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Love<\3 sucks!
alrighty..well I am 14 and a female & I have this really good guy friend but a few months ago I started feeling differently about him..I told one of my friends and of course she had a big mouth and everyone knew..including him*. So he started being a jerk around me and just ignored me so I figured two could play that game & I just got really pissed at him. I was really hurt that he would ever treat me like that. So then, about 2 weeks later we were all hanging out together like usual but it felt really awkward between me and him. So he pulled me aside and we talked everything out & the only reason why he wasnt talking to me was bcuz the person I told that I liked him went back and told him that I absolutely hated him and never wanted to talk to him again..so yea..we hugged and made up all was well..and I also found out that he liked me too...and from what I know..he still does and so do I..but a few weeks ago he told everyone he was gonna ask me out that night but he never showed..i didn't want to start anything again so I just dropped it, but my friend didnt she told him that he didnt know how to treat girls and he wasnt boyfriend material. This bothered him..I would know bcuz I'm the one he came to and he also wanted to make sure he wasnt being a jerk to me...I know he cares about me and I want to be more than friends but hes too scared to make the move..and my theory is that guys should be the one to make the 1st move..what should i do? this has been going on for too long now.
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HM UR FRIENDS SUCK. FORGET ABOUT THEM FOR A WHILE, THE ONES WHO REALLY ARE UR FRIENDS WILL COME BACK TO YOU.
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If a guy is shy, or uncertain, or has had people talking shit about him/you - then it's very unlikely that he'll make the move until he's really comfortable and ready. So I say you need to wait a little bit, tell your friend to back off, and then invite him to go somewhere and ask if he still has feelings for you. If he doesn't ask you out, then ask him out. It's as simple as that... he's a little bunny, and your a little bunny, and your friends is the wolf in between you two, damage you two individually and ruining your innocent bunny relationship. lol.
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"this has been going on for too long now."
i know you're scared to make the first move...
so talk to him. ask him about the rumor about him asking you out. tell him that you're not worried about his habits as a boyfriend because you didn't fall for his habits, you fell for him. i'd be more scared of letting it spill to your friend that told him you hated him that you like him still, she doesn't exactly seem to have your back. so go talk to the boy, they like it more if the girl is upfront with them.
and find out why your friend said that to him. friends shouldn't do that. she may like him or be jealous or something, so just try and smooth things over with her. best of luck!
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People in this world feels that men should make the first move, but that is not true at all. Girls are affraid of being rejected but so are guys. so just go for it, if you no he likes you! he is worth it if you want to get to no him better. otherwise if you dont feel comfortable making the first move just keep acting the way you are he seems to like that. he will sooner or later feel it is the right time and ask you out. but dont wait for him, dont be shy. Good luck, i hope i helped.
<3 Amelia
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sumtimes guys are too nervous to make the first move, even tho they need to.. in this case it doesnt seem like hes gunna, so you need to! good luck!
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In my opinion its not bad for you to ask this kid out. just call him like you normally would do and give him little hints like i liek you alot and that amyeb we should go out to the movies on night. Just be yourslef around him and make him feel comfortable if he says he gets nervous around girls. Good luck !
<33 rileyy
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the whole thing about the guy making the move isn't true in your case. you don't need to be afraid to make a move. take a chance and ask him out. with something cute like call him and tell him you can't stop thinking about him. good luck & hope i helped!
xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*
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in my opinion this theory u have isnt working, if u want something done, u have to do it urself, if u dont then u can keep waiting, im not trying to be mean but its the truth. make sure hes not mad at u right now or something. if hes jus scared to make the first move maybe u should talk to him and make it clear u like him and want to go out with him. hope this helped ~stef~
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Okay.. the one who told him u hated him aint your friend girl so tell her to shut the "f" up and stop hatin on u cuz u got what she wants! and as for him... Maybe he doesnt know how to make the first move it sounds like he may be just as confused as you are... so dont just walk away or "drop it" let him know whats up.. u wanna be with him and if he wants to be wit u its now or never cuz u aint playin games no more... thats all!
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Hey well every guy is nervous and guys dont always have to be tha ones to make tha move someitmtes its beter if u do it takes all tha stress off them and makes them open up more soo u dont have to make tha move but let him kno liek u kno whut im realyl wantin a boyfrind thorw hints to him and he'll come around!
Hope i halped
Blayre
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First of all I think you need to talk to you friend and see why she keeps telling him the opposite of what you actually feel. I believe that she might be facing some issues of jelousy maybe because she likes him or maybe just because shes afraid if you get a boyfriend you wont be spending any time with her. Once you get that settled, go talk to the guy you like and tell him exactly how you feel. Ask him what he thinks and tell him he needs to go with his heart and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks.
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