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Hi, I'm Sabrina and I'll try my best to give the community here the utmost advice :) If there are certain mistakes involving the way I convey the words, do pardon me. "If something is normal doesn't mean we have to accept it."
"Either you run the day, or the day runs you."
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I hate myself...
Like I look in the mirror and cry sometimes.
Damn it, I'm even crying right now.
I don't even know what I'm asking.
Maybe I just needed to post this...
If this happens because of the people around you , then start being strong . Everyone has been through this and there is always happiness , only if you believe in it . Don't look down on yourself , be grateful that you're still alive although you're in deep pain . Everything has a brightside and think about it . If you keep on letting yourself cry every single day , where would it lead you to ? You need to start looking at yourself and be just who you are in a positive way ! You can change but maybe , you're not brave enough and is also afraid of failure , I can't tell but every problem has a solution . Appreciate yourself just the way you are and don't let people's opinions affect you . They don't know the real you . Make yourself concrete and harder . Change yourself now before you regret it all your life . If you believe in yourself and think yourself as a slave to God , then nothing's impossible at all . Be willing to take a risk and please carve a smile :)) you'll get through this phase , you will and Tiffany's right . Listen to this song "keep your head up - andy grammer" . I know this is long , but hey , I want to express my feelings too and everything depends on the choices you make . Don't be sad :')
My boyfriend told me I dont act like a girlfriend.
How could I act like a girlfriend?
I am 16 years old
I am a female
Why don't you be there for him ? If he's sad , listen and comfort him . Appreciate him as much as he appreciates you unless he wants you to change in a bad way . When he's happy , be happy for him too . Be an eraser to his tears and be sweet hun . However , don't let him control you . Make sure that he doesn't suck your happiness out of you . Respect him and just be yourself in a positive way . If he can't accept you just the way you are although you've been treating him nicely all the time , then just keep on being yourself . You are special in your very own way . Good luck and apologise to him if you did something wrong to him :)
hi im 16/f
i recently dropped out of high school (year 11) cause i moved houses suddenly (dads to mums) after some bad stuff happened.
i currently go to tafe full time. and because im in a new area i dont have any friends, so its really lonley.
its almost the start of a new school year and im thinking about starting up and repeating year eleven. yes i know starting at a new school is hard but ive done it before and i like it. thing is part of me doesnt think i should. like yes it would be great to know kids my own age, and not be sitting at home all day. and do my hsc so i have more options as to what i can do.
but im worried what happens if i hate it, or if at the end of it i dont want to go to uni..
should i go back to school, or finish tafe and go into full time work and save up so i can move out?
It's never too late to restart anything that brings benefits into our lives :) You just need to believe that you can do it all the time ! Look , either you like it or not , you need to go into the university . We're living in a very fast-paced world and if you can't catch up , you're gonna regret it all your life . I recommend you to go back to school because that's where you belong . Don't think of what others will say or judge about you because they don't know the real you , even i don't . Study hard and smart , get good grades and you know you'll be living in a successful life . All it takes is sacrifice , be brave and don't give up . I , in fact anyone will always support your studies ! Think of the future and consume time wisely . Make a change from now on . You can work if you want to , but what change will you see in the end ? There might be changes but they won't be the same as the changes from studying ! Go for school ! And be friendly all the time :)
who create problem in my life
This question has numerous answers so it's kind of hard for me to answer it . Well , anyway , sometimes in life , it is the person himself who creates the problem . Things will happen if you allow them to so that's why , every problem must be solved quickly . Don't procrastinate . It'll only make things worse and one of the best essences in life is to always , always think positive . If you always think and act positive , then you can always get benefits from the good things . You can also extract goodness from the hardship unless you become a pessimist . Don't blame others for anything that happens to you except in certain circumstances . Everything happens for a reason .
Im turning 14 soon and my boyfriend that Ive dated for 3 years has been putting his finger down in my vagina and it feels really good what should I do about this sitution
I really enjoy him fingering me he does this at school.
