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My Girlfriend Worries About EVERYTHING!!!
My girlfriend can be surprisingly laid back at times and strangely overly anxious at others. She was afraid that her kidneys were failing last month when it was a much less serious problem, she worried that she had a brain tumor once when simply because of a headache, and she thought she was having a stroke last summer because he arm had fallen asleep and was tingling. Now, she's freaking out because some idiot on an internet site I warned her not to go to claimed that he was going to release a virus in the US that would wipe out the entire population, which is ridiculous, right? I told her that he's just a crazyass who probably didn't mean it and have tried to come up with other reasons it won't happen, but she won't calm down. Please help me. What do I say to her to get her to quit worrying about this stuff?
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I think you might find it difficult to reason her out of this level of anxiety with anything you say regarding the particlar events themselves. I'd say there MUST be an underlying root cause. Recent, or long past in childhood, maybe only subconciously remembered now, the actual cause of association forgotten. But it must have been significant. A recent trauma could create this sort of 'victim mentality' for instance, seeing threats everywhere. A therapist should be able to drag it out into the open so she can confront it and come to terms with it. In itself, the anxiety isn't life-threatening of course, but it will lead to many missed opportunities for personal and career development and advancement. The irrational fears will simply 'hold her back' time and time again until she can identify and compensate for this tendency. There seem to be a lot of fears about health and illness. Anything you know of in her past that could account for that? You might draw it out of her yourself with time and patience, but a 'pro' would be a better proposition. Simply saying 'stop worrying' is clearly not enough as you've discovered.
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How bout you just spit out everything to her ? She really needs to learn the art of calming down and not think of the worst at any situation at all . Why don't you tell her "Look hun(i don't know the name) , instead of freaking out like this , why don't you just relax and think of the ways to solve this mess first ?" "You've been acting like this for so long and it kind of worries/bothers me . I really like you being calm and all so stop panicking about everything ! You don't need to worry too much and you still have me by your side so quit it , please ." That would be my dialogue but really you could just tell her the truth very softly , don't hurt her little heart . She's very fragile , i can tell that by the way she's acting . Just tell her the truth rather than comforting her with lies and bear the pain . All the best and i'm so sorry if this doesn't help .
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