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Should I forgive and trust my boyfriend?
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 4 months. It was going great we love eachother very much. He is an amazing guy and I am head over heals for him. BUT In the startI noticed he would only introduce me to his friends as his "friend" He said it was because he was scared to get hurt again (he said he got hurt in his last relationship) So it took him quite sometime to call me his girlfriend. He has always been very secretive with his cell phone. Told me I know pretty much everything about him that his cell is his last means of privacy. He tells me he loves me and wants to marry me. But he is a very selfish lover though :( even though its amazing! Anyway one day I was on my computer and he had left his Facebook on....well I did something I am NOT proud of I looked threw it and saw he had been PM over 50 girls since we started dating. Asking them if they are single and for their cell numbers and wanting to hook up. He also called a lot of the sexy, gorgeous, hot, doll. He was asked several times if he had a GF and he said NO!! Even though we are serious and live together pretty much since the start! I confronted him and he said that he doesnt know why he did it. And that it didnt go any further he never slept with any of them. So he deleted his Facebook and told me he will never do it again.....In the process of finding all this out I found he had multiple dating site active profiles! I also noticed him texting a few girls and found a picture of a girl on his cell. He said he didnt know how it got on his cell :( He keeps saying that I should leave him....that I deserve better than him. He gets so defensive when I try to talk to him and he just expects me to trust him like nothing happend! I love him so much but I just don't know if I should stay with him, am I just setting myself up for more heartache?? Any Advice??
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Fron what i can see is that , he loves you for himself . He didn't and is not appreciating you as much you're . A good relationship is made from both sides , not one side only . The best remedy is to give up on trusting him and move on . You do have your pride so let him know that . If you're the loyal type , then make sure that your guy is faithful to you too , not the opposite . This is a wake up call for you to get a new man ! Relationship is about mutual trust , and truth . Not lies at all except in certain circumstances . Stop having fantasies about him because he flirted 50 people and to me , flirting with one girl is already pushing the limits . You need to have a guy who will always be there for you and don't fall for their words . Maintain your class , and to me , yes if you still want to stay with him , you're inviting another major heartbreak . Don't let go of yourself and realise about what's wrong and what's right . Think for the best of your life , not only your feelings . Move out . One bad thing leads to another and if you want to trust him again , observe for a long time . Actions reflect words . You can forgive him , but he's the one who who broke your trust . It is time for you to think wisely and move on . You deserve better , you do . Are you willing to face more painful events if he doesn't change from now ? Risk your tears for the man who deserves it .
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All the signs are pointing toward heartbreak. It's good that you found this out about him now before any major commitments are made. Don't give him any ultimatums, just get out while you can. He's right about one thing...you do deserve better. :)
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Run away! Leave this guy and do not look back. There is no way in hell that you should trust him, and I would bet money that he will hurt you again. Heck I would bet money that he is cheating on you (or trying to) right now.
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