Sorry for replying this late ! Look , i know that you love the feeling , but that's the sexual lust there . Lust and love are two different things . Make sure he respects you all the time and doesn't be with you just to satisfy himself and do remember that school is a place for knowledge , it's not all about fun . Imagine how your parents would feel if they know this :( Remember , you are still very young and that is your golden age . You've lot more to experience , so remember , you can have your fun but it has its limits okay ? Don't let it ruin your dignity at all believe me . Make sure your boyfriend respects you from his heart , one bad thing leads to another . Remember that studies come first ! You might get addicted to that fingering of his so please be aware from now . Don't get too carried away ! It might ruin yourself , and your life . Be smart and control yourself :) Every fun thing has its own limits remember that :))
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 4 months. It was going great we love eachother very much. He is an amazing guy and I am head over heals for him. BUT In the startI noticed he would only introduce me to his friends as his "friend" He said it was because he was scared to get hurt again (he said he got hurt in his last relationship) So it took him quite sometime to call me his girlfriend. He has always been very secretive with his cell phone. Told me I know pretty much everything about him that his cell is his last means of privacy. He tells me he loves me and wants to marry me. But he is a very selfish lover though :( even though its amazing! Anyway one day I was on my computer and he had left his Facebook on....well I did something I am NOT proud of I looked threw it and saw he had been PM over 50 girls since we started dating. Asking them if they are single and for their cell numbers and wanting to hook up. He also called a lot of the sexy, gorgeous, hot, doll. He was asked several times if he had a GF and he said NO!! Even though we are serious and live together pretty much since the start! I confronted him and he said that he doesnt know why he did it. And that it didnt go any further he never slept with any of them. So he deleted his Facebook and told me he will never do it again.....In the process of finding all this out I found he had multiple dating site active profiles! I also noticed him texting a few girls and found a picture of a girl on his cell. He said he didnt know how it got on his cell :( He keeps saying that I should leave him....that I deserve better than him. He gets so defensive when I try to talk to him and he just expects me to trust him like nothing happend! I love him so much but I just don't know if I should stay with him, am I just setting myself up for more heartache?? Any Advice??
Fron what i can see is that , he loves you for himself . He didn't and is not appreciating you as much you're . A good relationship is made from both sides , not one side only . The best remedy is to give up on trusting him and move on . You do have your pride so let him know that . If you're the loyal type , then make sure that your guy is faithful to you too , not the opposite . This is a wake up call for you to get a new man ! Relationship is about mutual trust , and truth . Not lies at all except in certain circumstances . Stop having fantasies about him because he flirted 50 people and to me , flirting with one girl is already pushing the limits . You need to have a guy who will always be there for you and don't fall for their words . Maintain your class , and to me , yes if you still want to stay with him , you're inviting another major heartbreak . Don't let go of yourself and realise about what's wrong and what's right . Think for the best of your life , not only your feelings . Move out . One bad thing leads to another and if you want to trust him again , observe for a long time . Actions reflect words . You can forgive him , but he's the one who who broke your trust . It is time for you to think wisely and move on . You deserve better , you do . Are you willing to face more painful events if he doesn't change from now ? Risk your tears for the man who deserves it .
So basically there's this guy that I work with that I've gotten pretty close too. We talk all the time and goof around. We eat our lunches together and take all of our breaks together. We're always together at work and he waits for me in the mornings and at night and walks me to the car and we even cook each other things and ask each other if we want something at restaurants that we're at and stuff. He also gave me his number (without me asking) and we text when we are out of work. He doesn't straight out flirt with me but like I said we goof around and he'll playfully touch me sometimes. Today I let it slip that I wanted a bag of bugles out of the vending machine out of work so he immediately got up and went to buy them and I playfully jumped in front of the vending machine so he couldn't get too it and he kept putting his hands on my arms and picked me up and moved me out of the way while laughing and bought me the bag of chips.
