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Q: What would you do if your boyfriend that you really like hates your best friend, and he cursed her out for no apparent reason? What would you do? This is my situation. please help. I will rate!
if she is ur best friend... you tell him LOOK BUDDY THIS IS MY BEST FRIEND AND U TREAT HER RIGHT OR IM BREAKIN UP WIT U...basically tell him ur not chosing him over her...if u are.. she aint ur bf..and she needs better friends! no offense

Q: There is a guy I like and he doesn't show any interest in girls, or talks about any other girls. There is a suspicion of him being gay by his friends and roommate. But just recently he's hanging out with girls that like him, and he knows they like him, and it kinda shows that he has an interest in them, but I don't know what to think about the situation. I don't know how to see or find out if he really is gay. What should I do?
tell him u wanna go out (as friends) just you guys.. and see what sex he focuses most on when your "not looking" go do ur makeup in the batheroom or make him think thats what your doing and just kinda glance and see what he is focused on... or... just ask him strate up... are u gay...

Q: 14/f
okay, this weekend i was at an academic kinda thingy...there was a dance and i met a guy there, he was really sweet and we had an awesome time....when it was over he walked me to my hotel room and gave me a kiss :o)
the next day, i saw him again. long story short we made out...well, know i'm back home and i could shoot myself b/c i didn't get his AIM email or anything! what should i do to feel better?
nothing...you'll prolly never see him again.. and although u like him a lot.. you should let it go for now.. move on... there is nuttin u can do babe! sorry!

Q: Over the summer I got really close with my ex and his best friend. Me and my ex were thinking about getting back together, but it never happened. My ex's best friend started having feelings for me and everytime I would talk about my ex to him or get advice from him, he would act different and get quiet. I knew he didn't like me talking about him and I knew I couldn't talk to him about my ex anymore so when he asked questions or began to talk about him I either didn't say anything or I just lied about my feelings for my ex. Was this a good thing to not hurt my ex's friend? or was it not?
well u wanna be friends with him too right...so tell him you know im really sorry...but i like (you didnt mention his name) and i wanna be with him.. but i hope we can be friends...let me know how it works!

Q: theres this one kid on my bus and hes mexican. i have nothing agains mexicans but he is really annoying. but i feel bad 4 him kas he gets harrasses so bad on the bus. every one makes fun of him. i laugh at it sometimes because it is a little funny but i still feel bad. what can i do to stop them frim makin fun of him?
if you really feel bad you wouldnt laugh... ever seen those commercials where someone is being racist and the other one says stuff like thats not nice.. the voice commercials or whatever...if not... what you need to do is talk to him.. be nice to him.. then tell your friends they are being immature jerks and they wouldnt like to be in their shoes... also... if they start making fun of you...or if thats what ur scared of... they aint tru friends...find ur own voice

Q: well..okay. i like this guy and he has a gf..oh wait. it gets better..haha well he's always leading me on and hinting that he likes me.. well i talked to his gf and she said she isn't really interested in him anymore. well what do you guys think? should i tell his gf(my friend) that i have feelings for him and if she doesnt have feelings for him then she should let go? or whatever else you guys think! please help!
no dont tell her that... just dont say anything that will hurt her... see what happens btween them... if they break up mutually then its okay to date him... but if he breaks up with her and she is upset... dont even go near him.. dont ever date your friends x... it will ruin it all... ask her what she thinks but dont tell her u like him

Q: hey well I made dance team again this year and instead of dancing to the coaches dances..witch are pretty gay and we dont even dance its more of a robot thing and the dances she has have NO KICKLINES witch is stupid..but ANYWHO..lol..what is a good song [school apropriate] that has a good beat for kick lines and stuff.also does anyone know if there area any danc team wesites where I can get ideas for routeens? *I rate high*
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Andie
hmmm...try a techno rap beat... like nelly & murphys tailfeather...(you can by an edited cd and edit it with machines in your tvpro room at school(ask the teachewrs)) umm...or flap your wings by nelly (get ur eagle on) or.... hmm... try a nice upbeat song like... dirty from christiana agulaira

