Dear advice giver people,
I have this friend who has just gotten out of a relationship like 4 or 5 months ago. She broke up with the guy so that's all good. Ok, so then I liked this dude Billy right? Ok, well she decides that he's a sweetheart & goes for him. Well, that doesnt bother me because I have a boyfriend & I stopped liking Billy like forever ago. Me & Billy are still like close friends though & he was telling me how he was going to ask Jessica out & all. So being the girlfriend I am, I told Jess EVERYTHING he said. Now she will NOT stop talking about him. I'm serious. We could be watching TV & she's like, I miss Billy. Ok, well, then I mention my boyfriend like maybe 3 times that whole day. Ok, then she was talking to one of my other friends and she like, "She talks about *Joe WAY too much." Ok, Im sittin there like WHAT THE HELL you kno. So I dont know WHAT to do.
Sorry it's forever long!!
Well,I think the best way to handle this situation is to talk face-to-face with Jess.No other friends playing middle-man. That will only complicate things. Sit down with your girl and tell her that you really don't appreciate her talking about you behind your back,and that it hurts your feelings.Let her know that in the future,if she has any problems or issues with you,just talk to YOU.Then nicely let her know that you are happy for her and her new guy,you really are,but sometimes it might be nice to have a conversation or do something without bringing him into it.You don't wanna come off as jealous or stand-offish,because if you say it rudely,that's the first place she's gonna go with it,ya know? Just let her know that you love her,and you're glad that she's happy with her guy,and you hope that she's happy for you and your guy,but maybe you shouldn't carry on about the guys everytime you're together.Make sure she knows you're there for her when she needs you,and you don't mean that you NEVER wanna hear this guy's name again,just not 24/7.Maybe you guys could set aside a little time each day that's your "guy time" or something,where you both talk about your guys just like girlfriends do.Just an idea!Hehe!!Hope this helped you out some!Let me know how it goes! :)
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i am 5'3 and i weigh 135 pounds...i know i am over weight and its mostly all in the stomach... i never have enough time to run after school because i have so much hw... i run during athletics tho.... i try to eat pretty healthy..i heard that if u eat alkl fruit and veggies and cut your meals in half that it would help...do u know any good ways to lose weight i want to lose like to or 20 lbs...
thank you in advance!!
youre soo good at giving advice!!
Aww,first of all thank you for the compliment!! Ok,I looked around the net to see what I could come up with! First,here's a great article I found: http://www.epinions.com/content_2228723844
That has some great ideas!! As far as exercise,I think the simple way is always better than throwing yourself into some big exercise plan!That website has some great insight into working out.Just start out slow and work your way up! Fruits and veggies are great! As far as cutting your meals in half,I think it's healthier to gradually cut down to smaller portions,but always eat 3 meals a day.Cutting down on the snacking in between meals is a great thing!If you do get the urge to snack,and can't resist,grab a handful of almonds,or some carrott sticks,or strawberries,whatever you like!Something that's a good snack,that's still close to junk food but is actually healthy for you is pretzels!I LOVE pretzels,and they're a really good snack to have,check out the low sodium ones so you don't have a TON of salt on them.I hope you were able to find SOME help in there,but just remember that the real key is to have faith in yourself!Don't give up because you have a bad day,and don't go into this with an attitude of you're so hideous that you HAVE to do this,because you're not.Go into it with an attitude that you are a pretty,intelligent,and great girl,and hey,why not add to your greatness?Hehehe :) Keep smilin girl and let me know how you're doing!!!
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Ok here goes im 17 and im having toruble performing sexually i can't hold an erection for that long even when i masturbate it takes awhile for me to get hard my penis is really small
only 3.5 inches long when erect does that matter?
im worried that there's soemthing wrong with me
what can i do?
Well,I'm not a doctor,but I HIGHLY doubt that there's something WRONG with you! First of all,size doesn't matter,even tho a lot of people say it does.It isn't about size,it's about knowing what you're doing! ;) As far as having trouble getting an erection,I'm not an expert since I'm a girl,lol,but I can try to help ya!Maybe you can look for like a focal point,something that turns you on,like a picture of a certain girl,a scene from a movie,whatever.And try keeping that image in your mind when you're trying to get an erection.I'm really sorry that I can't help you out more,but since I'm a girl I don't really know too much about this topic!But I hope maybe I was able to reassure you in some way!!
