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this might sound stupid but ive never kissed a guy and i just got a boyfriend and i dont know where to put my hands when we kiss can anyone help me or give me any kissing tips? thankss (link)
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:) Don't stress! You'll be surprised at how automatic these things come to you. Hands... I generally go for around the neck, its just comfortable.Some girls like placing a hand on the face. But really whatever your comfortable with. You'll see the hands change position all the time.
The best thing here is just relax. Don't over analyze things. These things are oddly automatic. You somehow just know what to do...
And you'll pick it up from what your bf likes. I know I did...
Goodluck!
:)
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I hate this girl and my best friend knows it. Now, Gaby(my best friend) is saying that I'm talking trash about the girl i hate. after that Aubrey, (some other girl) is saying that I called her a backstabbing bitch. Lexi (someone else) is telling everyone I flipped Aubrey off, when I didn't!!! The only thing i said about Caitlyn is that I don't like her and that she betrayed me. What should I do??? (link)
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The best thing here is to talk to these people about it. First off Lexi, confront her about it, go to her and say something along the lines of, "Lexi, can I talk to you for a second, i've been hearing that you are telling people that I have been flipping Aubrey off... when I haven't." See what she says and go from there. Just make it clear to her that you did not flip Aubrey off and would like her to stop saying that you did. But what is important here is that you do it in a calm way. Don't make it a big deal. Stay calm and try not to get to angry.
Same thing with Aubrey, go up to her tell her she needs to stop talking about you and accusing you of things. Explain to her that you did no such thing.
Gaby is the one you need to have a serious conversation with. It all seemed to start with Gaby and she's supposed to be your best friend. Best friends don't act like this. Ask her if she has a problem with you hating the girl you hate. And ask her why she is talking "trash" to other people about things you haven't done/said. Communication is key here. Its what has been missing. Just remember stay calm.
Also if you don't want to have a confrontation this will blow over. You just have to leave it alone and not let it get to you. Which can be hard. But I do recommend talking to Gaby. Because a best friend should not have done what she did.
Choose your friends carefully and be careful who you tell things to. You know now that you may not be able to trust Gaby, Aubrey or Lexi.
I hope it works out! Let me know if you need any more help.
Oh and trust your instincts you know these girls better than I do!
Sorry this was so long!
Goodluck!
Don't stress to much! It will sort out! :)
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my family is planning a vacation for this weekend, it's going to be about a 9-10 hour drive down south. I always get car sick esp if the drive is more than 4-5 hours
any way I can prevent this from happening? (link)
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I used to get car sick from being in the car for like more than 2 hours!It was terrible!
What I found helped was Valoid. Check a pharmacy near you to see if they have it. It helped me alot. Also if they don't have Valoid try asking the pharmacy if they have anything for car sickness and such.
Also eat dry things. Especially before you go on the road, muffins and biscuits that sort of stuff helps. Dry dry dry. Also take an apple with. Apples help. And a bottle of water.
Don't read or watch the road(at least don't constantly watch the road) also be careful with music. Listen to it periodically.
But honestly the best thing is Valoid. You take it like half an hour before you leave and it prevents feeling car sick.
I hope I helped.
Goodluck!
:)
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so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????
help me please!! (link)
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Maybe you should ask him. I have a feeling he did it to maybe put the idea of you and him together. But that would be really silly of him.
Just ask him. Casually just bring up. Thats really the only way you are going to find out.
:)
Goodluck!
