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How do I get people to treat me better?
I've been noticing a trend in the way people treat me. I've realized it has everything to do with how I act. I'm really nice and I think people feel that because of that, they can push me aside when they don't feel like dealing with me and they know there won't be consequences. Like at work, this one guy talks down to me as if I'm a teenager, but I'm 21. I know that I'm naive and I ask my co-workers a lot of questions pertaining to my job, but at least I'm polite. I don't want to change who I am to receive better treatment, so are there any other options? I'm even receiving the same treatment at a place I internship at, so I realize I'm the problem.
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Before others will respect you, you need to learn to respect yourself. This I also learned the hard way. I was in the same position and one simple change worked miracles for me. Put a smile on your face even if you are having a bad day. Develope a sense of humor and learn to laugh at your own mistakes.
Let people know that respect is a 'two way' street, and for them to gain yours, they need to give a little back. As for your job, even though you are an intern and still learning, try to solve problems yourself first before asking for help. That is the best way you'll learn. If you're not sure, discuss your ideas with your supervisor and get his/her opinion, but don't ask for a solution until you've tried to come up with your own. Others will respect your effort and contrbution. Good luck. :)
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Hey,
I think the main thing to remember here is for people to be nice to you they have to respect you.
So sure, be nice but don't be a pushover or don't agree to everything-no one in reality is like this so you may come across as fake-and so not win peoples respect.
If I were you, I'd come across at first as keeping yourself to yourself until people warm to you, so it's like they've had to earn you're respect so they'll be nicer to you. Think about it-you're nice to people who don't want to know, so why should you be nice to everyone when they're in the driving seat?
You need to put yourself in the driving seat! Hold opinions, don't warm to people who you genuinly don't like and be true to yourself. if you feel rubbish don't fak it all the time!
Good luck :)
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I'm so sorry if what i am about to say will offence you , but social communication is really vital in one's life . You've been nice to everyone but maybe you were to nice and the word 'no' from you could've never be heard , or rarely . Look , it is always important to smile but don't be too nice . Let's say you're doing someone else's job . The people around you will think that you are easy to be used and they're not treating you the way you want them to . You can be more strict to yourself and everyone so stop being naive . Naive is innocent , but people are seeing your innocence as a toy to be played and they could even break your heart easily . Try making yourself stronger and let them know that you can be independent plus if you're being nice in your office but your co-workers doesn't seem to appreciate it , why don't you try smiling to the people outside the office ? The fishmonger , ypur neighbour or just anyone ! Let it be like this . If people don't care about you , live as if you were not born into this world to please them . Please God and your family . We can never change people but we can always change ourselves to the best and that is what matters . Don't look down on yourself . You still have your pride so keep your head up all the time and be strict at certain times .
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