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Whitney, this is Courtney again, thank you for your advice, it was really helpful to hear advice from someone older than me, and i am going to take your advice because it makes most sense to me and it really helped me,i already called up my boyfriend to talk to him about it and he told me he was sorry for trying to get me to, he thought that i wanted it, and that hes gunna slow things down with me because i told him i wasnt ready, so Thank You so much for your advice, it was really helpful ((PS i rated you a 5))
*Court*
Awww! Thank you sweetheart! I'm really glad I could help!!!!Good for you,for standin up for yourself!!;) I'm glad everything worked out,and if you ever need anything else,let me know!Love,Whitney
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 8 months now and we havent had sex... it'll be 8 months on Jan.4th, and i was over his house yesterday when his parents werent home and he tryed to have sex with me, which he does all the time, and he got pretty far until i said no because his little brother was home and i didnt want him 2 walk in on us... but anyways getting to my point, should i have sex with him? plz help me im so confused, and i really dont no what i want to do either... oh just so you know im not a virgin either... and neither is he.. oh and were both 14 yrs old
Love always,
**Court~**
Well,it sounds to me like you really just aren't ready to take this relationship to that next level yet.And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that,you're still VERY young!I know you hear that all the time,but it's the truth!The thing that worries me is that this guy,as you say,"keeps trying" to have sex with you.If he can't respect you enough to back off and not keep trying to rush into something that serious,then odds are he isn't worth having sex with anyway!Just a little advice from an older chick!BUT,I'm not here to judge you hun!I think you should let this boy know that it's time to slow down,and if he can't respect that and back off a little then nothing's EVER gonna happen!If he truly cares about you,he'll respect your wishes and pace things.Sadly,not every guy is worth it!!I hope I was able to help you out some!!Best of luck hunnie,and remember,you don't have to have sex with someone to keep them in your life,and if they say that you do,you don't want them in your life! :)
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Hey everyone. I have an embarrassing problem that's really taking over my life.. it might seems small to some, but it's not at all. I have bad stretch marks, and they're making me majorly self conscious... around everyone. I have them all over, but they're especially bad on my stomache and sides. They're taking hold of me and my boyfriends relationship. Does anyone have any home remedies or in-expensive products I can use?? I'm using palmers cocoa butter right now. Should I use it every day?? Please give me advice, i'll rate high. Thanks so much
Well,cocoa butter is more for preventing stretch marks,rather than treating them. You can try that Maderma for scars,it might be helpful in lessening the appearance of the stretch marks.Also I seem to recall my aunt telling me that Vitamin E is good for scars and stretch marks.You can take the capsules or there are some lotions that contain Vitamin E.I hope this helps you out some!
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I was cleaning out my closet that I havn't cleaned for like a year and a half and I found the $125 gold necklace that my ex-boyfriend gave me last year. I remember throwing it in the closet when i broke up with him-----but now I found it. I don't have any jewelery that fine and I was thinking about wearing the necklace. Who's gonna know? My ex lives in N.Y.C. anyway and i'm like 2 hours north of the city, so I wont see him. Do you think its ok to wear it???
I think so long as you are comfrotable wearing the necklace,then go for it! It doesn't mean you are still madly in love with your ex,if anything,it simply means you still enjoy the nice gift he gave you while you two were an item!
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My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information?
I had a Beta fish years ago.They're pretty simple to take care of.If you can,the best thing to do is to keep the fish by itself.NEVER put a male and a female together,because after they mate,the female will kill the male.You also can't have two males together because they will kill each other.Hey,they don't call them fighting fish for nothing!They can do fine in an aquarium with other tropical fish,just be careful if you have fish that are considered "fin nippers" such as Danio's and Tiger Barb's.I had a male in a tank with both Danio's and Tiger Barb's tho,and they never had a problem living together.As far as maintnence is is concerned,it's basically the same as any other fish,just keep the water clean(or if you have a tropical fish tank where the Beta fish will be with other tropical fish,keep the filter and rocks clean),and feed them when needed.I hope this helps you out a little!!
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Ok.. I just wanna know if its uh.. normal. or feel way to overwelmed about sex. I know it ment to be pleasurable and stuff. But that fact of something going inside of me. Is wayy disgusting its like my fear.. kinda. I cant help the feel. and it pisses me off.
Im Bisexual and it even goes for finger or tampons i just get so grossed out. Is this normal??
will i get over it.