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well i dated this boy a few months ago and he was my first love. He is normally very reserved and never shares anything personal and I was the first person he ever completely opened up to. ever. but we had an absolutely horrible breakup. he and i were best friends. i was his only best friend actually and i was his first love. we are teens and loved each other for a few months before we broke up. we didnt break up because we didnt like each other but because i was moving. but he shattered my heart. i seriously was like sick because of what he did. he wouldnt work things out though because he didnt want to get hurt even more. he felt like he was losing his best friend and the girl he loved. but for me it was the worst betrayal i have ever suffered. he left me in my weakest moment. he even admitted to it but he still wont face what happened. seriously though after we broke up it was as ugly as it gets. the last time i would see him before i moved though he finally admitted to not working things out because it was easy to avoid me and we frenched a couple times. but then once again he backed away afraid of confrontation and we have had little contact and what contact weve had hasnt been very good. my question is will he still remember what he had? do i still have a place in his heart? he always said he would never forget me and i know that he really, deeply loved me. but our breakup was so terrible and at times he acted like he hated me to my face but then i would catch him looking at me or hear he asked my friend about me. im afraid that my freaking out on him (only a couple times) and our terrible breakup and fighting will have caused him to remember me badly but is this true or what? after our breakup he was always angry and easily upset by me and kept trying to push me away but on my last night he held me as i cried on his shoulder and he smiled and looked at me like before. i finally saw the anger leave him and he smiled and said i was incredible and was sweet like the guy i knew before. what do you think happened and do you think he will remember me as his first love or remember the times we fought and brush me away as a bad breakup? please help me. this is so important to me. (link)
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This is such a difficult to give a straight yes or no answer to. But here is what I think.
You don't forget the people you love or loved. You just don't. What generally happens is over time, you feel less attached to the person and then move on. But you never forget them. The chances of him only remembering the bad are highly unlikely. He will remember what you had.
I'm so sorry you lost the person you seem to love so much. It gets easier over time. And no matter how messy the break you two will always have the good memories. You can't switch your memories off.
Hope I helped. :)
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all of my relatives have had and lived or are living with or died of cancer. iv been to so many funerals an i hate myself cause i can't even cry at them i think its not use. iv ben dealing with it my whole life but i just don't know what to do anymore its crushing me. now my mom thinks i may have cancerous mole but she doesnt wana scare me cause iv been having an extremely hard time lately. i also have a brown bump on my nipple.. iv had it for a very long time but its just getting bigger little by little n its kinda freakin me out. is that cancer to? what do i do, i really don't wana go to the hospital, for many reasons, one being i kinda ben skipping it bc theyve ben doing all these different testings on me but not having to do with cancer. i dont wana go back for one that they go in and look threw me, they did alot of blood and weird rays tests. idk what to even think or do anymore but i dont wana go. :( btw im 14 female (link)
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I am so sorry for the hard time you have been having! Hang in there!
You need to see a doctor. A dermatologist can look at the bump.They are specialists with things to do with the skin. I know you do not want to go to the hospital but you really should find out what this
is,so if it is something serious you can start fighting it now before it gets worst. There is nothing else you can do, except wait and see if its get worst and only if it does then go to a doctor but honestly that is taking a huge risk.
Goodluck!
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I'm 13 about to be 14 and I'm a girl. okay I', gonna get straight to hte point but it may be confusing...
One day me and my mom were in the car and she was like you know that you shouldn't be having sex and se is bad and blah blah. i waslike mom i know. because really i do know the outcomes of sex...its not a good thing and it can change your life! i know!!!! and then she was like after you have sex you get this wet stuff in your underwear and coming out. and i was like okay.... but the thing is i already have that stuff coming out! i know for sure that i have never had sex before! its something that I would never do until I'm married! and it scares me that i already have that stuff coming out. my friend was like you might have been rapped! and thats when i started crying my eyes out to NO limit! so the question is..... how do you know if you've been rapped...but you cant remember anything??...or is that a natural part of life??...thankz in advance for the help!! (link)
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Its a natural part of life! Its normal!
Don't worry you have not been rapped! That only occurs when unwanted penetration occurs which you most likely will remember!
It sounds like your mom is just trying to scare you. But really having some discharge is normal.
Don't worry.
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I ended things with my boyfriend because it was just too serous for the time being (both 14).
& its been a month & ive been pretty much fine. But yesterday & today ive noticed how much i miss him. Theres pictures of him all over facebook, his yahoo status was "do you think about me too somtimes?" & i just wanted to IM him like, yeah i do & i miss you! I havent talked to him in a whole month & i miss him. Any help getting him off my mind? Just logging off facebook & yahoo wont help because in the middle of tennis class i just want to call him. I know if i get over this i can get over the relationship but i just need help forgetting about him. In 2 weeks my closest friends are leaving to camp & me & him will mainly be the only ones left in the city (i have other friends that willbe here to hang out with but theyr not my closest you know?) & im worried if i dont have somthing to keep me away i wont be able to.
