.
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If these two people are as close as you say they are, then I would say no. Everyone makes mistakes. If he loves her, he should trust her that it wasn't her intention. However, I think it is completely reasonable that he asks her to stop drinking, or at least to stop drinking when she's not with him. Also, if she says it will never happen again, that's got to be the truth. There is no third chance. Cheating is a horrible thing, but a strong couple can make it through it.
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