Q: omg i have tried ban, teen spirit, secret, and dove deodarants and none work for me! does anyone have any that work for them that may work for me? cuz i am tired of my shirt be wet from sweat underneath my armpits, and being afraid that someone is gonna see it...plz help!
hmm... try a thick do...or a spray... and if that dont work... then tyr the gillette for men... but get unscented...(it works) i know i know... THATS BOYS STUFF... well it works better for gurls!! trust me

Q: What should I wear to a dance? It's not formal. I am a blonde with green/blue eyes and pale skin. I'll rate high. :-)
a cure maybe...black short skirt...and a baby pink dress/button up shirt... hair strate or surly...if always curly-straighten it.. if always strate..put it up in like a 1/2 pony or some corn rows...or even scrunch..let me know how it looks!

Q: Hi My name is Nicole, Well most of my friends do drugs and well i dont because i have head on my sholders.Anyways so i told my bestfriends boyfriend that she was still smoking and later on she came up to me and yelld at me. And well her and her bf broke up because she lied to him and i guess there was more to the story so yea.....anyways so now she got allof myfriends agenst me for some stupid reason and i dont even know what i did to the rest of them....Do you guys think i made the rigth choice by going to her boyfriend and not teacher because she would be grounded for the rest of her life if her parents found out..... so what can i do to get my friends back..
PLEASE HELP PLEASE
Dont get in her business let her tell the ppl she wants to know... not you.. its her prob not yours

Q: Where can you get Hello Kitty stuff? Plz don't tell me sanrio or e-bay! Ill rate!
TOYS-R-US

Q: whats being Molested (or however you spell it)??????? Please answer!!!!
Sexual acts against your free will... ex... rape... sexual abuse... ect

Q: My boyfriend, Matt and I have been going out for 9 months. We get along great, and I love him more than anything in the world. The day that he asked me out though another boy, Kevin was going to ask me out (ironic, right?). About 4 months ago I started talking to Kevin after me and Matt had a big fight. I realized that it was so much easier talking to Kevin then Matt, so I started hanging out with Kevin a lot. This summer Matt and I had a huge argument and broke up for about two weeks. I called Kevin crying and ended up going over to his house (he lives in my naiborhood). We talked and ended up kissing, which led to making out. After the incident Matt and I got back together, I told him what happened, and Kevin and I stopped talking. About September I ended up calling Kevin again. I went over to his house and we talked, he gave me a hug and I went home. A week later he calls me and I sneak out to see him. We talk, watch a movie, and end up making out. Matt and I are still strong, but lately I have been spending a lot of time with Kevin. I have such strong feelings for Matt, but at the same time I can't stand the thought of not being close to Kevin. They are both wonderful guys, each having thier own particular trait that draws me to them. To add the problem is that Matt and Kevin know each other and HATE each other. I'm just really confused right now and would like a little advice. Thank you for anything. -Confused
Which one do you think about more.. when your with matt... is kevin on your mind? when your with kevin is matt on your mind (besides guilt) which one do u laugh more with.. which one do you feel comfortable and protected with.. whick one do you know will never hurt you.. who do u think will make you happier... put the pros and cons on a sheet and figure out which one you wanna be with and who you want in yout life more.... BUT WHATEVER YOU DO dont rub them into eachothers face even after u and matt break up (should you chose kevin) try and get along with him.. if he is too immature to let you be happy.. just dont talk to him it aint a friendship worth keeping!!hope i helped...rate pls

Q: how hard is to get pregnate at the age of 37? ia there any helpful method to make pregnancy happen? my husband and I want to have a baby and we are afraid because , as i said, I am 37 and he is 41. Thanks, ceci
i know im only 16 and all.. but i think you should see what your dr says... ask him for helpful hints and yall aint old or nuttin so there is no reason you cant have a youngin!

Q: MJy stepdad is a real jerk, and my mom always chooses him over me, is that right:?
your 18.. you dont have to take it give your mother a choice.. if she picks him.. leave and she will regret it

Q: My boyfriend is always putting his arm round my waist and touching me but I never know where to touch him. I don't want to be really outragous or anything, I just want to know how I should touch him.
put your arm around him!