He pretends to get upset if I walk too fast because he wants to walk with me and like I said he always waits for me. He even stayed 20 minutes after work once when I was talking with my manager so he could walk me to my car.
Well I added him of fb earlier this week and noticed right away that he had a girlfriend (who he's been with for a year and a half)...I was really upset about it but I figured maybe he just forgot to take her off and hadn't been on facebook in a while since the last post she put on his page was on the 4th of September.
He NEVER mentioned he had a girlfriend and I was starting to view him as more than a friend...I mean guys don't usually do all of those things for you unless they think of you as more than a friend right? Well I also noticed she was still in high school which I thought was odd since he specifically said before that he "had" (like he wasn't in a relationship) two girlfriends during his time in high school and that he was done with those sort of girls. Plus he's 23 so he's long graduated and I'm thinking why is he with a high schooler? He never mentioned her not even one time he never talked about ANY other girl in fact. Which is why I was so thrown off when I found out.
Well today he was talking about some pretty reckless things he'd done while in high school and I said "Is your girlfriend alright with you having done those things?" just in a normal casual tone and he just got silent and said "Yeah she doesn't have a problem with it" after a moment and then a couple minutes he said "I didn't really want "people" to know that I had a girlfriend..." So of course I asked why and he said "I don't know just because I didn't."
The more I think about it the more I feel a little played.
I also feel sort of aggravated and angry about it but the stupid thing is I'm angry with his girlfriend. I feel like she shouldn't be his girlfriend and I know that's arrogant of me but he spends NINE hours a day with me,talking to me,goofing around with me,waiting for me,SPENDING TIME WITH ME. Not her. I really sort of feel like crying because I feel so stupid about it but maybe I'm overreacting.
As this point I'm not sure what I should be feeling.
Am I being played or is she being played?
Should I hold out and see if he breaks up with her?
Hello there and i'm sorry if what i'm going to say will somehow offence you . Look , the thing is , if you really love this guy , let him make his choice . Don't ruin the relationship between both of them so let him make his choice . Love's a hard test for everyone but if it makes you angry and cry , is that love ? All i can say is , don't break up their relationship although he spends most of his time with you because the fact that what goes around comes around is true . If you really , really love him , just be there for him all the time and be a good listener . If he's happy , be happy for him but if he's in hardship , comfort him and listen to all his tears . In the meantime , stop asking those questions in your mind because it's hard to define the answer and only he knows the answer . Be direct , sometimes and at the same , maintain your pride and class . I don't know about everything over there , but if you've the feeling that you're being played and it's obvious , then you know what to do . Move on . Make sure that if he breaks the relationship , it's because he wants to not because of you because the same thing could happen to you in the future . Observe this guy first , don't fall for him too easily . If he's your man , then he will always be no matter how far apart you guys are :) Keep strong and be smart in reading this guy . Recognise the eyes of truth and lies .