Thanks so much! (link)
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Its normal to miss him. It really is. Just remind yourself why you ended it in the first place it might help you.
Then you need to keep yourself distracted, it is the best thing to do. Now while your closest friends are still here go out with them as much as you can. Have fun. You need to have fun and when they go away still go out with your other friends even though you aren't so close with them!
Also reading, finding some hobbies and taking part in them is a good way to distract yourself. Also yes not going on face book and yahoo will help a bit! You can live with out them! :)
Its hard now but it will get much easier and its already been a month! :)
Goodluck! Just remember the best way to distract yourself is to have fun!
:)
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hey im 17/F my boyfriend is 20. well i kind of always had this question in my mind. before i started going out with my boyfriend this other girl shes also 17/F was also flirting with him, and so was i. time passed and he picked her. i stoped talking to him because i was mad that he did that to me. not even a month later he broke up with her an started flirting with me again and we started going out. I have always felt like mad inside ive told him why did he pick her but all he says is dat well his aunt had basically hoocked them up and he was basically already going out with her when he was talking to me. That he never really liked her. Do you guys think thats the reasoning or he just liked her better? We have been together for 2 years now and i just cant let that go. YOu guys understand rite? He made me feel like seconds. How do i let this go?? she is his aunts by marriages niece. so i will have to see her forever shes part of the family. (link)
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He stayed with this girl for about a month but he has stayed with you for two years! That should not make you feel like seconds it should reassure you. You do not stay with some one for that long if you don't really like them.
You need to just accept that this girl was his past and that the circumstances then made him go out with her first but he came back to you and has stayed with you. Just let go of the past. Maybe talk to him about it as well. It may help.
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well, this is going to be really long and confusing. so, reader beware, you're in for confusion. here goes:
so, my boyfriend and i have problems like every other couple in this world. but these problems arent about cheating or not calling or ignorance or neglect. these problems are all caused by me. to him, i dont share enough of my thoughts. and thats simply because i dont want to run him off. but thats all over with, because i did.
we were talking on aim earlier and it was getting pretty heated. i told him i didnt mean to hurt him, but i knew i was. i asked him why he was so upset, and he said it was because i dont trust him. but i do! i trust him with my whole heart, but like i said. there are just some things that even he couldnt help with. he said that im giving up my whole life because i bury myself in my head to escape from the outside world. which is sort of what i do? but thats just the jist of it. sometimes, i just escape into thought and dont feel like telling anyone whats really wrong. is that so wrong? apparently to him, it is. and when i said that the outside world doesnt need someone like me, because i simply dont care about people i dont know(i know thats terrible, but thats just my inner feeling). i dont care about the environment(i know thats bad, too. but again. inner feeling), because its going to die, anyways. it was meant to. and when it does, everyone will just start all over. a new beginning. the beginning of the end. all of it. all of this "save the world" nonsense is just putting it off until later, but i honestly dont do anything to help the environment. i also dont care about my health. i smoke and drink when im depressed and i cut and he knows that. well after i told him about all that he called me a sociopath and said i dont care about anyone but myself, which is totally untrue. i care about my sisters and him. and the very few friends that i have. and i dont care about myself at all. God knows how im going to die, and he'll let time do its pleasure and make me die of old age, or make me die of smoking, or whatever. i cant stop what was meant to happen. i dont even know what a sociopath is, but it sounds like a mental illness term or something.
anyways...
we continued on this for a long time, and finally i guess he got fed up. i asked him what i could do to help, because i wanted to. and then he said that i didnt care and that he wasnt the one who needed the help. and then he signed off.
well, after that i just lost everything. my grip on reality. my sanity. all that? its down the drain. hes gone, so now my whole life is gone. i know that pathetic, but i love him. i truly love him and i always will. he was the only one in this whole world that i really, truly loved. this happened at about 3 AM. its not 5 AM and i havent gotten a wink of sleep. i cant sleep. i cant eat. all i can do is think, but barely. i have too many things on my mind right now, and its hard to focus on one little thing at a time.