Yes,it's a normal part of growing up.Everyone will develope and feel differently about sex.It sounds to me like you just aren't ready for sex yet,or for any sexual activities.You will get over it-especially when the right person comes along! :)
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i am 13 and i went and got blonde higlights on my brown hair and i noe the highlights will start to go away but i was wondering if i striaghten my hair everyday and wash it everyday will it make the color go away faster?? and is there anything i can do to keep my highlight from not letting the color fade away so fast?? can u plz help me!!
Yes,unfortunately highlights do fade away fairly quickly. Try using shampoos,conditioners,and other hair products that say they are for Color-Treated hair.I think John Frieda makes a special product just for blonde highlights. Also,try washing your hair every other day,because by washing it every day you strip it of it's natural oils,and dried out,over-washed hair will lose it's color quicker.Try taking some days off from the straightening iron too,to give your hair a break from all that heat.And when you do use the straightening iron,spray on a heat protector spray first,Pantene makes a really good one that even smells good!Hehe! Hope this helps!
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im 14/f and i really want my belly button peirced! i finally got my mom to say yes its just my dad. he says he doesnt want me to get infected and thinks im too young but i told him id clean it alot and everything but he still doesnt know. how do i get him to say yess?? pleasee helpp
Do your research!Find out all you can find out about getting your belly button pierced!Call and check around your town for the cleanest,most reputable place.Learn all about the process of keeping a belly button piercing clean,like what products to use,and how to clean it.Show your dad that you're responsible enough to do all this research and find out everything you need to know.Maybe ask him to take you to the piercing place,so he can be right there and watch how they do it,and ask any questions he may have for the piercing artist.I hope this helps you out some! I've had my belly button pierced for almost 3 years now and I LOVE it!Lemme know if you get it! ;)
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ok ya*ll i love to sing and i hate singing in front of people and when itell people this they laugh and say get over it and i think i am a good singer but no1 will belive me if i cant sing out loud help me and please dont say gEt OvA It signed *RaIsE Ur VoIcE*
I have the same problem.I love to sing,and I truly feel that I have the talent,but I am really shy about just busting into song in front of other people.The trick is starting with someone you are very comfrotable with.Maybe your mom or dad,or your best friend,whoever.After you've mastered being able to sing in front of that particular person,looking into some lessons with a vocal coach would be a wonderful investment.They not only will help you to develope your vocal skills,but they will help you to conquer your fear of singing in front of others.It's a gradual growing process,but you can do it!You just have to keep believing in your talent and your capability to do this!Best wishes!Please keep me posted on how things are going! ;)
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me and this guy "B" went out 4 a year. he then went 2 a different school, and now starting high school, we go to the same one. were talking again...were eachothers 1st loves...except we didnt lose it wit each other. when we broke up he got with someother girl and they ended up doing it a few times. but when this school year started we have been talking alot laytlee...and well do u think it'll b weird if i lost it with him?!
If you two truly have feelings for each other,and both want to and are ready to do this,it wouldn't be weird at all.So long as you are safe and take all the necessary precautions,and you're positive that you are mentally,emotionally,as well as physically ready for this,and he is the right guy..I don't see any weirdness. Be safe!! Hope this helps you out a little! :)
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there is this guy who likes me ALOT, and i can tell he does whenever we're together, but then whenever we get around other people (only gurls) he kind starts flirting with them too. he doesnt flirt with them as much as he does with me at all, but still its the fact that he does flirt that makes me not like him as much.. is he just tryin to use me? or is he tryin to be nice to other people and just doesnt realize he's flirting?
Well,there are a couple of possibilities here. He could just be the type who is a flirt,plain and simple,whether he means to or not.He may not realize that he's coming across as flirty with all those girls.Another possibility is that he is trying to make you slightly jealous,or get you to notice him and to see that he can get other girls,but you're the one he wants.In my opinion,the best bet is to just flat out ask him where you stand with him.Is he into you or not? And if he is into you,is it only you he's into right now,or are there others?It might not be the easiest thing in the world to do but believe me it's the best thing to do in the long run,because being open and honest and direct is the best way to go!Hope this helps!Keep me posted on what happens! :)
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I'm 13/f in the 8th grade
There's this guy at my school, he's smart, funny, good looking, and mature. His friend told my friend that he liked me and I'm pretty sure he does since he treats me special and flirts with me a lot. Now I'm not really sure if I want to go out with him (I like guys with a more goth character), or I should just wait until highschool since maybe we're going to different ones. Well I believe he wont ask me out because he thinks I like this other kid (who I dont like anymore). What should I do?