Soo i got grounded a while ago because i go on Facebook ,Tumblr and Youtube too much and i cant really use the internet unless its for homework :/ ....and i get really bored ! any ideas on what i can do to keep myself busy ! any thing helps , really (:
-in advance : thankk youu ! ^.^
Hello there :D Firstly , don't even think that you are in 'bored' mood . Eventually , your heart will repeat the same thing and there's a brightside to what's going on over there ! Use your time wisely and do the things you love (good ones haha) ! Why don't you start developing new skills ? Rather than chatting , it's much more better to do something that will affect your life in a good way and do remember that everyday brings us closer to death , so live your life to the fullest ! You can do numerous things i.e cooking , painting , drawing or gaining knowledge from books . Start to increase your grades by learning and remember , don't tell yourself that life is boring without the Internet . You need to run your day , not the other way around :) Spend time with family ? Or think about altering yourself to the better , and set goals everyday . Live your life as if it's a miracle because it really is ! You can do it :))
i am ten years old i want to have SEX! CAN I GET PREGNANT
Sweetie, you're still 10. You might hate me for saying this but this is for your own good. Look, you still have your virginity so please keep it. It's like a pearl, and have sex your own way when you're already married in the future. This is a bad thing, it might seem fun and ecxiting but it is bad for you. Keep your virginity, that's your pride. That's your dignity as a girl, or a woman. Wait for the special man who deserves to have sex with you, not a guy who just wants to have fun with you and satisfy himself plus yeah you can get pregnant if it is an unprotected sex but this is a bad choice so please think twice :(( Remember, one bad thing leads to another and i, in fact your parents or others too don't want you to suffet the consequences. Imagine how would your parents feel. Think first and think twice. If life's always about happiness and excitement only, it doesn't deserve to called as life. Love yourself and please wait for the right time. Gain knowledge as much as you can and don't fall for guys too easily. Think first :)
I have this bad habit of biting my lip on the inside whenever I'm nervous or bored or something like that. It's just as bad as biting nails, trust me. >:(
This makes my lip white and it makes it protrude out of my lip whenever I smile. I don't like this because my lips look fine on the outside, but on the inside it looks like I have a disease or something. I want to look kissable :)
So I'm wondering if anyone out there has an idea of how to get me to stop biting my lip so much? I would appreciate any ideas you may have of either getting rid of it or prevention.
I hope you have a blessed day :)
Take care and thanks again :)
By controlling your addiction slowly and slowly .. You still need to remember that it takes plenty of time for especially when it involves your own lips . Try making a journal and record your process . It might seem like a small thing but trust me , it'll work . Make sure that day by day , your desire to bite your lips get lower and lower and another is , don't stop praying :) Also , treat your lips to make it look baby-ish ! Dab your lips with honey (There are more ways but i like this one better haha) overtime or start using lip balm which helps to recover your lips . You could use Palmer's or Nivea , whichever is the best for you but the thing is to be consistent and tell yourself that you can do it and believe in yourself ! All the best :DD
So I have been "dating" this guy for about a month now but we had been talking for a couple of months before. It is a long distance relationship and I haven't seen him in almost two months. Last week we did not talk as much and this Friday he told me he doesn't think about me as much as he used to do. That text made me so sad and he said he knows that if we see each other everything will change but we can't see each other for a while. I have been sad since Friday and I feel like he doesn't miss me as much as he used to do. What should I do to go back to the old good days that he would call me everyday and text me beautiful stuff?
Even i can't give the absolutle answer and i've been there several times and i know how you feel deeply . I hope what i'm about to say won't hurt you . The thing is , those great moments will always be .. moments . Nostalgic moments and it saddens even thinking about it . You can make those moments alive , but it requires both you and your boyfriend to do it , not you alone . Try to ask him whether it's worth it to be like it used to or there's another way but this is the most painful , yet helpful which is getting ready for a sudden break-up . Sometimes , the hottest relationships have the coldest ends and i know you don't want that but starting to be independent now is really important . You keep on missing him , but how would it be comforting knowing that he's not thinking as much as you do ? You can trust him , but don't let yourself go unless you're married . Don't worry , if there is love , distances won't matter . It's the feeling and honesty in proving it . Now , don't cry , Don't . The sadder you get , the lower you'll feel and it'll get nowhere unless both of you make the relationship alive again ! Be strong . Be strong . Do things that you love with your family and love God . Find yourself go , and tell yourself that "if this man's not the one for me, then it means God has been keeping another special man for me, it's just a matter of time ." For now , try to live your relationship again and think that it'll work . If it fails , let yourself know that you can be independent . I could even cry with you now but please just be independent .
I've been noticing a trend in the way people treat me. I've realized it has everything to do with how I act. I'm really nice and I think people feel that because of that, they can push me aside when they don't feel like dealing with me and they know there won't be consequences. Like at work, this one guy talks down to me as if I'm a teenager, but I'm 21. I know that I'm naive and I ask my co-workers a lot of questions pertaining to my job, but at least I'm polite. I don't want to change who I am to receive better treatment, so are there any other options? I'm even receiving the same treatment at a place I internship at, so I realize I'm the problem.