Q: Im 15 male and from scotland. Currently i am in a long distance relationshop and i am confused!
I love this girl, im sure of it. And she loves me too, but i dont know, things seem hazy, its not that i dont trust her of course i do. But like she has a load of male friends and is rather shall we say "close" to them. I dnt mean anything goes on or that jus im not sure what goes on coz i cant be there and see. Like i sed i do trust this gal with my life i jus dont know wot 2 think at the moment, plz help me sum1.
Youres anon
if she loves you you aint got nuttin to worry about... she dont want no one else..!!! no sweat... but.. since you cant be there.. she is prolly hangin out wit guys just to feel like someome she can talk to ... maybe she is confused... but listen.. if you have that many questions.. let it go for now and see how she takes it.. then if she comes back.. shes yours... THATS HOW YOU'LL KNOW!!

Q: 13/f
I always look at the people around me, happy with their boyfriend or girlfriend. I sort of want a boyfriend, but sometimes it doesn't feel like it's the right time. I have a few guy friends, but not many. I don't hang out with any guys after school. There's one guy friend that I talk to a lot, but I don't like him like that (and he has a girlfriend anyway). So I need advice on what to do? I know you will all say "You're only 13 you don't need a boyfriend", or "Just wait until the right time, he'll come", but..I just feel so lonely sometimes, and I want to know that someone will always be there for me.
at 13...no guys will be there they aint mature to that point til they are about 19/20 and even some guys later.. dont forget they mature a lot slower... start makin better friends with the one you dont hang out with after school... you never know he could end up being the one u spend your life wit... so take ur time...find someone u like... dont rush it cuz ull only hurt in the end

Q: Hi well like u know i lost prety much the friends that i was really close to before and well laitly i have had hard times of making new friends and well usually i'm really good about talking to people and introdusing my self to them but i just dont know what to do anymore.....what do you think is wrong with me..? and well i hope this site will help me to make some new girls/guy friends that i can talk to when i need some one to hear me out!
Well... dont be shy... be nice to ppl and dont try to act hard and stuff people dont like ppl that talk crap... be yoursef and dont hold back... let your tru colors shine and ppl will notice the real you... but you'll get it

Q: alrighty..well I am 14 and a female & I have this really good guy friend but a few months ago I started feeling differently about him..I told one of my friends and of course she had a big mouth and everyone knew..including him*. So he started being a jerk around me and just ignored me so I figured two could play that game & I just got really pissed at him. I was really hurt that he would ever treat me like that. So then, about 2 weeks later we were all hanging out together like usual but it felt really awkward between me and him. So he pulled me aside and we talked everything out & the only reason why he wasnt talking to me was bcuz the person I told that I liked him went back and told him that I absolutely hated him and never wanted to talk to him again..so yea..we hugged and made up all was well..and I also found out that he liked me too...and from what I know..he still does and so do I..but a few weeks ago he told everyone he was gonna ask me out that night but he never showed..i didn't want to start anything again so I just dropped it, but my friend didnt she told him that he didnt know how to treat girls and he wasnt boyfriend material. This bothered him..I would know bcuz I'm the one he came to and he also wanted to make sure he wasnt being a jerk to me...I know he cares about me and I want to be more than friends but hes too scared to make the move..and my theory is that guys should be the one to make the 1st move..what should i do? this has been going on for too long now.
Okay.. the one who told him u hated him aint your friend girl so tell her to shut the "f" up and stop hatin on u cuz u got what she wants! and as for him... Maybe he doesnt know how to make the first move it sounds like he may be just as confused as you are... so dont just walk away or "drop it" let him know whats up.. u wanna be with him and if he wants to be wit u its now or never cuz u aint playin games no more... thats all!

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Hey Everyone!! Its Me..Quizzle!! THats my nickname... I Live Spring hillFL!! Its not too xciting..but its good.. i have a lot of ppl i talk to but not too many GOOD FRIENDS.. only on.. and thats HIZZLE!!!.. i love to help ppl... everyone..with anything i can.. I am a bitch.. and i will help you.. but if you dont like my advice.. then dont ask me anymore!! i will tell you what i think.. i wont paint a pretty pic..but im the good columnist cus im not gonna tell youoOo do this and that.. nope its what i think you should do strate up...Rate me!!

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