but thats whats going on on the inside. in the physical world, i apparently ran to my friend's house and knocked on her window. she came outside and me, her, and her friend talked for about 30 minutes while i smoked two of her dad's cigarettes. (considering, im saving mine for when i need them) and while all this is going on, i had an anxiety/panic attack and couldnt stop shaking. its still hard to type right now, considering im still shaking. after i came home, i walked around for a while and ate a banana. now, there is nothing left to do and i cant sleep. i dont know what to do with myself. im scared of getting back on aim, and im scared to even go check my phone to see if he had called or left a message, because i know he didnt. i dont know what im really asking for, here, because i didnt even realize i was typing this until a few seconds ago, but any help or advice would be much appreciated. thanks for reading. (link)
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Ok. You need get some perspective here. You need to see that its not the end of you because you are no longer with this guy. Its natural to go through break ups, its apart of life. You need to understand that and not give up and as over used as this, there are more fish in the sea and you probably will find another guy that you will probably find you can talk to way more and tell him your thoughts.
I'm not saying don't be sad about it of course its normal to be sad about this. I'm just saying that there is a level of sadness that you should be on and you are way above it. I know you really loved this guy but sometimes things just don't work out. I'm sorry.
Also i'm a bit worried on your perspective of life. This whole carefree attitude what happens will happens. Its sometimes more detrimental to a person that actually useful or good. Because smoking is harmful to yourself, it is and coming up with some excuse of what happens will happen is really a bit silly. What happens only happens because you have set that course in action.
Also cutting yourself is not normal,neither is being depressed its something you need to consider sorting out and talking to some one older about, making a school psychologist etc. You might find once you sort this out it may be easier to open up to people.
However there is nothing wrong with not being such a open person as long as keeping your thoughts to you does not put you in a harmful situation. If it is not detrimental to your health.
Your problem here is you need to get perspectives on things. Try and sleep please. Just play some chilled music don't over think and just try and get some sleep. After that try and just get some perspective on things. Talk to your sisters about what happened if they are older.
I can tell you now even though you think this is the worst thing and it hurts like hell you will get through it and it will get better. Just hang in there and take it one day at a time.
I hope I helped!
:)
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Me and my best friend got innto HUGE fight.. i wish we were friends agian but im sik of being the firts one to say soryy all the time so you get it? and she acts like she dont even care and stuff and we havnt ever gottin into this long of a fight our longest fight was like an hour its been 2 days and it was over somthing soooo stupid.. see what happen is i got online and she complains all the time in her pro like..im so sad or i cant trust n e one ect. you know and well i always tryed to make her happy well i got online saw her pro said i love him and i cant trust n eone and stuff well i asked who you like you can trust me i wont tell n e one and then out of no where she gets mad and starts yelling at me and durr im gonna get yelled back..it happend fast and the next thing you know shes telling me to get the fuck out of her life...((exact words..)) i mean usually when we fight i dont have to worry cuz the next day min or hour we are all good agian this one im realllly worried and dont know what to do and im sik of always be the one to say sorry first! she never says sorry to me and why should i say sorry for trying to make her happy? ahh what should i do... (link)
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Ok, I just have one question you say she is your best friend but she doesn't trust you? That doesn't really sound like a best friend. A best friend is some one who you trust and who trusts you.
Next this whole I always say sorry first is not healthy. If she was your true friend she'd be willing to compromise. I'm sorry you are sad and do not like being in this fight But maybe its for the best. You need to sort out your problems with her. I suggest talking to her and telling her that you are her friend and she needs to learn to trust you.That what she did with snapping at you when you were trying to make her happy is wrong. Also I stress this, TALK do not yell.
Ask her what the problem was. Half the time these fights are about other things. Talk to her.
I hope it all works out but really fights can be healthy don't be scared to tell her what you think. Just remember to be reasonable it is the only way things will get sorted.
Good luck!
:)
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I have a lisp with my "s" and "x" its not horrible.
But I want to fix it.
Is there any way to fix it? (link)
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There is a way to fix it. You just need to see a speech therapist. Speech therapist help with lisps and chances are will be able to help you fix yours.