I'm so sorry if what i am about to say will offence you , but social communication is really vital in one's life . You've been nice to everyone but maybe you were to nice and the word 'no' from you could've never be heard , or rarely . Look , it is always important to smile but don't be too nice . Let's say you're doing someone else's job . The people around you will think that you are easy to be used and they're not treating you the way you want them to . You can be more strict to yourself and everyone so stop being naive . Naive is innocent , but people are seeing your innocence as a toy to be played and they could even break your heart easily . Try making yourself stronger and let them know that you can be independent plus if you're being nice in your office but your co-workers doesn't seem to appreciate it , why don't you try smiling to the people outside the office ? The fishmonger , ypur neighbour or just anyone ! Let it be like this . If people don't care about you , live as if you were not born into this world to please them . Please God and your family . We can never change people but we can always change ourselves to the best and that is what matters . Don't look down on yourself . You still have your pride so keep your head up all the time and be strict at certain times .
My girlfriend can be surprisingly laid back at times and strangely overly anxious at others. She was afraid that her kidneys were failing last month when it was a much less serious problem, she worried that she had a brain tumor once when simply because of a headache, and she thought she was having a stroke last summer because he arm had fallen asleep and was tingling. Now, she's freaking out because some idiot on an internet site I warned her not to go to claimed that he was going to release a virus in the US that would wipe out the entire population, which is ridiculous, right? I told her that he's just a crazyass who probably didn't mean it and have tried to come up with other reasons it won't happen, but she won't calm down. Please help me. What do I say to her to get her to quit worrying about this stuff?
How bout you just spit out everything to her ? She really needs to learn the art of calming down and not think of the worst at any situation at all . Why don't you tell her "Look hun(i don't know the name) , instead of freaking out like this , why don't you just relax and think of the ways to solve this mess first ?" "You've been acting like this for so long and it kind of worries/bothers me . I really like you being calm and all so stop panicking about everything ! You don't need to worry too much and you still have me by your side so quit it , please ." That would be my dialogue but really you could just tell her the truth very softly , don't hurt her little heart . She's very fragile , i can tell that by the way she's acting . Just tell her the truth rather than comforting her with lies and bear the pain . All the best and i'm so sorry if this doesn't help .
Hi! So I'm at a young age (11-13.. Hint hint). And I hate my body so i've been wanting to get anorexic, but I decided that wasn't a good idea. So I decided I should get into excersizing.
I did a little research and there are excersize routines that makes you get muscle (which makes you look heavier) and I don't want that. I just want to lose weight.
What are some excersize routines to make me lose weight and not gain muscle?
(Telling me to not worry won't do anything.. I'm now teaumatized. Just please help :(. )
What matters is the consistency in losing weight and i don't know how to say this but usually the more you exercise , the more muscle strength you will gain . Your muscle cells undergo anaerobic respiration and the more pain you experience when you're exercising , the more oxygen is needed (oxygen debt) so that is why the muscle gets tougher . You'll learn this . Anyway , how about running or jogging ? At least 30 minutes or more if you are willing to or just cycle . People doing this usually results in a better figure of themselves , unlike the weight-lifters :D
Is it attractive to wear your heart on your sleeve? Is this something that can be or become a weakness overtime?
Amin
Wearing your heart on your sleeve would never be a weakness because it means that you don't conceal your feelings . Attractive or not , the answer changes from one to one person but somehow , that would also mean that people can read your body language easily . Your personality could be easily predicted but hey , it's cool and what about Amin ? Still , no matter what there are certain circumstances in which you need to take control of the heart as it is fragile :)
I'm 13 about a month ago I saw little red dots in my underwear and now I see them again I don't want to tell my mom unless it's my period?? Help?????