Well,if you really truly like this guy,his "style" or "look" isn't a big deal. And it does sound to me like you really like this guy.Plus,if his friend is coming up to you and telling you he likes you,it's a pretty safe bet he's pretty into you!As far as going to different schools in the future,you never know what may happen,and plus with you guys living near each other you could make it work.Just because you might not attend the same school,doesn't mean you can't be a couple.I saw that all the time when I was in school.I say go for it and ask him out before another girl scoops him up!Let him know that you are into a guy,but it's certainly not the other kid he thinks you like! ;) I hope this helps some!Lemme know how it goes!!
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In peoples columns, i'm seeing these things where you put out all the letters of the alphabet and... umm, well here's an example "Age-15 .......Dream guy (for D)-Johnny depp. etc...
Can you give me all the letters and stuff? i wanna put it in my column.
Thanks!
Alphabet Survey
[a]ge:
[b]estfriends:
[c]hoice of meat:
[d]ream date:
[e]xciting adventure:
[f]avorite food:
[g]reatest accomplishment:
[h]appiest day of your life:
[i]nterests:
[j]ello:
k]ool aid:
[l]ove:
[m]ost valued:
[n]ame:
[o]utfit you wore to school today:
[p]izza topping:
[q]uestion most asked:
[r]adio station:
[s]port:
[t]elevision show:
[u]r favorite song:
[w]here you live:
[x]yz:
[y]ear born:
[z]odiac sign:
Hope that helps ya out!!
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i have a sore on the inside of my lip is there any way to make it go away of do i just have to put up with it until it goes away itself?
Well,if it's on the INSIDE of your lip,as in on your gums,you can always try Anbesol,and/or Orajel,and they make special types for mouth sores.They will help to numb them up,and heal them a little faster.Other than that,they unfortunately just have to heal and go away on their own.Also,stay away from pop,orange juice,and other acidic type drinks for a little while. :(
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can anyone tell me a good site to put digital pictures on besides picture trail because thats not working for me!! thank you
Fotki,Photobucket,WebShots Community,and Yahoo have some good sites!! Hope this helps some!!!
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Hello, I am a bisexual. I am a 16 year old girl. I like one special girl a lot. She is pretty,funny,and intelligent. She is also straight,pure straight. I dont know what to do. Should I try my hardest to move on or keep wanting?
Well,unfortunately sometimes we end up liking those we can't have. If this girl is straight,and is very sure in her sexuality the odds of her suddenly changing her mind are quite slim. As much as it might upset you,I would try the best you can to move on. If you feel that you can handle it,you might be able to be just friends with this girl. To have her in your life as a friend is better than not having her in your life at all. Best of luck.If you need anything else,drop me another note in my inbox! :)
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I am going through a break up because my boyfriend just wants to give up on our relationship all of a sudden. Now this is a big deal because a child is involved. We have worked through everything for years and now all of a sudden when we have a family started he wants to run and give up? I am extremely hurt and I wish I could just be calm and move on with my life and say well, he's just stupid. But I am so angry and I just want to scream at him so bad but I know that could make things worse. How do I be a calm, cool, and collected person so that there is a chance that he may want to work through this? I don't want to be that angry girl with sarcastic comments comming out of my mouth every five minutes...it's really hard to control guys, I am so mad at him for giving up at the worst time. I wish I could do something as simple as smack some sense into him, but I know I can't. He doesn't understand that he's messing up a chance for our child to create family childhood memories and everything. How should I be throughout all of this? I really need advice I am so lost, I have crazy mixed emotions and my anger is so huge. Please please please help!! We can't afford couples counseling either. thanks.
Well,if you feel that your love for him is sort of gone too,then as you said,your main focus should be your child. Just tell him how you're feeling,in the way that you told us.Let him know that you're dissappointed that he wants to just give up,but that you refuse to argue and lower yourself to that level. Tell him that right now,your main focus,and what you want to be HIS main focus is your child.Make him aware that you want him involved in your child's life reguardless of what happens with the two of you.I've seen friends go thru this same situation so if you'd like to talk about it more privately feel free to leave me a note in my inbox and I'll give you my AIM name!!
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