You should go see one. My sister had a lisp and my mom took her to one and after awhile she no longer had a lisp. Her problem was s and the sound th.
Goodluck! :)
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How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do? (link)
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Ok...
If you have to ask how to have sex i'd certainly say that you are not ready to have sex. Sex is a big deal. Its something extremely intimate and you shouldn't have sex with someone unless you are really certain you won't too. Also the first time you have sex should be special and just remember you can't redo the first time you have sex.
Also this boy friend of yours should not be putting pressure on you like he is. You really need to stop and think about, if this bf is really in this relationship for you or because he thinks you will sleep with him.
Also 13 is also very young to be having sex. If you do decide to have it (which i don't think you should but this is your choice)you should make sure you use protection. Don't let your bf tell you he doesn't want a condom cause its not like the real thing! Condoms help prevent the risk of getting pregnant, getting HIV/Aids or a STD(Sexually transmitted disease).
Here's the thing when you are ready to have sex you will know it. You won't wonder if you should and you will want to share this experience with the person you are in a relationship with. And you won't have to ask how to do it.
It seems the only reason you would do this is for your bf and because he keeps bugging you about it and that is not a good enough reason. Also you liking someone alot is not reason enough.
If you still want to know which 'hole' the penis is inserted into. Message me and I shall explain. But first think about if you really want to have sex.
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Ok, me and my boyfriend had sex lastnight, and my cherry is still there, but my boyfriend went all the way in.. Does that mean im still a virgin or does the cherry go away after a few days????
Please reply, I really need to know.. (link)
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This is normal for some girls. Next time you have intercourse you may bleed. Its the hymen stretching and sometimes it doesn't all tear the first time. Leading to bleeding the next time. This is isn't the case for everyone though.
Then it depends what your definition of a virgin is. Many people have different definitions of what makes you a virgin. However the most common definition is that a girl is no longer a virgin when she has sexual intercourse. Meaning sex with a guy. So full penetration by a penis. If you follow that definition then, no you would not be a virgin anymore.
Oh and the "cherry" as far as I know won't go away in a few days. Next time you have sex is more likely.
I hope you are keeping safe while having sexual intercourse!
If you have anymore questions just ask!
I hope I helped.
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boyfriend is 24 i am 19 we have been together since july. he moved further away in sept and we have managed to stay together. but jealousy and fighting occur greatly. i do admit i am really jealous and tend to get very worked up ( i get anxiety/bipolar) so once one thing happens i get very upset. but he does not help it he is just unbelivably mean and calls me stuff when we fight. everyone says just to tell him how i feel and when i do he like yells at me. its breaking my heart. he always says lets break up, please! and idk i like cant let him i cry everyday. we are going to aruba in 2 days and the last week whenever we fight hes said like we`ll be done after the trip but when we arent fighting he says hes not gunna but will if i keep this up. idk what to do i cant even talk to him about anything without him flipping out. i feel like i do everything for him and get nothing in return. hes always judging me too, making me feel stupid or fat. and it sucks i just cant leave him or let him leave. help me please (link)
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This relationship it doesn't sound healthy at all you shouldn't be crying everyday and have the threat of you two breaking up over your head.
Is this a relationship you really want to keep fighting for if it makes you so unhappy?
You should be able to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, he shouldn't be getting cross at you. Its not healthy.
Communication is the key within relationships and yours seems to be lacking it. As hard as it will be, maybe its time to let this relationship go.
See how this weekend goes. And then I think you should make the decision whether its a relationship worth keeping or not.
Goodluck!
:)
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usually i can talk real smooth to my girlfriends but lately i have been having problems thinking of things to talk about with them and, that usually means getting me dumped.
so i need some help thinking of things to say that wont annoy her or hurt her feelings
by the way we're both 13 (link)
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How many girlfriends do you have? You make it sound like you have more than one. And if you do have more than one then what you are doing to these girls, i.e playing them is not right at all!
Also you shouldn't have to think of things to say things should just flow. But any way.
Talking about things that happened at school is a good way to keep conversation going.
Asking her how her day was and what she did.