13 and red dots :) If you're having emotion swings or experiencing pain , that might be period and no you can't hide this from your mother ! She'll guide you about it . Start observing .
Hey! 19/f
So my boyfriend and I are doing the whole (kind of) long distance relationship thing. It's not bad because he goes to school an hour and a half away and I see him every two or three weeks. It's been working out really well and I'm so proud of him.
Anyways, recently this girl has been giving him a lot of really obnixious attention, hinting that she likes him... to the point where it's driving me insane. I'll give you a few examples.
The first thing that happened was when she admitted to him being funny and charming... which is fine. I get it, my boyfriend is amazing, I know i'm not the only one who thinks that. Is it weird she said it? Yes. But he ignored it and then when I came up a week later, he went to introduce me and she cut him off and said "HI." to me really nasty and walked away. Later on apparently she put on a really slutty outfit and all this makeup and was looking for me.
A few things happened here and there... she came into his room hysterical crying one night and tried to get him to comfort her, she always tries to touch his hair, she left him notes on microsoft word and hacked his facebook when he let her use his laptop for homework,... etc.
Then one night he was telling a story about us and she was there, and when he said "My girlfriend" She made a face and went "Oh.... You have a girlfriend." And he told me that he makes a point to bring me up as much as he can, so she definatley knew... not to mention when I came up to visit.
Then she said "Come here and rub my neck for me, I think you should do things for me more." He said that all night she had been laughing really loud at his jokes, but he always just ignored her or said no and walked away.
This is when I got really pissed. Who the hell does this girl think she is? I trust my boyfriend with all my heart, but that doesn't mean that stupid things like this won't infuriate me.
Then last weekend... I kind of gave him a hickey on his neck unintentionally, and when he went back to school I guess she saw. She said "Oh do you want another one?", now she walks around calling him handsome and saying really weird things to him.
This is the part where I need help...
During all of this, I didn't hide the fact that I was upset and told him how i felt. I feel that if this progresses he should say something to her... but he feels that the only time he should do that would be if she ever cornered him and tried to pull something. I think that even if she's not throwing herself at him, her talking to him like that is unacceptable and it makes me really uncomfortable. I mean, something new happens every day. If it's not a big deal I dont usually get worked up about it, but I can only let so much slide before I explode... It's so frustrating! I friended her on facebook, a sort of indirect way of saying "back off"- but it didn't really do anything. I'm not the type of girl to start drama or anything, but this is seriously ticking me off! It's like this is never going to end.
I'm really upset and he doesn't see this as a big deal because he says that nothing will ever get in the way of us, and i know that. But honestly, i am so unbelievably uncomfortable knowing that she is always around him because they have the same friends. He says that he's just been giving her the cold shoulder and being kind of a jerk- but i need to know-
How should I react when something else happens?
Do you think he should say something if this continues/progresses? or would it just draw attention?
Advice? I need second opinions, thankyou so much!
I don't wanna humiliate the girl or anything but seriously , she is way off the limits and if i were you , i would've raged more haha but really , this girl ain't giving up on him and seems to me she'll do anything to have this guy by the examples you said . Too much already and she needs to know the boundaries but somehow , you also need to mind the head over the heart . Don't take actions straight from the heart . Anyway , about this girl fellow , maybe she's acting in such a way because she has problems or maybe she's just too lonely or her family doesn't care about her (maybe) so that's why she is always seeking attention from your guy but still , whatever she's attempting isn't nice and things need to change and you gotta be grateful cause you have a loyal man there lucky you :) and don't worry . If a guy really loves you , nothing will make him leave but if he doesn't have the heart for you anymore , nothing will make him stay but to me , you could just trust your guy for now . Okay , if something bad occurs (caused be the girl) , you just need to control your anger . Don't fight fire with fire . If you start to raise your voice to her , then you guys might fight and that would be humiliating . Maintain your class and when she's trying to make you jealous or real mad , act like you don't care . Just keep on being nice because that is the best thing to do , trust me . Make sure your relationship is strong enough to repel her or anyone else but always , always , always keep calm . Let the problematic ones know that you are tough and won't easily give up and i don't know how to say this nicely , but dude , if she's always around him , then let him know what to do and from now , start being really strong . 10x stronger than now , seriously because your patience is being tested and i've been there and i know how excruciating the pain is . Look , anything can change so that's why you need to be brave enough yo face anything including the worst and yes , he should defend the relationship if things go worse . Also , never get into a fight with him . There's something about it so you need to act as if this girl who's trying to allure him doesn't exist and think positive about everyone , no matter how bad they are . Don't let this mess affect you seriously , because you will suffer later . Don't worry ! Just be yourself all the time and be cool and know when to speak up smartly . Being yourself is the coolest and don't let this girl hurt your heart .
