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me and my friend think ive been rapped....but i dont knw how to tell!!!
I'm 13 about to be 14 and I'm a girl. okay I', gonna get straight to hte point but it may be confusing...
One day me and my mom were in the car and she was like you know that you shouldn't be having sex and se is bad and blah blah. i waslike mom i know. because really i do know the outcomes of sex...its not a good thing and it can change your life! i know!!!! and then she was like after you have sex you get this wet stuff in your underwear and coming out. and i was like okay.... but the thing is i already have that stuff coming out! i know for sure that i have never had sex before! its something that I would never do until I'm married! and it scares me that i already have that stuff coming out. my friend was like you might have been rapped! and thats when i started crying my eyes out to NO limit! so the question is..... how do you know if you've been rapped...but you cant remember anything??...or is that a natural part of life??...thankz in advance for the help!!
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Well everyone pretty much already got all the bases covered. It's discharge honey, and there's absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal with that. It's a normal part of a woman's life and isn't anything other than your body cleaning itself. Also if you're sweaty that makes it come out even more.
But in reference to your friends, they might not talk about it because they just haven't gotten it yet. So they might be grossed out & not understand now, but they will. It's bound to happen to them too. It's also possible that they have it as well, they might just be embarassed or ashamed to admit it. But there's no reason to be, it's completely normal.
The "wet stuff" your mom talks about is completely different. What she's referring to (or at least what I think she means) is a wetness girls feel when sexually excited. Down there can get a wet, moist feeling and even expel this fluid, but it's not the same as discharge and that's not what you have. Your mom should have been more clear about the difference.
Also, keep in mind that that "wet stuff" your mom was referring to can happen at any age if you become aroused by something. DO NOT GET SCARED OR THINK YOU'RE WRONG OR BAD FOR THIS HAPPENING. You can't control it, and it doesn't mean anything, so don't worry. And sex is NOT a bad thing, it's a wonderful beautiful part of life -- when the time is right. So if you're waiting until marriage, then I give you kudos because that's a beautiful thing to see. But don't think of it as something bad, or your husband might not be too pleased (lol). It brings life, so it can't be bad, it's just best to wait until the time is right for you.
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LOL no offense but your mom is crazy.
That "wet stuff" is discharge, 90% of girls get it.
And it's not just after sex, it's after puberty.
If i were you i would take that "wet stuff" and rub it in your mom's face.
Discharge can have a smell to it.
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its only discharge sweetie .every woman gets it .its a way your vagina cleans itself . i cant believe your mom and your friend told you that,you didnt get raped if you not you didnt have sex or was forced and your friend that was dumb to believe her i mean she ovisouly didnt know what that was eithe
its only disharge nothing to be worried about
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To be raped someone would have to force sexual intercourse on you or molestation sexually touch you or invite sexual touching that is forced upon you. That hasn't happened here and you're every bit a virgin so you need to relax.
What's happened here is called vaginal discharge or vaginal waste. It's normal and happens to every girl and every woman. Normally it looks like egg whites.
If it looks like cottage cheese and stinks a plenty it means that you have an infection. Don't panic about that either as it's no big deal. All you need to do is tell your mother in a note or in private that you have this gunk in your underwear and it smells bad. Can we get it taken care of? Also, your vulva, vagina may itch and burn so that's another big sign of infection.
She will take you to a doctor (a gynecologist) or phone one for their recommendation and get you a prescription or over the counter cream or suppository like Monastat that you apply to your vagina until it goes away.
Trust me, your mother knows you haven't had sex and won't be mad at you for talking to her about this. She'll be mad if you don't do anything about it though. She's dealt with it you can bet and knows it's normal.
This might be a great time to talk to her about sex again and how your body works. Here's a great article about discharge that you can read together so you can ask questions and know you're fine. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Why haven't your friends talked about this or not know about it? Well, they may not have experienced yet, could be too embarrassed or wouldn't know how to explain it themselves yet.
I'm also going to recommend that you buy a book (well buy both as one is for guys and the other for girls) called What's Happening To My Body by Lynda Madaras. That will answer all the questions you have and are embarrassed about.
Your mom is right sex at your age or in your teens should be avoided but sex itself at the right time, right person and age isn't wrong. Don't think it's dirty or wrong as it's a beautiful thing when it's time.
P.S. good discharge doesn't smell, bad does.
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It is very unlikely that you've been raped. Some people DO supress traumatic experiences and thus won't remember them, but that is very rare. The fact that you're having vaginal discharge is not indictive of anything being wrong- it's totally normal for a girl your age. If your friends aren't experiencing it yet that probably just means they aren't as physically developed as you are.
If you're genuinely worried, go talk to your doctor, who will be able to explain that what you're experiencing is a completely normal part of becoming a woman.
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Okay, calm down, you haven't had sex before, you haven't been raped. It's discharge. It happens to most every girl when they are around 13. It comes with being at an age where you start your period. It's completely normal, and everybody has it. And yes, discharge does have a smell. As for your friends, maybe they don't have it now but they will within the next few years.
It's nothing to worry about. Even if you haven't started your period yet, it's normal to have discharge. It's basically how your body cleans itself down there, if that makes sense.
Don't worry! It's perfectly normal. If it bothers you, you can use pantiliners. They're not as thick or annoying as pads.
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i think you've got confused!
What your experiencing is vaginal discharge.The majority of girls get it - its how it cleanses the vagina from germs. What your mother meant was after and during when you have sex, you enjoy it, it is pleasurable - and females produce their own "wet stuff" [as you called it] which released when they get excited or pleasured by sex. But what you are experiencing is vaginaal discharge. You are FINE - NOTHING to worry about.
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Sweetie, it can be your discharge. But if you are really scared see if you or one of your friends can get you a pregnancy test, its the only way to be safe! And if you were raped, you would remember it.
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Its a natural part of life! Its normal!
Don't worry you have not been rapped! That only occurs when unwanted penetration occurs which you most likely will remember!
It sounds like your mom is just trying to scare you. But really having some discharge is normal.
Don't worry.
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Vaginal discharge is normal. You are fine.
Here is an article for you on the subject.
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What is Normal Vaginal Discharge?
First it’s important to understand that all women experience some amount of vaginal discharge. Glands in your vaginal and cervix produce small amounts of fluid that flows out of your vagina everyday taking with it old cells that line the vagina. Your normal vaginal discharge helps to clean the vagina, as well as keep it lubricated and free from infection and other germs. A normal vaginal discharge does not have a foul odor and usually has no odor at all. Normal vaginal discharge often appears clear or milky when it dries on your clothing; occasionally you may notice white spots or a normal vaginal discharge that is thin and stringy looking.
Other things that may cause changes in the appearance or consistency of your vaginal discharge include:
* Your menstrual cycle
* Emotional stress
* Pregnancy
* Any prescribed or OTC medications you take including hormones such as in the Pill
* Sexual excitement
* Breastfeeding
* Ovulation
* Your diet
Other things that can upset the natural pH balance of your vagina and lead to vaginal infections include vaginal douches, feminine hygiene products, perfumed or deodorant soaps, antibiotics, pregnancy, diabetes, or the presence of another infection.
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