Talking about things that interest her, like her hobbies.Small talk generally leads to a bigger conversation because within the small talk you find other things to talk about.
And your only 13! Try and have some fun! At this age you should just be having fun with girls (and I don't mean fun like having sex or playing girls!)and you shouldn't be worried about getting dumped.
Anyway hope I helped.
Goodluck!
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Ugh..I just feel like there's no point in living life. Like I feel like I have no meaning. I still haven't figured out what I want to do as a career and I'd love to know. I love acting though but I'd want to do something after but I just can't seem to get started in it! I'm getting so annoyed. I trusted a guy way too much. I might have sent him a 'risque' picture (nothing was revealed but it was...you know) and i thought I could trust him...we've been friends for awhile and he likes me...he was friends with my sister and thats how we met. but anyways, with the picture thing my sister came up to me at home one day and told me she knew about it...and i faked it off with a story but i donno if she bought it or not..now i always feel like she's going to just tell my parents and i feel like it's always being held against me constantly! :[ and the worst part is that she said that HE told HER about it and that she didnt even see it but he TOLD HER and thats how she knows. thats what pissed me off the most. Like I can't trust him?!? WTH. And I dono what to do. I'm not talking to him tomorrow. I'm so tired of this. And my town is such a bitchy town and I can't stand it anymore but then again i'm scared to death of change and I don't know where else to live that I would be happy. I've moved so many times but I'm still so afraid of change. I hate change. UGHH, I have like no loyal, true friends here and I really want to move but me and my family are still deciding on where. Should I move back to an old town I used to live in or a brand new town? Because I'd like to stay close to the acting business...I don't want to move to some random place out in the country. But i Just want to get away from all of this. Like I NEEDDD to escape. I can't handle it all anymore. I want to grow up and be on my own so badly because my parents annoy the freakkin crap outta me. There's never a moment when they AREN'T complaining and I know you'll say its normal but their complaining is sooooo annoying and unnormal. The only thing I can do to get away is going to school or reading a good book (when i'm lucky enough to not be disturbed). I just feel like they're always harping down my back and my older sister's (they LOVEEEE my younger sister...favoritism...) and no matter what i do they still will complain. They won't let me or my sis hang out with boys alone and my mom no matter that I havent done anything to lose their trust in the past she always asks me the most suspicious questions whenever I do ANYTHING. Like I'll stay after school one day and she'll think i'm hooking up with some random guy or something! WHAT DO I DO TO STOP THIS!??!?! I've tried telling her but she doesn't stop! She is the cause of most of the complaining. I just cant wait to get out of the house!!!!!!!! :[ I'm sooooo sad. I feel so hollow on the inside. I do the same thing day after day and I don't know what to do to stop! PLEASE HELP ME :[
PS. Sorry this is so long. (link)
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Ok... Where to start.:)
I'm not sure if you are implying you want to kill yourself? Because you say you hate life but you are also asking for ways to improve it... Any way just in case! Suicide is not the answer! Really life isn't as bad as you think it is. Suicide is also very selfish you have to think about your family and all the other people that love you and how it will effect them.
Right. Now that picture sending. It is obvious that you can not trust this guy. I also believe you should not have sent that picture.But any way whats done is done. I think you need to tell the guy that you know he told your sister and that by doing that he betrayed you and tell him you are angry with him. I'd also (if you can) delete the picture off his phone or computer however you sent it to him. Get him to delete it. Ignore your sister don't worry about her telling your parents.
I doubt she will tell them she is your sister after all.
Where you move too has to be yours and your family's choice. You need to make up your own mind about that.
Also you say you don't have any loyal friends. You are obviously not friends with the right people then. Try joining after school clubs they help you meet new people. Also school plays are a good way to meet new people, they are generally fun nice people in school plays.
Talk to more people and make more friends. Also I think you need to talk to your mom about how you are feeling and how you feel she is being unfair.
Also, here's the biggest irony you say you do the same thing day after day and you want to know how to change this. But you hate change? The only way you are going to make this better is if you change things. Therefore you have to be open to it! :)
Just take a step back, calm down, think of all the good things you have. and think of things you want to change. Write down the things you want to change and take it from there. One step at a time.