Well it was my sophmore year in high school and their entered a girl in my spanish class and oo how she took my breath away right that second she looked at me. I didn't know what to do so i sat next to her and started getting to know her and my feelings for her started to grow . I couldn't tell her how i felt because i had a gf and i was very confused. Never in my life had i felt so amazingly happy inside. Turned out i never got the chance to tell her how i feel and i can honestly say she was probably the love of my life . I loved her but couldn't tell her and i regret not doing it because she was my soulmate. Now she's gone and is in Washington and i want to go up and tell her everything i feel about her but i don't have enough money to go up their. Im so busy with football and don't have time to get a job but for her id do anything to just get that chance to tell her everything i wanted to back then. I don't know what to do but i know i have to keep trying because she is the love of my life and what sucks was that she really liked me also but never told me cause i had a gf . Help me i don't know what to do i miss her so much and i wanna see her so badly . She's everything a guy could ask for. help me plz
I don't know how to help you from here :( but anyway don't worry . If she is your real , true love then no matter how apart you guys are , both will be together again in the future . In the meantime , if letting her know everything is your wish , go for it ! There's always a solution to a problem but only you have the key to this ! Chase her and let her know the truth before it is too late , but you gotta have the real courage for this . Sometimes , this is why love hurts and it hurts really deep and wait a minute . How about your current girlfriend man ? And how can you be so sure this girl is your soulmate ? Well , i'll always support what's the best for you and everyone and if you don't have time to get her , make time . Plan and remember , once you're in this , please don't regret it in the future . Think carefully first and do your best in this ! Plan plan plan and hey , nothing is impossible so don't give up . Don't give up once you have made your choice .
Hi,
I'm still going though the last week of my life. I'm not going to stop and think twice about it. Today is Monday and I have a few days to go
My life has no purpose and meaning. I never had any serious relationship and I have no idea what love is.
I've turned to church but I don't think anybody understand what I'm going through.
I wake up every day going through life like a wombie. I can't talk to anyone because I can't really explain it or when I tried very hard to put words on my pain, people think that I have no real reason to feel this way.
I have people telling me that what I'm feeling is not normal in a sense that I should be ashamed of feeling the way I do.
And to be honest with you I sometimes do. I feel ashamed of not being happy of not trying hard enough to make myself happy. I told them I'm lonely, they said go out and find yourself a guy like it was easy to do or like I didn't want to do. It's not easy for some people to open up about their feelings.
I feel like I don't belong to the world, like there is no place for me anywhere. I promise you if anything bad will happened, it will happened to me. I always say or do the wrong thing that get everyone hate me. People think I'm weird and I must be an idiot. I graduated from high school when I was 15. I have a bachelor degree which I got when I was 21 (because I moved to the US and I had to learn the language).People think I'm stupid because of my accent.
I'm not from here and I feel like I don't belong, back home I didn't feel like I belonged either.
It doesn't make sense to myself, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me but I'm not ok. I don't know how to put words on my pain.
But I'm done trying to fit in into this world which may not wants me anyway.