You may find that all you need are some really good friends.
Just stay positive!
I hope this helped. If you need anything else just ask.
Goodluck!
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This guy asked me out.. and tomorrow I'm seeing him. Thing is, I'm way nervous and don't know how to act. Any tips are welcomed by males and females.
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Just try and relax! You are probably so nervous because you are probably so excited!
I'd say the best thing to do, is be yourself. Also just remember simple things to start off conversation with. Talking about friends, school how your day was etc its simple things like these that lead to other topics of conversation. Because well if there is chemistry it will just flow!
Also remember there are two of you on this date! So what you are feeling he is probably feeling as well! Most of all just go there to have fun and be yourself!
Also he asked you out so we know he already likes you so be the girl he asked out and not some one else!
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Good luck!
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16/f I'm so pissed at my mom right now. She says I have to get a job this summer-which I'm fine with. All the places I wanna work are not really within walking distance. She's like, "you have to get a job you can walk to or else you are paying me for gas." This is so unreasonable because she drives my brother to camp every day. I don't want to have to wake up at the crack of dawn just to walk to work. I just feel like she doesn't give a crap about my safety. All my friends' parents actualy care about them and drive them and don't let them get into dangerous situations and probably wouldn't let them walk every day to a job. My mom makes me walk places by myself that are dangerous where I could be kidnapped or raped. She treats me like I'm nothing. She's like, "you can take the public bus." Whose parents would let them do that?! I feel like she doesn't care about me. Everyone's parents drive them everywhere and she makes me walk everywhere in dangerous places. I'm so freakin pissed. I'm not grown up yet, I'm still a kid. Also, I really don't care what she had to do as a kid. Times are different now. There are more killers and rapists now and our family now has more money and privledges than when she was a kid. I'm so pissed! (link)
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Please try and relax.
I think you need to tell your mom how you are feeling. You need to sit down with her and tell her calmly how you are feeling.
Also if she insists you find a job you can walk to then really try your hardest to find one! It is much safer and will be easier on you.
Again you need to tell your mom how you feel and why you feel like that, so that you can solve this problem.
Communication is the key!
Good luck! I hope this helped.
p.s. you anger is understandable!
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Im really Nervous..
My friends are so energetic and have great friends and can go up to boys and say hi and hug them. I just walk past them and say hi with no eye contact at all. Im really shy around people im not well aquainted with. So how will i get through highschool. My mom says in highschool your group of friends will sometimes go there on way. I cant live without my friends!If i lose them i might not make any friends at all and be a loner....
My brother says ill do better then my friends because...im not bipolar,or i wont go up to strangers and say HI and act retarded. He also told me not to be fake..
what advice do you guys and girls have on how to survive highschool,how to be less shy and make new friends, and how to talk to boys with more eye contact?
I know these may be alot of questions but it would be soooo helpful if you helped! (link)
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Ok! Stop stressing!
High school is the best part of all the years of school we have to go through! Really, chances are your friends will change and some may go different ways. But don't only think that will happen to them it will happen to you too!!!!! Thats important to remember!
I moved high schools half way through my high school years and i went to a high school where i literally knew one person! and I am a shy person! and i was even shy with boys! Then all i did, was make an effort to talk to people and the more I spoke to people the more friends i made and the more I eventually got comfortable around guys!
Don't rush yourself just take it one step at a time and listen to your brother. Being fake is not on and will not make high school easier. You will make new friends!
Just one word of advice at the start of high school don't depend to much on your current friends! Try and get out there. The people you will be with in class are all new to this as well, so you already have a common thread with the people in your grade. Just honestly make an effort to talk to people and don't worry that you aren't as out going as your friends! It does not matter everyone is different!
I'm the least out going out of my friends and I still have so much fun! And many friends!
Now with the boys, you know what you need to tell yourself about boys? That they are human, just like you and just like your friends. Don't make them seem special... i'm not sure special is the best word. But what i'm trying to say is that you need to see them as everyone else or just like everyone else, and talk to them like normal people and eventually you will become much more comfortable around them!
Good luck! I hope this helped! Try not to stress! If you need any more help just ask away. And i'm sorry this was so long!
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