You didn't even try to change your life harder and you let people affect you , shouldn't you be more concrete ? Look , i've no idea on how to say this but if suicide is your choice , i've nothing to say . You know , in life there is no instant key to happiness or success . It takes a long time and it takes pain and strength plus real courage and no life has no meaning or purpose . You just haven't looked in the right place yet ! Set your purposes . One more thing , happiness comes to those who believe in , and you still have the chance . It's not the only aim , but a journey and when life gives you lemons , squeeze them and make lemonade . Even the fishes who live in the saltiest sea do not even taste salty . Sometimes , you are your enemy . In fact , in every single person , there would always be one side of him or her which wants to conquer the soul through anger , pessimism , pain , depression and pain and more . You still have the chance so please re-think . This is not the best choice for anyone at all , and why don't you start doing good deeds and help others ? What goes around comes around , believe me . At least , contribute something to the world and be nice . Be friendly and if people harass or hate you , well let them be . You are a smart person , so don't waste your brain . With that degree , you can help others you know ? Think again and i know you might dislike me for saying all of these things . Listen to keep your head up - andy grammer . Done :)
i love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, i can only see myself with him, but he is very aggressive, and he knows he has anger issues, but wont do anything about it, he has stopped me wearing make up, stopped me talking to friends or going out, even with my own family, he tells me im not good enough for him thats why he has to look at other girls and if i argue back , he grabs hold of my, either my neck or wrists and screams in my face, chucks me about or just punches me, the thing is he is very sstocky, im 5ft7 and i do kickboxing, so for a girl i thought i could handle myself, but he is 5ft10 and literally tripple my size, he overpowers me so much.hes not always like it though, he often cries and tells me he is going to change,but i doubt this will happen at all, he is nice when im on "the right side of him", he takes me to the cinema, for meals etc and buys me things, we spend cute weekends away together, but despite that , if i step out of line, he goes mad, puts the blame on to me, says its my fault, and the sad part about it is im actually starting to believe that its my fault why we argue. ive been warned about him , and ive been with him nearly a year.i cant find the strength to leave him, cos he always rings or texts etc if i go to leave him. what can i do? i love him so much, but i just want him to realise he cant take his anger out on me, maybe to get anger management?
Hi there :) Yes you can bring him to any anger management session or anything that can enable him to manage his temper wisely . On the other hand , for how long are you going to let him empower you ? He is your boyfriend for now , but still he doesn't have any right to even lay a finger on you when it comes to anger . Open your eyes really wide . Will you accept this behaviour of his in the future ? I don't think so . Be brave and speak for yourself or (I'm really sorry for saying this) leave him . Get a guy who can appreciate you at all times and be with you through ease and pain , not ease only . Don't let him or anyone control you that bad . No one can suck the happiness out of you , remember that ! Start now or you'll suffer later . Don't let this problem last long for it ain't a small stuff . It involves pride , love , relationship , emotions and physical , and also inner health . Stand up . If he keeps on abusing you in such a way , then leave unless he changes for good . Leaving is the option you have because through verbal communication , it seems as if he has overpowered you and he needs to respect you . If i were you , i would've left him and don't allow yourself to surrender to him ! Let me quote ' ... with my own family, he tells me im not good enough for him thats why he has to look at other girls and if i argue back , he grabs hold of my, either my neck or wrists and screams in my face, chucks me about or just punches me, ' . I'm not trying to make you rage or mad or hate him , i just want you to see the truth . That's both physical and mental effects you're gonna get if you let this stay forever . In a relationship , both of you need to give real commitment . Although you love him so much , don't lose your pride to him . Leaving is the option if he can't change :/ Widen your eyes real wide and please be brave . In this case , bravery and keeping strong are the keys . Be brave to speak up , be brave to report it to the authorities , be brave to leave and be brave to not turn back once you've made the decision . You gave him a lot of chances already . Make the choice for the best of you too , not only him . Trust me , one day your real gentleman will come to you , only a matter of time , except identity is unknown . Stop those temper . Once again , i'm so sorry if i've offenced both of you .